BackRoom Chats

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BackRoom Chats is a queer podcast about culture, community, and the stories that don’t always get passed down. Hosted by Darren and Gordon, partners since 2002 and founders of Backroom Gear, this is a space for honest conversations about gay nightlife, bear culture, leather, kink, Pride, and the history behind it all. Some of it’s funny. Some of it’s personal. Some of it matters more than people realise. From stories in bars and backrooms to the parts of queer life that are slowly disappearing, this is about keeping those conversations going. New episodes weekly.

Episodes

  1. May 21

    Rubber | How Darren Fell In Love With It & The Mistakes We Made | BackRoom Chats Ep 8

    Some interests appear out of nowhere. Others have been there a lot longer than you realise. In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about rubber. From early memories and first impressions through to seeing it properly for the first time and falling hard for it. We talk about rushed purchases before events, figuring things out as we went, and the first time being shined and understanding why people love it. Then came the upgrades. New gear, better products, lessons learned, and finding out what worked for us. We also talk about looking after rubber, repairing mistakes, and how your relationship with gear changes over time. This episode isn’t about doing things properly. It’s about how we actually did it. Real stories, a few mistakes, and a lot of reflection. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, the scene, and conversations the way they actually happen. BackRoomGear.store 🎧 New episodes weekly

    32 min

  2. May 8

    Back Rooms, Saunas & SOPVs | What We Expected vs Reality | BackRoom Chats Ep 7

    The first time you walk into one of these places, you really don’t know what you’re walking into. In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about Sex On Premises Venues in Australia. Back rooms, saunas, dedicated venues, and some of the unofficial spaces we came across over the years. We get into our first experiences, what surprised us, awkward moments, and the different kinds of energy these places can have once you’re actually inside them. Some were social, some were intimidating, and some were completely different to what we expected. This isn’t a guide or a lesson. Just real stories and observations from our own experiences. This week’s Kink of the Week is voyeurism. We talk about where it shows up, why people enjoy it, and how common it actually is once you start noticing it. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, the scene, and real conversations, the way they actually happen. Check out BackRoomGear.store 🎧 New episodes weekly

    32 min

  3. Apr 30

    TV, Hidden Codes & Growing Up Different | From He-Man to Drag Race | BackRoom Chats Ep 6

    There was a lot we were watching growing up that didn’t quite make sense at the time. Certain characters, certain looks, certain moments that stuck with you even if you didn’t know why. In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about how TV and music from the 70s, 80s and 90s shaped how we saw ourselves before we had the words for it. From British comedies and camp characters to cartoons like He-Man, there were always signs there. Looking back now, it’s a lot clearer what we were picking up on. We also get into how things have changed, from early coded representation to shows like Queer As Folk and Drag Race, and what that shift has meant. This episode goes a bit deeper in places. Some of those early influences weren’t just entertainment, they had an impact. This week’s Kink of the Week is shoes, socks, and scent. We keep it light and talk about where it fits and why it shows up more than people expect. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, the scene, and real conversations, the way they actually happen. Check out BackRoomGear.store Full episodes at BackRoom Chats 🎧 New episodes weekly

    30 min

  4. Apr 23

    Leather | How It Found Us, Why We Wear It & Kink of the Week | BackRoom Chats Ep 5

    Leather didn’t start the same way for both of us. For Gordon, it was always part of life. Growing up around motorbikes, leather was practical, protective, just normal. For Darren, it came from somewhere else. 80s TV, music, and that look that stuck long before it made sense. In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about how leather showed up in our lives and how it eventually became part of the scene for us. From first pieces to favourite pieces, and how it feels to wear it out. The way it changes how you carry yourself, and why it keeps pulling people back in. We also touch on where leather comes from. Military, bikers, cowboys. And how something practical shifted into something with a completely different meaning. This week’s Kink of the Week is leather. We talk about pieces like collars, harnesses, hoods, and what we actually enjoy about it. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, the scene, and the stories that don’t always get said out loud. Just real conversations, the way they happen. Check out BackRoomGear.store Full episodes at BackRoom Chats 🎧 New episodes weekly

