Being The Head

Jacqui LeMaitre Jane McNally

A podcast that lifts the lid on school leadership, its pressures, its pitfalls, and the process we pay for keeping it all together. "listening to this podcast has been a real game changer for me. It captures the real high and lows of being a head."

  1. Aug 30

    Episode 1 Season 3 Every Yes Has a No Protecting Your Energy as a School Leader with Gemma Drinkall

    Episode Overview As schools return for the autumn term, the familiar pressure cooker of attendance targets, budget squeezes, and accountability measures begins all over again. But beneath every school improvement plan lies a critical human cost. In this episode of Being the Head, Jacqui and Jane are joined by former school leader, supervisor, and educational consultant Gemma Drinkall. Gemma opens up about her personal journey navigating severe burnout and receiving a late ADHD diagnosis at age 35. Together, the panel explores why traditional wellbeing initiatives often miss the mark for neurodivergent leaders, why supervision should be viewed as operational infrastructure rather than a luxury perk, and how to build sustainable boundaries when the job demands everything. Key Takeaways • The Reality of the September Surge: Over 70% of school leaders report that their roles negatively impact their mental health, yet exhaustion is frequently treated as evidence of commitment. • Neurodiversity in Leadership: Traditional school structures often reward constant compliance and masking, leading to hidden sensory overloads and dysregulation for neurodivergent leaders. • Supervision as Risk Management: Supervision is not a tick-box wellbeing exercise; it provides essential thinking space, reality checks, and a safe harbor to process heavy mental loads without judgment. • The Power of "No": Every professional "yes" comes with a personal "no"—whether to sleep, family time, or basic self-care. Protecting your energy is a core component of responsible leadership.

    Episode 1 Season 3 Every Yes Has a No Protecting Your Energy as a School Leader with Gemma Drinkall
  2. Aug 16

    Mini Episode 4 Beyond the Attendance Percentage The Infrastructure of Belonging

    In this episode of Being the Head, Jacqui and Jane unpack Evaluation Area 4 of the 2026 EIF Toolkit: Attendance and Behaviour. When societal fractures land on the school desk every Monday morning, leaders are too often judged on raw top-line percentage figures that measure societal context rather than institutional quality. As inspection transitions from "verdict to conversation," Jacqui and Jane interrogate the shift from individualised resilience to structural infrastructure. They explore what inspectors actually look for when talking to pupils, the danger of punitive compliance, and why Reflective Supervision is a structural necessity—not an add-on—to protect leadership judgment under pressure. Percentages vs. Infrastructure: A 92% attendance rate can be a structural triumph in one context, or mask internal exclusion in another. Look past the top-line data to evaluate the environment underneath. The Systemic Trap: Adding more tracking, punitive steps, or compliance measures often individualises a structural problem, driving exclusion rather than engagement. The Pupil's Lived Experience: Inspectors aren't just looking at registers or sanction logs; they are listening to pupils to see if calm is built on relational safety or an environment on edge. Wellbeing as Infrastructure: Wellbeing cannot be a wellness app or a free cup of coffee. Holding boundaries requires high emotional labour, and leaders need structured, confidential space to process human complexity. Before looking at your next set of attendance or behaviour data, pause and ask: Are our attendance and behaviour strategies designed to solve the root cause of disengagement, or are they built to make administrative compliance look clean? Where in our school day do we create belonging for the pupils who find being here the hardest? What is the human cost on our staff of holding these boundaries, and what structural support is in place to protect them from burnout? 🛠 Download the 2026 Toolkit September Readiness Pro Forma: Benchmarking self-evaluation tools available on our payhip store https://payhip.com/b/rZCKd 🤝 Being the Head Leadership Support & Assurance Offer: Discover how Reflective Supervision can provide the confidential thinking space needed to protect your judgment. Visit ⁠beingthehead.co.uk⁠ Key Takeaways & Strategic ReflectionsDiagnostic Questions for Leadership TeamsResources & Links Mentioned

    Mini Episode 4 Beyond the Attendance Percentage The Infrastructure of Belonging
  3. Aug 9

