Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report

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Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report is your new 7-minute or less podcast habit—Sip Sermons served with sharp wit, cultural clarity, and one takeaway worth toasting to. Hosted by STYLES, creator of the Brunch Behavior book series.

  1. Love Without A Deadline

    7H AGO

    Love Without A Deadline

    Send a text Who decided love should clock in once a year? In this pre-Valentine’s Day episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, I unpack the myth of Valentine’s Day—how a rebellious origin turned into a performance, why captions started outranking care, and what it actually takes to build a relationship that doesn’t need an audience. This is a Sip Sermon for anyone tired of measuring their heart by flowers before noon and a post by midnight. We start with the messy history of Saint Valentine and fast-forward to today’s romance economy, where Hallmark logic and social media timelines quietly shape how we think love is supposed to look. From there, I get into the real work: consistency, emotional safety, and the everyday decisions that actually hold a relationship together. Paying attention to stress patterns. Catching tone shifts. Choosing presence over performance. Because stability is attractive, peace is magnetic, and teamwork turns love from a highlight reel into a home. To pull the message off the timeline and into the glass, I build the Everyday Intentions cocktail—bourbon for backbone, blood orange for brightness, honey for warmth, lemon for clarity, bitters for depth, finished with an orange peel. It’s a drink that mirrors mature love: soft but strong, grounded yet bright. Along the way, I honor Black community traditions of practical care—did you eat, text me when you get home, I got you when money’s funny—and push back on the idea that one date can save or sink a relationship. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to disappear; it just can’t be the only day effort shows up. We close with a birthday shout to Jay, a reminder to support Black-owned businesses, and a plug for the Free Pour Pack and the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack if you want more stories behind the glass. If your relationship has been leaning on February 14th to do the heavy lifting, this conversation gives you tools for the other 364 days. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs calmer love, and leave a review telling us the everyday habit that keeps your connection solid. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    9 min
  2. Partial PTO: A Quick Check-In

    2D AGO

    Partial PTO: A Quick Check-In

    Send a text I hit pause on purpose—and that might be the most honest move I’ve made all week. This is a quick check-in, not a full episode: no forcing content, no faking the vibe—just tapping in to say I appreciate the early listeners, I’m protecting the message, and I’ll be back next episode with a few surprises since it is love week. We also touch on why owning your voice matters more than chasing algorithms, especially when platforms get quiet after real conversations. Sometimes progress looks like rest, clarity, and intention. SIP happens. Every SIP tells a story. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    5 min
  3. Stop Buying Your Way Out Of Feelings

    4D AGO

    Stop Buying Your Way Out Of Feelings

    Send us a text Ever notice how some people apologize with a receipt instead of accountability? Yeah… we’re talking about that. This episode dives headfirst into the very familiar habit of buying your way out of hard conversations—flowers after the fight, trips instead of truth, takeout standing in for emotional availability. We unpack how gift-giving, acts of service, and “doing the most” can quietly become emotional dodgeballs when feelings feel unsafe. We break down the whole “gifts as a love language” era—where it works, where it absolutely doesn’t, and how generosity can start to look like avoidance in designer wrapping. Providing can feel noble. Doing can feel productive. But neither replaces presence. Especially when every apology comes with a bag, a box, or a tracking number… and zero reflection. If your partner has to decode your love by auditing your spending, something’s off. Enter the Avoidance Spritz—a cocktail that looks light, sparkly, and fun on the surface, but hits with truth underneath. A perfect metaphor for relationships that perform well but don’t go deep. From there, we map the patterns way too many of us recognize: shutting down during conflict, then popping back up with a surprise; matching outfits but not emotional vocabularies; silencing feelings until the silence gets loud. We talk emotional unavailability, conflict avoidance, love languages gone wrong, and why “I did this for you” isn’t the same as “I heard you.” Then we offer a grown path forward—say what you feel, name what you’ll change, and keep showing up even when your voice shakes. Love languages are supposed to invite intimacy, not help you dodge your emotional taxes. We wrap with intention—supporting Black-owned businesses, investing in community, and choosing tools that build depth instead of distraction. If this episode hits a nerve, grab the Free Pour Pack at siphappens.info by typing free pour in the message box, and step deeper into the Brunch Behavior universe for more cocktails and sermons that challenge how you sip, love, and show up. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with someone who gifts instead of speaks, and leave a quick review so more people can find their way to honest connection. SIP happens. Every SIP tells a story. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    7 min
  4. I Said What I Said—Now I’m “Difficult”