    27 min

  5. Apr 9

    Your First Kink Gear | Where to Start, Styles and Armpit Attraction | BackRoom Chats Ep 4

    Thinking about getting your first piece of kink gear but not sure where to start? In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk through the basics. Boots, harnesses, jockstraps and pup hoods. What people usually start with, how different styles come together, and how your look can change over time. Some people go classic with boots, leather and a jock. Others mix it up with runners, a harness and a hood. There is no single way to do it, but there is always a starting point. We also touch on leather pieces like pants and jackets, and how kink gear tends to evolve the longer you are in the scene. And this week’s Kink of the Week is armpit attraction. We keep it light, talk about why people are into it, and how it fits into the broader mix of preferences and dynamics. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, community, and the stories that do not always get passed down. From first gear to finding your style, this is about making it easier to step in. Check out BackRoom Gearhttps://backroomgear.store Wear it out. Wear it layered. Let the right people notice. 🎧 New episodes weekly

    32 min
  6. First Kink Club Night? What to Expect + Ball Stretchers | BackRoom Chats Ep 3

    Apr 1

    First Kink Club Night? What to Expect + Ball Stretchers | BackRoom Chats Ep 3

    Thinking about going to your first kink club night but not sure what to expect? In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about what it’s actually like stepping into your first event. What to wear. When to arrive. How people find these spaces in the first place. And what it feels like when you walk in for the first time. It’s not about knowing everything. It’s about showing up and finding your place. We also get into this week’s Kink of the Week. This time, it’s ball stretchers. We keep it light, talk through what they are, why people are into them, and how they fit into different dynamics. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, community, and the stories that don’t always get passed down. This is about keeping those conversations going. Shop BackRoomGear.store 🎧 New episodes weekly.

    30 min

  7. Mar 25

    Dating Before Grindr | Dial-Up, Gay.com, Pubs, Clubs and Chastity Cages | BackRoom Chats Ep 2

    Before apps, before swiping, before everything lived on your phone, there was a different way of meeting people. In this episode of BackRoom Chats, we talk about what dating looked like before Grindr. Dial-up internet in the living room. Shared family computers. Logging into gay.com and hoping no one walked in. Then actually going out. Pubs, clubs, and the spaces where you met people face to face. Yeah, it could be a bit awkward at times, but it definitely kept things interesting. We share our own experiences from that time, how people connected, and what has changed, and what hasn’t. We also get into this week’s Kink of the Week. This time, it’s chastity. More specifically, cages. We keep it light, talk through what it is, why people are into it, and how it fits into control and power dynamics. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, community, and the stories that don’t always get passed down. From nightlife to early internet days, this is about keeping those conversations going. Check out Backroom Gearhttps://backroomgear.store Wear it out. Wear it layered. Let the right people notice. 🎧 New episodes weekly.

    30 min

  8. Mar 18

    Ep 1: Our Story: How Backroom Gear Started | Gay Culture, Brisbears, BootCo

    In the very first episode of BackRoom Chats, we start where it all began. We introduce ourselves, how we found our place in the gay community, and the path that eventually led to Backroom Gear. We talk about our early days taking photos at Brisbears, stepping further into the community, and what it felt like walking into BootCo for the first time. It didn’t take long before it felt like home, even if our first night came with a few unexpected moments… including an older couple and their fine china collection. We also introduce a new weekly segment, Kink of the Week. This episode, we keep it light and a bit cheeky while talking about water sports, including a funny story about Darren’s first experience. BackRoom Chats is about queer culture, community, and the stories that don’t always get passed down. From nightlife and leather spaces to the conversations that used to happen behind closed doors, this is about keeping those stories alive. 👉 Explore Backroom Gear:https://backroomgear.store 🎧 New episodes weekly.

    20 min
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BackRoom Chats is a queer podcast about culture, community, and the stories that don’t always get passed down. Hosted by Darren and Gordon, partners since 2002 and founders of Backroom Gear, this is a space for honest conversations about gay nightlife, bear culture, leather, kink, Pride, and the history behind it all. Some of it’s funny. Some of it’s personal. Some of it matters more than people realise. From stories in bars and backrooms to the parts of queer life that are slowly disappearing, this is about keeping those conversations going. New episodes weekly.

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