    Mini Episode 3: The Myth of Data Compliance vs. Real Impact on the Ground

    In this September Readiness briefing, Jacqui and Jane tackle the quiet, exhausting strain of outcome tracking and the human cost of data compliance under the renewed 2026 EIF inspection framework. Moving away from internal proprietary software and performative data entry, this episode reframes pupil achievement around long-term retention, foundational mastery, and authentic classroom output specifically for SEND and disadvantaged cohorts. Rather than offering quick fixes, this briefing provides four critical structural questions to test leadership judgment and six direct triangulation questions to use on learning walks to evaluate whether pupil progress is genuine or merely administrative cover. Key Takeaways & Leadership Questions1. The Book Look Reality Check 2. Contextual Outperformance vs. National Averages 3. Foundational Mastery in Key Transitions 4. Workload as Infrastructure for Achievement On-the-Ground Triangulation Questions for Pupil ShadowingWhen testing for authentic retention, agency, and depth across your cohorts, use these questions during learning walks: On-the-Ground Triangulation Questions for Pupil Shadowing When testing for authentic retention, agency, and depth across your cohorts, use these questions during learning walks: Testing Progress & Retention: "Can you show me something you worked on earlier this term that was really difficult at first, and explain how you mastered it?" "How does your teacher check if you've actually remembered something you learned six months or a year ago, rather than just what you did yesterday?" Testing Depth & Independence (SEND / Disadvantaged): "Looking at this piece of work, what part required you to think hard and make your own choices rather than following a template?" "Do you feel challenged to do the same high-level work as everyone else, or do you get simpler tasks?" Testing Foundational Application: "How did learning basic reading or math in early years help you solve this complex problem today?" "What do you do when you get stuck on a problem, and how do you know you are making progress?" Resources & Next Steps Download the Toolkit: Download the complete September Readiness Toolkit Proforma from our Payhip store https://payhip.com/b/rZCKd Leadership Assurance: Learn more about Being the Head Leadership Support and Assurancea dedicated thinking space built to protect professional judgment and navigate systemic pressure without performative fluff. Email us at beingthehead@gmail.com Connect: Join the conversation with other school leaders on LinkedIn. https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqui-l-605ba150/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-mcnally-746ab762/

    Mini Episode 3: The Myth of Data Compliance vs. Real Impact on the Ground
  4. Aug 4

    Mini Episode 1 Inclusion Ofsted Inspection Toolkit Benchmarking Your School Against the Criteria

    As the school gates close for summer, the temptation is to spend July and August formatted for inspection. The whisper of old inspection anxiety tempts us to dress up a performance, but under the renewed framework, the focus has fundamentally shifted from verdicts to conversations. In this first short, sharp mini-episode, Jacqui and Jane name the elephant in the room: The Inclusive Mainstream Fund (IMF). If personal wellbeing simply acts as a plaster, the leader eventually absorbs the structural strain. We explore how to treat inclusion as a structural reality rather than an individual burden moving away from 5-step checklists to test your school's actual, lived coherence. The Statutory Deadline: By December 31st, 2026, every mainstream state school in England must publish a formal inclusion strategy on their website. Map Against the 7 DfE Inclusion Themes: Ensure your plan explicitly demonstrates ambitious leadership, early intervention, adaptive teaching, enrichment, culture/belonging, family partnerships, and accessible environments. Universal Evidence-Based Provision First: Allocate funds into scalable, whole-school interventions (e.g., speech & language screening, neuroinclusion training) before barriers escalate. Know Strict Spending Boundaries: IMF cannot subsidize operational deficits, general running costs, pre-existing activities, or capital building works. Educate Governing Bodies: Shift governor questioning from "where is the money going?" to "how is this directly reducing barriers to attendance and achievement for vulnerable cohorts?" Under the renewed framework, inspectors aren't sitting in offices reading paperwork they are shadowing specific pupils step-by-step to see how systems adapt from lesson to lesson. Cognitive Isolation vs. Inclusion: If a SEND pupil is sitting at the back of a mainstream classroom doing a simplified worksheet while a TA does the thinking, that isn't inclusion it’s physical integration with cognitive isolation. Unstructured inclusion relies on individual teachers adapting on the fly with no cognitive load relief, leading directly to burnout. Take these non-judgmental diagnostic questions to your leadership team to test your system’s coherence: On Funding: How does your published strategy explicitly prove that your IMF allocation is directly reducing daily barriers for current cohorts rather than absorbing historic budget deficits? On Authority: When your SENCo/Inclusion Lead identifies a systemic weakness in classroom adaptations, what formal, non-negotiable mechanism exists for them to challenge and upskill staff? On Inclusion Bases: How do you track that pupils in an inclusion base spend meaningful time with mainstream peers—is the base a revolving door back to the classroom or a permanent parallel school? On Pupil Experience: When inspectors sit next to your most vulnerable children, will their lived answers about feedback, help, and learning match your SEND policy? Do not spend your summer creating folders for Ofsted. Focus on building psychological safety for staff, clarifying systems, and protecting your own headspace. 📌 Self-Evaluation & Benchmarking Tool: Access our self-evaluating diagnostic tool designed to help you test and review your school's inclusive policy before September at our Payhip store: ⁠Being the Head - Ofsted Readiness / Inclusion Tool⁠. 💬 Connect & Reach Out: Connect with Jacqui and Jane on LinkedIn or drop us an email at beingthehead@gmail.com. "We see you, we hear you. Take care of yourself."

