Be a Better Ally: Critical Conversations for K12 Educators

Tricia Friedman
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What does real allyship look like in a classroom, a staff room, a school community? Be a Better Ally helps K-12 teachers and school leaders build inclusive classrooms where every student feels they belong — without slogans, scripts, or shame. Host Tricia Friedman (Director of Shifting Schools) sits down with the authors, researchers, and educators shaping these conversations to explore student identity, belonging, school culture, media literacy, and the digital lives of young people. Each episode leaves you with something to try, question, or read next. 280+ episodes of critical conversations for anyone who believes schools should be places where everyone gets to become themselves.

  1. 1d ago

    The First Story We Tell a Child: You Belong | SANDRA MAGSAMEN

    What can a book offer a child before they understand its words? For bestselling author, artist, and art therapist Sandra Magsamen, the answer begins with connection. Her new board book, Hello, Baby, was created for children from birth to age three as a bright, playful welcome into reading—and into the family awaiting them. Sandra joins Tricia to discuss how large illustrations, expressive faces, melodic language, and an embedded mirror help babies engage with a book. They explore why reading with a young child is about much more than building vocabulary. It is also a chance to snuggle, play, bond, and communicate one of the earliest messages a child can receive: you are loved, you are seen, and you belong here. The conversation also makes room for chewed books, spilled milk, crowded bookshelves, and the occasional "uh-oh." Sandra explains why children need permission to touch, explore, and make mistakes—and why treating books as untouchable objects can get in the way of curiosity. Sandra also reflects on collaborating with her daughter, preparing to become a grandmother, and continuing to experiment after decades as a successful artist. She shares why creative growth requires us to loosen our grip on what has worked before and remain open to who we are becoming. In this episode: How early reading supports connection and belonging Designing words and illustrations for babies Making books playful, sensory, and inviting Allowing children to explore without demanding perfection How stories become part of a family's shared language Why artists—and people—need to keep changing   SANDRA MAGSAMEN is the author and illustrator of many books for young children, including the picture book When I Grow Up I Want to Be Me, as well as a number of bestselling novelty titles, including Everybody Goes Nighty-Night, named a Best Board Book of 2018 by The Children's Book Review; Baby Love; I Love You, Little Pumpkin; and Peek-a-Boo, I Love You. As an artist, an art therapist, and a mom, she uses her creativity to remind people to express themselves and connect with others. Her lifestyle brands, products, and books are sold worldwide. Visit her at sandramagsamen.com

  2. 1d ago ·  Bonus

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    Introducing CAMILA MENDES: "Perfectionism Was Ruining My Life" from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Actress and producer Camila Mendes joins Jay for an honest conversation about the hidden cost of perfectionism, the pressure behind success, and what it took to finally choose herself. Camila opens up about the breaking point that forced her to confront old wounds, heal her relationship with food, reconnect with her Brazilian identity, and redefine what spirituality, self-worth, and love really mean. Together, they explore why chasing perfection often leaves us feeling empty, how slowing down can become the greatest act of self-respect, and why true confidence isn't about having everything figured out, but about accepting yourself exactly as you are. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/  Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive  http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty  https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:17 What Excites You Most Right Now? 00:01:57 Designing a Home That Feels Like You 00:03:32 The Challenge of Balance 00:05:26 Living One Day at a Time 00:07:24 The Importance of Learning Your Limits 00:10:09 Why Saying "No" Feels So Hard 00:15:08 Revisiting an Old Wound 00:19:56 Holding Two Truths at Once 00:21:10 Growing Up Between Cultures 00:23:12 Returning to Your Roots 00:24:41 Finding Spirituality Later in Life 00:29:44 The Power of Questioning Your Beliefs 00:31:11 Growing Up Without Stability 00:34:37 The Freedom of Imperfection 00:36:27 The Anxiety No One Could See 00:40:03 When You Have to Numb Out 00:41:45 Living With Your Own Worst Critic 00:44:35 Healing Your Relationship with Food 00:46:14 Recovering from an Eating Disorder 00:48:07 Getting Honest About Body Image 00:50:26 The Moment Self-Worth Starts to Crack 00:51:04 Meeting Rudy: The Turning Point 00:54:27 The Work of Becoming Your Best Self 00:57:30 Why You Have to Heal Before You Love Again 01:00:18 Choosing Love in the Hardest Moments 01:04:53 The Problem With One-Sided Love 01:08:20 The Proposal 01:13:08 When You're Aligned, Doors Open 01:14:54 Protecting Your Peace at Work 01:17:09 Camila on Final Five Episode Resources: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/camimendes  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@camimendes  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

