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Grief can be lonely and isolating, especially for those experiencing pregnancy and infant loss. At times, it may even feel as if the sorrow might consume you. Join your host, Michelle Smith, Certified Grief Counseling Specialist, and Birth and Bereavement Doula/Chaplain, as she holds a much-needed space for grief, remembrance, and your unique journey of healing through conversations with grief experts, the sharing of stories of loss and love, and guided meditations. Welcome to a place where your baby and you can feel seen, heard, and held.

  1. S2 E12 Guided Relaxation for Holiday Stress

    12/09/2022

    S2 E12 Guided Relaxation for Holiday Stress

    This time of year can bring a sense of magic and joy and at the same time, the holidays can also bring feelings of overwhelm and stress. Michelle shares this special holiday guided meditation which is designed to help release the stress and strain you may be feeling and gain a sense of clarity regarding what you value in your life as you prepare to enter the New Year. As a gentle reminder: this guided relaxation recording audio is for just that, relaxation purposes only. It does not constitute medical or mental health advice or treatment, nor does it imply a specific outcome during pregnancy, birth, postpartum, or beyond. Please avoid listening to this guided relaxation while engaging in an activity that requires your full attention. Please stop the podcast and return to it when you can be safely seated or reclining in a supported position. Unless you are the passenger listening to this guided relaxation with headphones on, for everyone’s safety never listen to it while driving or riding in a vehicle. Connect with Michelle: www.BirthEaseServices.com /loss-support Facebook and Instagram: @birtheaselossssupport Thank you for listening! Remember, you are not alone in your grief.

    35 min
  2. S2 E11 Different Types of Grief

    11/25/2022

    S2 E11 Different Types of Grief

    Pregnancy and infant loss can often be the first experience of grief that parents face. Because we live in grief illiterate culture, we often lack the experience and knowledge of what is normal and expected as someone grieves and mourns. Education helps to provide a roadmap through the rocky terrain of grief. Michelle shares the different types of grief bereaved parents can experience such as disenfranchised, traumatic, ambiguous, cumulative, and delayed grief. Resource: www.grief.com Connect with Michelle at www. BirthEaseServices.com /loss-support.com and on Facebook and Instagram @birtheaselosssupport Thank you for listening! Remember, you are not alone in your grief.

    13 min
  3. S2 E10 Understanding the Six Stages of Grief

    10/28/2022

    S2 E10 Understanding the Six Stages of Grief

    As a Certified Grief Educator with David Kessler and Grief.com, Michelle explains the Five Stages of Grief™️- denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance as well as the sixth stage- meaning through the lens of pregnancy and infant loss. She shares that unfortunately over the years the 5 Stages of Grief™️ have been misinterpreted by many, including mental health professionals. These six stages reflect where we are in our journey of grief at any given moment. They are about change we do not want. The stages are unconscious and natural responses to loss. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross explicitly stated that the stages “are not stops on some linear timeline in grief." Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order. Everyone's grief is unique. These stages can provide a roadmap for grief's rocky terrain and helps us to be better equipped to cope with life and loss. Michelle invites you to also listen to Season 1 Episode 3 for an overview of the Four Phases of Bereavement for Baby Loss. Resource: https://grief.com/ Connect with Michelle: website: https://www.birtheaseservices.com/loss-support, Facebook and Instagram @birtheaselosssupport, Holding Space for Pregnancy Loss Training: https://www.birtheaseservices.com/training-for-professionals

    26 min
  4. S2 E9 Good Grief Parenting with Michele Benyo

    09/30/2022

    S2 E9 Good Grief Parenting with Michele Benyo

    Michele Benyo, founder of Good Grief Parenting shares with Michelle the 4 keys for parents with young children navigating perinatal loss. These 4 keys are self-care, accurate words describing death, inviting conversation, and honoring child-sized grief. She also explains why we need to avoid telling children euphemisms such as “He went to sleep.” or vague words such as ‘gone’ or ‘passed’ when explaining that someone has died. Dead and died have a very specific meaning and those are the only words that accurately tell children what happened. Young children won't understand death, but they still have the accurate word and they are going to grow into that understanding. She also explains why it is important to tell children in an age-appropriate way about the death in an honest and accurate way without too many details. Parents can follow the child's lead if they ask to know more. Michele also shares that children can internalize 4 messages when they lose a sibling: I don't understand, I hurt inside,  I don't belong, and I am not enough. She provides tips to help parents grief with their child in healthy ways. "I just think that when we are a bereaved parent and we have other young children to raise, we are being asked to do two of the hardest things we'll ever have to do in our lives at the same time. And that is to grief a loved one which is such hard work and parent a young child in those formative early childhood years."—Michele Benyo Connect with Michele Benyo at https://goodgriefparenting.com/ and on Facebook and Instagram at Good Grief Parenting. Connect with Michelle Smith at https://www.birtheaseservices.com/loss-support and on Facebook and Instagram at Birth Ease Loss Support

