Be Clay

Alisa

 " You are the Potter, I am the Clay! "  Like me, you may have heard this phrase multiple times and even said it yourself. Whether you are in the church or not, this has become a popular phrase; that eventually in some cases became a cliché. However, has it crossed your mind what it really means to say " I am the Clay"?When you hear this phrase, you may imagine the positions of a “Potter” and “Clay” in this relationship. Understanding that the “Potter” makes and molds the clay to the desired finished product. You understand that the “Potter” knows the process needed to obtain the product's intended purpose. You may even imagine a “Potter” molding clay on the Potter’s wheel into a bowl. It is only possible for the clay to become a bowl if it cooperates with the Potter. The clay has to understand that its duty is only to be molded. The “Potter's” purpose will never come to fruition if the “clay” is non-cooperative. Here on the “Be Clay” podcast, we will talk about how to accept and endure the duty of clay, as we allow the Potter to perform the same.  We will explore the positions of “The Potter” and “The Clay” and the dynamics of each role. In the past years, I have learned and am still learning the roles of “The Potter” and “The Clay”. I have come to the realization that I was not fulfilling the role of “The Clay”. Instead of allowing “ The Potter” to mold me, I was fighting back and trying to mold myself. You can imagine what a mess I made! If you can relate, know you are not alone. “You are the Potter, and I am the Clay” will not be just something you say, but you will learn and understand your role and “ Be Clay”   

  1. 6d ago

    Breaking The Lies We Tell Ourselves And Learning To Heal

    Send us Fan Mail Life can be loud, demanding, and relentless, but the loudest thing in the room is often the story we keep telling ourselves. I’m talking about that inner script that says you’re not enough, you’re “too much,” or you’ve already failed, even when God keeps providing and your life shows a different truth. When everything piles up, I’m forced to choose: either I trust Him or I don’t. I pick up my healing timeline after a major disruption, a car accident that made me slow down and finally hear my own thoughts. From there, I share what it looks like to stop drowning pain with busyness and start naming the lies that became my “truth.” We also get into the real-life impact on parenting, because what I believe about myself doesn’t stay in my head, it spills into my home. That includes the hard lesson of how saying “I’m not a good mom” lands on kids, and why I refuse to assume my children have no hurt or anger to process. Before my annual church retreat becomes the catalyst for a powerful exercise: we write letters to release what we’ve been carrying, and what my kids share breaks me open. We talk about emotionally immature parents, distance, rejection, abandonment, therapy, faith-based healing, and how refusing to heal can quietly shape generations. I end with questions that cut to the core: what would healing do for you, your family, your community, and the world and what happens if you don’t? If this resonates, listen through to the end, then share it with someone who needs a push to start healing today. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me your answer: what would healing change in your life right now? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  2. Aug 5

    You Can’t Heal What You Won’t Name

    Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous story you believe might be the one you never say out loud. I’m talking about the quiet inner conversation that runs beneath your whole life: I’m unworthy, I’m too much, people won’t stay, it must be my fault. On B Play, I open up about how that private script followed me into relationships, faith, leadership, and even the way I saw myself as a mother, even when everyone around me kept calling me “strong.” We dig into perception versus reality and why those two can feel like they’re fighting each other every day. When people praise what they see on the outside, but you feel weakness, failure, or abandonment on the inside, it creates a painful disconnect. I also talk about how faith fits into this healing journey, what it looks like to actually trust God when the “mountain” is real, and why being valued for your gifts can still leave you feeling unseen as a person. Then we get practical. I share a simple journaling exercise to help you lay it all out: how you perceive yourself, how others perceive you, and if you believe, what God says about you. If you’re a parent, this matters even more, because our kids often pick up what we’re not saying far louder than what we do say. Listen, reflect, and then tell me what your inner voice has been calling you. If this hits home, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the healing work. You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  3. Jul 29

    What If Your Unspoken Pain Has An Audience?