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  3. Jul 23

    Can Horror Teach Emotional Literacy? with Ryan La Sala

    Horror is where some of today's boldest, most creative storytelling is happening — and author Ryan La Sala has a theory about why. In this conversation, the author of The Dead of Summer (now in paperback) unpacks how horror reveals what we value: who's worth saving, how we survive together, and why the queer community keeps showing up in stories of resilience. You'll hear how Ryan writes multi-dimensional queer characters "beyond the closet," why friendship — not romance — sits at the heart of his zombie story, and how grief, from anticipatory dread to long-term loss, threads through all of his horror novels. Plus: what it's like to watch The Honeys head toward the big screen as an executive producer. Whether you teach teens, love YA horror, or are simply curious about emotional literacy through fiction, this one will stay with you — in the best way. About the Guest Ryan La Sala is the author of queer YA horror and fantasy novels including Reverie, Be Dazzled, The Honeys, Beholder, and The Dead of Summer, now out in paperback. The Honeys is in development as a major motion picture, with Ryan attached as executive producer. His work passes familiar horror tropes "through the prism of the queer experience" — and somehow makes grief, survival, and friendship feel luminous. Resources Mentioned Ryan La Sala's website: https://ryanlasala.com — all books, news, and film updates The Dead of Summer: https://ryanlasala.com/the-dead-of-summer — now in paperback, with purchase links The Honeys: https://ryanlasala.com/the-honeys — soon to be a major motion picture Chapters: 00:00 Welcome back, Ryan 00:55 Why horror is where creativity thrives 03:24 Friendship through horror 05:55 Queer characters beyond the closet 08:53 How Ryan's writing process evolves 10:52 Horror writer, joyful human 13:20 Grief and emotional literacy 17:29 The Honeys heads to film 19:41 The Dead of Summer in paperback

  4. Jul 20

    Years of Rejection to 39 Books: Jerry Spinelli's Long Game

    Jerry Spinelli wrote four novels nobody wanted and spent twenty-five years getting rejected before his first book was published — he's now on book thirty-nine. The Newbery Medal-winning author joins Tricia Friedman to talk about perseverance, why kids never really change from one generation to the next, and the writing advice he gives every young person who asks: pay attention. He opens up his actual process, from pages of brainstormed notes to the "miserable middles" that make up the real work of writing, and shares why a letter from a teacher whose students begged to skip recess to keep reading means as much to him as the Newbery. His newest book, Fifth Grade Top Dogs, brings back Suds from Fourth Grade Rats — and yes, with six kids and forty-one grandkids and great-grandkids, Spinelli knows a thing or two about sibling dynamics. A conversation for every teacher who has ever put one of his books in a kid's hands.   Chapters 00:00 – Twenty-five years of rejection: what perseverance meant 02:37 – What keeps his passion for storytelling alive  04:15 – Sibling dynamics, six kids, and forty-one grandkids 05:13 – Why kids don't change from generation to generation 06:16 – Memory vs. wish: writing Suds and his parents  08:07 – Inside his process: pay attention, brainstorm, survive the "miserable middles" 13:00 – Celebrating the Newbery at a 24-hour diner 13:52 – The letters that matter more than medals  About the Guest Jerry Spinelli is the Newbery Medal-winning author of thirty-nine books for young readers, published over a forty-five-year career. His newest, Fifth Grade Top Dogs (Scholastic, June 2026), continues the story of Suds from Fourth Grade Rats. He and his wife have six children and forty-one grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Resources Mentioned Fifth Grade Top Dogs by Jerry Spinelli — https://shop.scholastic.com/parent-ecommerce/books/fifth-grade-top-dogs-9798225028237.html  Kirkus review of Fifth Grade Top Dogs — https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/jerry-spinelli/fifth-grade-top-dogs/  Jerry Spinelli's website — https://jerryspinelliauthor.com/

  5. Jul 17

    Alex Campbell on the Students Behind Murder 101

    What happens when a teacher replaces textbook exercises with a real, unsolved problem? In this episode, Tricia speaks with Alex Campbell, the Tennessee high school teacher featured in Prime Video's limited documentary series Murder 101. The series follows Campbell and his sociology students at Elizabethton High School as they investigate the Redhead Murders, a series of killings involving unidentified women whose cases had received limited public attention. Alex explains why true crime became a powerful way to teach sociology, media literacy, civics, research, collaboration, and critical thinking. He describes how students learned to submit public-records requests, work with law-enforcement professionals and family members, examine the institutions surrounding a criminal investigation, and keep the victims rather than the offenders at the center of their work. The conversation also examines project-based learning, student agency, community-connected education, and what changes when young people know their work matters to someone beyond their teacher. Alex shares practical advice for educators who want to introduce authentic learning without beginning with a project of this scale: start small, find collaborators, know your students, and allow the direction of the work to develop through inquiry. Alex and Tricia also discuss the way Murder 101 portrays teenagers and Appalachia, the ethical responsibilities involved in bringing true crime into a classroom, and why real-world projects can reveal abilities that conventional academic labels often miss. As Alex argues, students who may not be motivated by grades can become deeply committed when they understand that another person genuinely needs their help. This episode is for educators, school leaders, documentary viewers, true-crime listeners, and anyone interested in project-based learning, interdisciplinary teaching, student engagement, civic education, media literacy, cold-case investigations, and the possibilities that emerge when schools trust young people with meaningful work.

