Becoming in Action

Sandy Hebert
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I am working to awaken a community of meaningful connection for people who are becoming—as leaders, as professionals, as humans. We never fully arrive in our lives. It is a journey not a destination. I hope this podcast supports the ongoing process of becoming and the courage and curiosity that are necessary to have authentic conversations.

  1. A Boy Mom's Mother's Day Musings

    4d ago

    A Boy Mom's Mother's Day Musings

    Mother's Day stirred up something unexpected in me this year. In this deeply personal episode, I share a part of my story that I've carried quietly for many years. The grief of never having a daughter. As a proud mom of three incredible boys, I've often felt guilty for acknowledging that longing. But through coaching, reflection, and a willingness to sit with difficult emotions, I'm learning that gratitude and grief can exist side by side. I talk about miscarriage, infertility, the imagined daughter we called Ripley, and the dreams we create about what motherhood is supposed to look like. I also reflect on the incredible role Gerard has played in our family, the unique gifts each of my sons has brought to my life, and the ways our expectations can sometimes create suffering when reality doesn't match the stories we've written in our minds. This episode is ultimately about holding space for the tender places within us. The losses that are real, the futures that never happened, and the courage to honor our feelings without shame. If you've ever grieved a version of life you thought you would have, this conversation is for you. Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of miscarriage, infertility, pregnancy loss, unmet expectations around motherhood, and emotional grief. Listener discretion is advised if these topics are tender for you.

    20 min
  2. The Nourished Recovery: A Conversation with Kerry

    May 25

    The Nourished Recovery: A Conversation with Kerry

    This week on the podcast, I’m joined by my cousin Kerry for a conversation about recovery, grief, leadership, creativity, and the long process of becoming yourself again. What started as a reconnection between cousins turned into a deeply honest conversation about the many ways people heal. Kerry shares her journey from a prescription opioid addiction that began after a car accident, to years of alcohol dependence, to finding lasting recovery and community through Celebrate Recovery. We talk about relapse, shame, self-awareness, and the daily practices that help her stay grounded today. But this episode is about so much more than addiction. It’s about motherhood.Holding space for others.Working for 35 years in a male-dominated industry.Learning to lead even when you don’t feel fully ready.Processing the loss of a parent.And discovering creativity later in life through cooking, storytelling, and her YouTube channel, The Nourished Recovery. Kerry’s story is a reminder that healing rarely happens in one big breakthrough. More often, it happens in small honest moments. In conversations. In community. In learning how to feel instead of numb. We also talk about:• the difference between guilt and shame• why mindset matters• how recovery applies far beyond addiction• what it means to truly let people support you• and how creativity can become part of healing This conversation felt incredibly special to me, and I think it will stay with you too.

    1h 4m
  3. Real Life, Real Work: Anger Is Not Danger

    May 20

    Real Life, Real Work: Anger Is Not Danger

    In this Real Life, Real Work episode, we explore what happens when someone else’s anger or distress activates our own nervous system. Why do some of us rush to reassure, reframe, fix, or smooth things over the moment emotions get intense? Why can another person’s frustration feel so uncomfortable in our own body? This episode dives into the connection between nervous system activation, people pleasing, conflict avoidance, and emotional safety. We talk about how early experiences can shape the way we respond to anger, why many of us confuse anger with danger, and how those protective patterns may now interfere with the way we want to show up in our relationships, parenting, leadership, and work. We also explore: the difference between anger and aggressionco-regulation and how nervous systems affect one anotherwhy trying to “fix” someone’s emotions can leave them feeling dismissedpractical ways to stay grounded during difficult conversationshow to build more tolerance for emotional discomfortthe role of centering practices, boundaries, and nervous system healingIf you have ever felt responsible for making everyone else okay, this conversation may help you understand why and offer a more grounded way forward. Because real growth is not learning how to control every emotional moment around you.It is learning how to stay present without losing yourself inside of it. This is Real Life, Real Work.

    13 min
  4. Digging Until You Find Your Thing: A Conversation with Sarah

    May 18

    Digging Until You Find Your Thing: A Conversation with Sarah

    So many of us build lives that look right on paper before we stop and ask ourselves: But does this actually feel like me? In this episode, my friend Sarah shares the winding path that took her from psychology student to lawyer to stay-at-home mom to therapist in her 40s. What I love most about Sarah’s story is that she kept listening to the quiet voice inside her that said: there is something more true for me than this. We talk about: • chasing approval • success that does not feel aligned • motherhood and identity • starting over later in life • marriage and support • and the courage it takes to keep becoming yourself One of my favorite lines from the conversation: “I wanted to show up in my life as the best version of myself, so I kept digging until I found the thing that felt like... this is the thing.” I think this episode will resonate deeply with anyone who has ever felt pulled toward a different version of their life. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

    54 min
  5. Not a Dead End

    May 13

    Not a Dead End

    I went for an early morning walk in Napa and ended up at a literal dead end. Standing there, I realized something that completely reframed how I think about change, failure, uncertainty, and identity: I am not the dead end.The road is. In this episode, I talk about the years I spent as a supporting character in my own life, what my divorce taught me about agency, grief, and healing, and why I now believe one of the most important skills we can build is the ability to choose again. I also share honestly about this current season of building my coaching business. The slow burn of it. The doubt. The fear that maybe it will not work. And why I am learning that many things that eventually succeed look flat for a very long time before the curve changes. This episode is about: perceived agency and why it matters for well-beinglearning to trust yourself inside uncertaintygrief, growth, and rebuildingrole modeling “main character energy” for our childrenand letting go of the idea that we need to have the next five years figured outMaybe we only need to decide who we want to be this week.

