Behind the Brilliance

Lisa Nicole Bell

Behind the Brilliance is the go to podcast for the intellectually curious and relentlessly ambitious. The show features weekly long form interviews with innovative and culture-shaping leaders in art, culture, technology, business, lifestyle, and personal development along with Lisa's inspiring and funny advice on life, creativity, and entrepreneurship.

  1. FEB 6

    268 The Best of Season 16

    This recap episode distills the core ideas from this season of Behind the Brilliance with fresh perspective on building a meaningful life and career without burning out, numbing out, or deferring fulfillment to "someday." Lisa recaps key conversations with hospice physician and author Jordan Grumet, wellness educator and actor Tina Lifford, tech ethicist Kate O'Neill, sleep specialist Dr. Michael Breus, and executive coach Eric Nehrlich to connect the dots across purpose, identity, money, emotional resilience, technology, wellness, and stress. This episode synthesizes the big ideas, frameworks, and practical suggestions discussed throughout the season so even if you missed an episode, you'll walk away with useful insights.   TOPICS COVERED A reframing of success through purpose rather than accumulation How identity quietly dictates behavior, discipline, and burnout Why many people chase money when they are actually seeking permission The role of emotional survival patterns in shaping ambition and decision-making How inner fitness creates stability in uncertain careers Why stress often signals misalignment rather than importance The difference between effort and impact in high performance How belief acts as an invisible ceiling on opportunity Why sleep functions as a domino skill for clarity, resilience, and health How judgment and nervous system regulation outperform optimization What technology choices reveal about leadership values Why AI is less about tools and more about responsibility and discernment How systems shape human behavior without our noticing Why progress without reflection leads to scale, not meaning How choosing alignment over constant urgency changes the texture of life   THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  Lisa's newsletter, Cue

    33 min
  2. 267 Eric Nehrlich on How to Shape the Next Chapter of Your Career (When You're Already Successful)

    JAN 30

    267 Eric Nehrlich on How to Shape the Next Chapter of Your Career (When You're Already Successful)

    In this expansive conversation, Lisa talks with executive coach and author Eric Nehrlich. His career path reads like a masterclass in strategic pivoting: physics PhD dropout turned software engineer, product manager, Google finance analyst, and eventually Chief of Staff in Google's C suite before launching his own executive coaching practice. But his journey reveals something more profound than professional flexibility. It's a story about unlearning the toxic relationship between achievement and suffering, understanding when "working harder" becomes counterproductive, and discovering that your greatest strengths often lie at the intersection of multiple disciplines. The conversation explores the psychology of overachievement, the myth that anxiety fuels success, and how high performers can regain control by setting boundaries, embracing intentional incompetence, and redefining what "enough" looks like. The conversation weaves personal stories with practical frameworks, offering listeners specific guidance on how to productively reflect and design lives that support both ambition and well-being. This episode is a must-listen for ambitious professionals, creatives, and leaders who feel successful on paper but privately exhausted, misaligned, or constrained by expectations. Behind his Brilliance: Taking other people's perspectives   TOPICS COVERED  ·  Identity transitions and the sunk-cost fallacy of career paths ·  The difference between aptitude and passion ·  Why burnout often comes from misalignment, not workload alone ·  Generalists vs specialists and why range matters more than ever ·  Being a "translator" across disciplines (engineering, finance, leadership) ·  Working inside Google during the 2008 financial crisis ·  Minimum effective effort and deciding what to drop ·  Intentional incompetence as a leadership and life skill ·  Ambition, insecurity, and the myth that anxiety drives performance ·  Designing life first, career second ·  Self-employment, parenthood, and redefining "enough" ·  Why stress does not equal impact ·  Habit formation, motivation, and external accountability ·  Self-concept, stereotype threat, and invisible performance taxes ·  Upper limit problems and self-sabotage ·  Parenting, leadership, and emotional regulation ·  Belief, confidence, and why self-trust changes outcomes   KEY FRAMEWORKS DISCUSSED  The Tetris Metaphor - High achievement just means blocks fall faster until you drown Intentional Incompetence - Strategically choosing what NOT to be good at Minimum Effective Effort - Optimizing only what matters, letting rest go on autopilot The 100-Hour Reality - You have ~100 waking hours/week; allocate intentionally Waste Hours to Not Waste Years (Amos Tversky) - Take time to reflect or waste years on wrong path The Upper Limit Problem (Gay Hendricks) - We sabotage ourselves when exceeding our self-imposed success ceiling The Generalist's First 80% - Generalists love learning the first 80%; specialists grind for the last 20% One-on-One With Yourself - Treating yourself as your most important employee The Two Yardsticks - Internal versus external measures of success Problem Seeker vs. Problem Solver - Generalists diagnose; specialists execute   THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  Eric Nehrlich Eric's book, You Have a Choice Tiffany Dufu on Behind the Brilliance Tiffany's book, Drop the Ball Chris Dannen on Behind the Brilliance The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks Wheel of Life Whistling Vivaldi by Claude M. Steele (Eric's book pick) Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

