Better After Divorce

Coach Ivy
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Are you ready to go from the devastation of divorce to the reclamation of your entire life? Well, Queen, you’ve arrived at the perfect place! Welcome to Better After Divorce, the podcast dedicated to empowering women on their journey to reign with confidence, passion, and power in royal fashion. This is where we embrace the up-level, the evolution, your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Whether you’re picking up the pieces or building an empire, this space is yours to rise, reign, and thrive. Time to claim your power and become the fierce unstoppable Queen you were born to be.

  1. 4d ago

    Being Single On Purpose

    Being Single On Purpose The world has exactly one story for a single woman in midlife: something is wrong with you. You're waiting. Still looking. Got issues. B******t at its finest. There's a difference between single-and-waiting and single-and-sovereign — same relationship status, completely different woman. One's keeping a seat warm. The other one already picked herself. This week we get into what that actually looks like, including the part nobody says out loud: sovereign doesn't mean never lonely. IN THIS EPISODE → Why the toy aisle told you the story before you could even read → Single-waiting vs. single-sovereign — two entirely different women, one status → How all five archetypes do alone: proving, serving, investigating, defending, breathing → The aligned one who still walked away — and why disappointment is its own kind of grief → What Frances figured out in Tuscany that most of us are still waiting on → The honest part: some Saturdays are long, and that doesn't mean you got it wrong REFERENCE → Read the companion piece on Substack: Being Single On Purpose → Find your archetype — the free guide → Already know your archetype and tired of watching yourself run it? Book an Archetype Breakthrough Session  IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman who keeps getting asked when she's going to settle down — and has stopped explaining herself. She needs to hear this. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  2. Aug 12

    Intimacy Cost More Now - And You Have More to Lose

    Intimacy Cost More Now - And You Have More to Lose You want the closeness, the connection. You even want the sex. So why does the thought of actually going out and getting it make you want to take a nap? It’s not that desire left. It’s that the price went up. This week we’re talking about what intimacy actually costs in midlife — and why your “I just can’t right now” isn’t a flaw. It’s accurate pricing. Because intimacy isn’t sex. Intimacy is letting someone see the parts of you you’ve kept hidden since the divorce — and that bill doesn’t take Saturday nights anymore. IN THIS EPISODE → Red light on “Keepin’ It Easy” — why easy for him is expensive for you → One comically unsexy Tuesday night — the nighttime ritual, the covers, and Hercules holding his ground → The three costs — the body, what you have to lose, and the past → The reframe — the price didn’t rise because you got difficult; the asset appreciated → Five women, same exposure — how each archetype meets intimacy, and the wall she can’t take down → What Samantha Jones understood that most of us miss → Coach Ivy’s truth — not dating right now, on purpose. Not a waiting room. Ownership. REFERENCE → Read the companion article on Substack: Intimacy Costs More Now — and You Have More to Lose on coachivy.substack.com → Find your archetype — free Dating Pattern Guide: coachivy.involve.me/relationship-pattern → Book an Archetype Breakthrough Session: calendly.com/coachivyallen/the-archetype-breakthrough-session → Write me — I answer every email personally: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman who keeps apologizing for not having the energy to date. She’s not too tired for love — she’s too rich to overpay. She needs to hear this. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  3. Jul 26

    You Were So Busy Being Chosen You Never Chose Him

    You Were So Busy Being Chosen You Never Chose Him The date went well. You know it did — because you checked. Once when he leaned in, and again in the car, replaying the whole thing. And somewhere around the second exit it hits you: you can't name one true thing about him. Not what he said. You have all of that.  You don't know who he is. Whether you even liked him. This week we're talking about the difference between fear and fullness — and why it's not a feeling you have on a date. It's the position you walked in standing on. Fear spends the whole night auditioning. Fullness walks in with nothing to extract, which is the only reason it can actually see him. Because the real cost of dating from fear isn't heartbreak. It's blindness. IN THIS EPISODE → Why fear isn't an emotion — it's a position, and it doesn't just show up on the date, it shows up about all men → Five women, same fear, five completely different dates — how the Lioness, Matriarch, Seeker, Valkyrie, and Empath each dance around it → Erica Barry's turtlenecks — the armor you don't notice you're wearing → The Game of 26 — the dating experiment that made joy possible again, and why the point was never to date 26 people → Fear vs. fullness — a past you're still arguing with vs. a past you've stopped negotiating with → The part nobody names — how "being chosen" quietly replaces choosing him REFERENCE → Read the companion piece on Substack: You Were So Busy Being Chosen You Never Chose Him IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman who's been on a hundred good dates and still can't tell you if she liked a single one of them. She needs to hear this. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  4. Jun 23

    You Can't Flirt In A Body You're Not Feelin'

    You Can't Flirt in a Body You're Not Feelin' You know that half-second delay when you catch your reflection and think — that's not me. Or it is. It's just not the me I expected to see. And somehow you're supposed to go on a date feeling like that. This week we're talking about the body you're actually dating in right now. Not the one you're waiting to get back to. Not the one you had ten years ago. This one. Today. Because you can't flirt in a body you're not feelin' — and most of us in midlife are somewhere between making peace and making war with the body we're in. IN THIS EPISODE → The body betrayal nobody talks about — peace isn't the same as appreciation → How attraction didn't disappear — it just relocated → Need is thirsty. Desire is dessert. The difference changes everything. → The pure green light — what dating from fullness actually looks like when you get dressed for a date → The validation trap and why either way you lose when you look for it in him → The way out — falling in love with the woman living in this body right now REFERENCE → Read the companion article on Substack: Dating in a Body You're Just Not Into coachivy.substack.com IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman in your life who's been harder on her body than she's ever been on anyone else. She needs to hear this. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  5. Jun 14

