Both-And Perspective by Project Mel

Mel Selcho

This show invites anyone wanting a big life and big impact to embrace both-and thinking. Mel Selcho, business catalyst and coach, shares stories and strategies that will spark delight, stretch your thinking, and challenge you to action that makes work and life better.

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    16. Permission to Mess Up, Even, and Especially When It's My Fault

    Mel shares her Lenten journey by examining the emotional comfort she finds in getting things right and also the cost. See why it feels so good to be right, and discover actionable steps to ditch the drive to be perfect, overcome the vulnerability hangover, and stop seeking validation through explanation.  Key Takeaways Perfectionism isn't about achieving perfection but about avoiding painful feelings of blame, shame, and judgmentVulnerability requires courage to show up when we could have done it betterLetting others be wrong about us is a powerful practice in releasing the need for external validationMel's Lenten practice includes doing uncomfortable things daily, not explaining herself, embracing vulnerability, and not managing others' experiences Quotable Moments "Blessed are we the ones trying, the ones failing." Kate Bowler"Every decision has things that are right about it and things that are wrong about it.""What if it was okay even if it was our fault?""Business and entrepreneur are both spelled with a "U" on purpose. I want businesses to be the U-est you they can possibly be." Resources Mentioned Books: "Women Living Deliciously" by Florence GivenPeople: Brené Brown, Kate Bowler, Brooke Castillo Episode Challenge Where are you diluting yourself to make yourself more palatable? Be the "U-est You" possible, remembering that you're not for everyone in work and in play.

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    14. The Measure of "Better": On Giving and Receiving

    If you’re like me, you grew up hearing, “It’s better to give than to receive.” What does better even mean? Maybe easier. What if receiving is not about the gift itself but about the act of being open to what life (and others) want to give us? Even if it's awkward gifts, unsolicited advice, or a blaise coffee shop "good morning." Here’s what’s inside this episode: 🌟 Why receiving is different (and harder) than getting—and why it's so worth it. 🌟 The secret rule that made receiving life-changing during my cancer journey: No one who loves you can give the wrong thing. 🌟 How to become a wide receiver for life’s unexpected “passes,” whether it’s an awkward gift, unsolicited advice, or just a coffee shop “good morning.” We’ll also explore: 🎁 The surprising freedom of receiving without the "shoulds." 🏉 How to adjust, stretch, and make those awe-inspiring “catches” in life—even when it’s not the pass you were hoping for. ✨ The grace of accepting what’s offered while staying true to your own preferences, tastes, and boundaries. With tips, personal stories (like how my sweet pug Elvira taught me grace), and a sprinkle of holiday magic, this episode is here to help you embrace the both-and of receiving. Whether it’s the gift you wanted or the advice you didn’t, the awkward stretch of learning to be a wide receiver can lead to a bigger, fuller life. My Gift To You: Sign up for the FREE goal setting workshop here: https://bit.ly/eureka2025.

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This show invites anyone wanting a big life and big impact to embrace both-and thinking. Mel Selcho, business catalyst and coach, shares stories and strategies that will spark delight, stretch your thinking, and challenge you to action that makes work and life better.