    18 min
  6. One Choice, A Lifetime of Change: A Conversation with Chris

    May 11

    One Choice, A Lifetime of Change: A Conversation with Chris

    Content Note This conversation includes discussion of addiction, alcoholism, recovery, and emotional struggle. Please listen with care if these topics are sensitive for you.Chris made one choice at 22 that changed the trajectory of his life. What started as a reluctant step into sobriety, without much intention beyond getting help in the moment, became 25 years of choosing differently. Choosing connection. Choosing growth. Choosing to show up. In this conversation, I sit down with Chris to talk about what it really looks like to build a life one day at a time. We talk about addiction and recovery, and also what comes after. Fatherhood. Friendship. The humility to keep learning. The discipline of staying grounded in relationships that matter. Chris is someone who has been all in on his sobriety, his kids, and the people in his life for decades. And he’s also honest about where he’s still growing, especially when it comes to fully showing up in romantic relationships and letting himself be seen. This is a conversation about the long game. About becoming. About the quiet, daily decisions that shape a life. And about what’s possible when one choice actually holds.

    56 min
  7. Real Life, Real Work: Saying Yes to Change

    May 5

    Real Life, Real Work: Saying Yes to Change

    She built her career by being the one who said yes. Yes to more responsibility.Yes to filling gaps.Yes to doing whatever it took to make things work. And it worked… until it didn’t. In this episode, I walk through the moment so many high performers hit but don’t always talk about. When the very traits that made you successful start to burn you out. When caring deeply about quality collides with a system that can’t support it. When you realize you can’t keep doing everything at the level you know it deserves. This is a conversation about more than workload. It’s about what happens when success turns into overreliance.When you become the person who absorbs chaos.When burnout starts to disconnect you from your why. And most importantly, it’s about the pivot. We talk about: Why boundaries are professionalism, not rebellionHow to stop making dysfunction look manageableThe power of small, in-the-moment resets to calm your nervous systemHow to approach the stay vs leave decision without treating it as permanentWhy putting timelines on change gives you back controlAnd why wanting more money is not greed, it’s clarityAt the center of it all is a deeper truth: You are not just choosing between jobs.You are choosing who you are becoming. This episode explores the idea of possible selves. The versions of you that different environments will shape, support, or slowly drain. And how to decide what will actually feed your energy, your standards, and your future. If you’ve ever felt like the role that once proved your capability is now costing you something, this episode will meet you there. Because sometimes growth is not about doing more. It’s about choosing better.

    12 min
  8. Walking for Love: Katy’s Story of Family, Resilience, and Purpose

    May 4

    Walking for Love: Katy’s Story of Family, Resilience, and Purpose

    This episode includes discussion of trauma, sexual assault, self-harm, suicide attempts, and serious illness. Please listen with care. In this episode, I sit down with Katy to talk about motherhood, family, and the unexpected ways our lives unfold. What begins as a conversation about her son, Julius, and the way she approaches parenting quickly becomes something much deeper. Katy shares her story. Growing up feeling like she didn’t belong. Navigating loss, trauma, and carrying more than anyone should have to carry alone at such a young age. And what it has looked like to find her way back to herself, again and again. We talk about the relationship she has built with her parents over time, the role her friendships have played in her healing, and how becoming a mother has shifted everything. She shares what it means to listen to her son, to trust him, and to let that relationship guide her in a way that feels both instinctive and intentional. We also talk about her mom. Who she is, what she means to Katy, and how her family is navigating a diagnosis of aggressive breast cancer with honesty, love, and presence. Katy and her sister are participating in the Susan G. Komen 3-Day, walking 60 miles to raise awareness and honor their mom. This conversation is not just about what Katy has been through. It is about who she is. The way she shows up. The way she loves. And the way she is choosing to build something different for her son. If this episode resonates with you, consider sharing it with someone who might need it, or supporting Katy and her family as they prepare for the walk. https://www.the3day.org/site/TR?px=8418553&fr_id=2362&pg=personal&s_src=nuclavismobile&s_subsrc=Nucl_iosM_FdrInTkTk http://facebook.com/donate/2051873045684514/?fundraiser_source=external_url For anyone impacted by sexual violence, you can reach out to RAINN. They offer a confidential 24/7 hotline and online chat at 800-656-HOPE. If you are struggling with thoughts of self-harm or suicide, you can contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988. They are available anytime. You don’t have to carry things like this on your own. And if this episode brought something up for you, consider reaching out to someone you trust, a friend, a therapist, or one of these resources.

    55 min
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I am working to awaken a community of meaningful connection for people who are becoming—as leaders, as professionals, as humans. We never fully arrive in our lives. It is a journey not a destination. I hope this podcast supports the ongoing process of becoming and the courage and curiosity that are necessary to have authentic conversations.

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    Sandy Hebert
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