Boldly Becoming You Podcast

Brandon & Tasha | Burnout Coaches for High-Achieving Entrepreneurs

The Boldly Becoming You Podcast is your bi-weekly invitation to become who you were born to be. Underneath the layers of rules and expectations you have adopted over your lifetime, in an effort to connect and be accepted, you've lost much of who you were when you entered this world. Twice a week I will call on you to answer that whisper from your inner wisdom that you have been shushing for years and begin the redesign of your life. On Mondays I'll share truths about the human experience and highlight opportunities to deepen your connection to yourself so you can show up in all areas of your life in full alignment and with a meaningful impact. In these brief episodes, you will be reminded of your responsibility to yourself to become the person you have always wanted to be. On Thursdays, I'll introduce you to people who have lived both lives - the one where they agreed to what others expected of them, following the same arbitrary rules we all agreed to AND then had the courage to finally listen to their gut telling them there was something more. We will learn how to navigate the sometimes messy experience of listening to our truest selves from their collective journeys and then redesign daily life to pursue our respective purposes. In reality, there are no Universal rules about what is right and wrong or good and bad in parenting, partnership, friendship, etc. It's about what is aligned with your purpose...and what is not. Boldly Becoming You will help you challenge the rules you may not even know you are following so you can get on with living an authentic life that fills you up and allows you to have meaningful connections while practicing your purpose.

  1. APR 22

    Ep 238 ADHD & Goal Setting: Why the Rules Were Never Built for Your Brain

    If you've tried every productivity system out there and still feel like you're failing at your own goals, this episode is for you. Tasha sits down with ADHD coach, Bianca Faricy, to get real about why neurotypical goal-setting frameworks don't work for ADHD brains, what burnout recovery actually looks like when you're neurodivergent, and how emotion-first goal setting changes everything. From This Episode: Bianca got her ADHD diagnosis at 47, burned out of a 25-year teaching career, and rebuilt her life from scratch. Here's what she and Tasha unpack: Why ADHD goal-setting is a completely different game than what you've been taught How a lifetime of masking disconnects you from knowing what you actually want The problem with discipline and willpower-based goals for high-achieving entrepreneurs What emotion-first goal setting looks like in practice Why "self-sabotage" isn't real - and what's actually happening when you hit a wall How nervous system regulation is the missing piece in your goal-achievement strategy Why ADHDers are ambitious as hell and just need the right tools The shame of feeling behind, and how to stop letting it run the show How boundaries for business owners are built on nervous system capacity, not willpower Links & Resources Connect with Bianca: http://www.biancafaricycoach.com   Follow Bianca on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancafaricyadhd/   Boldly Becoming You Workshop: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/boldlybecomingyou  Book a clarity call: https://calendly.com/tashaskillin/clarity-call-30 Follow us on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion

    57 min
  2. APR 20

    Ep 237: Draft Mode, Dead Weight CLCs, and Why Your Goals Are Already Happening

    We're BACK. It's been about nine months since our last episode and Tasha is on day 21 of her cycle so… buckle up. In this episode, Tasha and Brandon get real about what it actually looks like to re-enter something you love after a long pause, why getting crystal clear on who you're talking to changed everything for their business, and how the life you've been dreaming about is probably closer than you think → you're just not clocking it. In this episode: Why they stopped recording (and what finally got them back) hint: Instagram Lives were the baby step into podcasting again The truth about showing up in your luteal phase energy (and why it's actually a superpower, not a liability) How getting obsessively clear on their ideal client set them free from trying to help everyone - aka stop trying to save your mom The "evidence collection" method that rewires your brain to see how close you already are to your goals BIG identity shifts and the actions that come with them: waking up at 5:30am, no phone before 6am Updating your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) - and why Brandon realized he was still operating on an old stress response that no longer applied Why talking about your pain and struggle on repeat is keeping you and your audience stuck The AM/PM routine that keeps Tasha grounded through every phase of her cycle and perimenopause The Bold Becoming You Workshop (happening April 25 & 26!) - link below  The homework from this episode: Write out your ideal Tuesday (workday) AND your ideal Saturday (day off).  Get specific: What are you waking up excited about? Who are you with? What are you not doing? These exercises alone give you more clarity than you expect. Links & Resources: 🔗 Bold Becoming You Workshop - April 25 & 26, 9am - 12pm PST → [Register here] 📲 Follow us on Instagram for weekly Lives [Insta]  💬 DM us or drop a comment, tell us what landed for you in this episode

    1h 19m
  3. 07/29/2025

    Ep 236 Nervous System Regulation in 5 Min or Less

    In this episode, we break down the most foundational practice in our entire framework, and answer the question almost every client starts with: "I know I need nervous system regulation… but how the f**k do I actually do that with the life I have?!" We talk about why NSR is not just for the meltdown moments, how it quietly transforms your relationship with productivity, parenting, partnerships, and purpose, and how Brandon went from never regulating to knowing with full-body certainty that he'll never drink again. We touch on: Why 30–60 seconds of nervous system regulation might be more life-changing than 30 minutes What happened when Brandon finally felt his feelings, after 18 years of numbing The trap of "doing it right" and how it keeps perfectionists stuck Four micro NSR techniques you can do literally anywhere (yes, even in a meeting) Why consistency isn't the goal, capacity is What two clients in totally different life stages (30 and 60) had in common with burnout, dread, and the exact same NSR win after 4 weeks Plus, we unpack the real reason so many smart, high-achieving people don't start NSR (hint: if you've ever said "I don't need it right now," this one's for you). Whether you're bedbound like Tasha was, burnt out like Jane was, or just stuck in the doom-scroll loop like Della, we've got you. ✨ Ready to start regulating in 5 minutes or less? Grab the Regulated AF Mini Series for just $5 Join 🌈The Village, our Perfectionism Recovery and Burnout Healing membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Hop on our free group coaching call (first Monday most months): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching Need personalized support? Book a clarity call and let's see if we mesh