    5D AGO

    I Said What I Said—Now I’m “Difficult”

    Send us a text Let me be clear—because clarity is kind of my thing. I’m a Leo by nature. I’m transparent. I say what I mean and I don’t wrap it in three layers of fluff to make it easier to digest. And for some people, that automatically translates to “mean,” “aggressive,” or “too much.” Cool. But that’s not what this is. In this episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, I’m really talking about me—how being direct, organized, and honest gets misread when you don’t perform softness for the room. I get into why clarity makes people uncomfortable, how boundaries get labeled rude, and why sarcasm—especially when it’s paired with truth—gets taken personally. This isn’t about tone policing or learning how to be quieter. It’s about what happens when you remove the fog and force real decisions. I break down the mental gymnastics that turn efficiency into “coldness” and transparency into “attitude.” If you’ve ever been punished for being prepared, for saying it once instead of five times, or for refusing to babysit grown people through basic expectations—this episode is for you. Clarity doesn’t create tension. It reveals it. And when you’re benefiting from confusion, honesty feels like an attack. To ground the conversation, I pour No Soft Edges—a straightforward mix of rye whiskey, fresh lemon, honey syrup, bitters, and a lemon peel. No theatrics. No garnish games. Just intention in a glass. The drink mirrors the message: clean inputs, honest balance, and no distractions. If you’re leading, collaborating, or setting boundaries in real time, consider this your reminder that you don’t need to translate your truth into seventeen emotional dialects. I’m not rude. I’m decisive. I’m not aggressive. I’m efficient. And if my clarity makes someone uncomfortable, that’s not my tone—that’s their mirror. Tap play for grown energy, stay for the pour, and leave with language you can actually use. If this one hit home, share it, subscribe, and drop a review so the right people can find it. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    7 min
  5. Friends, Money, And The Fine Print

    FEB 6

    Friends, Money, And The Fine Print

    Send us a text We’ve all felt that spark: a shared idea with a close friend that sounds like destiny. The vibe is loyal, the energy is real, and momentum takes the wheel. But when trust runs on autopilot, it misses the potholes. Styles lays out a simple, memorable rule—love first, paperwork immediately after—and shows how the sweetest partnerships stay balanced when the recipe is written down. We explore why friendship often teaches us to smooth things over while business requires us to define things. That tension can either deepen the bond or drain it. You’ll hear how to set roles, track money without awkwardness, and make decisions together instead of assuming. Styles breaks the outcomes into three clear lanes: the good (clarity and confidence), the neutral (polite stagnation), and the bad (uneven effort and rising resentment). The lesson lands with a cocktail metaphor—Split The Equity—blending coconut rum, lime, pineapple, simple syrup, and bitters to mirror how sweetness needs structure, and honesty adds balance. You’ll also get a practical read on partner fit: Do they take ownership without reminders? Do they handle setbacks with curiosity or complaint? Business doesn’t invent character; it reveals patterns already there. If you’re thinking about building with a friend, this pour gives you the language and the steps to protect trust, keep momentum, and prevent silence from doing what money gets blamed for. Want to taste the full experience and put these ideas to work? Subscribe, share with a friend who’s your future cofounder, and leave a review with your biggest boundary you’ll put in writing. Then grab the free pour pack at siphappens.info—type “free pour” to get yours. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    5 min
  6. Black History, Immigration, And The Blur Of Power

