Ok so, let's talk about attachment... This episode picks up the moment everything should have ended. After a night of interrogation, degradation, and fear, the relationship was over. But it didn’t end. Over the next 37 days, more than 12,000 messages were sent. Calls. Pleas. Apologies. Declarations of love. Threats. Confusion. Chaos. And slowly, almost imperceptibly… the door reopened. In this episode, Jesse walks through the month after leaving, where distance should have brought clarity, but instead became a battleground of emotion, pressure, and psychological pull. We unpack what it actually feels like to leave an abusive relationship, and why it’s rarely a clean break. Why logic doesn’t hold. Why empathy overrides instinct. And why sometimes you find yourself going back to the very thing that broke you. Because when the harm isn’t physical, it’s harder to name. Harder to prove. And oftentimes much, much harder to leave. If you are impacted by any of the themes discussed in this episode, help is available: Lifeline Australia 13 11 14 – 24/7 crisis support & suicide prevention. 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 – Free, 24/7 counselling for people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence. Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 – Free professional 24/7 telephone, online and video counselling for people at risk of suicide, or those bereaved or concerned. Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 – Support for anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention. If someone’s life is in immediate danger or you believe there is imminent risk call 000. Beyond Curious shares lived experiences of coercive control, emotional abuse, and professional misconduct. All events discussed are drawn from documented evidence, contemporaneous messages, or firsthand accounts. Identifying details have been changed or withheld to protect privacy and safety. All references to documents, images, or communications are based on material that was voluntarily shared with the host at the time of the events. Any opinions expressed are clearly identified as personal reflections, and care has been taken to avoid publishing private medical or identifying information. The aim of this podcast is to raise awareness, promote understanding, and support recovery, not to defame or harm. Every statement has been made in good faith and supported by credible material.