    57 min
  5. S2 E8 Renew- Compassionate Breathing for Healing after Abortion

    08/26/2022

    S2 E8 Renew- Compassionate Breathing for Healing after Abortion

    Anna Humphreys, co-director of Calm Birth, and Michelle explain the last practice in this series of 3 meditations for healing during or after an abortion. This meditation, Renew, is based on the practice of Giving and Receiving, a practice from ancient wisdom. It is tong len, compassionate breathing, applied to the ending of a pregnancy. It’s a practice of breathing healing for self and others. Please note, when practicing compassionate breathing, we are breathing in the awareness of challenges or suffering (our own or others) without taking in the suffering and exhaling an intention for peace, healing, or compassion, etc. towards ourselves or others. “I believe that there is a subtle, but profound, effect when we do direct our attention and our intention toward healing ourselves and others.” -Anna Humphreys For those of us at Calm Birth meditation that have been working on this Calm Abortion project, it is our hope that these meditations help to invite healing for whoever chooses to listen, no matter how long ago they experienced an abortion for any reason or circumstance. Learn more: Instagram and Facebook @calmabortion Resources: ACOG (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) Statement on Abortion Bans, World Health Organization's statement on abortion, Evidence Based Birth: Abortion Research Resource Guide, and Grief After Abortion: healing from unspoken loss

    31 min
  6. S2 E7 Restore- Progressive Relaxation for Healing after Abortion

    08/19/2022

    S2 E7 Restore- Progressive Relaxation for Healing after Abortion

    Anna Humphreys, the co-director of Calm Birth, shares why this project of healing meditations for abortion is essential. Restore, the second meditation in the series is based on the practice of opening, a healing progressive relaxation meditation. The method is based on Progressive Relaxation techniques developed by Edmund Jacobson, M.D., at the Harvard Medical School and the University of Chicago Medical School in the 1920s and 1930s. A wide range of medical problems were successfully treated by healing corresponding problems in the nervous system. The method was then further developed in the University of Massachusetts Medical Center's medicine/meditation program beginning in 1979. The body responds to stress with muscle tension, which can cause pain or discomfort. In turn, tense muscles relay to the body that it's stressed. That keeps the cycle of stress and muscle tension going. Progressive muscle relaxation helps break this cycle by reducing muscle tension and general mental anxiety. This practice is useful for sleep and rest. "I’ve seen abortions be incredibly difficult decisions for people whether it’s something they know they want or their life circumstances didn’t allow for a child at the time. Either way, it is a challenging physical experience to release a pregnancy and the healing is rarely honored. That’s why I am so glad that we had this practice of progressive relaxation to draw from that I’m intimately familiar with from the Calm Birth program but that applies so well to recovering from an abortion especially at a time when the female body is being increasingly commodified and criminalized. ...Abortion meditations won't fix the systemic problems that allow these laws to pass, but I think it's an important drop in the bucket. I also love that they're gender-inclusive, because we know abortion is non-binary. These meditations are for everyone, and I hope they reach anyone who could use some extra support."—Anna Humphreys For those of us at Calm Birth meditation that have been working on this Calm Abortion project, it is our hope that these meditations help to invite healing for whoever chooses to listen, no matter how long ago they experienced an abortion for any reason or circumstance. Learn more: Instagram and Facebook @calmabortion Resources: ACOG (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) Statement on Abortion Bans, World Health Organization's statement on abortion, Evidence Based Birth: Abortion Research Resource Guide, and Grief After Abortion: healing from unspoken loss

