Being Sons

Jay Heck
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The Being Sons podcast helps men walk in union with God, as Father and sons.

  1. 07/15/2025

    60. "The Big Six" Needs of Every Child - w/Adam Young

    SUMMARY In this episode of the Being Sons podcast, we delve into "The Big Six" essential needs every child requires from their caregivers, as explained by our guest, trauma therapist, podcast host and author Adam Young. Together we discover how attunement, responsiveness, engagement, affect regulation, emotional strength, and repair can profoundly impact a child's development and secure attachment. Join us as we explore these foundational elements and learn how they shape the journey of fatherhood and personal growth. You WILL get insights that promise to transform your understanding of your child, your childhood, parenting and relationships. TAKEAWAYS Understanding your own story is crucial for effective parenting. Children need attuned and responsive caregivers to develop securely. The 'Big Six' needs are essential for healthy emotional development. Attunement involves recognizing and understanding a child's emotional state. Responsiveness is about how caregivers react to a child's emotions. Engagement means pursuing a child's unique identity and feelings. Parents must regulate their children's affect during emotional dysregulation. It's important for parents to handle their own emotions to support their children. Repairing harm done in parenting is essential for healthy relationships. The parent-child relationship is designed for the parent to give and the child to receive.   CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Dysregulation and Its Impact 01:03 Introduction to Adam Young and His Work 05:15 The Importance of Personal Story in Healing 06:34 The Influence of Family of Origin on Fathering 09:48 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment Explained 11:42 The Big Six Needs of Children 16:52 Attunement: Reading Children's Emotional States 18:51 Responsiveness: The Role of Caregivers 19:48 Engagement: Pursuing the Child's Unique Identity 26:32 Regulating Children's Affect: A Parent's Role 34:50 Handling Big Emotions: The Parent's Strength 39:42 The Importance of Repair in Relationships   To learn more from Adam Young listen to his great podcast, "The Place We Find Ourselves" and read his excellent new book, "Make Sense of Your Story" Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQ?si=a29272ea704649c1   Podcast on Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-place-we-find-ourselves/id1373926216   ----------------------------------------------   Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons.   We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at https://www.beingsons.com/​   On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e   On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022 YouTube    Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    50 min

  2. 06/20/2025

    59. The Good Hard Work of the Heart w/Sam Eldredge

    E59 SUMMARY Sam Eldredge is the Founder and Director of Noble Workshops, a wonderfully effective intensive on-site healing workshop that helps hurting people experience holistic care that encompasses mind, body, heart, and spirit. Jay recently attended Noble and it was life-changing and beautiful.   Sam and host Jay Heck explore the multifaceted, courageous journey of healing and sonship. They discuss the significance of creating safe spaces for vulnerability and connection, particularly in group settings like Noble Workshops and around campfires. The discussion highlights and celebrates the courage required to seek help and the transformative power of emotional connection in personal growth. Sam shares insights on facilitating healing in community, encouraging listeners to embrace their stories and the healing process, adding practical tips on how men and women could listen better and minister healing more effectively around environments like campfires. It's a great discussion we hope you come out better for hearing.   TAKEAWAYS Holistic care involves addressing mind, body, heart, and spirit. Sonship is a journey of receiving God's love and healing. Creating safe spaces is essential for vulnerability and healing. You don't have to solve others' problems; just being present is enough. Noble Workshops provide a structured environment for healing. Emotional connection is crucial for personal growth. Investing in your healing journey is a courageous act. It's important to honor each person's story and experience. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. The process of healing often requires facing uncomfortable truths.   CHAPTERS 00:00  Holistic Care: Beyond the Mind 03:54  The Journey of Sonship 10:08  Creating Safe Spaces for Healing 24:50  Noble Workshops: A Path to Wholeness 33:23  The Courage to Seek Help 47:39  The Importance of Emotional Connection 59:05  Facilitating Healing in Community   For more on Sam Eldredge and to learn more about Noble Workshops: https://www.nobleworkshops.com   Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2qPWi5vJDJA7j0VscGF9CL?si=43fdeb3e224247c3   Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gr/podcast/noble-workshops/id1735761962     ----------------------------------------------   Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons.   We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at https://www.beingsons.com/​   On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e   On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022 YouTube    Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    1h 12m

