Between The Sheets with Dr. Lurve

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How do I meet my soulmate? How do I move on from heartbreak? Does my dream relationship even exist? Are datings apps the only way I can meet people? Are all relationships this hard? This is Between The Sheets with Dr. Lurve.Each week your host dives into sex, love, dating, relationships and everything in between. Welcome to Between the Sheets with Dr Lurve.

  1. 1D AGO

    Episode #5: Intentional Dating In 2026

    Modern dating has started to feel like a second job, endless swiping, decoding mixed signals, managing situationships and trying to stay “chill” when you’re absolutely not.  In this episode we break down why 2026 is the year of intentional dating and why clarity, consistency and momentum are replacing confusion and dopamine driven chaos. With research showing that over half of Gen Z and Millennials are prioritising true love even above finances and career the dating landscape is shifting. Australians are increasingly dating with direction and commitment is making a comeback. This episode dives into what intentional dating actually looks like in practice, why ambiguity is emotionally expensive and how to stop repeating the same patterns with a different person. What You’ll Learn: Why modern dating feels emotionally drainingThe difference between attention vs. intentionWhy ghosting happens (and what it really says)How ambiguity impacts your nervous systemWhy commitment is trending again in AustraliaHow some dating apps are redesigning for intentional behaviourThe role AI is playing in modern dating The 4 Pillars of Intentional Dating The practical four pillar framework to help you date with clarity and confidence: 1. Clarity Know what you’re looking for and say it early. If you want a relationship, don’t invest in someone who “just wants to see what happens.” 2. Consistency Look for repeated behaviour not emotional spikes. Romance isn’t disappearing for five days after a great date, that’s emotional whiplash. 3. Boundaries Protect your nervous system. Boundaries aren’t about controlling others, they’re about leading yourself. 4. Momentum Connection should move forward in real life. If you’ve been texting for weeks without meeting, you’re not dating, you’re pen pals. The State of Dating in 2026 Over 50% of Gen Z and Millennials are prioritising true love this year59% of Australians say they are dating to marry91% of people report modern dating apps as challengingAmbiguity and ghosting are major contributors to dating burnoutThe shift? From hustle culture to love culture. Connection is becoming the new form of success. Intentional Dating & App Design Dr. Lurve explores how some platforms including Coffee Meets Bagel are designing features that support healthy dating behaviour, including: Curated daily matches to reduce swipe fatigueAnti-ghosting chat expiration featuresIntentional first move promptsDetailed, values based profilesTransparency tools that encourage accountabilityThe takeaway: No app is magic but design influences behaviour. AI & Dating More singles are using AI to craft messages and polish profiles. Used well, AI can reduce anxiety and support clarity but it can’t replace authentic connection. If AI becomes your personality, you’re not dating your algorithm is. Your Intentional Dating Checklist This Week: State your intention clearly in one sentence.Ask one value based question early on.Move toward a real life date within 7 - 10 days.Choose quality over quantity.Pick environments that match your intention.Intentional dating isn’t about being rigid. It’s about choosing clarity over confusion, connection over chasing and momentum over mind games. If you’re tired of dating potential and crying in voice notes to your friends this episode is your reset. Share this with someone who needs it. See you on the next episode of Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

