Brain Based Parenting

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 Brain Based Parenting, The Boys Ranch Podcast for families.   We all know how hard being a parent is, and sometimes it feels like there are no good answers to the difficult questions families have when their kids are struggling.   Our goal each week will be to try and answer some of those tough questions utilizing the knowledge, experience, and professional training Cal Farley’s Boys Ranch has to offer.Contact us: email  podcasts@calfarley.org   To Donate: https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=TTo Apply:https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch:https://www.calfarley.org/Music:"Shine" -NewsboysCCS License No. 9402

  1. 11H AGO

    Teaching Kids Faith Through Fellowship Worship And Service: The Spiritual Disciplines pt 2

    Send us Fan Mail Faith can feel like a set of ideas kids are supposed to agree with, until real life hits and the beliefs don’t have roots. We sit down with our chapel team to talk about how children actually develop a lived, resilient faith through three interconnected practices: serving others, building healthy relationships, and learning what worship really is.  We move into the bigger question of how belief becomes something a child can practice on a normal Tuesday.  We explore why faith formation is more than spiritual education, and why the Gospel of John treats believing like a verb. Obedience, trust, and “try it and see” moments help kids discover God in action, not just in theory. We share what we’ve noticed on service projects: kids almost never regret going, groups come back bonded, and serving makes the whole God thing feel more believable. You’ll also hear practical, age-appropriate ideas, from chores as service, to plugging into church roles, to “adopting” a senior neighbor who needs small help and real connection.  Finally, we zoom out to what healthy Christian community looks like for kids: a judge-free space for hard questions, leaders who are warm but firm, shared meals, intergenerational friendships, and parents who model positive relationships. We also unpack worship beyond singing, including gratitude at home and intentional time in nature that opens kids up to wonder. If you’re busy or unsure where to start, we give a simple next step you can take this week. Subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review, then tell us what small practice your family is trying next. Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    36 min
  2. MAY 19

    Teaching Kids Spiritual Disciplines: Reading the Bible and Prayer

    Send us Fan Mail If your family’s Bible time feels like a chore chart and prayer feels like a performance, you’re not alone and you’re not stuck. We sit down with our Boys Ranch ministry team to get brutally practical about spiritual disciplines for kids and how to teach them without turning faith into pressure.We discuss: spiritual disciplines are practices that shape a real relationship with God, not hoops that earn love. We walk through what age-appropriate family Bible reading can look like from pre-K to high school. For little ones, we talk picture Bibles, story-driven rhythms like Advent, and making a child’s first Bible a big deal. For elementary and middle school, we lean into narratives and curiosity with two prompts that change everything: “I notice” and “I wonder.” For teens, we name the temptation to chase “relevance” and instead encourage you to stay the course, let the Bible be central, and create a safe place for real questions. Then we shift to teaching children to pray. We break down healthy, real prayer as a conversation with God, including listening, not just talking. We share easy frameworks like the Taco Prayer acronym (Thanksgiving, Adoration, Confession, Others, Self) and a simple three-part prayer any family can use. Along the way, we tackle common misconceptions like treating God as a genie, assuming silence means God is absent, and trying to force consistency through guilt instead of grace. If you want practical Christian parenting tools for faith formation that actually work on busy days, press play. Subscribe, share this with a parent who needs it, and leave us a review so more families can find the show. Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    50 min
  3. MAY 12

    Respect Without The Power Struggle: Practical Ways to Teach Respect At Home.

    Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to lose a relationship with your kid is to treat disrespect like a fight you have to win. We’d rather treat it like a skill that can be taught, practiced, and repaired, especially when emotions run hot and everyone’s patience is thin. We dig into the most practical building blocks of teaching respect at home: modeling what we want to see, creating small daily rituals, and showing kids how to treat people well in real situations like restaurants, school frustrations, and family routines. We also get specific about consistency, because a “no” that turns into a “yes” after enough whining trains the exact behavior you’re trying to stop. You’ll hear how “let me think about it” and the “yes when” approach can reduce power struggles while still keeping strong boundaries and teaching time and place.  Finally, we unpack what to do when disrespect is intense or out of character, using trauma-informed curiosity and emotional regulation tools like stop, breathe, choose. Sometimes the blowup isn’t about you at all, and staying calm is what helps a child find that insight. If you found this helpful, subscribe, share it with another parent, and leave a review so more families can find Brain-Based Parenting. Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    23 min
  4. MAY 5

    Handling Disrespect: Respect Grows When We Build Trust

    Send us Fan Mail Disrespect can show up in a thousand tiny ways a blunt “you’re not very smart, are you?” a dismissive “I know” a joke that lands like a punch. We wanted to get past the lectures and punishments and talk about what actually builds respect inside a child’s brain over time. we talk about what respect is, what it is not, and why the hardest moments are often the most teachable. We break respect into two clear categories: the respect tied to positional authority and the respect every person deserves because of basic human dignity. From there, we dig into a common parenting trap: expecting respect as the foundation instead of treating relationship as the foundation. We connect the dots to attachment and trust, why classrooms can be tough places for respect, and why teenagers are wired to push for independence. If you’ve ever felt pulled into a power struggle, you’ll hear practical language that keeps correction focused on behavior rather than attacking the child. One of the biggest takeaways is the “emotional piggy bank” model: connection and meeting needs create deposits, while redirections create withdrawals. When the account is empty, disrespect comes fast. We also talk about self-respect versus entitlement, how sports can teach empathy, and how social media and “kid content” can quietly train kids to mock adults. If you want brain-based parenting strategies to teach respect, handle disrespect, and stay regulated under pressure, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more families can find the show. Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    27 min
  5. APR 21

