Brothr Podcast w/ Stu Murray

Stu Murray
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For men ready to take ownership of their lives, break through limits, and lead with purpose. Hosted by Stu Murray, founder of Brothr, this podcast delivers raw conversations, practical tools, and actionable insights on emotional mastery, relationships, and the power of brotherhood. No fluff. No BS. Just real talk for men done going it alone. Subscribe and join a movement of men owning their lives, leading with purpose, and building legacies that matter. Brotherhood is the medicine.

  1. 3D AGO

    Why Most Men Are Living Other People's Dreams (Time to Wake Up)

    Most men are sleepwalking through lives designed by others - trapped in mediocre circles, chasing external validation, and wondering why success feels hollow. This conversation with Matt Bourque cuts through the noise with brutal honesty about what it really takes to build an intentional life.We explore why surrounding yourself with the right people isn't optional, how to audit your current circle without burning bridges, and why your health is the foundation everything else is built on. From breaking free of social media metrics to creating from abundance rather than scarcity, this is about becoming the man who knows where he's going.This isn't about perfection - it's about direction. It's about prioritizing yourself so you can show up fully for others. It's about choosing discomfort over mediocrity and building the life you actually want, not the one you think you should want.Connect with Matt:Instagram: @drivendadmethod 🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:01:59 – Why every man should celebrate fitness in his life00:06:27 – The danger and power of comparison in men’s circles00:10:23 – How to limit exposure to toxic friendships00:13:50 – Why joy is found in simplicity, not achievements00:18:40 – Retirement isn’t what you think: losing drive & purpose00:21:15 – The small habit that keeps friendships alive00:25:22 – Why grief and sadness also belong at the table00:30:09 – Anger as a shield for shame and insecurity00:43:24 – “Your vibe attracts your tribe” – owning your energy00:55:49 – Business is better (and more fun) with collaboration

    1h 12m

  2. SEP 30

    I Was Stuck Overthinking Everything Until I Learned This

    You're overthinking because you've been chasing the wrong kind of clarity. Most men wait until they have it all figured out before making their next move—but that's exactly what keeps them stuck. In this video, I break down the three lessons that shifted everything for me. If you've been performing for others instead of pursuing what you actually want, this will hit different. The question isn't whether you're ready—it's whether you're willing to start. 🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it. ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHR I help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being. 🔺Key Timestamps : 00:00:18 – Clarity isn’t certainty, it’s direction 00:02:42 – Ask yourself: What do I want? 00:06:15 – Eliminating what doesn’t serve your highest good 00:08:36 – Resistance shows you’re doing something meaningful 00:16:11 – Discipline is trading short-term comfort for long-term growth

    19 min

  3. SEP 23

    I Tried to Kill Myself 7 Times—Here's What Saved Me w/ Ned Weidner

    “Every morning for 15 years, my first thought was: ‘How will I kill myself today?’ I put a gun to my head at 19—it misfired. That moment began a journey into the wild that saved my life and revealed an ancient path back to wholeness.”Most men today are living someone else's life, domesticated beyond recognition, severed from the primal wildness that once kept us alive and thriving. The result? Epidemic levels of depression, addiction, and spiritual emptiness that no amount of success can fill.In this raw conversation, wilderness guide Ned Weiner shares how tracking animals taught him to track his inner wildness, how nature became his therapist when therapy failed, and why the modern crisis of masculinity is actually a crisis of disconnection from our deepest selves.If you've ever felt like you're pushing a boulder up a mountain alone, this conversation offers a different path—one that leads home to who you really are.CONNECT WITH NEDwww.stepintoyourwild.com/🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:01:54 Rivers, mountains, and horses kept him alive → the birth of "Step Into Your Wild" 00:08:30 Store-bought food vs. honoring the hunt → deeper nourishment and connection 00:14:36 You don’t need gear to connect with nature + surviving suicide attempts through tracking 00:19:30 Tracking animals as a metaphor for tracking your inner wildness 00:36:45 Offering pain to nature → aloneness and the Sisyphus boulder struggle 00:41:49 Why asking for help feels so hard in Western culture 00:46:15 Learning to receive → reciprocity and growth in relationships 00:55:04 Healing in relationship with people and the land (fire, stars, moonlight) 01:01:05 Writing as healing → shifting from victim to creator 01:17:58 Closing message: “Just take that first step” → a life beyond imagination is waiting

    1h 21m

  4. SEP 16

    Stop Saying These 3 Words (They Make You Look Weak)

    Strong men don’t say "I have to," "I need to," or "I should"—but most guys leak power through this victim language without realizing it. These three phrases instantly signal weakness and make you appear untrustworthy to your wife, kids, and colleagues.If you're tired of feeling powerless, resentful, or like you're constantly seeking approval, this simple language shift will help you reclaim your masculine authority. I'll show you exactly how to reframe weak language into confident leadership communication that makes people want to follow you.The result? You'll stop giving your power away, eliminate resentment, and become the grounded leader your family needs.CONNECT WITH WAYNEwww.instagram.com/asacredking🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:00 - The 3 phrases that secretly weaken men ("I have to, I need to, I should") 00:01:00 - A real story: a man on the edge of divorce repeating "I have to" 00:02:30 - Why saying "I need to" kills confidence and trust 00:03:50 - Reframing chores: from "I need to" → "I choose to" 00:06:00 - The powerful framework: "I choose to [action] because I value [belief]" 00:08:00 - How childhood trains us to give away our choices 00:12:50 - The path to fulfillment: reclaiming power through conscious choice