  3. 05/28/2025

    58. God in the Secret Place w/John Eldredge

    SUMMARY Living in awe of the mystery of God and His ways is meant to be part of our normal daily life. Teaching us to enter into that mystery, with Him, is God's delight, and the way He makes provision for our every need. But our world, it's pace, technology, and near-instant access to information is proving to be a barrier to the intimacy with God we need to live. Through this conversation with John Eldredge, author of the new book "Experience Jesus. Really." you will see more clearly the assault against our intimacy with God, it's evil effects on the soul, and the rich provision He has for us if we will learn from our forebears how to once again live as "Ordinary Mystics". God's love, refuge, counsel, comfort, healing and deliverance are lavishly available to everyone who enters His presence in what He calls "the secret place". CHAPTERS 00:00 – The Purpose of the Conversation 01:08 – Introducing John Eldredge and His New Book 03:06 – The Need for Intimacy with God 06:05 The Impact of Modern Life on Spirituality 11:46 Understanding the Problem of Spiritual Intimacy 17:46 The Role of Ordinary Mystics in Spiritual Life 26:57 The Ordinary Mystic Experience 34:36 Exploring the Secret Place 40:30 Practicing the Presence of God 51:10 Provision in Times of Crisis For more on John Eldredge and Wild at Heart: click here To order his books, click here   Being Sons helps men live in union with God as Father and sons. Learn more: https://www.beingsons.com/ Listen on Spotify Subscribe to "The Way of Sonship"

    56 min

  4. 04/21/2025

    57. The "Next First Step" Father with Jeff Zaugg - Part 2/2

    SUMMARY of E57   In the second part of this encouraging conversation, Jeff Zaugg and host Jay Heck celebrate the ministry of fatherhood, recalling personal stories of repeated failure along with the undeniable evidence of growth. They discuss the challenges all fathers face, the impact of their presence in their home, and the role of God in leading their parenting journey. They explore this multifaceted journey of fatherhood, emphasizing the importance of intentionality, encouragement, and connection with children. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the significance of vulnerability, identity, and love in fostering meaningful relationships with their children. The conversation serves as a source of inspiration and practical advice for fathers seeking to grow and improve in their massively important roles.    TAKEAWAYS Fatherhood is a journey filled with stumbles and growth. Intentionality in parenting can lead to deeper connections. Activating dads for a greater purpose can transform communities. Encouragement is vital in overcoming feelings of inadequacy. Creating one-on-one time with children fosters meaningful relationships.  The impact of a father's presence is profound and lasting.  Discouragement is a common struggle for many fathers. Identity and love are foundational in a child's development.  Vulnerability allows fathers to connect more deeply with their children.  Faith plays a crucial role in navigating the challenges of fatherhood.    CHAPTERS   00:00 - The Journey of Fatherhood 03:00 - Building Intentionality in Parenting 05:58 - Activating Dads for a Greater Purpose 08:55 - The Power of Encouragement and Self-Reflection  11:59 - Creating Meaningful Connections with Children 14:59 - The Impact of a Father's Presence 17:56 - Overcoming Discouragement in Fatherhood 20:46 - The Importance of Identity and Love  23:59 - Embracing Vulnerability as a Father  26:58 - The Role of Faith in Fatherhood 30:13 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Dads   ABOUT DADAWESOME   To learn more about DadAwesome, Jeff Zaugg and His podcast go to https://www.dadawesome.org/   To learn about the 6-week DadAwesome accelerator, send an email to awesome@dadawesome.org You will receive an email reply containing all the information about their 6 week, 10 person journey to accelerate you into better fathering.   ----------------------------------------------   Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons. We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures.   Learn more at https://www.beingsons.com/​ On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022 YouTube Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    42 min