    1h 55m
  3. How to Get the Best Sleep of Your Life, According to Science

    JAN 22

    How to Get the Best Sleep of Your Life, According to Science

    Board-certified sleep specialist Dr. Michael Breus returns to Behind the Brilliance for a wide-ranging and deeply practical masterclass on the three biological essentials that keep most people from thriving: sleep, hydration, and breathing. He reveals how to improve sleep, energy, and long-term health and goes beyond basic wellness advice to help us understand the foundational mechanics that determine energy, health, and well-being. From jet lag strategies to weighted blankets to getting back to sleep in the middle of the night, Dr. Breus delivers practical solutions that work in the real world because they're tested on actual patients, not theoretical research. Dr. Breus explains why sleep quality matters more than sleep quantity, why waking up at the same time every day is the single most powerful sleep intervention most people will never try, and how "social jet lag" sabotages performance and mood. The conversation dives into the three most common types of insomnia and the best ways to get deeper sleep. We also unpack supplements, melatonin, CBT-I, and when to see a professional. Beyond sleep, Dr. Breus breaks down hydration myths and gives science-backed takes on the most popular wellness topics including breathwork, mouth taping, cold plunges, saunas, CBD, weighted blankets, and the explosion of misinformation in the wellness space. The episode closes with a candid look at Dr. Breus's own routines, his evolving relationship with meditation, and why leading by example is the real foundation of sustainable health.   TOPICS COVERED Sleep Science & Diagnosis Why home sleep testing has replaced traditional sleep labs FDA-approved sleep wearables and improved diagnostic accuracy Why people avoid sleep studies — and why that excuse no longer holds Sleep apnea, CPAP myths, and emerging treatment alternatives Why untreated sleep apnea is life-threatening, not just inconvenient Sleep Quality vs Quantity The minimum sleep threshold for healthy adults Why bad 8-hour sleep can be worse than shorter high-quality sleep The single most effective sleep habit: consistent wake times How circadian rhythm actually works (melatonin as a timer, not a clock) Social jet lag and why Mondays feel so brutal Insomnia The three main types of insomnia: Difficulty falling asleep Waking in the middle of the night Waking too early and feeling unrested Why waking between 1–3am is normal biology What not to do when you wake up at night (clock-watching, peeing unnecessarily) Why you cannot trust your thoughts in the middle of the night Practical tools to lower heart rate and re-enter sleep Breathing & Nervous System Regulation 4-7-8 breathing and how it works physiologically Modified breathing for beginners Counting techniques to quiet mental chatter Breath as a tool for focus, performance, and emotional regulation Why shallow breathing exhausts the body Jet Lag & Travel Why jet lag is a math problem, not a willpower problem How light exposure shifts circadian rhythm When melatonin is appropriate (and when it isn't) Pre-travel schedule shifting Sleeping on airplanes: seat choice, noise, clothing, hydration What to avoid in-flight (alcohol + sleep aids, carbonation) Supplements & Medications Why supplementation without blood work is backwards Nutrient deficiencies that genuinely affect sleep When melatonin makes sense — and when it doesn't CBD vs CBN for sleep and anxiety Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) When sleep meds are appropriate and how tapering can work safely Hydration Why sleep itself is dehydrating Sip vs gulp: how the body actually absorbs water How much water you really need (lean mass-based guidance) Timing hydration to protect sleep Electrolyte products: when they help and when they backfire Cutting through water marketing hype Wellness Trends: Legit or Overrated Cold plunges vs saunas (genetics matter) Weighted blankets: benefits, limits, and safety Infrared saunas and timing for sleep Mouth taping and why it's dangerous The problem with unqualified "sleep experts" Daily Routines & Lifestyle Morning routines vs evening routines Meditation with biofeedback Building health without perfectionism Leading by example instead of forcing change Why sleep flexibility matters more than rigid rules   THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  Dr. Michael Breus Dr. Breus on Behind the Brilliance (first appearance, episode 143) Dr. Breus's new book: Sleep, Drink, Breathe James Clear's 321 newsletter Life Gives to the Giver by Joe Polish How to Fall Back Asleep (video) 4-7-8 Breathing Exercise Timeshifter app Seat Guru (closed), alternative: Aerolopa Wim Hoff method Muse headband