    1h 38m
  4. 07/21/2025

    Ep 235 Your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs)

    In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep thinking you're the problem when you're not: complex life circumstances and how integrating them instead of ignoring them changes everything about how you work, parent, rest, and relate. We talk about the patterns we didn't even know were patterns: Tasha wondering why she could build empires one week and collapse the next, Brandon's years of overfunctioning while feeling like nothing was ever enough, and the quiet shame spiral of why can't I just do this thing that almost everyone in our community knows by heart. We touch on: The actual definition of Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) and why this one lens can explain burnout, inconsistency, and the inability to "just push through" How masking, overachieving, chronic dysregulation, and trauma conditioning show up differently based on gender, race, disability, and neurodivergence Why routines, habits, and productivity hacks fail when they're not built around your real life and what to do instead The real reason you feel guilt when resting and how to stop abandoning yourself in moments of low energy, pain, or overstimulation How your relationships (especially with partners, clients, and kids) have to evolve when you start being honest about your capacity What happened when Brandon realized he didn't even want a damn plate and what that metaphor has to do with freedom, caregiving, and rest This episode includes the 10-finger CLC exercise (to get your Complex Life Circumstance score), and a powerful reminder: you're not broken…you're just operating in a world that refuses to account for who you actually are. Build a life that works with your CLCs instead of against them 👇🏻 🌈 Join The Village: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village 🤝 Join us for free group coaching (first Monday of most months): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching 💬 Want 1:1 support? Book a clarity call to see what program fits best

    1h 50m
  5. 07/06/2025

    Ep 233 What If You're Not Doing It Wrong? And it's not bad?

    In this episode, we pull back the curtain on one of the foundational tools we use with our clients across Unshakeable You, Phoenix Rising, Bootcamp and The Village: our deceptively simple "Wins, Effective/Ineffective, and Questions" check-in.  We talk about what we're rewatching, orthorexia and the clean eating rabbit hole, your grandmother's apple pie (and why Brandon says it can't be the best) You'll hear: Why labeling things "good" or "bad" might be killing your creativity and momentum. How "maladaptive coping" (hi cigarettes, doomscrolling, productivity spirals) is often just your body's attempt to stay alive, and maybe even deserves a trophy. How your cycle phase might be the real reason you thought that project, person, or plan sucked. A real-time story of our teenager dragging us for our financial choices… then un-dragging us with shocking emotional maturity. We ask questions like: What actually counts as a win (and who decided what counts)? Why is "just thinking about it" part of the process? How do you know if something was ineffective… or if you were just doing it in the wrong phase of your cycle? Can you celebrate a "bad" coping strategy and want something better next time? What's the difference between emotional dysregulation and eating snacks in the garage? Drop your favorite "small win" in our DMs or come join a free community call to experience what this work feels like in real time  Join 🌈The Village: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village  Join us in our free group coaching call the first Monday of most months: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching Want more personalized support? Schedule a clarity call to see if we mesh and what programs fit what you're looking for.

    1h 33m
  6. 06/10/2025

    Ep 231 Discipline vs Capacity

    In this episode, we unpack what's actually going on when you "can't stay consistent," and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve. We dig into: Why discipline only works after you've built capacity The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you Why being "too tired to function" or "constantly behind" is not a personal failure and what it really means How to tell if you're living from survival mode (even if everything looks fine from the outside) You'll hear real examples from our own lives, from our clients, and from people just like you who thought they had a discipline problem, but were actually overdue for a total capacity recalibration. By the end of this conversation, we're asking better questions: What do I want and what do I need ... today? What's actually mine to carry? How can I build a life and business that supports my reality, not just my ambition? If you've been forcing, pushing, and blaming yourself for not "doing it right" - this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start restoring. Here's our free Burnout Recovery 101 Masterclass Grab the Momentum Map here  The Reel that started this conversation Are you ready to work together? Schedule a call to figure out which path is right for you.

    43 min
5
out of 5
17 Ratings

About

The Boldly Becoming You Podcast is your bi-weekly invitation to become who you were born to be. Underneath the layers of rules and expectations you have adopted over your lifetime, in an effort to connect and be accepted, you've lost much of who you were when you entered this world. Twice a week I will call on you to answer that whisper from your inner wisdom that you have been shushing for years and begin the redesign of your life. On Mondays I'll share truths about the human experience and highlight opportunities to deepen your connection to yourself so you can show up in all areas of your life in full alignment and with a meaningful impact. In these brief episodes, you will be reminded of your responsibility to yourself to become the person you have always wanted to be. On Thursdays, I'll introduce you to people who have lived both lives - the one where they agreed to what others expected of them, following the same arbitrary rules we all agreed to AND then had the courage to finally listen to their gut telling them there was something more. We will learn how to navigate the sometimes messy experience of listening to our truest selves from their collective journeys and then redesign daily life to pursue our respective purposes. In reality, there are no Universal rules about what is right and wrong or good and bad in parenting, partnership, friendship, etc. It's about what is aligned with your purpose...and what is not. Boldly Becoming You will help you challenge the rules you may not even know you are following so you can get on with living an authentic life that fills you up and allows you to have meaningful connections while practicing your purpose.