  6. Jul 15

    What Happens When Kids Stop Inheriting Adult Assumptions?

    Award-winning author Christina Diaz Gonzalez joins Tricia to discuss her new middle-grade graphic novel, Offside, a bilingual story about soccer, friendship, ambition, identity, and the power young people have to create change. Christina explains why she wanted the young characters in Offside to question the assumptions, gender stereotypes, and ambitions they may have inherited from adults. Their lives are more complex than they first appear, and as they begin to understand one another, they also discover their own voices, values, and capacity to influence the people around them. The conversation also explores the need for bilingual books written for middle-grade readers, rather than stories that treat one language as a translation of the other. Christina shares how school visits inspired her to create stories in which English and Spanish appear naturally beside one another, reflecting how many students actually communicate and experience the world. Tricia and Christina also discuss the literary depth of graphic novels, identity beyond athletics, writing and journalism as tools for change, and Christina's unusual "pantser" writing process. Christina describes beginning with something like a movie trailer in her imagination and allowing curiosity, surprise, and the question "What if?" to guide the rest of the story. The episode begins with a brief introduction to Christina's most committed publicist: her fifteen-year-old dog, Lucy.

  7. Jul 8

    Be Curious, Not Judgmental: Cristo Fernández on Joy, Teamwork, and Trying Again

    You may know Cristo Fernandez as Danny Rojas from Ted Lasso, but this conversation reaches far beyond one beloved role. In this episode, Cristo talks with Tricia about dreaming big, trying again after failure, staying generous, and remembering that we all have something powerful to bring to the table. From his early life in Guadalajara to his years in football, acting, storytelling, and now children's books, Cristo reflects on the people, setbacks, and second chances that shaped his path. For educators and school leaders, this conversation is a reminder that culture is built in small choices: choosing curiosity over judgment, teamwork over ego, and generosity over individual shine. Cristo speaks with care about the lessons he learned from family, sport, collaboration, and Ted Lasso, including the simple but demanding idea that being kind is cool. He also shares why failure does not have to mean the end of a dream. Injuries shifted his path away from professional football, but storytelling brought him back to the game in a new way. His story invites listeners to think differently about what success looks like, especially for young people who may be navigating setbacks, uncertainty, or pressure to choose only one version of themselves. This episode is for anyone working to build school communities where people feel seen, encouraged, and brave enough to try again. In this episode, we explore: How Cristo's family shaped his belief in generosity and giving back Why "being kind is cool" still matters in schools, teams, and creative work What football taught him about humility, teamwork, and resilience How failure, injury, and rejection can become part of a larger story Why Danny Rojas remains a reminder to return to joy How collaboration asks us to stay open, curious, and willing to learn What children can teach adults about imagination, courage, and possibility Why embracing who you are may be one of the strongest "superpowers" we have For educators, this conversation offers a useful question to carry into the school year: how do we help young people dream big without making them feel like failure closes the door? Cristo's answer is generous and practical. Stay curious. Keep learning. Help others shine. Try again. Learn more about his new book: https://shop.scholastic.com/parent-ecommerce/books/futbol-is-life-futbol-es-vida-9798225012274.html