    Send us Fan Mail Your life can look “fine” while your mind is fighting a private war. We’re talking about that gap, the one where you show up for everybody, keep smiling, keep working, and still feel unworthy of being fought for. I share real updates from my own grind, finishing school, pushing toward graduation, and finally putting chapters of my book on paper, then I connect those wins to the deeper truth: I’ve spent years surviving instead of thriving, and that survival mindset built patterns I had to confront. We get honest about core wounds, self-worth, and the savior role. I tell a story from work where unfair treatment lit a fire in me, not because it happened to me, but because it happened to my coworkers. That’s when I had to admit something painful: I knew how to protect other people, but I didn’t know what taking care of myself even looked like. From burnout and financial pressure to missing consistent therapy support, I explain how nonstop motion can make the inner conversations louder and the lies feel more believable. Then I share the moment that shook me most, an unsettling interaction in the office after I mentioned my oldest was conceived through rape. What sounded like “support” quickly turned into a counterfeit kind of justice, and it exposed how dangerous it is to keep your pain unspoken while you’re trying to heal. My biggest takeaway is clear: don’t do healing alone. Get covered. Get the right therapist. Get people who can hold you up when your guard is down. If this resonates, listen now, subscribe for the next part, share it with someone who’s doing the hard work, and leave a review so more people looking for trauma recovery, faith-based healing, boundaries, and self-worth can find us. What’s one area where you need real support right now? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  4. Jul 27

    What If Feeling Unworthy Is A Lie You Learned

    Send us Fan Mail Finishing a full semester should feel like pure celebration, but sometimes the win comes with shaking hands, tears, and a nervous system that still expects the worst. We talk honestly about deadline pressure, proctored exams, and why time limits can make you spiral even when you know the material. That real-life moment becomes a doorway into something deeper: what happens when your outer progress collides with your inner wounds.  We also open up a raw 2025 recap that is too big to fit into tidy monthly categories. The theme is faith-based healing that moves from learning to living: identifying triggers, confronting long-held lies, and letting God bring core wounds to the surface so they can finally be addressed. Using the language of the outer courts, inner courts, and the Holy of Holies, we explore spiritual growth, the cost of closeness with God, and why not everyone is willing or able to go where you are going.  One of the clearest takeaways comes through a simple metaphor: fuel. Some people run fine on regular, but others require something different, and copying someone else’s “grade” can break you down. We connect that to identity, emotional health, and support systems, then name the painful belief that can grow out of it: “I cost too much.” If you have ever expected people to leave, struggled with unworthiness, or wondered why others seem intimidated by you while you feel small, this conversation puts language to that experience and offers a path forward.  If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone who is doing the hard work of healing, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part of your healing journey are you ready to stop doing alone? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  5. Jul 23

    What If Breakthrough Starts With Core Wounds

    Send us Fan Mail One comment or one look can hit harder than a whole conversation, and that’s where this story starts. We’re unpacking the beginning of 2025, a year that feels so dense we can’t summarize it neatly, because God keeps pulling the spotlight onto what’s underneath our smile, our gifting, and our “I’m fine.” If you’ve been trying to serve, grow, and stay faithful while quietly fighting shame, triggers, or depression, you’re not alone.  We talk about identity in God and what it means to be the clay, not just as a nice phrase, but as a real process of being molded through stress, broken plans, and uncomfortable truth. We connect the dots with attachment theory, naming the “shell” we use to cope and how that shutdown affects friendships, family, and the way we show up in community. We also get honest about the tension of feeling pulled to the front while sensing that people read your heart wrong, then punish you for shrinking back.  A big theme is calling without craving fame: wanting to be used, wanting to worship with integrity, and refusing to perform when your spirit isn’t aligned. We also challenge the idea of “breakthrough” as a quick win, because healing often means God goes straight for the core wounds that drive our triggers, our choices, and our self-talk.  If this resonates, listen through, then subscribe, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review. What’s one core wound you’re finally ready to face? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  6. Jul 22

