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Sober Cappy
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I'm Brian “Cappy” Cappello — 50% Italian, 99% Irish (I should probably go by Sully). Designed to be fun! And to be THE go-to recoverycast for learning & laughing while killing time. We'll talk sobriety, plus life's 98 other problems: ADHD, people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-love, trauma, connection, regrets, forgiveness, authenticity, inviting discomfort & embracing the cringe. Short on backstories, long on witty, educated banter. Whether needing saving and/or braving, this is your pod. I once quit for 3.5 years and am right back there w/21+ months of sobriety, going on infinity. Rebirth: 3/18/24

  1. 1D AGO

    How To Actually Be Productive With ADHD? (Part 2)

    Part 2 with Karla is here and this one goes deep. We pick up right where we left off and this time we're getting into the real day to day stuff. What it actually looks like to live with ADHD in recovery every single day? How do you build routines your brain will actually stick to and why are so many people still struggling even after they put the bottle down? This episode gets honest. It gets a little messy. And honestly that's kind of the point because that's exactly what living with ADHD feels like. If Part 1 was the wake up call, Part 2 is the game plan.   What We Cover: Why ADHD and addiction are more connected than most people realize How alcohol damages dopamine and why sobriety alone doesn't fix the brain Why ADHD meds can be abused the same way alcohol is The calendar system that actually works for ADHD brains Time blindness, task paralysis, and how to finally work around them Cold showers, sunlight, and exercise as natural dopamine hits Morning routines, meal prep, and the small daily habits that add up Why accountability partners change everything and the stats to prove it How ADHD impacts relationships and communication more than people expect Plus a mention of the books ADHD Women In Relationships and ADHD Men In Relationships by Ivy Castillo If you've ever felt scattered, unproductive, or like your brain just won't cooperate no matter what you do... this one is for you. Drop a comment, share it with someone who needs it, and don't forget to like and subscribe.   Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Ivy here :- https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92     #ADHDaddiction #Sobriety #Vyvanse #Ritalin #Adderall #ADHDProductivity #AddictionRecovery #ADHDAwareness #Dopamine #ADHDBrain #Sobriety#Recoverypodcast #Sobercommunity #ADHDTips #Naturaldopamine #ADHDCoach #ADHDAdults #ADHDrelationships #TimeBlindness #ADHDparalysis

    47 min

  2. 6D AGO

    Can You Manage ADHD Without Medication?

    Ever wondered why so many people with ADHD end up drinking too much? Or why getting sober does not automatically fix your focus and productivity? This episode gets into all of it. In this episode, I sit down with Carla, an ADHD accountability partner based in Australia, for a raw and honest conversation about what it actually feels like to live with ADHD. We get into the real connection between ADHD and alcohol, why so many people with undiagnosed ADHD end up self medicating, and what dopamine actually has to do with all of it.   We also dig into ADHD medication. What works, what does not, the difference between extended release and regular meds, why seeing a psychiatrist matters more than most people think and whether you can actually manage ADHD without medication if you put the right systems in place.   If you have ever felt like you can perform at work but completely freeze when it comes to your own goals, this one is for you.   👍 If this resonated with you, please like this video, consider following the podcast and sharing your thoughts in the comments.   🔔 If you’re enjoying these real conversations around ADHD, sobriety and self-growth… feel free to follow the podcast and thanks so much for listening.   Connect with me here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Ivy here :- https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92 https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92                   #ADHD #ADHDMedication #ADHDAndAlcohol #Adderall #Vyvanse #ADHDParalysis #SobrietyAndADHD #ExecutiveFunction #DopamineDisregulation #ADHDAwareness #MentalHealth #ADHDPodcast #SobrietyPodcast #RecoveryPodcast #ADHDTips #ManagingADHD #ADHDWithoutMedication #ExtendedRelease #ADHDCommunity #CappyHour

    48 min

  3. MAR 21

    What Do ADHD & Alcoholism Have in Common? More Than You Think

    What if the reason you couldn't stop drinking had less to do with willpower and everything to do with your brain? For years, we thought we were just lazy, unreliable or broken. Turns out, we both had ADHD. And we were both drinking to cope with it without even knowing it. That's exactly what me and Jake Lohwater unpack in Part 2 of our ongoing conversation about ADHD, addiction and what it actually takes to build a life in recovery. Honestly, things get even more real in this one. In this episode, we cover : ADHD medications (stimulants vs. non-stimulants) and why Adderall can be dangerous for people in recovery The real link between ADHD and addiction / alcoholism Non-stimulant ADHD medication experiences (like Strattera) "Time blindness" and why being late isn't always about laziness How ADHD silently affects relationships, focus, and daily life The concept of divergent thinking (and why it can be a superpower) Social media addiction, dopamine, and productivity struggles If you've ever felt like your brain won't slow down, struggled to stay on time, forgotten something important seconds after thinking of it, or wondered why "just try harder" never worked - this one's for you.   Connect with me here:- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/a1hmn Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Jake here :- Instagram: https://insta.openinapp.co/xbwrv Facebook:- https://fb.openinapp.co/oaciu Consultation: https://openinapp.link/n4c7g   🎧 Keep listening to The Cappy Hour Podcast for real conversations about sobriety, recovery and building a better life. Thanks for listening!   #ADHD #Sobriety #Adderall #Addictionrecovery #ADHDAdults #SoberLife #Dopamine #ADHDAndAddiction #ADHDMedication #Strattera #ADHDRelationships #ADHDCoaching #OpalApp #ADD #antidepressants