  8. Jul 2

    A better understanding of who we are with Katie Kennedy

    What does it mean to teach the Declaration of Independence as more than a document students memorize? In this episode, Tricia speaks with historian and author Katie Kennedy about her new book on the Declaration of Independence, the world that produced it, and why young people need more than dates, vocabulary, and simplified civic narratives. Kennedy invites readers to see the Declaration as a living historical text: political, philosophical, literary, flawed, hopeful, and deeply human. Together, Tricia and Katie discuss how educators can help students slow down with primary sources, ask better questions about evidence, and understand history as something made by real people under pressure. From Thomas Jefferson's nervous drafting process to Caesar Rodney's dangerous ride for independence, Kennedy reminds us that history becomes more meaningful when students can see the people, stakes, contradictions, and choices behind the documents.This conversation is especially relevant for educators thinking about civics, U.S. history, media literacy, historical inquiry, and the upcoming U.S. 250th anniversary. In This Episode: Tricia and Katie explore: How the Declaration of Independence differs from the Constitution, and why students often confuse the two. Why civic education needs to move beyond memorizing branches of government or repeating patriotic slogans.How primary sources help students understand "how we know what we know."Why historians begin with people, names, ages, letters, objects, and material traces.How teachers can invite students to read the Declaration as both a political document and a work of language, argument, philosophy, and art. Why the Declaration can be taught honestly, including its contradictions around slavery, rights, and equality.What it means to help students examine claims rather than cherry-pick evidence. Why historical complexity is not a problem to avoid, but a classroom opportunity. Why Educators Will Want to Listen: This episode offers a strong reminder that civics education is not only about government structures. It is also about evidence, responsibility, interpretation, and belonging.Katie Kennedy makes the case for helping students read foundational documents with care. Not as sacred artifacts beyond critique, and not as dead texts with fixed meanings, but as historical documents created by people living through uncertainty.For teachers, this conversation offers practical ways to make history more vivid: start with the human story, return to primary sources, ask what evidence supports a claim, and give students room to notice both ideals and contradictions.Classroom Connections: Educators might use this episode to think about:How to introduce the Declaration of Independence before asking students to analyze it.How to help students compare the Declaration and the Constitution.How to use objects, letters, diaries, menus, or artifacts as primary sources.How to teach civic ideals while also naming historical exclusions and contradictions.How to design inquiry questions around founding documents.How to prepare students for U.S. 250 conversations in ways that are honest, humane, and intellectually serious. Questions for Reflection: What do students need to understand about the world that produced the Declaration?How can we help students distinguish between a historical claim, an opinion, and evidence?What happens when we teach founding documents as arguments rather than answers?How might students respond differently if they first encounter the people, risks, and conflicts behind the text?What primary sources from students' own lives could help them understand how historians work?A Quote to Carry Into Your Planning: "History is people."That line sits at the center of this conversation. For educators, it is a useful design principle. Before the worksheet, before the vocabulary list, before the assessment, there are people making decisions, taking risks, disagreeing, revising, resisting, and trying to imagine a different future. Mentioned in the Episode: Katie Kennedy's new book on the Declaration of Independence The Declaration of Independence The U.S. Constitution Primary sources and material history Pauline Maier's phrase "American scripture" Lincoln's description of the Declaration as an "electric cord" Ron Chernow's biography of Ulysses S. Grant Fiona Hill's work on Russia and Vladimir Putin Heather Cox Richardson's public history writing Best For: U.S. history teachers Civics and government teachers Humanities educators School leaders planning for U.S. 250 Librarians and instructional coaches Educators interested in inquiry, primary sources, and civic reasoning Content type: Interview Primary goal: Educational / Inspirational Main topics: The importance of understanding foundational historical documents like the Declaration of Independence The role of storytelling and primary sources in historical education Civics education and civic responsibility Katie Kennedy once caught her then-nine-year-old daughter reading the Constitution under the covers with a flashlight. As an American history professor, Katie has never been more proud. She is the author of The Constitution Decoded: A Guide to the Document That Shapes Our Nation and The Presidents Decoded: A Guide to the Leaders Who Shaped Our Nation, as well as Did You Hear What Happened in Salem?, which Booklist called "irresistible" in a starred review. Katie lives in Iowa with her husband and son. Visit her online at katiekennedybooks.com.   (00:01) - Introducing Katie Kennedy and the significance of understanding founding documents (00:29) - Why reading the Declaration of Independence matters for all ages (01:35) - Storytelling's role in engaging with history and Jefferson's drafting journey (02:15) - Jefferson's nervousness and the importance of primary sources (03:10) - Caesar Rodney's courageous ride for independence (04:56) - The human stories behind historical actions, like Rodney's cancer and sacrifice (06:10) - The modern role of the historian and the value of primary sources (07:45) - The importance of honoring individual stories to understand history (08:44) - How primary sources reveal truths about figures like Washington (09:42) - Lincoln's pocket watch as a primary source and the stories objects tell (11:24) - The role of civics education in fostering critical thinking about power (12:45) - The poetry and art in the Declaration, its cultural resonance (14:40) - The Declaration as a unifying "electric cord" connecting generations (15:56) - How the Declaration embodies hope and the importance of political engagement (17:27) - The complexity of historical figures like Jefferson and their legacy (20:01) - Recommended summer reads for aspiring historians (21:09) - The importance of understanding the people behind the headlines (22:30) - Closing thoughts on the importance of people in history

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What does real allyship look like in a classroom, a staff room, a school community? Be a Better Ally helps K-12 teachers and school leaders build inclusive classrooms where every student feels they belong — without slogans, scripts, or shame. Host Tricia Friedman (Director of Shifting Schools) sits down with the authors, researchers, and educators shaping these conversations to explore student identity, belonging, school culture, media literacy, and the digital lives of young people. Each episode leaves you with something to try, question, or read next. 280+ episodes of critical conversations for anyone who believes schools should be places where everyone gets to become themselves.

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