    16 min

  5. SEP 9

    Why Men Are Collapsing (And Women Are Walking Away) w/ Wayne Barkus

    Most men are performing strength instead of embodying it – and women can sense it from a mile away. After Wayne Barkus’ divorce, he discovered he was choking on his own truth, seeking approval from everyone except himself. This conversation reveals why the age of uninitiated men is ending and what rises from the ashes. We explore the invisible forces keeping men sedated, the difference between fitting in and belonging, and why women are exhausted carrying the weight of potential. From the collapse of masculine mentorship to the urgent need for modern initiation – this isn't just another self-help conversation. Wayne shares his journey from performing for approval to self-sourcing his worth, and why the real work begins when comfort ends. If you've ever felt successful but empty, achieved everything yet satisfied nothing, this mirror might sting – but it could change your life. CONNECT WITH WAYNE : www.instagram.com/asacredking 🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHR I help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being. 🔺Key Timestamps : 00:00 – Cracking open in therapy & meeting real men 02:47 – Realizing the hero’s journey & the power of talking 08:05 – Facing betrayal of self & the missing spiritual initiation 11:20 – Childhood conditioning: “man up” & suppress emotions 17:20 – The call of the awakened warrior & peeling back layers 19:16 – The age of the uninitiated man is ending 26:54 – Why men can’t mature while seeking parental approval 29:36 – Women sensing truth & unsafe “I’m fine” responses 41:26 – The dark engine: disconnection from spirit & creativity 1:06:23 – Initiation begins with one step – Rumi’s wisdom

    1h 13m

  6. SEP 2

    Orthodox Priest: Why Modern Men Are Spiritually Starving

    What happens when a successful priest realizes he's "done everything right" but is dying inside? Father Michael Butler's panic attack at 45 became the catalyst for a profound transformation - and this raw conversation reveals exactly how it happened.In this conversation, Father Michael shares the brutal truth about male purpose, why thousands of young men are flooding into Orthodox churches, and the epidemic of directionless men seeking structure and father figures. From losing his father at 8, to his spiritual awakening at 15, to his complete breakdown at 45 - this is elder wisdom forged in fire.We explore why external validation crushes the soul, how to build genuine self-approval, and the simple daily practices that create unshakeable inner strength. Father Michael reveals his method for becoming your future self and why failure is bitter but regret is ten times worse.Whether you're 20 or 60, feeling lost or seeking deeper meaning - this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about masculine development. The journey starts with one step.🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:00 – Introduction & Father Michael’s early life03:05 – Losing his father and navigating childhood struggles06:40 – The first spiritual awakening as a teenager11:15 – Panic attacks, fear, and a turning point in faith15:50 – Discovering men’s work & the journey into mentorship21:30 – Why young men are drawn back to the Church28:45 – The deep human need for purpose and meaning35:10 – The dangers of drifting without purpose (porn, addiction, numbing out)42:20 – Approval-seeking and why men crave validation51:05 – The importance of mentorship, brotherhood, and encouragement

    1h 26m

  7. AUG 25

    Why I Walked Away From a Career I Loved (Without a Backup Plan)

    There's a voice inside you that knows things your logical mind hasn't figured out yet. I spent 8 years ignoring mine — until my body started screaming what my intuition had been whispering all along. This is the story of walking away from a respected career in education, not because I hated it, but because something deeper was calling. It's about the dangerous comfort of "pretty good" opportunities and why the whisper you've been ignoring might be the most important voice you'll ever hear. Most of us have been taught to outsource our truth — to parents, systems, experts, society's definitions of success. But what happens when you finally stop asking permission and start listening to your internal compass? If you've ever felt that quiet hum of disconnection, that sense that "this isn't quite it," this story is for you. Because the answers you're looking for? You already have them. 🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it. ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHR I help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being. 🔺Key Timestamps : 00:00 – Why I walked away from an 8-year career in education 02:00 – The whisper I kept ignoring 04:45 – When 2020 changed everything 08:40 – Facing the system: compliance vs. truth 10:59 – Traveling & rediscovering my inner compass 13:01 – The retreat that changed everything 17:49 – Courage, alignment & the question for you

    20 min

  8. AUG 18

    Being “Nice” Is Killing Your Relationship—Here’s the Fix

    Most men think avoiding conflict keeps the peace. But what if I told you that avoiding confrontation is actually the fastest way to kill intimacy in your relationship?After years as a firefighter struggling with PTSD and nearly losing his marriage, Markwell discovered something counterintuitive: conflict isn't the enemy of connection - it's the golden pathway to deeper intimacy. The very thing we're taught to avoid is actually what our relationships need most.In this conversation, we explore why "nice guy" behavior backfires, how to transform reactive patterns into conscious responses, and practical tools for navigating difficult conversations without losing yourself or your partner.If you've ever felt disconnected in your relationship, walked on eggshells to keep the peace, or wondered why being "agreeable" isn't working - this is for you. It's time to stop avoiding the hard conversations and start using them to build the relationship you actually want.What's one conflict you've been avoiding that could actually bring you closer?🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:00 – A retreat that sparked transformation05:15 – From PTSD to the first taste of self-awareness11:40 – Discovering breathwork, meditation & men’s circles17:20 – Why men’s work begins with brotherhood23:05 – Breaking shame by speaking the unspeakable31:45 – Surrounding yourself with people who challenge your limits40:10 – Conscious confrontation: navigating conflict with truth48:20 – How relationships become mirrors for growth57:05 – The biggest mistakes men make in self-discovery01:08:30 – Final message: why community is the cure

    1h 28m
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For men ready to take ownership of their lives, break through limits, and lead with purpose. Hosted by Stu Murray, founder of Brothr, this podcast delivers raw conversations, practical tools, and actionable insights on emotional mastery, relationships, and the power of brotherhood. No fluff. No BS. Just real talk for men done going it alone. Subscribe and join a movement of men owning their lives, leading with purpose, and building legacies that matter. Brotherhood is the medicine.

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