Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez

Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy. From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place. Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy. 🛏️ New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday. 🎥 Now with video! Watch on YouTube or visit www.beyond-monogamy.com

  1. 2D AGO

    HSV in the Lifestyle: Breaking the Herpes Stigma with Courtney Brame

    Today we are going there. Full send. Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis. This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you. In This Episode: Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there. The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community. Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there. And as always, everything from Beyond Monogamy — every episode, video clip, blog post, events tab, and our 100% anonymous confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, you already know what to do. Like it. Share it. Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Word of mouth is how we grow this community.

    54 min
  2. 6D AGO

    Newbie Confessional: How to Survive Your First Lifestyle Event as a Couple

    We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic? In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel takeover as their very first lifestyle event. She's got concerns. He's got excitement. And together? They've already got more going for them than they know. We're covering the real talk around what it's like to jump into the deep end, why consent culture in the lifestyle actually makes it safer than you think, how to start receiving compliments without flinching, and the one thing every couple should do before they even walk through the door. In This Episode: Why this guy's approach to bringing up the lifestyle deserves a standing ovation What it actually feels like at a hotel takeover as a new couple — Adam's truth vs. Pris's truth Meet-and-greet events: why starting here changes everything The pressure to "perform" at big events — and why it's all in your head (mostly) How to learn to take a compliment without wanting to run Pre-event conversations every couple should have before the night begins Why the lifestyle is woman-centric and how husbands can stop pouting about it Pris's tunnel vision trick for feeling confident in any room Safe words, scenarios, and baby steps that actually work Whether you're two weeks from your first event or two years in and still figuring it out — this one's for you. Everything we've got lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com — every episode, every video clip, our blog, events tab, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Got a story to get off your chest? Drop it there. We read every single one. If this episode hit home, share it with a couple who needs it. You might literally change the direction of their relationship. Love the show? Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it takes 30 seconds and genuinely helps more people find us. Hang out with us live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com — two shows, 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Live Event Alert: June 20th — Club Eden, San Antonio, 9:00 PM. Come meet us. All details on our events tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

    31 min
  3. APR 19

    Live from the Hotel Takeover: Etiquette, Chaos & Keeping Your Relationship First

    This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into. And then our audience showed up. What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed. Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content. We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming. In this episode: What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?") Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned) Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show. New full episodes every Sunday. QUICKIEs every Wednesday. We're live on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central. Everything we do — every episode, every clip, every blog, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode made you laugh, cringe, or immediately start Googling hotel takeovers near you — do us a solid and leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. It takes two minutes and it genuinely means the world to us.

    47 min
  4. APR 15

    Hotel Takeovers 101: Your Real Talk Survival Guide to the Lifestyle's Most Intoxicating Weekend

    This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working, recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday, and trust us, you're going to want to hear it. But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hotel takeovers are and how to navigate them. You get energy, chaos, laughter, and moments that make for great radio — but the actual nuts-and-bolts guide? That's what this QUICKIE is for. Consider this your homework before Sunday. The real talk primer. The survival guide nobody hands you at the door. In this episode of the Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down everything you need to know about lifestyle hotel takeovers — fresh off of attending one themselves just this past weekend. From what they actually are, to what you should pack, to how to handle jealousy when your husband is making out with someone across the pool while you're just standing there. (Asking for a friend. The friend is Pris.) What We Cover in This Episode: What a hotel takeover actually is — and no, it's not as intimidating as it sounds. Think of it as the world's best adult sleepover. Who goes — couples, single women, and the very specific situation with single men (we keep it real on this one). What to bring — protection, lube, toys, a cooler full of snacks, your waterproof blankets, and maybe a hoodie because someone's wife is always cold. The money talk — expect $500–$800 for a full weekend, and plan for zero food on premises. DoorDash is your co-pilot. Consent, discretion, and closed doors — just because it's a takeover doesn't mean everyone is available to you. Rules still apply. Communication before, during, and after — including the debate over whether or not you need a code word (and why "figgy tree" is apparently not the answer). How to handle jealousy in the moment — spoiler: Pris has opinions, a snarky comment ready, and absolutely zero shame about it. The debrief — one of the most underrated relationship tools in the lifestyle, and why that car ride home matters more than you think. How to find hotel takeovers — SDC, local Facebook groups, Telegram, Discord, and yes, even TikTok. Listen to this one today, then tune in this Sunday for the live show recorded right there at the takeover. Two episodes. One unforgettable weekend. You're going to want both. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🌐 Everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com 📅 Events tab, merch, and our anonymous confessional are all there 🎙️ Live show recordings every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com 📍 Live Event: Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th at 9PM 🔗 Find your community on SDC — link at the bottom of beyond-monogamy.com Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and screenshot it. Send it to us at adamnpris@beyond-monogamy.com or through our website — you just might get a little something from us. 🎁 Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is an independent podcast. Every share, subscribe, and review keeps this conversation going. Thank you for being part of it.