    Mini Episode 1 Inclusion Ofsted Inspection Toolkit Benchmarking Your School Against the Criteria
  5. Jul 19

    Episode 52 The Fire Inside Structural Resilience & Breaking the Male Silence with Andrew Pain

    Episode 52: The Fire Inside – Structural Resilience & Breaking the Male Silence If your resilience strategy requires you to wait until the weekend to stop shaking, it's not a strategy. That's just structural delay before a breakdown. In high-pressure operations, you don't survive by being a hero; you survive by admitting the building is on fire before the smoke chokes you. In this episode, we step entirely away from "educational fluff" and the traditional corporate safety nets to look directly at the heavy human cost of the school leadership crisis. We dive into what happens to a leader's brain and body when forced to operate in a permanent state of triage. To help us unpick this structural emergency, we are joined by Andrew Pain—a crisis management adviser to Counter-Terrorism Policing and National Highways, a TEDx speaker, an international coach, and a father of five. Andrew doesn't come from education, which is precisely why we need his perspective. He brings a raw, research-backed look at why traditional leadership frameworks are failing, why burnout is not a badge of honour, and what genuine structural resilience actually requires. Key Thinking Spaces in This Episode: • The Triage Trap: Moving beyond the "absorb and shield" leadership model that deprives teams of growth while physically decimating the leader. • The Male Headteacher Crisis: Unpacking the staggering statistic that 74% of all UK suicide deaths are men—making it the leading cause of death for men under 50. We look at how this data intersects with a school system where 80% of leaders are burning out, leaving male headteachers at acute, unacknowledged risk. • The Biological Reality of Stress: Andrew breaks down the global "testosterone crisis" and how chronic stress, lifestyle crutches, and corporate silence cause plummeting testosterone levels in men over 30—directly impacting mental clarity, anxiety, and long-term physical health. • Authentic Psychological Safety: Moving past surface-level wellbeing checklists to build operational honesty. Andrew shares practical mechanisms used by high-performance teams, from "Cake and Mistake" sessions to designated "Grumble Time." • The 5-Step Decision Framework: How to establish a rigorous, pilot-style checklist to defuse decision fatigue and override chaotic gut reactions during high-stakes structural pressure. This Week’s Reflections for Leaders: What are your unique, deeply personal burnout red flags? Not the generic symptoms you find via a Google search, but the specific, physical changes—whether it is biting your fingers raw, skipping training, or a complete reliance on survival sugar—that signal you are slipping into danger? Have you given your team explicit permission to name them when they see them? Resources & Links Mentioned: • Connect with the Guest: Follow Andrew Pain on LinkedIn to engage with his insights on psychological safety and resilience. • The Book: Pre-order Andrew’s upcoming book, "Honestly, Man: Why Masculinity Feels Confusing, Shame Doesn't Help and What To Do About It" (Releasing August 6th, 2026). The book tackles three crucial structural questions: Are men struggling? Why are they struggling? How do we help? • The Impact: 100% of the profits from Honestly, Man are donated directly to charities supporting men and boys, including We Are Survivors, Mankind Initiative, and Lads Need Dads. About Being the Head: We advocate for Reflective Supervision and systemic coherence over individual endurance. Your health is the infrastructure holding the school up—not an afterthought. We see you. We hear you.

    Episode 52 The Fire Inside Structural Resilience & Breaking the Male Silence with Andrew Pain
  6. Jul 12

