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I'm Jennifer Kaylo, host of The Open Bedroom podcast. A Dog Mom. Human Boy Mom. Life partner to Scott. Multi-million dollar revenue generator. Podcast host. Certified sex and relationship coach specializing in helping couples open their relationships, conscious uncoupling, and online dating in open relationships. Common themes include open relationships, swinging, polyamory, online dating and Tinder, and sex. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/support

The Open Bedroom Podcast Jennifer Kaylo

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 12 Ratings

I'm Jennifer Kaylo, host of The Open Bedroom podcast. A Dog Mom. Human Boy Mom. Life partner to Scott. Multi-million dollar revenue generator. Podcast host. Certified sex and relationship coach specializing in helping couples open their relationships, conscious uncoupling, and online dating in open relationships. Common themes include open relationships, swinging, polyamory, online dating and Tinder, and sex. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/support

    EP#136: How to Have a Threeway

    EP#136: How to Have a Threeway

    Wanna have a threesome? You're not alone!
    A threesome is the most sought after sexual experience, and almost 20% of men have had one!
    In today's episode I discuss how to find a 3rd through online platforms and the importance of setting boundaries and intentions.
    I share my personal experiences, advising on safe sex practices and the significance of aftercare.
    My insights aim to create a respectful and safe environment for all participants, ensuring a positive and consensual experience.
    0:00 Intro
    Alignment with Your Partner (00:01:14)
    Discussing the importance of finding alignment with your partner and understanding the dynamics for a threesome.

    Advertising Your Intentions (00:03:17)
    Exploring the ways to advertise your intentions for a threesome, including online groups and dating apps.

    Pre-Threesome Communication (00:06:19)
    Emphasizing the importance of clear communication and setting intentions before engaging in a threesome.

    During-Threesome Check-Ins (00:13:25)
    Discussing the need for communication and check-ins during a threesome to ensure comfort and consent.

    Post-Threesome Reflection (00:16:21)
    Highlighting the significance of post-threesome communication, addressing emotions, and nurturing relationships.

    Personal Experience and Coaching Services (00:19:23)
    Sharing personal experiences with threesomes and promoting online coaching services for sex, relationships, and conscious uncoupling.

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    • 20 min
    EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman

    EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman

    Today I've got Ally Iseman, a non-monogamous specialist and sexpert, to talk about Healthy monogamy.

    We discuss Ally's personal journey into non-monogamy, the importance of communication, and the role of jealousy in personal growth.

    Ally shares her insights on setting boundaries, maintaining relationship integrity, and the significance of consent in ethical non-monogamous relationships.

    Our conversation covers the diversity within non-monogamous communities, the joy of play and pleasure, and the resources available for those exploring non-monogamy.



    The guide's role (00:00:02) Ally explains her role as a guide for healthy non-monogamy, emphasizing her active participation and continual learning.

    Introduction to Ally (00:01:07) Jennifer introduces Ally and discusses her journey into the non-monogamous space, highlighting her social media presence and personal experiences.

    Challenges in non-monogamous relationships (00:03:52) Ally discusses the challenges and misconceptions in non-monogamous relationships, emphasizing the need for communication and skills applicable to both non-monogamous and monogamous relationships.

    Navigating relationship ruptures (00:04:46) Jennifer shares her recent experience of a relationship rupture, and Ali emphasizes the need for guidance and communication in navigating such challenges.

    Transition from monogamy to non-monogamy (00:07:10) Ally shares her personal journey from being a serial monogamist to exploring non-monogamy, highlighting the self-development and relationship dynamics involved.

    Learning from personal mistakes (00:10:59) Ali discusses the importance of owning and addressing personal mistakes in relationships, emphasizing the need for open communication and self-awareness.

    Developing relationship skills (00:13:34) Ally emphasizes the importance of developing relationship skills and creating safe containers for mistakes, highlighting the value of personal growth and learning from experiences.

    Defining healthy non-monogamy (00:16:40) Ally discusses the key aspects of healthy non-monogamy, including understanding emotional and physical needs, addressing insecurities, and building relationship security through experiences.