    19 min

  2. FEB 2

    Episode #4: The CEO Trap

    In this episode of Between the Sheets we unpack The CEO Trap a common pattern where high-functioning, capable women find that the very competence that built their lives is quietly killing intimacy and desire in their relationships. If you've ever thought "I can run a business, but why is love so hard?" or "I feel needed, not desired," this episode is for you where we explore how over functioning, control, and emotional self-sufficiency can block chemistry and what it really takes to move from manager to partner in love. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - What the CEO Trap is and how competence can turn into control - Why attraction needs polarity and space, not management - How over-functioning leads to boredom, resentment and disconnection - The link between childhood survival strategies and adult intimacy - Why chemistry dies when responsibility dominates desire - How dating potential keeps your armour firmly in place - Why passive partners are often drawn to highly competent people - The emotional cost of being relied on instead of chosen Key Takeaways: - Competence as a survival strategy: For many women, being capable meant safety, love, and control but that armour blocks closeness in adult relationships. - Over-functioning vs. intimacy: When you manage everything, there's no room for your partner to meet you. - Sex & desire: Responsibility is not sexy. When intimacy becomes transactional, desire drops. - Resentment cycle: The more you do, the more you resent and the less your partner steps up. - Dating reality, not potential: Chemistry doesn't grow from construction projects. Practical Shifts Dr. Lurve Recommends: - Practice receiving (without correcting, deflecting, or managing) - Ask directly for what you need instead of silently coping - Let your partner lead in one domain and don't micromanage it - Learn repair language instead of control language - Choose consistency and current behaviour over future promises You don't need to be less powerful to have love you just need less armour. You're allowed to rest, to be met and to be chosen not relied upon. Love requires risk, space, and trust, not constant management. Work With Dr. Lurve Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can: - Join a retreat in Bali - Attend a workshop in Australia - Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs - Apply for 1:1 coaching - Connect with the team for support Connect + Share If this episode hit home, share it with the friend  Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most. Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime. See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

    17 min

  3. 12/08/2025

    Episode #3: Why Women Accept the Bare Minimum for Too Long

    If you’ve ever celebrated a “Good morning” text like it was a grand romantic gesture, mistook crumbs for commitment or convinced yourself that your anxiety was chemistry, this conversation is going to hit home in the best possible way. This episode is your wakeup call, your nervous system hug and your permission slip to never entertain bare minimum behavior again. In This Episode, We Cover: - Why Women Are Conditioned to Accept Less Than They Deserve - Emotional, Social & Generational Training that Creates Overfunctioning - How Childhood Attachment Shapes Attraction to Inconsistent Men - The Nervous System: Why “Bare Minimum” Can Feel Like Love - Potential vs. Reality: The Trap of Investing in Who He Could Be - The 10 Signs You’re Dating a Bare Minimum Man - The Feminine Shift: From Hyperindependence to Softness & Standards - How to Raise Your Standards Without Feeling Guilty - Reprogramming Overgiving & Overfunctioning - Letting the Wrong Man Eliminate Himself - What Happens When You Finally Meet a Man Who Shows Up Key Takeaways: - Women don’t accept bare minimum because they’re “stupid”, conditioning chooses for them - Your nervous system may mistake inconsistency for love because that’s what felt familiar - Healing makes you allergic to bare minimum behavior - You are not asking for too much, you were asking the wrong person - Standards aren’t demands; they’re boundaries - You don’t need to explain your standards. You embody them - Raising your standards may feel scary at first, that’s your nervous system rewiring - A man aligned with you will rise; a bare minimum man will exit. Both are blessings. - When you meet real emotional safety, you’ll never settle for crumbs again Work With Dr. Lurve Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can: - Join a retreat in Bali - Attend a workshop in Australia - Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs - Apply for 1:1 coaching - Connect with the team for support Connect + Share If this episode hit home, share it with the friend  Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most. Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime. See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

    26 min

  4. 12/01/2025

    Episode #2: Why We're Addicted To The Wrong People

    Welcome back to a brand new season of Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve. In this week’s episode, we dive deep into a relationship pattern so many people confuse for “chemistry,” when what we’re actually feeling is the body’s addiction to chaos. This episode is your guided tour through emotional intensity: why it feels like love and how to break the trauma loops that keep you chasing relationships that burn hot, crash hard and leave you feeling empty. In This Episode, We Cover: - The Myth of “Chemistry” - The Science Behind the Addiction - Childhood Roots of Chaos Based Attraction - The Trauma Loop Explained - How to Break the Pattern - Why Healthy Love Feels “Boring” at First Key Takeaways - You’re not “crazy” for craving intensity, you’re wired for it. - Addiction in relationships is a nervous system response, not a character flaw. - Calm love isn’t boring; it’s stable and your body can learn to desire it. - Healing begins the moment you see your patterns clearly and choose differently. - You can break the cycle and rewire your emotional chemistry. Work With Dr. Lurve Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can: - Join a retreat in Bali - Attend a workshop in Australia - Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs - Apply for 1:1 coaching - Connect with the team for support Connect + Share If this episode hit home, share it with the friend who’s stuck in her “but he might change” era. Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most. Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime. See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

