Be Clay

Alisa

 " You are the Potter, I am the Clay! "  Like me, you may have heard this phrase multiple times and even said it yourself. Whether you are in the church or not, this has become a popular phrase; that eventually in some cases became a cliché. However, has it crossed your mind what it really means to say " I am the Clay"?When you hear this phrase, you may imagine the positions of a “Potter” and “Clay” in this relationship. Understanding that the “Potter” makes and molds the clay to the desired finished product. You understand that the “Potter” knows the process needed to obtain the product's intended purpose. You may even imagine a “Potter” molding clay on the Potter’s wheel into a bowl. It is only possible for the clay to become a bowl if it cooperates with the Potter. The clay has to understand that its duty is only to be molded. The “Potter's” purpose will never come to fruition if the “clay” is non-cooperative. Here on the “Be Clay” podcast, we will talk about how to accept and endure the duty of clay, as we allow the Potter to perform the same.  We will explore the positions of “The Potter” and “The Clay” and the dynamics of each role. In the past years, I have learned and am still learning the roles of “The Potter” and “The Clay”. I have come to the realization that I was not fulfilling the role of “The Clay”. Instead of allowing “ The Potter” to mold me, I was fighting back and trying to mold myself. You can imagine what a mess I made! If you can relate, know you are not alone. “You are the Potter, and I am the Clay” will not be just something you say, but you will learn and understand your role and “ Be Clay”   

  1. 5d ago

    What If Your Worth Was Never Up For Debate

    Send us Fan Mail The lie sounds small at first: I’m too much. I cost too much. I’m not worth the fight. But once that belief settles into your body, it starts steering everything, your relationships, your boundaries, your voice, and even what your kids quietly learn from watching you. We’re talking core wounds and the real patterns they produce, especially disorganized attachment, that push and pull of craving deep connection while bracing for pain. I share what hit me hard during a church moment that exposed how my own unhealed unworthiness was echoing in my children. From there, we define what a core wound is, how childhood experiences, abandonment, and trauma can plant a “core lie,” and why self silencing can be a survival strategy that becomes a prison. We also go straight at the father wound and the ways our earliest “covering” can shape what we expect from men, including the double standards that breed bitterness. This isn’t about bashing men, it’s about naming the spiritual and emotional root, putting people in their proper place, and refusing to keep negotiating our standards just to keep someone close. You’ll leave with journal prompts to identify the lie, trace where it started, and face how refusing to heal affects your peace, your work, your friendships, and your family. If you’re ready to stop placing your worth in the hands of people who can’t hold it, press play. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review, what core lie are you ready to write down and challenge today? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  2. Aug 26

    I Ran From God Until Unconditional Love Stopped Me

    Send us Fan Mail The hardest part of healing is admitting where the story actually started. Today I take a step back and tell mine, not for shock value, but because my relationship with God didn’t come from a cute quote or a Sunday routine. It was forged through childhood grief, feeling different everywhere, and learning what spiritual sensitivity feels like when the people around you don’t understand it.  I talk about growing up in church, being anchored by my praying grandmother, and how her death left me trying to survive without the one person who “just knew.” I share the isolation that followed, including a suicide attempt as a child, and what it looked like to bury my spiritual self just to fit in. Then I fast-forward to fourteen, when anger and pain pushed me into rebellion and into real danger, including a night I believe God intervened and protected me anyway. That moment forced one question to the surface: why would unconditional love still reach for me when I was actively pushing it away?  From there, I walk through the turning point of surrender, choosing a personal relationship with God rooted in scripture, and setting a standard I refuse to negotiate. We also set up what’s next: core wounds, trauma patterns, and how disorganized attachment can keep us cycling through the wrong relationships until we deal with the root. If this resonates, subscribe, share this with someone who’s rebuilding, and leave a review with the biggest pattern you’re ready to break. You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  3. Aug 19