    Utilizing jealousy for personal growth (00:18:45) Ally explains the role of jealousy in personal growth and relationship dynamics, emphasizing its potential for self-improvement and relationship insights.

    The importance of integrity and consistency (00:19:44) Value of holding oneself and others accountable in relationships, recognizing triggers, and the impact of different partnerships on attachment triggers.

    Understanding healthy non-monogamy (00:21:39) Differentiating between healthy and unhealthy non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of consensual relationships and setting clear boundaries.

    Embracing play and pleasure (00:23:13) Exploring the concept of play as an essential part of relationships, finding joy and pleasure, and creating a safe environment for exploration.

    Creating a safe and inclusive community (00:25:53) Establishing safety measures such as STI testing, vetting process, and promoting mutual respect and consent in a sex-positive community.

    Navigating boundaries and growth (00:28:39) Understanding and communicating boundaries, the importance of consent, and the role of discomfort in personal growth.

    Exploring new experiences and communities (00:32:06) Encouraging curiosity, community engagement, and the potential for personal growth through exploring new experiences and environments.



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    Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport2Pleasure.com, which offers concierge guidance, eco-luxury retreats, and online courses and resources for couples and individuals exploring healthy non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016, committed to promoting consensual,

    • 36 min
    EP#134: We Got Dumped Via TXT MSG

    EP#134: We Got Dumped Via TXT MSG

    How we got dumped in a text message, what I've learned through this process, how I'm feeling, and how to break up with kindness.

    The emotional rollercoaster (00:00:02) 

    Jennifer shares her feelings and initial reaction to being dumped via text message.


    The dynamics of the throuple (00:01:20) 

    Jennifer discusses her experience in a throuple relationship and the events leading up to the breakup.


    Processing the breakup (00:04:54) 

    Jennifer reflects on her emotional journey and the impact of the breakup on her.


    The impact of age and maturity (00:14:37) 

    Jennifer explores the role of age and maturity in relationships and the breakup experience.


    Approach to breaking up kindly (00:18:02) 

    Jennifer shares her approach to breaking up with past partners and the importance of respect and communication.


    Lack of closure and changing dynamics (00:22:10) 

    Jennifer discusses the lack of closure in the breakup and the discovery of changes in the dynamics of the relationship.


    Breaking Up Kindly (00:24:40) 

    Discussion on the importance of communicating kindly and respectfully during breakups, and the impact of doing so.


    Reflecting on the Breakup (00:25:43) 

    Encouragement to provide feedback and share breakup stories in a kind and loving manner, and seeking input from listeners.


    Online Coaching Topics (00:27:52) 

    Introduction to the speaker's online coaching services, including topics like open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.



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    The precursor to this podcast:

    EP#128 Taking Breaks in Open RelationshipsEP#130 Why Clear Boundaries are Kind in Open Relationships


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    • 29 min
    EP#133: Primal Play with Girlfriend Steph

    EP#133: Primal Play with Girlfriend Steph

    Our girlfriend Steph and I believe that sex is "playtime" for adults, so we've made monthly Sexploration nights an important event on our calendars.

    We cover some of the fun we've explored, our recent trip to a dungeon, Steph's recent Primal Play adventure in Austin, TX and more.



    Rediscovering Play as Adults (00:00:00)

    Jennifer and Steph discuss their experiences with rediscovering play as adults, the challenges they faced, and the importance of incorporating playfulness in their lives.



    Primal Play and Its Appeal (00:12:32)

    Steph shares her experience with primal play, describing its physical and emotional aspects, and the appeal of letting go of control and embracing animalistic instincts.



    Exploring Primal Play (00:17:14)

    Jennifer and Steph delve into the concept of primal play, discussing its connection to one's true nature, including exercises and experiences related to primal play, and the significance of embracing one's natural scent and physical sensations.



    Taking Small Steps into Primal Play (00:20:07)

    Steph suggests small steps for individuals to explore primal play, such as experimenting with different touches, pressures, and interactions to introduce a sense of playfulness and exploration in their relationships.