    28 min

  5. 06/02/2023

    Episode: Embracing Sexual Wellness with Rebecca Grech from Sexyland

    Rebecca Grech from Sexyland joins me to chat about the importance of sexual wellness and education for all - regardless of age, preference or nationality. In this episode we cover: - How Sexyland has created a safe and judgement free space for customers to embark on their sexual wellness journey - The importance of education to help remove stigma and shame - Creating a safe space for people to explore their sexuality without judgement - Their new Get Real campaign and how it aims to promote authenticity and open conversations  -  Offering a diverse and affordable range of products, ensuring everyone feels catered for  Plus so much more. From sensory exploration to engaging games, Sexyland has something for everyone. Don't miss this opportunity to dive into a world of pleasure and empowerment. Connect with me: www.drlurve.com Follow me on Instagram: @dr.lurve Use to my code DRLURVE10 for 10% off at  www.sexylandaustralia.com Thank you to our sponsors: www.sexyland.com.au www.sanare.com.au www.cassandramamone.com

    38 min

  6. 11/14/2022

    Chris Nicholls on Being on Reality TV, Mental Health and His New Career

    Chris Nicholls joins me to chat about being on reality tv, mental health and his new career. In this episode: - His experience on reality tv - What he's learnt from being on MAFS - Why he applied to be on Married At First Sight - What really happened behind the scenes - The truth about what went on after the show finished - His new career in coaching - Struggling with mental health in the past - How four of his previous relationships ended - The work he's done to get to where he is now Plus much much more. Connect with me: www.drlurve.com Follow me on Instagram: @dr.lurve Follow Chris  on Instagram: @chris_nicko_ Thank you to our sponsors: www.sexyland.com.au www.sanare.com.au www.cassandramamone.com

    45 min

  7. 11/06/2022

    Season 3 - Episode #7: Alanna Smith on Life, Love and How She Became A Brow Artist

    Alanna Smith joins me to chat about her life, love and how she became a brow artist. In this episode: - The way she starts her day - Why she thrives in routine - Finding what works for her - Why running is so crucial for her wellbeing - Her eye for fashion and individual style - How her mood impacts what she wears - Her last relationship and why they broke up after 6 years Plus so much more. Connect with me: www.drlurve.com Follow me on Instagram: @dr.lurve Follow Alanna  on Instagram: @browsbyakae Thank you to our sponsors: www.sexyland.com.au www.sanare.com.au www.cassandramamone.com

    54 min

  8. 10/31/2022

    Season 3 - Episode #6: Madeleine Tirimacco on Marriage, Motherhood and Becoming A Makeup Artist

    Madeleine Tirimacco joins me to chat about marriage, motherhood and how she became a makeup artist.  In this episode: - Why her husband's passion for his work sparked her to pursue something that she loved as well - How she accidentally fell into her makeup career - Why her perfectionism is a double edge sword - Only doing things when she's absolutely ready, at her own pace and in her own time - What she thought she was going to be before becoming a makeup artist - The changes she's made since having kids - The things her kids have taught her  - How her and her husband balance working together Plus so much more. Connect with me: www.drlurve.com Follow me on Instagram: @dr.lurve Follow Madeleine  on Instagram: @madeleinetirimacco Thank you to our sponsors: www.sexyland.com.au www.sanare.com.au www.cassandramamone.com

    38 min
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How do I meet my soulmate? How do I move on from heartbreak? Does my dream relationship even exist? Are datings apps the only way I can meet people? Are all relationships this hard? This is Between The Sheets with Dr. Lurve.Each week your host dives into sex, love, dating, relationships and everything in between. Welcome to Between the Sheets with Dr Lurve.

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