    What If Your Inner Voice Is Raising Your Children

    Send us Fan Mail A hidden belief can live quietly for years and still shape the people you love most. I open up about the insecurity I never said out loud, the long road of Christian healing I thought I was already doing, and the painful moment I realized my children were carrying what I refused to face. I also talk about why I’m moving up a new series focused on women of faith. Growing up, I carried a burden for women and learned what it means to lament, but I also learned how quickly truth can get punished. After being ridiculed for holding women accountable, I tried to outrun the calling, told myself I was done, and took a long pause from sharing. A recent conversation pulls me back and makes it clear: it’s time to speak, teach, and tell the truth with love. Then I take you to May 18 and an encounter night at church where worship felt impossible and prayer exposed everything. Watching my kids get prayed for broke me, and one sentence put words to the real problem: they feel unworthy because I feel unworthy. From there, I trace the root back to my father, talk about spiritual responsibility in parenting, and explain why healing has to go deeper than surface fixes. If you’ve wrestled with unworthiness, generational trauma, or the fear that your kids might inherit your inner battles, this conversation is for you. If this hit home, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s doing the work, and leave a review with the one insight you don’t want to forget. You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  4. Aug 12

    Breaking The Lies We Tell Ourselves And Learning To Heal

    Send us Fan Mail Life can be loud, demanding, and relentless, but the loudest thing in the room is often the story we keep telling ourselves. I’m talking about that inner script that says you’re not enough, you’re “too much,” or you’ve already failed, even when God keeps providing and your life shows a different truth. When everything piles up, I’m forced to choose: either I trust Him or I don’t. I pick up my healing timeline after a major disruption, a car accident that made me slow down and finally hear my own thoughts. From there, I share what it looks like to stop drowning pain with busyness and start naming the lies that became my “truth.” We also get into the real-life impact on parenting, because what I believe about myself doesn’t stay in my head, it spills into my home. That includes the hard lesson of how saying “I’m not a good mom” lands on kids, and why I refuse to assume my children have no hurt or anger to process. Before my annual church retreat becomes the catalyst for a powerful exercise: we write letters to release what we’ve been carrying, and what my kids share breaks me open. We talk about emotionally immature parents, distance, rejection, abandonment, therapy, faith-based healing, and how refusing to heal can quietly shape generations. I end with questions that cut to the core: what would healing do for you, your family, your community, and the world and what happens if you don’t? If this resonates, listen through to the end, then share it with someone who needs a push to start healing today. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me your answer: what would healing change in your life right now? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  5. Aug 5

    You Can’t Heal What You Won’t Name

    Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous story you believe might be the one you never say out loud. I’m talking about the quiet inner conversation that runs beneath your whole life: I’m unworthy, I’m too much, people won’t stay, it must be my fault. On B Play, I open up about how that private script followed me into relationships, faith, leadership, and even the way I saw myself as a mother, even when everyone around me kept calling me “strong.” We dig into perception versus reality and why those two can feel like they’re fighting each other every day. When people praise what they see on the outside, but you feel weakness, failure, or abandonment on the inside, it creates a painful disconnect. I also talk about how faith fits into this healing journey, what it looks like to actually trust God when the “mountain” is real, and why being valued for your gifts can still leave you feeling unseen as a person. Then we get practical. I share a simple journaling exercise to help you lay it all out: how you perceive yourself, how others perceive you, and if you believe, what God says about you. If you’re a parent, this matters even more, because our kids often pick up what we’re not saying far louder than what we do say. Listen, reflect, and then tell me what your inner voice has been calling you. If this hits home, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the healing work. You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  6. Jul 29

    What If Your Unspoken Pain Has An Audience?

    Send us Fan Mail Your life can look “fine” while your mind is fighting a private war. We’re talking about that gap, the one where you show up for everybody, keep smiling, keep working, and still feel unworthy of being fought for. I share real updates from my own grind, finishing school, pushing toward graduation, and finally putting chapters of my book on paper, then I connect those wins to the deeper truth: I’ve spent years surviving instead of thriving, and that survival mindset built patterns I had to confront. We get honest about core wounds, self-worth, and the savior role. I tell a story from work where unfair treatment lit a fire in me, not because it happened to me, but because it happened to my coworkers. That’s when I had to admit something painful: I knew how to protect other people, but I didn’t know what taking care of myself even looked like. From burnout and financial pressure to missing consistent therapy support, I explain how nonstop motion can make the inner conversations louder and the lies feel more believable. Then I share the moment that shook me most, an unsettling interaction in the office after I mentioned my oldest was conceived through rape. What sounded like “support” quickly turned into a counterfeit kind of justice, and it exposed how dangerous it is to keep your pain unspoken while you’re trying to heal. My biggest takeaway is clear: don’t do healing alone. Get covered. Get the right therapist. Get people who can hold you up when your guard is down. If this resonates, listen now, subscribe for the next part, share it with someone who’s doing the hard work, and leave a review so more people looking for trauma recovery, faith-based healing, boundaries, and self-worth can find us. What’s one area where you need real support right now? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  7. Jul 27