    32 min
  5. APR 12

    Your Dick Has Data: Dr. Elliot Justin on Sex Tech, Nocturnal Erections & Why Most Men Don't Actually Have ED

    What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint. Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing. We're talking about a wearable c**k ring — yes, you read that right — that tracks nocturnal erections, measures firmness during sex, and generates health data that could literally save your life. And that's just the beginning. In This Episode, We Cover: How Dr. Justin went from having an electrode implanted near his own pubic nerve (yes, on himself) to building the world's largest erection database Why nocturnal erections are one of the most powerful leading indicators of cardiovascular health — and why your doctor has never told you that The shocking truth about erectile dysfunction: most men who think they have ED... don't. They just lose it. There's a difference, and it matters enormously How a c**k ring works better than Viagra for most men — and why putting more blood in isn't the same as keeping blood in The Firm Tech ring: what it does, how it works, why Dr. Justin's wife inspired its design (yes, really — bra hooks and a stress ball), and why it's been used over a million times during sex The Ring Mate — a vibrator attachment designed for women during penetrative sex, invented by Dr. Justin's wife Female sexual dysfunction: 54% of women over 50 report sexual health issues, and why clitoral engorgement data could be a game-changer Why SSRIs are "dick and c**t killers" — and why Dr. Justin is openly hostile to that class of medication Why every single supplement they've tested (12 of them) has failed to improve erectile function in controlled data Performance anxiety, the death grip debate, porn addiction myths, and why men in the lifestyle need to open their minds about c**k rings Pris reveals she's in early menopause, they talk testosterone for women, and Dr. Justin has thoughts About Dr. Elliot Justin Dr. Elliot Justin is a physician, researcher, and the founder and CEO of Firm Tech, a sexual health technology company. He has published multiple peer-reviewed papers on erectile health, nocturnal erections, and sexual wellness wearables. His device has tracked over 220,000 erections on nearly 4,000 men — making it the largest erectile health database in the world. He lives in Montana, rides horses with questionable skill (by his own admission), and is genuinely one of a kind. Find Dr. Justin and the Firm Tech ring at myfirmtech.com or email him directly at elliott@myfirmtech.com. Exclusive Listener Discount — Firm Tech Disclosure: Beyond Monogamy is an affiliate partner of Firm Tech. If you purchase through our code, we earn a commission at no extra cost to you — and we only partner with products we actually believe in. Use code BEYOMONO at checkout for 15% off any Firm Tech order at myfirmtech.com. Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Every episode, video clip, guest bio, blog post, merch, events calendar, and our anonymous confessional (submit your secrets — no one will ever know it's you) all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. We stream live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Come hang out with us. If this episode hit different, do us a solid: subscribe, leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share this with someone who needs to hear it. It seriously helps more people find us, and more people finding us means more conversations exactly like this one.

    58 min
  6. APR 8

    The Emotional Labor of the Lifestyle: Who's Really Doing the Work?

    Everyone loves talking about the fun parts of the lifestyle — the dates, the connections, the experiences. But what about everything that has to happen BEFORE any of that? The messaging. The vetting. The scheduling. The follow-up. All of it takes time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. And in most couples? It doesn't fall equally. On today's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about how they divide the emotional labor of connecting with other couples — who does the messaging, who handles vetting (and why Pris's gut is basically a superpower), what it looks like to stay in the loop without losing your mind, and why making it intentional beats letting resentment sneak in through the back door. In this episode: Why Adam carries most of the online conversation weight Pris's vetting process — and the story behind her eerily accurate intuition Online chemistry vs. in-person chemistry and how they experience it differently The DADT tendency that sneaks into their setup (and how they're working on it) What "staying in the loop" actually looks like in practice Why you need to talk about this stuff before resentment makes the decision for you Whether you divide things the same way or totally differently, the point is: make it intentional. Don't just let it default. Find everything — episodes, blogs, merch, events, and the anonymous confessional — at www.beyond-monogamy.com Catch us live every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com Love the show? Please leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it genuinely helps more people find us. We're not above begging.