    Retiring As The Man Of The House

    Send us Fan Mail Your birthday can be more than a celebration. It can be a deadline for healing. We talk about the moment we realized our pain was spilling onto our kids, and why that awareness forced a new decision: we’re not walking into the next year of our life carrying the same unresolved family trauma, the same triggers, and the same heavy protector role we’ve worn since childhood. We get real about what it looks like to confront the people closest to you without chasing an apology. That includes writing a letter to a parent, saying the hard things out loud, and finally explaining the “why” behind behaviors that never made sense to anyone else. We also unpack the exhausting mindset of being the “man of the house,” how it trains you to overfunction, and why it can make receiving love and protection in marriage feel confusing or even unsafe. You’ll hear a clear difference between release and retaliation, plus a powerful question to take into your own self-reflection: what are you carrying from year to year, and what deserves to stay in the chapter you’re leaving? If you’re navigating emotional healing, boundaries with family, inner child work, or faith-based spiritual healing, this conversation gives language for what you’ve felt but couldn’t name. Subscribe for the next chapter, share this with someone who needs a reset, and leave a review with the one thing you’re choosing to stop carrying—what are you leaving behind? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  7. Jul 21

    Stop Living In Survival Mode

    Send us Fan Mail Survival mode can look like strength until it starts stealing your joy. I’m Elisa, and I’m telling the truth about the version of me that learned to survive “Lisa” and the version of me God keeps calling forward “Alisa.” When you’ve spent years people pleasing, overgiving, and staying in fight or flight, you can forget what your authentic self even feels like, especially when faith is real but your patterns are loud.  I connect the dots between childhood grief, attachment wounds, and the way trauma can push you into performing for safety. I also share a turning point that shook me losing my car after a season of putting others first and hoping they would show up for me the way I showed up for them. It forced a hard question: if I say I trust God as provider and healer, why am I living like everything depends on my anxiety and my effort?  Then we get into the messy part: family. I talk about a painful call with my sister, what forgiveness really requires, and why healing often starts when you admit the truth you do not want to say out loud. Boundaries are not hatred; sometimes they are the only way to protect peace, grow spiritually, and stop carrying what never belonged to you.  If you’re working through Christian healing, codependency, people pleasing, or learning healthy boundaries, listen through and share this with someone who needs it. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me: what truth are you finally ready to face? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  8. Jul 21

    Why Being The Strong One Makes You Tired

    Send us Fan Mail Your life can look “fine” while your nervous system is living in constant alert. I’m walking through why 2024 became an eye-opener for me, starting with grief, continuing through family pressure, and landing on a painful realization: a lot of what I called my personality was actually a collection of triggers I learned to function inside. We get practical with attachment styles and real with the feelings behind them. I break down anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant), and I explain how people pleasing and codependency can hide in plain sight when you’re the one everyone depends on. I also talk about the pattern of leaving first, the fear that people only want the benefits of being close to you, and the deep ache of growing up without anyone asking the simplest question: “Are you okay?” Then we take it where healing actually happens for me: becoming secure in God. Not performative faith, not “I surrendered” while still gripping control, but honest surrender with withholding nothing. If you’re sorting through emotional triggers, Christian healing, relationship patterns, and what secure attachment can look like in real life, this conversation will give you language and next steps. Subscribe, share this with someone who’s carrying too much, and leave a review with the biggest trigger you’re ready to face next. You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

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 " You are the Potter, I am the Clay! "  Like me, you may have heard this phrase multiple times and even said it yourself. Whether you are in the church or not, this has become a popular phrase; that eventually in some cases became a cliché. However, has it crossed your mind what it really means to say " I am the Clay"?When you hear this phrase, you may imagine the positions of a “Potter” and “Clay” in this relationship. Understanding that the “Potter” makes and molds the clay to the desired finished product. You understand that the “Potter” knows the process needed to obtain the product's intended purpose. You may even imagine a “Potter” molding clay on the Potter’s wheel into a bowl. It is only possible for the clay to become a bowl if it cooperates with the Potter. The clay has to understand that its duty is only to be molded. The “Potter's” purpose will never come to fruition if the “clay” is non-cooperative. Here on the “Be Clay” podcast, we will talk about how to accept and endure the duty of clay, as we allow the Potter to perform the same.  We will explore the positions of “The Potter” and “The Clay” and the dynamics of each role. In the past years, I have learned and am still learning the roles of “The Potter” and “The Clay”. I have come to the realization that I was not fulfilling the role of “The Clay”. Instead of allowing “ The Potter” to mold me, I was fighting back and trying to mold myself. You can imagine what a mess I made! If you can relate, know you are not alone. “You are the Potter, and I am the Clay” will not be just something you say, but you will learn and understand your role and “ Be Clay”