    What If Feeling Unworthy Is A Lie You Learned

    Send us Fan Mail Finishing a full semester should feel like pure celebration, but sometimes the win comes with shaking hands, tears, and a nervous system that still expects the worst. We talk honestly about deadline pressure, proctored exams, and why time limits can make you spiral even when you know the material. That real-life moment becomes a doorway into something deeper: what happens when your outer progress collides with your inner wounds.  We also open up a raw 2025 recap that is too big to fit into tidy monthly categories. The theme is faith-based healing that moves from learning to living: identifying triggers, confronting long-held lies, and letting God bring core wounds to the surface so they can finally be addressed. Using the language of the outer courts, inner courts, and the Holy of Holies, we explore spiritual growth, the cost of closeness with God, and why not everyone is willing or able to go where you are going.  One of the clearest takeaways comes through a simple metaphor: fuel. Some people run fine on regular, but others require something different, and copying someone else’s “grade” can break you down. We connect that to identity, emotional health, and support systems, then name the painful belief that can grow out of it: “I cost too much.” If you have ever expected people to leave, struggled with unworthiness, or wondered why others seem intimidated by you while you feel small, this conversation puts language to that experience and offers a path forward.  If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone who is doing the hard work of healing, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part of your healing journey are you ready to stop doing alone? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

  8. Jul 23

    What If Breakthrough Starts With Core Wounds

    Send us Fan Mail One comment or one look can hit harder than a whole conversation, and that’s where this story starts. We’re unpacking the beginning of 2025, a year that feels so dense we can’t summarize it neatly, because God keeps pulling the spotlight onto what’s underneath our smile, our gifting, and our “I’m fine.” If you’ve been trying to serve, grow, and stay faithful while quietly fighting shame, triggers, or depression, you’re not alone.  We talk about identity in God and what it means to be the clay, not just as a nice phrase, but as a real process of being molded through stress, broken plans, and uncomfortable truth. We connect the dots with attachment theory, naming the “shell” we use to cope and how that shutdown affects friendships, family, and the way we show up in community. We also get honest about the tension of feeling pulled to the front while sensing that people read your heart wrong, then punish you for shrinking back.  A big theme is calling without craving fame: wanting to be used, wanting to worship with integrity, and refusing to perform when your spirit isn’t aligned. We also challenge the idea of “breakthrough” as a quick win, because healing often means God goes straight for the core wounds that drive our triggers, our choices, and our self-talk.  If this resonates, listen through, then subscribe, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review. What’s one core wound you’re finally ready to face? You are Loved! Not just a little, but greatly Not just today, but forever Not just by some, But by the ONE who created you in His Love And HE's Not The ONLY One We Love You Unconditionally                       & There's nothing you can do to change it!!!! Listen and Subscribe on Youtube https://youtube.com/@beclaypod?si=qY0dYDYXxviLM-l6 Follow Me on Instagram @beclaypod Follow I Spy You Buy for the best Philly Thrift Experience!! @ispyyoubuy

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 " You are the Potter, I am the Clay! "  Like me, you may have heard this phrase multiple times and even said it yourself. Whether you are in the church or not, this has become a popular phrase; that eventually in some cases became a cliché. However, has it crossed your mind what it really means to say " I am the Clay"?When you hear this phrase, you may imagine the positions of a “Potter” and “Clay” in this relationship. Understanding that the “Potter” makes and molds the clay to the desired finished product. You understand that the “Potter” knows the process needed to obtain the product's intended purpose. You may even imagine a “Potter” molding clay on the Potter’s wheel into a bowl. It is only possible for the clay to become a bowl if it cooperates with the Potter. The clay has to understand that its duty is only to be molded. The “Potter's” purpose will never come to fruition if the “clay” is non-cooperative. Here on the “Be Clay” podcast, we will talk about how to accept and endure the duty of clay, as we allow the Potter to perform the same.  We will explore the positions of “The Potter” and “The Clay” and the dynamics of each role. In the past years, I have learned and am still learning the roles of “The Potter” and “The Clay”. I have come to the realization that I was not fulfilling the role of “The Clay”. Instead of allowing “ The Potter” to mold me, I was fighting back and trying to mold myself. You can imagine what a mess I made! If you can relate, know you are not alone. “You are the Potter, and I am the Clay” will not be just something you say, but you will learn and understand your role and “ Be Clay”