    1h 46m
  4. 265 Kate O'Neill on Navigating the Future of Technology Without Losing Our Humanity

    JAN 16

    265 Kate O'Neill on Navigating the Future of Technology Without Losing Our Humanity

    SUMMARY Kate O'Neill is a strategist, futurist, and author who helps leaders navigate the intersection of technology and humanity. After building her career in Silicon Valley—including as one of Netflix's early employees—Kate has become one of the most thoughtful voices on how we can harness technological advancement to improve life and work without losing our humanity in the process. In this conversation, we connect key ideas between technology's impact on the future of work, individual lives and careers, and innovation efforts inside companies. Kate shares her journey from linguistics major to tech veteran, which informs her powerful frameworks like the "Now Next Continuum" for strategic decision-making. She explains why digital transformation and innovation are fundamentally different (and why conflating them causes so many companies to struggle). We explore the speed of technological change, the real implications of AI adoption, and why leaders need to ask "what could go right?" as often as they ask what could go wrong. Then we get personal and Kate opens up about losing both her father and first husband within a decade, and how grief clarified her understanding of meaning and mortality—lessons that now shape everything she does. This is a conversation about building a future that serves humanity, making strategic decisions under uncertainty, and finding meaning in both our work and our lives. Behind her brilliance: Curiosity about people and the world   TOPICS DISCUSSED  Kate's early career at Netflix and what it was like inside during the company's pivot from DVDs to streaming Why "fake it till you make it" is the wrong framing for career ambition The art of the cold email and high-agency self-positioning (with important caveats about 1999 vs. 2025) How to tell better stories about your capabilities and make sense of your career trajectory The dangerous gap between what technology enables us to do vs. what we should do Amazon Go stores as a case study in unintended social consequences at scale Why the speed of AI isn't really about the technology—it's about decisions made by tech leaders Minimum viable skilling: why prompt engineering is the new literacy How Kate uses AI for travel planning (and what it does well vs. what humans still need to do) The Now Next Continuum framework for strategic decision-making Digital transformation vs. innovation: why these are different and why it matters Strategic optimism and why most meetings focus on what could go wrong instead of what could go right The linguistic roots of meaning: how communication works and why it matters for business Losing her father to cancer and her first husband to suicide—and what grief taught her about meaning Neil Gaiman's insight: "The difference between comedy and tragedy is where you stop telling the story" Why futurism is less about prediction and more about preparation Climate change, science fiction, and books that make the future feel urgent but not hopeless How Kate curates her information diet and digests what she reads   THINGS MENTIONED  Kate O'Neill What Matters Next by Kate O'Neill A Future So Bright by Kate O'Neill Surviving Death by Kate O'Neill Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull Minneapolis Institute of Art Readwise Cold email guide from Next Play The Ministry for the Future by Kim Stanley Robinson – Kate's book pick The Uninhabitable Earth by David Wallace-Wells – Kate's book pick

    1h 36m
  5. Tina Lifford on Achieving Inner Fitness in a Shifting World

    JAN 9

    Tina Lifford on Achieving Inner Fitness in a Shifting World

    SUMMARY Actress, author, and Inner Fitness Project founder Tina Lifford returns to Behind the Brilliance for a follow up years after her crowd-pleasing interview in episode 115. Fresh off the release of her new book The Inner Fitness Revolution, Tina brings decades of wisdom about building sustainable creative careers and developing the inner work that makes external success fulfilling. This conversation goes deep on the frameworks Tina has developed through her own spiritual journey from understanding the "three selves" (surviving, thriving, infinite) to making self-empowering choices in any circumstance. We explore why so many high achievers feel empty after reaching their goals (and what to do about it), how to build resilience to navigate life's hard seasons, and why inner fitness deserves the same proactive attention we give physical fitness. If you've ever felt like something was missing despite checking all the boxes, or if you're navigating chaos while trying to stay grounded, this conversation offers an inspiring mix of philosophical foundation and practical tools.   TOPICS COVERED  Reframing the relationship between ambition, success, and self-worth Letting go of identity-based survival patterns Connecting spiritual growth to real world experiences Navigating hard relational dynamics Why creative longevity requires inner steadiness, not constant hustle How survival mode narrows perception and fuels anxiety Inner fitness versus "fixing yourself" Reframing success beyond external markers The role of fear, discomfort, and uncertainty in growth Why transformation is a daily practice, not a single moment Cultivating inner safety, self-trust, and emotional resilience The importance of social environments where possibility is nurtured Faith, surrender, and trusting what you cannot yet see   THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  Tina Lifford The Inner Fitness Project Tina's last BTB appearance Tina's newest book, The Inner Fitness Revolution   Queen Sugar Tina's short film inspired by her dream Tina's first book, The Little Book of Big Lies Shadow self Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

