January is just… weird, y’all. Not awful necessarily, but also not really the motivation-charged era we’re culturally conditioned that it should be. In this episode of But For Real, we’re naming the post-holiday emotional hangover that sneaks up on so many of us every January. The irritability. The numbness. The low-grade existential dread. The urge to hibernate while the internet screams “new year, new you.” We’re calling it Seasonal Feelings Disorder, not a diagnosis, not a pathology, just an honest name for the cocktail of nervous system burnout, disrupted routines, winter darkness, and cultural pressure that makes January feel like liminal purgatory. We talk about why your body crashes after December, why motivation disappears, why everything feels heavier, and why none of this means you’re broken, behind, or failing at life. We break down the difference between winter blues and Seasonal Affective Disorder, how capitalism fights biology every January, and why neurodivergent folks often feel this season more intensely. This episode blends therapist brains, lived experience, listener questions, nervous system education, music, trash panda joy, and variety-show chaos, because mental health conversations should feel human, not like homework. If January has you staring at your calendar wondering what happened to your personality, this one’s for you. We cover: Why January feels emotionally flat, irritable, and existentialWhat we mean by “Seasonal Feelings Disorder”The difference between January blues and Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)The nervous system crash after December overstimulationWhy winter biology and productivity culture are always fightingHow routines, motivation, and identity get scrambled in JanuaryWhy neurodivergent nervous systems feel this season harderThe myth of “new year energy” and why it backfiresGentle ways to support your nervous system instead of forcing growthHow to re-enter structure without shame or self-punishmentWhy you’re not lazy, ungrateful, or behind, you’re defrosting We talk about: 00:00 – We’re back, end-of-year chaos, and why January already feels weird03:05 – Ins & outs, movement, therapy, identity, and letting go of over-rotting06:40 – Burnout, rest, and learning what actually restores us09:45 – Civic engagement, goblin core, and letting ourselves evolve messily12:30 – Tea & Crumpets, vagus nerve care and nervous system survival tools14:50 – Step Into My Office, the spiritually dehydrated January question18:20 – Why January feels existential and disorienting 20:15 – Seasonal Feelings Disorder, what it is and what it isn’t22:10 – SAD vs winter blues, clinical vs situational25:00 – Post-holiday adrenaline crashes and nervous system burnout28:40 – Circadian rhythms, darkness, and winter biology31:10 – Capitalism, productivity pressure, and January whiplash33:45 – Neurodivergence, masking fatigue, and routine collapse36:30 – Gentle structure instead of aggressive self-reinvention39:00 – Defrosting slowly instead of forcing bloom mode41:50 – Music that understands winter sadness44:20 – Fire Dumpster Phoenix, trash panda hope48:10 – Final thoughts, permission to move slowly into the year Connect with Us: Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com But For Real on IG: @butforrealpoda href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2bpcfrAOxJNXTx1cYHV5t8?si=7846bd1d33fb4155" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