    33 min
  7. S2 E6 Connect- a Healing Meditation for Abortion

    08/12/2022

    S2 E6 Connect- a Healing Meditation for Abortion

    Michelle shares the first of 3 meditations intended for healing during or after an abortion. This first meditation, Connect, is based on the Tibetan Buddhist practice of Vase Breathing or Complete Breathing. It's an invitation to tune into the body, recognize the tendencies of the mind, and release unwanted or intrusive thoughts. It teaches the listener to return to their breath when their thoughts are not serving them. The benefits of this meditation extend beyond healing after an abortion. This type of breathing helps with anxiety, depression, managing stress, improving focus, better sleep, and faster recovery from exercise or exertion. Slow breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, also called the “rest and digest” system. It activates the vagus nerve which oversees things like mood, digestion, and heart rate. It will also send more oxygen to the brain and other organs. This practice is meant to be used throughout life. For those of us at Calm Birth meditation that have been working on this Calm Abortion project, it is our hope that these meditations help to invite healing for whoever chooses to listen, no matter how long ago they experienced an abortion for any reason or circumstance. "Abortion is the medical term for the ending of a pregnancy, whether that is a spontaneous miscarriage or medically induced. This term encompasses the termination of all pregnancies. I realize and want to acknowledge that even the term abortion can be quite triggering, especially for someone that has experienced pregnancy and infant loss. And, in my experience of working in the perinatal field for over 20 years and holding a space for grief and trauma with my clients, the ending of a pregnancy has never been taken lightly. I carry their stories with me. Stories of relief, ectopic pregnancy, forced abortion, intense grief and pain when their baby in the womb will not live once they are born and/or will be living in extreme pain for their short life, twin to twin transfer, a mixture of sadness and relief when ending a pregnancy they were unprepared or happened at a difficult time in their life, guilt and shame, feelings of not deserving the baby they are now pregnant with, the belief that they had a miscarriage because they terminated a pregnancy, the decision to end a wanted pregnancy because their partner is abusive and she needs to leave the relationship before she and her other child are killed. Abortion is a part of perinatal loss and bereavement. And as Sunni has shared in our episodes, adoption is not an easy answer or quick fix. There are so many vulnerable and intimate stories that I have been entrusted with and honor fully. "—Michelle Learn more about the Calm Abortion meditations at Instagram @calmabortion and Facebook @calmabortion Resources: ACOG (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) Statement on Abortion Bans, World Health Organization's statement on abortion, Evidence Based Birth: Abortion Research Resource Guide, and Grief After Abortion: healing from unspoken loss

    25 min
  8. S2 E5 I Love You Still: A Memorial Baby Book with Margaret Scofield and Ann Pearson

    07/22/2022

    S2 E5 I Love You Still: A Memorial Baby Book with Margaret Scofield and Ann Pearson

    Ann Pearson and author Margaret Scofield share with Michelle the journey behind the much-needed book I Love You Still: A Memorial Baby Book, which was inspired by the loss of Ann's daughter, Riley, due to miscarriage. I Love You Still is a first-of-its-kind baby memory book made for moms experiencing a miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn loss- no matter how long ago that loss took place. It is a treasured keepsake to create a tangible way to document and honor the baby's life, no matter how brief. Margaret explains the obstacles that were holding her book—and other books on perinatal bereavement—back from mainstream publication. Shockingly, there is not a literary categorization code (both medical and popular) on the topic of perinatal loss.  These codes are the system through which all print and digital materials are categorized. The BISAC codes list is the preeminent literary categorization tool that is used to organize everything from online search results to bookstore layouts. Please help add a BISAC code for Perinatal Bereavement: The link to the BISG's full Subject Headings list (with a link to the Contact Form) can be found here: https://bisg.org/page/BISACEdition The direct link to the Contact Form can be found here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/K9CH9MD Connect with Margaret on Instagram @iloveyoustillbook or by email margaret@iloveyoustillbook.com

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Grief can be lonely and isolating, especially for those experiencing pregnancy and infant loss. At times, it may even feel as if the sorrow might consume you. Join your host, Michelle Smith, Certified Grief Counseling Specialist, and Birth and Bereavement Doula/Chaplain, as she holds a much-needed space for grief, remembrance, and your unique journey of healing through conversations with grief experts, the sharing of stories of loss and love, and guided meditations. Welcome to a place where your baby and you can feel seen, heard, and held.

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    Birth Ease Michelle Smith
  • Episodes
    45
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