    Play in Non-Monogamous Relationships (00:22:33)

    Discussion on incorporating play in non-monogamous relationships and encouraging partners to try new things.



    Primal and Sensory Play (00:23:25)

    Exploring primal play, sensory play, and incorporating curiosity and childlike exploration into sexual experiences.



    Food Play and Sensation Play (00:24:15)

    Discussion of primal play involving food, sensation play, and the importance of getting in touch with pleasure and body sensations.



    Exploring Sexual Curiosity (00:26:01)

    Encouraging reframing and curiosity in sexual experiences, including using sex toys and exploring different sensations.



    Pleasure and Mindfulness (00:28:49)

    Emphasizing mindfulness in experiencing pleasure, including exploring breath, sound, and body sensations.



    Erotic Blueprints and Sexual Fulfillment (00:30:22)

    Encouraging understanding of individual erotic blueprints and how different partners may have different sexual preferences.



    Sexual Exploration and Playful Experimentation (00:34:27)

    Emphasizing the importance of experimenting, following curiosity, and exploring different aspects of sexual play.



    Exploration Date and Permission to Play (00:34:51)

    Suggesting scheduling exploration dates and giving permission to explore different sexual activities and experiences.



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    • 37 min
    EP# 132 How to Create Your Own Spank Bank

    EP# 132 How to Create Your Own Spank Bank

    Getting Comfortable with Your Body (00:02:22) Jennifer discusses the importance of feeling comfortable with your body and believing that your partner loves you for who you are.

    Consent and Protocols (00:05:46) Jennifer emphasizes the need for explicit consent from partners for taking and sharing intimate pictures and videos, as well as establishing protocols for handling them in case of a breakup.

    Creating and Hiding Content (00:08:53) Jennifer shares tips on taking and hiding intimate content on phones, including hiding photos and videos on iPhones and sharing them on specific platforms.

    Voyeurism and Exhibitionism (00:11:51) Jennifer talks about recording intimate moments, sharing them on platforms like FetLife, and being mindful about privacy and consent.

    Storing and Sharing Content (00:16:15) Jennifer discusses using Google Drive to store and share intimate content, emphasizing the importance of controlling access to maintain privacy and security.



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    • 18 min
    EP#131: How to Negotiate MORE in your Sex Life with Brian Jenkins

    EP#131: How to Negotiate MORE in your Sex Life with Brian Jenkins

    The introduction (00:00:02) Jennifer and Brian introduce the episode and set the stage for their conversation about having difficult conversations with a partner regarding sexual exploration and needs within a long-term relationship.

    Insight into Men's Resistance (00:03:49) Brian provides insight into why men may be resistant to their partners' desires for sexual exploration, including issues of trust, insecurity, and performance anxiety.

    Navigating Edgy Desires (00:07:14) Jennifer and Brian discuss how to navigate when one partner's desires feel too edgy for the other, emphasizing the importance of open conversation and understanding each other's perspectives.

    Role-Play Scenario (00:10:29) Jennifer and Brian act out a role-play scenario where Jennifer, as the woman, asks Brian, her partner, to join her in sexual exploration, demonstrating the negotiation and communication involved in such conversations.

    Exploring Edgier Desires (00:14:24) The role-play delves into the exploration of edgier desires, including the idea of being watched, visiting a sex club, and potentially involving others, leading to a candid and exploratory conversation between the partners.

    Reflection and Preparation (00:20:18) Brian emphasizes the need for both partners to be prepared for unexpected reactions and desires, encouraging open and supportive communication as they navigate their exploration together.

    Openness and Safety (00:21:32) The importance of creating a safe space for exploring new sexual experiences and addressing potential insecurities.

    Difficult Conversations (00:22:23) Tips for having difficult conversations in a relationship, including how to pose the conversation, renegotiate, and address potential concerns.

    Leaning into Fear (00:23:24) Encouragement to lean into the fear of difficult conversations and focus on the potential beauty and growth that can come from openness and honesty.

    Seeking Help (00:24:41) The benefit of seeking coaching or support for difficult conversations in relationships, and the availability of coaching services from the speakers.





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    • 26 min

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