    Raising Young Leaders: If you Don' Shape Their Leadership, Who Will? pt 2

    Send us Fan Mail Kids don’t wake up one day and magically know how to lead. They practice leadership in the messy places first: the toddler who insists on doing it “my way,” the grade-schooler who wants to run the game, the teen who’s testing independence while still needing structure. We dig into what healthy leadership looks like at different ages and how brain-based parenting helps us guide that drive without turning every moment into a power struggle.  We spend time on skills that make leadership sustainable: listening, empathy, teamwork, and conflict resolution. That includes the hard parenting choice to let kids work some conflicts out on their own when it’s safe, then processing what helped and what didn’t. We also tackle resilience and responsibility, including why kids need chances to fail successfully, push through when something stops being fun, and learn that finishing matters. And we close with a reminder that hits home: our job isn’t to create a better version of us, it’s to help our kids become a strong, grounded version of themselves.  Subscribe to Brain-Based Parenting, share this with another parent, and leave a five-star review so more families can find these tools. What’s one leadership skill you want your child to grow next? Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    25 min
  6. APR 14

    How Parents Can Build Real Leadership Skills In Kids-pt 1

    Send us Fan Mail Bossy isn’t the same thing as bold and loud isn’t the same thing as leadership. We get practical about how kids actually develop leadership skills and what parents can do at home to shape it. Along the way we start with a fun warm-up on fictional leaders, then get serious about what makes someone worth following: honesty, dependability, healthy boundaries, and the courage to do the right thing even when it isn’t popular. One of the biggest takeaways is that strong leadership is built on self-evaluation. We talk about how to process conflict with kids so they learn to think critically, own their part, and try a better approach next time. That “coachability” becomes real confidence, the kind that doesn’t need to blame others or prove anything. We also unpack the question every parent asks: are leaders born or made? Our answer is both, because some kids have natural pull, but every kid can practice leadership through small moments in sports, school, chores, and friendships. We also draw a sharp line between being a boss and being a leader. A boss chases control, while a leader uses influence and helps other people feel respected and capable. If your child tends to be bossy, we share simple ways to redirect that energy into healthy leadership by naming intent, teaching empathy, and focusing on how their words land. We wrap with core character traits that support leadership for children, including hard work ethic, perspective, humility, and learning to collaborate instead of going it alone. Subscribe to Brain-Based Parenting, share this with a parent who needs it, and leave a five-star review. What’s one leadership trait you most want your child to grow this year? Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    22 min
  7. APR 7

    I'm Bored!!! So Go Climb Something-The Power of Make Believe pt. 2

    Send us Fan Mail  We dig into how unstructured play helps children build emotional regulation and resilience through big body movement, rhythm, and real-world problem solving. From negotiating what to do when you’re bored to recovering after a fall or a failed climb, free play gives kids a safe place to feel frustration, try again, and discover what actually helps their bodies settle. We also talk honestly about why many parents feel trapped by modern safety pressures. When every rare nightmare story goes viral and we live in a highly litigious culture, it’s easy to overcorrect into constant hovering. We explore that trade-off and why “no risk” can backfire by leaving kids less competent and more anxious. Along the way, we share practical boundaries that keep play genuinely independent: clear physical limits, behavior rules that prevent harm, and the kind of supervision that stays present without taking over. Screens raise the stakes, so we get concrete about what to do when a kid says “I’m bored” and reaches for a phone. We discuss screen time limits, creating a realistic screen-free time plan, replacing screens with better options, and the importance of parents modeling the same habits. We wrap with ways neighborhoods, schools, and churches can build more opportunities for group free play with safe spaces and caring adults nearby. Subscribe, share this with a parent who needs it, and leave a five-star review so more families can find Brain-Based Parenting. Contact: podcasts@calfarley.org  To Donate:  https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=T To Apply: https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/ For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch: https://www.calfarley.org/ Music: "Shine" -Newsboys CCS License No. 9402

    31 min
5
out of 5
14 Ratings

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 Brain Based Parenting, The Boys Ranch Podcast for families.   We all know how hard being a parent is, and sometimes it feels like there are no good answers to the difficult questions families have when their kids are struggling.   Our goal each week will be to try and answer some of those tough questions utilizing the knowledge, experience, and professional training Cal Farley’s Boys Ranch has to offer.Contact us: email  podcasts@calfarley.org   To Donate: https://secure.calfarley.org/site/Donation2?3358.donation=form1&df_id=3358&mfc_pref=TTo Apply:https://apply.workable.com/cal-farleys-boys-ranch/j/25E1226091/For More Information about Cal Farley's Boys Ranch:https://www.calfarley.org/Music:"Shine" -NewsboysCCS License No. 9402

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