    Episode 51 Why are school leaders rethinking Alcohol? With Polly Lovell

    If you are a school leader driving home right now, your brain might be calculating exactly how many minutes are left until you can open a bottle of wine or grab a beer using it as the only decompression chamber available to separate "headteacher mode" from "home mode." In this episode, Jacqui and Jane break the silence on a massive open secret in midlife school leadership: the creeping reliance on alcohol to numb chronic, structural workplace stress. Joined by Polly Lovell, a certified sobriety coach, NLP practitioner, and former executive headteacher with 30 years of experience in education, this conversation bypasses generic wellness pitches to explore the biological reality, hormonal intersections, and institutional cultures that trap leaders in an exhausting loop. Key Thinking Spaces From This Conversation The 3:00 AM Reality: Alcohol feels relaxing because it temporarily slows brain activity, but as it leaves your system, cortisol spikes and your heart rate increases. You aren't actually unwinding; you are borrowing calm from tomorrow with interest.The Menopausal Intersection: For midlife leaders, declining estrogen already destabilizes mood, sleep, and anxiety regulation. Introducing alcohol doesn't relieve these symptoms; it chemically magnifies hot flushes, brain fog, and fatigue.The Multiplier of Success: The intense drive, productivity, and high achievement required to climb into executive headship and CEO roles can, if unmanaged, disguise an inability to rest as a badge of honor. High performance requires rest.Redefining Resilience: True resilience isn’t about carrying a heavier load until you burn out. Your staff don’t just hear your directives; they actively experience your state of being. Looking after yourself is a core leadership responsibility. The School Bell Takeaways (Practices for This Week) Build a State-Change Bridge: Instead of going straight from a grueling safeguarding or budget meeting to the fridge, deliberately take 10 minutes to transition your state. Use the HALT acronym to pause and ask what your nervous system actually needs: Are you Hungry, Angry/Stressed, Lonely/Bored, or Tired?Audit the Three AM Wake-Up: Track your sleep patterns alongside your alcohol intake for a week. Stop treating that 3:00 AM racing mind as an immediate school crisis and view it accurately as chemical data from the night before.Stop Gifting Anxiety: Swap out the default token bottle of wine used to thank an exhausted colleague. Instead, offer high-quality alternatives or a "time voucher" that genuinely protects their energy. Featured Guest Resources Guest: Polly Lovell (Sober Coach Polly)Connect: Find Polly on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn.Website: ⁠www.sobercoachpolly.com⁠ to book a free 20-minute clarity call. Episode Resources & Next Steps Free Download: Download our free two-page PDF reflection tool, The Leadership Stress-Alcohol Cycle, by subscribing to our kit page. ⁠https://being-the-head.kit.com/c9db721fe7⁠   Support the Community: If you know a leader who is currently white-knuckling their way through the term, quietly text them the link to this episode. Let them know they aren't the only ones.

    Episode 51 Why are school leaders rethinking Alcohol? With Polly Lovell
  7. Jul 5

    Episode 50 Compliance is SurvivalThe Hidden Burnout of the High-Performing Girl with Victoria Bagnall

    Compliance is Survival: The Hidden Burnout of the High-Performing Girl When a cash-strapped school or trust is forced to slash SLAs and enrichment spaces due to brutal budget deficits, the policy world rarely tracks the human cost. Instead, the focus immediately shifts to firefighting managing the students who are visibly escalating. But what happens to the quiet, high-performing girls who are tracking towards top GCSE grades while silently masking their neurodivergence? In this episode, Jane and Jacqui strip away the corporate jargon to expose the structural vice trapping school leaders and their most invisible students. They are joined by Victoria Bagnall, co-founder of Connections in Mind and author of The Neuroinclusive Educator, to break down the profound cognitive tax of masking, why compliance is a survival mechanism rather than a success metric, and how systemic hypocrisy gaslights leaders into burning out their own executive functioning. This isn’t a superficial checklist for individual resilience. It is a raw, necessary thinking space for leaders navigating an impossible system. The Thinking Space If you were to audit your school’s daily micro-decisions and budget constraints, are you building a culture that sustains human energy, or one that quietly consumes it? When compliance is treated as success, what is the hidden cost to the pupils who never make a sound until they break? Key Takeaways The Masking Tax: High-performing, neurodivergent girls expend up to 200% more cognitive energy just to regulate themselves in a structured classroom. When budget cuts claim unstructured, low-pressure spaces, their vital "decompression chambers" vanish, accelerating severe neurodivergent burnout and school avoidance.The Body Budget & Executive Dysfunction: Drawing on neuroscience, Victoria explains how a lack of psychological safety forces the brain to prioritise basic survival (the fawn response) over higher-order executive functioning, directly impairing working memory, cognitive flexibility, and self-regulation.Interoception for Leaders: School leaders make hundreds of high-stakes micro-decisions daily, rapidly draining their own prefrontal cortex capacity. Pushing past the point of exhaustion happens because the system leaves no room to develop interoception the ability to read the body’s signals before hitting total burnout.Reframing Inclusion: True inclusion is not a "soft approach" that compromises academic outcomes. It is a highly disciplined, strategic commitment to building a human-centric environment where high expectations are matched by robust structural support. Links & Resources Book: ⁠The Neuro inclusive Educator by Victoria Bagnall⁠ Explore the Work: Learn more about building executive functioning support at ⁠Connections in Mind⁠. Leadership Assurance: Protect your professional judgment and access structural wellbeing support email us on beingthehead@gmail.com ⁠ www.victoriabagnall.com⁠ “You cannot fund a broken national system with your own wellbeing. We see you, we hear you For resources sign up for our newsletter on https://being-the-head.kit.com/c9db721fe7

    Episode 50 Compliance is SurvivalThe Hidden Burnout of the High-Performing Girl with Victoria Bagnall

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A podcast that lifts the lid on school leadership, its pressures, its pitfalls, and the process we pay for keeping it all together. "listening to this podcast has been a real game changer for me. It captures the real high and lows of being a head."

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