  5. 04/08/2025

    56. The Joyful Father with Jeff Zaugg Part 1/2

    In part 1 of this 2 part conversation, Jeff Zaugg and host Jay Heck explore the themes of fatherhood, sonship, and the joyful journey of being a dad. Jeff shares his learning curve with the DadAwesome initiative, emphasizing the importance of inviting joy, humility, and intentionality into our fathering. The discussion delves into the rewards that come from taking risks in our parenting, seeking healing from our past wounds, and exploring the profound interconnectedness between fatherhood and sonship. Through personal stories and insights, they highlight the joys and challenges of walking with God and letting Him teach us how to be awesome fathers. To learn more about Jeff Zaugg and His podcast go to DadAwesome TAKEAWAYS Be intentional in your parenting and relationships. Fatherhood is a journey of love and growth. Taking risks can lead to deeper connections with your children. Healing from past wounds can enhance your role as a father. Sonship is foundational to understanding fatherhood. Dads should actively pursue joy and happiness for their children. Creating moments of adventure fosters strong bonds with kids. Storytelling is a powerful tool in parenting. Dads have a moral obligation to model joy for their children. The concept of fractional paradise can enrich family life. CHAPTERS  00:00 - The Foundation of Fatherhood  07:50 - The Journey of Dad Awesome  12:12 - The Importance of Intentionality 20:15 - Taking Risks in Fatherhood  23:22 - Healing Through Fatherhood  31:08 - The Interconnection of Sonship and Fatherhood ---------------------------------------------- Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons. We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at  https://www.beingsons.com/​ On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022  YouTube Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    45 min

  6. 01/21/2025

    55. The Biblical Thread of Sonship Part 2/2 with Scott Heare

    Summary of E55 In the second half of this conversation, Jay Heck and Scott Hare explore the profound themes of sonship and adoption as depicted throughout the entirety of the Bible, from Genesis to Revelation. They discuss the journey from being orphans to becoming sons of God, emphasizing the transformative power of understanding one's identity in Christ. The conversation delves into the biblical narratives, particularly focusing on Moses and the Israelites, and how their experiences reflect the journey of faith and identity. The discussion culminates in the significance of adoption in the New Testament, highlighting God's heart for the fatherless and the invitation to be part of His family. The discussion culminates in the parable of the lost son, highlighting God's invitation to trust and embrace our identity in Him. Takeaways -God desires to help you discover your identity. -The journey from orphans to sons is central to faith.  -Moses' identity transformation is key to understanding sonship. -Sonship affects how we perceive God's power and love. -Evil's power is derived from what we give it. -God's heart is to defend the fatherless and the widow. -Adoption is a major theme throughout the Bible. -Jesus invites us to be part of God's family. -Understanding our identity in Christ transforms our lives. -The narrative of Israel reflects our own journey of faith. -Adoption reflects God's love and our identity. -Caring for orphans and widows is crucial to God's judgment. -Understanding our identity as adopted children is transformative. -Submission to authority is essential in our spiritual journey. -Judgment can be a positive affirmation of belonging. -God's love is unconditional and seeks to embrace us. -The orphaned heart can be diagnosed through our relationships. -The Father desires to help us discover our true identity. -God's pursuit of us is relentless and loving. -The parable of the lost son illustrates God's heart for us. Chapters 00:00 The Journey from Orphans to Sons 15:52 Transformative Power of Sonship 25:13 The Heart of God: Adoption and Fatherhood 29:02 The Pain of Adoption and God's Love 32:57 Judgment and Care for the Vulnerable 36:28 Understanding Our Identity as Adopted Children 39:03 Diagnosing the Orphaned Heart 44:20 Submission and Authority in Sonship 45:41 The Father's Heart and Our Identity 49:32 God's Pursuit of Us and Our Response 52:18 The Parable of the Lost Son and Invitation to Trust As referred to by Scott Heare, here is Jack Frost's teaching on sonship: -Session 1 part 1 - Experiencing the Father's Embrace - https://youtu.be/qFByVMXxWMg?si=749zptY7PdYzz1-g -Session 1 Part 2 - Experiencing the Father's Embrace - https://youtu.be/Txdxv3Syw-c?si=AtEINJ0sD8d2P6gw ---------------------------------------------- Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons. We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at  https://www.beingsons.com/​ On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022  YouTube Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    59 min

