Can We Get Your Number?

Shiloh and Kellie
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Join metamours Kellie and Shiloh as we help navigate the tricky world of out-of-the-box relationships using the enneagram, witty banter, and more!

  1. JAN 27

    #28 - What if it’s the best thing ever - How we get our needs met!

    In this episode we are diving into the Hornevian Triad! The triad our numbers are in give us insight into how we interact with others to get our needs met. The triads are as follows: Move Toward others (Compliant stance) - Numbers 1,2 and 6 Move away from others (Withdrawn stance) - Numbers 4, 5 and 9 Move against others (Assertive stance) - Numbers 3, 7 and 8 We will get into all the juicy details of what this looks like for each number, which pairings might be difficult and TONS of tips and tricks on how to connect, communicate and repair depending on which triad you fall into! Listening to the descriptions of each triad might bring you closer to knowing your enneagram number and getting on the path toward better understanding of yourself and the people you love!

    37 min

  2. JAN 6

    #27 - Check your superlatives - or getting to know the Harmonic Triads!

    This episode is all about the Harmonic Triads!  The Harmonic Triads categorize types by their coping mechanisms for conflict and disappointment.  If you have ever been in any relationship of any sort then you are likely no stranger to conflict AND disappointment!!! We talk all about the Positive Outlook triad (2,7,9 and newsflash, Kellie and Shiloh are in this one!!), the Competency Triad (1,3,5) and the Reactive Triad (4,6,8).  We talk about how all of our reactions, no matter the triad we are in, are coping mechanisms we've learned throughout our lifetime.  We give tips for each number to move toward growth and tips for the partners of those numbers to move through conflict with ease (or at least understanding). If you've ever wanted the cheat codes to how to get your partners' back when they are going through it, this is the episode for you!!!

    1h 12m

  3. 10/14/2025

    #26 - It's a map! - A deep dive into how to use the enneagram

    In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram.  We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself.  We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships.  We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected! https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/store/

    51 min

  4. 09/16/2025

    #25 - The mystery is where all the juice is: cultivating the beginners mind

    In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle.  We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

    52 min

  5. 07/28/2025

    #24 - Shiloh hates hugs or What are your core values?

    In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met. There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

    1 hr

  6. 06/04/2025

    #23 - we all live in a pie: cohabiting in polyamory

    In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!

    1h 11m

  7. 05/13/2025

    #22 - Blabbing on about security, part 2

    In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to find security based on your enneagram number, and affirmations tailored to each number. Shiloh and Kellie both get on the soapbox on this episode and we find out Kellie doesn't like the work encroach. Listen in to learn how to be an experimenter in the science project that is you.

    46 min

  8. 03/26/2025

    #21 - Finding security when polyamorous things are happening (part 1)

    There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!!  This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we go through how each enneagram number seeks security in their relationships.  We talk about how to recognize your own security patterns based on your type. Listen for boundary sandwiches and surprise shoes.  And stayed tuned after the episode for a bit of our pre-show meeting where we talk about deep diving to the bottom of the pool!

    45 min
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Join metamours Kellie and Shiloh as we help navigate the tricky world of out-of-the-box relationships using the enneagram, witty banter, and more!

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  • Creator
    Shiloh and Kellie
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Shiloh and Kellie