    24 min
  7. APR 5

    Susan Bratton on Expanded Orgasms, Sexual Biohacking, and the STI Testing Protocol Every Lifestyle Couple Needs

    About This Episode Y'all, this one is different. Adam and Pris sit down with the one and only Susan Bratton — intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, founder of Personal Life Media, sexual biohacker, and Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDX Health. She's been in the lifestyle for over two decades, she's married to her husband Tim of 34 years, she has a boyfriend of five years, and she can tell you from personal experience exactly what expanded orgasm feels like. She's not talking about case studies. She's living it. This conversation goes deep — from how Susan went from a woman who avoided sex with her husband to becoming the person millions of people turn to for real, actionable, heart-connected intimacy advice. She drops her non-negotiable 90-day STI testing protocol, breaks down what "fluid bonded" and "screened in" actually mean, explains the science of extended orgasms, and makes a strong case for why your sex life should only get better with age. In This Episode How Susan went from sexually avoidant to becoming the world's go-to hot sex teacher Why she and Tim dropped the labels and started calling their relationship simply "open" The 90-day STI screening protocol that's been a non-negotiable in her poly life for 20 years What "fluid bonded" and "screened in" mean and why every lifestyle couple should have a protocol Expanded orgasm — the clitoral stroking practice that can extend your partner's climax into something wild Sexual biohacking: nitric oxide, hormone therapy, acoustic wave, red light, stem cells, and the concept of extending your "sex span" Veto power in poly — is it toxic or just solid relationship management? NRE (New Relationship Energy) and why your partner might be seeing red flags you're completely blind to Susan's new book "The Alchemy of Intimacy" and where to get her free resources Resources Susan Mentioned Free expanded orgasm resources: expandherorgasmtonight.com STI testing Susan recommends: prodxhealth.com Susan's new book: 10intimacy.com Susan Bratton's main site: susanbratton.com Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Episodes, blogs, events, merch, guest bios, and our anonymous confessional all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you haven't left us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts yet — now is the time. It takes 30 seconds and it genuinely means the world to us.

    55 min
  8. APR 1

    Is a Couple's Play Partner Off Limits? The Etiquette Nobody Talks About — Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE

    Someone slid into our inbox with a real one — they met a couple and their play partner, vibed with all three, and then realized they were really feeling the third. So what do you do? Is that person automatically off limits? Do you risk the friendship? Do you say nothing and just wonder forever? Adam and Pris break it all down in this week's QUICKIE — starting with the one thing that fixes almost every awkward lifestyle situation: just saying the thing out loud. In This Episode: Nobody owns anyone — but you still don't know their agreements How to find out someone's dynamic without making it weird The "swooping couple" phenomenon — and why it's a red flag Who in the couple should start the conversation (hint: it's whoever's bubblier) Word vomit as a legitimate lifestyle strategy Pris opens up about menopause, her estrogen patch, and why she's been glowing lately Poly-era triggers, emotional cheating TikToks, and how one honest conversation changed everything 15 years in and they're still learning to communicate — and that's the whole point If you've ever found yourself in a situation like this — or you just want more real, judgment-free conversations about the lifestyle — head over to www.beyond-monogamy.com. That's your one-stop shop for episodes, blogs, events, merch, and the anonymous confessional. Got a question or a situation you want us to tackle? Drop it in the anonymous confessional. We read them. We use them. Zero judgment. We are live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com — two shows, 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Come hang out and get in the chat. If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it genuinely helps more people find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a QUICKIE or a full episode dropping every Sunday.

    31 min
4.6
out of 5
26 Ratings

About

Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy. From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place. Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy. 🛏️ New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday. 🎥 Now with video! Watch on YouTube or visit www.beyond-monogamy.com

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