  7. 01/09/2025

    54. The Biblical Thread of Sonship w/Scott Heare - Part 1/2

    Summary Q: How deeply is the theme of sonship embedded in the whole Biblical narrative? A: So deeply it will blow your mind! In part 1 of this 2 part conversation, Jay Heck is joined by Bible scholar and Holy land tour guide Scott Heare to explore the profound and ubiquitous theme of sonship through the whole of scripture. Drawing on his deep understanding of the Biblical text and how God's story has unfolded through human history, Scott shares with us this themes implications for identity, inheritance, and relationship with God. Takeaways -Sonship is a central theme in the Bible that shapes our identity.  -Understanding God as Father changes our perspective on inheritance.  -The journey of faith involves discovering the depth of sonship. -Experiences in the Middle East can enrich one's understanding of scripture. -The Old Testament is crucial for understanding the New Testament.  -Sonship transforms the way we read and interpret the Bible.  -Adolescence in faith reflects a struggle with identity and obedience. -The Bible is a library of interconnected stories, not just a single narrative. -Personal experiences can lead to a deeper revelation of sonship. -Sonship invites us into a transformative relationship with God. -Self-discovery often involves confronting deep-seated anger. -Understanding one's identity in God is crucial for spiritual growth. -The journey to sonship can be a gradual revelation. -Asking the right questions is more important than seeking answers. -Faith is a relationship built on ongoing conversation with God. -The burden of maintaining appearances can be lifted through sonship. -Scripture reveals the character of God and our identity in Him. -Sonship transforms how we approach life and relationships. -Embracing our identity as beloved children of God is liberating. -The journey of faith is more about discovery than performance. Chapters 00:00 The Foundation of Sonship 03:01 Scott's Journey and Current Work 05:51 Experiences in the Middle East 12:00 The Importance of the Old Testament 18:05 Understanding Sonship 24:09 The Transformative Power of Sonship 29:33 Journey of Self-Discovery and Anger 36:03 The Revelation of Sonship 40:17 Wrestling with Identity and Salvation 52:17 Understanding Sonship in Scripture  As referred to by Scott Heare, here is Jack Frost's teaching on sonship: "Session 1 part 1 - Experiencing the Father's Embrace" https://youtu.be/qFByVMXxWMg?si=749zptY7PdYzz1-g "Session 1 Part 2 - Experiencing the Father's Embrace" - https://youtu.be/Txdxv3Syw-c?si=AtEINJ0sD8d2P6gw ----------------------------------------------  Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons. We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at https://www.beingsons.com/​ On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/57RK9lH8dKi8gh8lLVtK97?si=1d49d12321b84b0e On iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-sons/id1447340022 YouTube Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    58 min

  8. 07/16/2024

    53. Sons at Work w/Rich Pantusa - Part 2/2

    Summary In part 2 of this 2 part conversation with Rich Pantusa we explore the theme of being sons in the workplace and how to see the sacred work of God in it. It draws parallels with the experiences of the Israelites in Egypt and their journey of sonship, highlighting the importance of going through uncomfortable places to develop character and trust in God. The conversation also discusses the preparation for reigning in the coming kingdom and the restoration of all things. Jesus' life is examined as a model for navigating challenges and finding purpose in the workplace. They discuss the significance of Jesus' hidden years and how they relate to our own journeys of initiation and maturity. They emphasize the need to bring our questions and frustrations to God, rather than trying to escape or find fulfillment elsewhere. They also share personal stories and insights, highlighting the importance of finding peace and purpose in our current contexts. The conversation concludes with a prayer for guidance and wisdom in navigating our work lives as sons. ---------------------------------------------- Being Sons helps men live in union with God, as Father and sons. We host solo adventures for men and 1-on-1 father + child adventures. Learn more at https://www.beingsons.com/​  On YouTube Subscribe to our free 47-week Video Journey called "The Way of Sonship": https://mailchi.mp/beingsons/way-of-sonship

    1h 11m
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The Being Sons podcast helps men walk in union with God, as Father and sons.

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  • Creator
    Jay Heck
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2025
  • Episodes
    60
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Being Sons

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