    Your Not On A Date. You're On A Job Interview

    You're Not on a Date. You're on a Job Interview. It's crazy out here — and you're spending a fortune of energy for almost nothing. But not for the reason you think. This week we're talking about the wasteland. The matches that go nowhere. The Sunday swiping that leaves you lonelier than before. The guy you almost texted yes to — not because you wanted to, but because you had nothing else going on. You're competent, self-aware, and honestly? You look pretty damn good. But this one arena makes you feel like you're losing your mind. You're not crazy. It IS crazy out here. But here's what nobody is saying out loud — it's not the men, the apps, or your age. It's how we date. We don't date. We interview. We show up with a clipboard and a list of questions, deciding if he's worthy of a job offer before the appetizers arrive. This is Part 1 of Dating From Fullness — the series that walks you out of the wasteland. Not by trying harder. By carrying less. IN THIS EPISODE → What the dating wasteland actually looks like — and why you're not imagining it → The real reason dating is exhausting (hint: it's the clipboard, not the men) → Red Light / Green Light — the date that went perfectly and ended in a fade → The Game of 26 — the season Coach Ivy stopped keeping score and everything shifted → Why you can't pour enjoyment into a cup that's already full of dread → The freedom of nonattachment — and why it's the most magnetic thing you can bring to a table REFERENCE → Read the article this week on Substack: You're Not Crazy, and You're Not Alone — Midlife Dating Can Be Grueling IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman in your life who's exhausted by dating and starting to wonder if it's her. It's not — and this episode will show her what is. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  6. Jun 4

    You're Not Unlucky. You Keep Telling the Wrong Story.

    You're Not Unlucky. You Keep Telling the Wrong Story. This week we’re talking about the shadow — the place every archetype goes when the pattern wins. And the woman who lives there. Meet Allegra. She’s done the therapy. She’s done the work. She knows her patterns. And she hasn’t had one serious relationship in over a decade. She’s not one of the five archetypes. She’s the shadow that lives inside all of them. And she has a name. The Victim. Not victim as an insult. Victim as a position. A place you stand in relation to your own life. This episode is for every woman who has ever asked — why does this keep happening to me? And is finally ready for the real answer. IN THIS EPISODE → What we appreciate appreciates, and why every archetype is looking at the wrong thing → Allegra’s story — and the three red flags that were never about him → The five archetypes in their shadow state — and the pop culture women living every one of them → The 100% responsibility concept — why I hated it and what I finally understood → The Queen vs the peasant — two ways to carry a hard story → Where everything starts to change REFERENCE → Read the article this week on Substack: The Pattern No One Wants to Admit They’re Living IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the Allegra in your life. Not as a call out — as a gift. The woman who is ready to see it will. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  7. May 28

    You Feel Everything for Everyone. When Do You Finally Get to Feel Something for Yourself?

    You Feel Everything for Everyone. When Do You Finally Get to Feel Something for Yourself? This week we’re talking about the Empath — the woman who feels everything for everyone. And somewhere along the way forgot to feel anything for herself. She’s deeply attuned. Compassionate. The most emotionally evolved woman in the room. And she is completely disconnected from her own experience inside a relationship. Because the Empath doesn’t just feel other people’s emotions. She absorbs them. Manages them. Takes responsibility for them. And when a man finally offers her space to feel her own — she mistakes it for emotional shallowness. And leaves. This episode is for the woman who has spent her whole life reading everyone but herself. IN THIS EPISODE → Kayla’s story — and the man she walked away from for being too steady → Why the Empath’s real pattern is controlling the emotional weather — not reading it → The cruel irony — the man she says she wants is the hardest one for her to be with → What space actually feels like when you’ve never had it in a relationship → The moment that shifts everything — and why it’s quieter than you expect REFERENCE → Read the article this week on Substack: Little Did She Know, He Wasn’t the One Running From His Emotions IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with the woman who feels everything for everyone. She’ll hear herself in every word.   RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

  8. May 22

    Creating a Test He Can't Win is What's Keeping You Single

    Creating a Test He Can't Win is What's Keeping You Single This week we’re talking about the Valkyrie — the woman who tests every man she meets. And wonders why they all fail. She’s not difficult. She’s not impossible. She’s a woman who respects strength and wants to be met — not rescued. So she tests for it. Deliberately. Consistently. Until she finds the edge of what a man can hold. And every time a man shows a very human response to being constantly evaluated — she writes him off. Too soft. Too submissive. Couldn’t handle her. Except — that’s not what’s happening. And this episode is about what is. IN THIS EPISODE → Vickie’s story — the date she was dreading before it even started → Why the Valkyrie’s tests were never designed to be passed permanently → The difference between discernment and a gauntlet → What a man’s annoyance at being tested is actually telling her → The question Vickie finally asked herself — and why it changes everything REFERENCE MENTIONED → Read the article this week on Substack: She Tests Every Man She Meets. And They All Fail. → Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray (book mentioned on how men and women keep score) IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with the woman who calls herself too much. She’ll hear herself in every word — and that recognition is exactly where things start to change. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously — so they can choose what comes next, on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson → Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL → Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVY Instagram: @coachivyallen Facebook: CoachIvy Substack: Better Dating After Divorce

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Are you ready to go from the devastation of divorce to the reclamation of your entire life? Well, Queen, you’ve arrived at the perfect place! Welcome to Better After Divorce, the podcast dedicated to empowering women on their journey to reign with confidence, passion, and power in royal fashion. This is where we embrace the up-level, the evolution, your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Whether you’re picking up the pieces or building an empire, this space is yours to rise, reign, and thrive. Time to claim your power and become the fierce unstoppable Queen you were born to be.

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  • Creator
    Coach Ivy
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Coach Ivy
  • Show Website
    Better After Divorce