Be Brutally Honest with Yourself | EP 027

In this podcast episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of being brutally honest with oneself throughout life's journey. Using personal experiences, he highlights the dangers of neglecting self-care and the toll it can take on mental and physical well-being, despite outward success. Drawing analogies such as driving from California to New York and the metaphor of eagles shedding their talons, he delves into the necessity of breaking old patterns and identities to reach higher levels of self-mastery. Phil encourages listeners to listen to their inner voice, embrace discomfort, and pursue greatness with unwavering honesty and dedication.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(00:42) - Importance of Honesty About Desires and Ego

(01:58) - Balanced Life to Avoid Burnout

(03:19) - The Key Purpose of Life 

(05:40) - The Power of Self-Care

(10:59) - Process of Self-Mastery and Shedding Old Identities.

(15:48) - The Layers Towards Your Next Level

(18:33) - Experience Discomfort like an Eagle

(21:30) - Surrendering to Greatness 

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Transcription:

[00:00:00] And then what happens is.

Now you have this army of people.

That is literally like, forging on to this next evolution, together.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show. Where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance. And everything 

[00:00:30] that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

Guys, it's so important that as you go through your life, go through your journey, you're brutally honest with yourself. 

And what I mean by brutally honest with yourself is knowing what's really you, knowing what's the ego, knowing what's the pride, knowing what it is that's actually calling to you or whispering in your ear right now.

See, when we're not honest with ourselves.

[00:00:30] it's very easy to be unhappy. 

When we're not honest with ourselves, and we wear this false armor of motivation, what happens is, on the outside, things can look really good, but on the inside, things can be breaking. 

So I'm going to share with you a live example of this.

So as most of you guys know, I'm a pretty driven individual. 

I'm all about high performance, I'm all about getting sh*t done.

I'm all about Holding our words to ourselves and our commitments 100 percent.

[00:01:00] Kryptonite to that is sometimes we're so driven by mission and purpose that sometimes we start breaking down the vehicle the vessel to accomplish that mission in that purpose and it's very important that as we learn and go through this process at higher and higher levels were able to stop and slow down and think about.

Where are we dropping the ball because it's 100 percent.

[00:01:30] Okay to live from a place of mission and purpose. 

But what I'm finding the longer I go about this because I've had a very good streak for years now. 

But what I'm finding is my body is starting to break down. 

What I'm finding is my mentality, not my determination, not my motivation, not my commitment.

None of that when it comes to the mind, but just the mental wear and tear. Uh, just being on and driven and motivated. And I think it's healthy to talk about this stuff. 

[00:02:00] So when you're somebody like me, you run, you go, you operate, you do what needs to be done. 

Because if you don't do it, nobody else is going to do it.

There's no, there's nobody going to save you in this life. 

You have to save you. 

And whether you meditate, whether you pray, whether you do anything, you're going to be given guidance, but nobody's going to do the work for you. 

That's what you got to understand. 

So when you're somebody like me. 

That operates from this higher level of consciousness when you operate from a place of surrendering to the voice inside

[00:02:30] Whether that's the voice of God, the universe, whatever calls to you.

It's very important that you remember you have to be around for the long term. 

So the best way I was thinking about this was to imagine that achieving your purpose in life is like going from California to New York. 

In order to get to New York and you're driving, what happens is if you are driving and you go from, you know, let's say the path takes you from California to Arizona.

What if in Arizona, because the roads are different.

[00:03:00] You pop a tire. 

What happens if you keep trying to drive with a popped tire, and you're just like, I need to get to New York. 

My mission is to get to New York. 

But your tire's popped. 

How long will that vehicle last for? 

You may be as hungry and as driven as you want to be, but what's going to happen is, if you keep driving and operating with that thing that's broken, other parts of this vehicle you're supposed to take to New York will continue to malfunction.

The other tires will pop because now it's not balanced. 

[00:03:30] And the more that you go, the more damage occurs. 

This is what happens for us in high performance. 

We're just like, sh*t it. We'll just get to New York. 

Like it is what it is. 

The truth is there is a better way. 

And I'm mastering this more and more and more because it's different at different levels, but it's also the same at different levels.

The fundamentals are the same. 

And so what I found for myself is because I've just been so mission oriented for years now, ever since the shutdown, it's been like an overdrive. 

[00:04:00] I've really forgotten. 

To just do my standard oil check. 

I've really forgotten to take a look at the entire thing, like entirely this vehicle, this vessel that I'm using to get to this, to this end goal, this end state, don't get me wrong.

I spend a lot of time with my family. I, um, I'm going through physical therapy. 

I do that weekly, bi weekly, whatever's needed.

I go to the gym.

 [00:04:30] I read. 

I do all the, all the things right. 

So it's not that I'm neglecting myself, but spiritually, my tank has been empty. 

And it's interesting because I pray every day.

I meditate every day. 

So what's happening is, something's calling me to stop, to slow down for a minute and say, Hey, you might be doing all the things right, but you're not doing a lot of things to make you happy. 

And your happiness is also a key element to getting from where you are to New York.

[00:05:00] And so what I found lately was for some reason, my, I have arthritis in my body because of the military and because of a major car accident I was in.

The arthritis in my shoulders have been. 

So much that opening some milk hurts me doing this motion right here hurts me like just anything that has to do with lifting and I was I was talking to my therapist and he was like there's a part of me that doesn't believe that the physical things that you're experiencing right now are all physical.

[00:05:30] So what he was alluding to was potentially maybe mental. 

So, for example, if these are the arms and the hands that I used to operate all the time. 

And now the very thing that's causing me pain is continuing to raise these hands to do more with these hands. 

But when's the last time I took care of these hands?

When's the last time I gave, I looked at these hands and actually were grateful for all the things that these hands do. 

They carry weights, they work. 

[00:06:00] They carry the children, they carry the family, they do everything. When's the last time I've actually spent some time looking at my hands and appreciated what these hands have done?

When's the last time I actually gave my feet a break, got them a massage, for giving me the opportunity to walk to where I want to in life? 

What I found because I had this massive sh*ting massage the other day, is I've been neglecting the very vehicle, the vessel that's supposed to help me get to this, this, this point of self actualization and transcendence.

[00:06:30] I've been neglecting the very thing that I need to spend more time on, which is why there's ailments happening in my body saying, well, if you don't want to listen. to this