    1h 48m
  6. Having More Than Enough: Money, Meaning, and Rethinking Ambition

    JAN 1

    Having More Than Enough: Money, Meaning, and Rethinking Ambition

    SUMMARY Physician and author Jordan Grumet joins Lisa for a wide-ranging, deeply reflective conversation about what happens when the life you worked toward no longer defines who you are. Jordan shares his personal journey through medicine, financial independence, and hospice care, including the unexpected panic that followed reaching financial freedom earlier than anticipated. What was supposed to be a moment of celebration was a terrifying realization: without work, his identity collapsed. Drawing from his work with the dying and his own experience of burnout, he explains why money and achievement fail to resolve deeper questions of meaning, and how so many of ys mistake purpose as something to be proven rather than lived. The discussion unpacks the difference between meaning and purpose, the hidden costs of trauma-driven ambition, and why subtracting what drains us often matters more than adding what impresses us. The conversation moves fluidly between philosophy and pragmatism, touching on time, mortality, creativity, legacy planning, curiosity, and the critical work of rebuilding a life that aligns with personal values. This is a conversation about modern ambition and  how to reassemble identity, motivation, and direction once certainty dissolves and the old reasons stop working. Behind his brilliance: Empathy + Intuition   TOPICS COVERED  ·  What happens psychologically after financial independence ·  Identity loss and disorientation after achievement ·  Meaning vs. purpose — and why confusing them creates anxiety ·  Trauma-driven ambition and "purpose built from scarcity" ·  Why money is a tool, not an endpoint ·  Subtraction as a life design strategy ·  Purpose anxiety and the myth of "big P" purpose ·  Hospice work and lessons from the dying ·  Regrets of the dying and how they inform daily living ·  Mortality as a clarifying force rather than a morbid one ·  Curiosity as an antidote to fear and burnout ·  The achievement treadmill and hedonic adaptation ·  Creative work, writing, and process-based fulfillment ·  Legacy planning: emotional and practical considerations ·  Slowing down, seasons of life, and doing less better   THINGS MENTIONED Jordan Grumet Jordan's books:  Taking Stock, The Purpose Code FIRE Status Anxiety — Alain de Botton The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem — Nathaniel Branden The Simple Path to Wealth — JL Collins The White Coat Investor — Jim Dahle Jack Reacher — Lee Child I'm Dead, Now What - end of life planning book

    1h 41m
  7. 12/25/2025

    Beyond Goals and Resolutions: 6 Strategies for a Better Year

    In this special year-end episode of Behind the Brilliance, Lisa presents six evidence-based strategies for designing a year that feels good while you're living it. Moving beyond traditional goal-setting advice, this episode explores the psychological architecture behind sustainable achievement: why updating your self-concept matters more than willpower, how to engineer habits that survive bad days, and why strategic incompetence is a sophisticated choice rather than a failure. Lisa shares a liberating perspective on deciding what deserves optimization versus maintenance and makes the case for building celebration into your system. If you're tired of aspirational new year hype, this episode offers a more strategic, psychologically grounded approach to having a great year.   TOPICS COVERED Identity architecture: Why self-concept determines behavior success Designing habits for bad days, not ideal conditions Addition by subtraction: The power of strategic elimination Intentional incompetence: Permission to not master everything Minimum effective effort: Maintenance vs. optimization modes Building celebration into your achievement system The relationship between identity and execution Engineering consistency by removing friction Distinguishing between habits you need vs. habits you think you should have   THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  Lisa's newsletter, CUE Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz Atomic Habits by James Clear Obvious to You (video) by Derek Sivers Minimum Effective Effort (essay) by Lisa

    27 min
4.8
out of 5
235 Ratings

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Behind the Brilliance is the go to podcast for the intellectually curious and relentlessly ambitious. The show features weekly long form interviews with innovative and culture-shaping leaders in art, culture, technology, business, lifestyle, and personal development along with Lisa's inspiring and funny advice on life, creativity, and entrepreneurship.

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