    FEB 4

    Black History, Immigration, And The Blur Of Power

    Send us a text Something feels off right now. When rules stop being clear and start feeling like a mood, people notice—and that’s where this conversation begins. I start with a real moment of fear and pull the thread all the way back: how power has always been performed in this country, how conquest got dressed up as “law,” how the Constitution makes promises that don’t land evenly, and how enforcement today feels more discretionary than ever. Speaking from a Black New York perspective—rooted in immigrant-built neighborhoods—I connect what we’re seeing in the courts to what’s happening on the ground. Street tension, legal signals, and the lived reality of families being forced to make impossible decisions in seconds are all part of the same story. We break down recent court decisions that widen the lane for brief stops and questioning, even as lower courts continue to flag patterns tied to race, ethnicity, and accent. We talk about ICE, the difference between administrative warrants and judge-signed warrants, and why that distinction matters when someone is standing at your door. History shows us this isn’t new—slave codes, Jim Crow, redlining—all proof that the law can be sharpened into a weapon. That history isn’t behind us. It’s informing the moment we’re in right now. But this episode isn’t about panic—it’s about power. We build a practical playbook: how to stay informed without spiraling, why verification matters before sharing information, and how to create a real community plan that covers contacts, meeting points, childcare, documents, and transportation. We talk consent, warrants, and knowing your rights so paperwork doesn’t become a bluff. We also talk about protecting your energy—because exhaustion has always been part of the strategy. And we end with the question that matters most: when simply existing starts to look like probable cause, who gets questioned first—and what are we going to do about it together? If this episode hits home, subscribe to The Pour Report, share it with someone who needs clarity right now, and leave a review with one real step your block or community is taking. Your voice makes the plan stronger. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    8 min
  7. A Disclaimer Before Episode 54

    FEB 3

    A Disclaimer Before Episode 54

    Send us a text This isn’t a full episode—it’s a pause before the conversation. A moment to set the table. I didn’t start this platform to chase politics, outrage, or viral chaos. But when life starts pressing in on all of us, silence stops being neutral. This brief message is about why the next episode matters, how we’re approaching it, and what kind of space we’re holding—thoughtful, honest, and rooted in community, not conflict. Tomorrow’s episode drops during Black History Month, and it’s an intentional conversation about legacy, dignity, and how real life and policy quietly shape our daily experiences. No hot takes. No yelling. Just clarity, conscience, and respect for the people listening. If you’re ready for a grounded discussion that values nuance over noise and responsibility over reactions, you’re already in the room. The episode 54 follows tomorrow. Tap in, come prepared, and stay present. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    2 min
  8. Tip Fatigue, Plain And Simple

    FEB 2

    Tip Fatigue, Plain And Simple

    Send us a text The mood always changes when the bill hits—and this episode stops pretending it doesn’t. Styles breaks down why tip screens, auto-gratuity, delivery app fees, and so-called “convenience” charges have people fed up with modern tipping culture. What used to be a reward for good service now feels like a mandatory surcharge, and the math never quite adds up. We unpack how hidden fees, suggested tip percentages, and pre-tipping flip accountability on its head while service quality keeps getting murkier. The conversation starts with the fundamentals: tipping was meant to reflect professionalism after the service shows up. When servers disappear, runners handle everything, and a 22% prompt still glares back at you; that social contract is broken. If restaurants want guaranteed pay, bake it into the menu price and let tips return to what they were meant to be—optional and earned. From there, we dive into delivery apps, where pre-tipping turns service into a gamble. Bad weather deserves grace. A basic sidewalk drop-off on a clear day? That should still be performance-based. Pre-tipping rewards speed over care and undercuts the workers who actually go the extra mile. Then come the fees—service fees, app fees, processing fees—turning “BOGO deals” into full-price surprises before the tip even enters the chat. The solution isn’t complicated: transparent pricing, fair wages, and tips that mean something again. Along the way, Styles pours a summer-ready cocktail called Built Into the Price and shares practical ordering tips—from choosing drinks that survive delivery to spotting brands that package smart. If you’re searching for real talk on tipping etiquette, delivery app incentives, restaurant fees, and the ethics of modern dining, this episode is for you. Tap in, subscribe for more Brunch Behavior breakdowns, share this with someone tired of mystery math, and leave a review with your own tipping rule—because gratitude should be earned, not guilt-tripped. Support the show ✨ Tap Into the Brunch Behavior: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok → @siphappens.series Ready to sip with intention? Grab your copy of the Brunch Behavior Book series—bold drinks, wild sermons, no chaser. Grab your Paperback copy here! Not quite ready for the full pour? Start with the Free Pour Pack—5 cocktails, 5 sermons, all vibe. 📘 Grab your Free Pour Pack or the full book at www.SipHappens.info Drop your name, email, and type “Free Pour” to get your exclusive 5-drink, 5-sermon eBook straight to your inbox.

    7 min
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Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report is your new 7-minute or less podcast habit—Sip Sermons served with sharp wit, cultural clarity, and one takeaway worth toasting to. Hosted by STYLES, creator of the Brunch Behavior book series.

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