Be You Not Them Natassia Coelho and Nina Jean-Louis

THE END OF AN ERA. This is a tough and short episode for us, but we pride ourselves on being open and honest with you guys. So, we knew this episode had to be done. 
Today, Nina is stepping away from Be You Not Them and she explains why. No, we didn't get into a fight guys! We're still BESTIES4LIFE. But unfortunately, sometimes things serve a purpose in our life for a short time and we have to make the decision to walk away. 
So, this isn't the end of Be You Not Them... this is just a short goodbye for now. Natassia will be back and continuing this self love journey, but in a different format. You gotta give us some time to think about our next chapter!!! :) And while Nina will not be with us, she'll be cheering us on in the sidelines and supporting the mission.

See you soon. Love you guys!
 
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STOP RUSHING INTO EVERYTHING. Guys, we’re tired of this culture of immediacy. Are you guys with us? We’re talking about expectations to get things done ASAP and as quickly as possible, especially when it comes to our work, but also in many other areas of our lives. We’re going to talk about the negative sides of this type of culture (SPOILER: there are MANY cons to it) and what we can do to set expectations on our side.
 
[2:30] What is this Culture of Immediacy?? The woes of instant gratification are real, guys.
 
[6:45] Why Is This Type of Culture Bad for Us? From burnout to compromising the quality of our work AND life… there’s a lot of negative side effects when we give into instant gratification.
 
[15:40] How Do WE Break the Cycle? Our lack of self love can be seen in the way that we judge others. That hurts, right?
Add it to your core values if it is IMPORTANT to you [16:15] How about some BOUNDARIES? [18:00] Check in with yourself [20:30] Empathize with your future self [21:42]
 
Break down your goals to make them more manageable [24:21]  



We hope this episode resonated with you and helps you find ways to SLOW DOWN. It takes some effort, but it’s worth not giving into this instant gratification. Your future self will thank you :) We’d love to know your thoughts! You know where to reach uuuusss.



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Welcome to your mini pick me up! In light of our last episode that was basically a vent session of us feeling old, we're going to be asking ourselves today:
 
What is something that makes us feel YOUNG?
 
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Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing on our recent feels about getting older. From not recognizing songs on the radio anymore to our insides sometimes feeling like we are actually 65 years old, we cover it ALL.
 
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Welcome to your mini pick me up! In light of our last episode, we're going to talk about the negative effects of judging others and gossiping. We've all been there - we've judged others and made assumptions about them based off of how they look, how they reacted to something, their mood, etc.
 
But, we have ALSO been judged by others as well. So it's time for some self reflection that can help us become a little bit more aware about passing judgement on others.
 
So we're going to be asking ourselves today:
 
When did someone judge you the wrong way? How did that make you feel?
 
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WHY DO WE ALWAYS JUDGE EVERYONE?! Have you ever judged someone? Have you ever made assumptions about someone’s character based on their appearance? We’re going to be honest… WE HAVE. Back when we were a lot more judgemental and much less confident in ourselves. But don’t be too hard on yourself, because it’s human nature to sometimes put people in boxes. However, today we’re going to talk about why we need to be a little bit more self aware before we starting judging everyone else.
 
[2:18] Why Do We Judge Others? Let’s be real… talking badly or judging others can make us feel better about ourselves when we’re insecure or unhappy. We share our own experiences from when we used to be Judgemental Queens.
 
[6:17] Let’s Talk About Some Psychology Behind This. There’s a term in psychology called “attributions” and how we make judgments of others based off of situational or personality attributions.
 
[11:42] How We Judge Others Is A Reflection of Ourselves. Our lack of self love can be seen in the way that we judge others. That hurts, right?
 
[13:29] How Do We Stop Being So Judgy? We’re going to share some tips that have helped us become a little more self aware.
Stop & Observe - ask yourself where this is coming from. [14:05] Build A Space to Understand [15:35] Practice Empathy & Acceptance - Nina shares her own experience of her faith journey & how she’s seen others judge others based off of ‘rules’ [17:00] This Is Why You Shouldn’t Gossip. Words hurt, guys. [22:10]   
We hope this episode resonated with you...and helps you become a liiiiiiiittle less judgy with others. We never know what someone else is going through and making these preliminary judgements not only hurts others, but ourselves as well. We’d love to know your thoughts! You know where to reach uuuusss.
 
Books/Resources Mentioned: 
“Why We Judge Others” by Elizabeth Dorrance Hall Ph.D. from Psychology Today : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conscious-communication/201805/why-we-judge-others 


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