    59 min

  4. MAR 13

    Why ADHD Feels Like a Constant Battle I ADHD Brain Explained

    In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with licensed therapist Jake to explore the powerful connection between ADHD, addiction, procrastination and recovery. Many people struggling with sobriety also deal with neurodivergent thinking, negative self-talk, perfectionism and constant mental overwhelm. Jake shares his experience being diagnosed with ADHD later in life and how that discovery reshaped his understanding of productivity, addiction and recovery.   In this episode we discuss: • The internal dialogue of ADHD and perfectionism • Why procrastination and avoidance are so common • The connection between ADHD and addiction • Medication vs real long-term solutions • Coaching vs therapy in recovery • Productivity struggles for neurodivergent minds • How to manage overwhelming thoughts and mental noise   This conversation is especially helpful for anyone navigating ADHD, recovery, sobriety or mental health challenges. If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of avoidance, overthinking and self-criticism, this episode will give you a new perspective.   Connect with me here:-  Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/ni4im Youtube:- https://yt.openinapp.co/9msxp Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Jake here :- Instagram:- https://insta.openinapp.co/xbwrv Facebook:- https://fb.openinapp.co/oaciu Consultation:- https://openinapp.link/n4c7g   🎧 Keep listening to The Cappy Hour Podcast for real conversations about sobriety, recovery and building a better life. Thanks for listening!           #ADHD #AddictionRecovery #Sobriety #MentalHealth #Neurodivergent #ADHDBrain #RecoveryJourney #SelfImprovement #MentalHealthPodcast #SobrietyPodcast #ADHDLife #Productivity #Overthinking #RecoveryMindset #ADHD addiction #ADHD recovery #ADHD procrastination #ADHD therapy #ADHD podcast #Addiction recovery podcast

    46 min

  5. MAR 6

    How to Rewire Your Brain After Years of Drinking I Willpower vs Discipline with Nisha Patel

    Ever notice that the moment you remove alcohol, your brain suddenly becomes the loudest thing in the room? In this episode of Cappy Hour, I sit down with therapist and sobriety coach Nisha Patel, who has been sober for more than 17 years. Instead of surface-level recovery talk, we dive deep into the real mechanics of addiction, discipline and what it actually takes to rebuild your brain after years of drinking.   In this episode we discuss: • Why quitting drinking feels mentally harder than expected • Why willpower fails but systems succeed in recovery • How to rebuild discipline after years of drinking • Why early sobriety feels like living without skin • How to create the daily habits that make sobriety sustainable   Sobriety isn’t just about removing alcohol. It’s about learning how to live, think and perform differently once it’s gone.   Connect with me here:-  Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/sobercappy/  Youtube:- https://youtube.com/@sober_cappy?si=VSiqs8UvrN305CeP Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Nisha here :- Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/nishapatelcoaching/ Linkedin:- https://www.linkedin.com/in/nishajpatel/ Website:- https://thenishe.com/   Thanks for listening!                                                 #sobriety #adhd #addictionrecovery #sobercurious #mentalhealth #dopamine #willpower #discipline #therapy #dbt #cbt #soberlife #alcoholfree #adhdmanagement #mensmentalhealth #selfimprovement #recoveryjourney #mindfulness #affirmations #neuroplasticity #radicalhonesty #sobrietypodcast #healingjourney #personalgrowth #sobercappy #cappyhourpodcast

    1h 16m

  6. FEB 26

    Why Sobriety Changes Your Relationships | Early Sobriety Struggles with Erin Schaden (Part 2)

    Why do so many relationships struggle after one partner gets sober?  In this episode of Cappy Hour Podcast, I am joined by Erin Schaden, a divorce lawyer and coach with over 30 years of sobriety. We dive deep into early sobriety struggles, addiction recovery and the rising tension many couples face after quitting alcohol. We break down:- • Why sobriety changes your relationships • The hardest early sobriety struggles people face • How addiction recovery impacts marriage and dating • Why some couples experience conflict or divorce after getting sober • The difference between physical sobriety and emotional sobriety • Common toxic relationship patterns that surface in recovery • High-conflict personalities and relationship red flags • The importance of community in long-term sobriety • Dating after alcohol recovery • Doing the inner work to build healthier relationships   If sobriety has been challenging lately, this episode is for you.   Connect with me here:-  Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/sobercappy/  Youtube:- https://youtube.com/@sober_cappy?si=VSiqs8UvrN305CeP Join Community :- https://ilept.mn.co   Connect with Erin here :- Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/nakedrandomthoughts/ Facebook:- https://www.facebook.com/ErinESchadenDivorceCoach Blog:- https://www.nakedrandomthoughts.com/   Thanks for listening!         #sobriety #addictionrecovery #earlyrecovery #soberlife #emotional sobriety #sobrietyjourney #datinginsobriety #personalgrowth #recoveryjourney #mentalhealthpodcast

    48 min
  7. Infidelity Isn’t the Whole Story: Compassion, Boundaries & Recovery

    JAN 29

    Infidelity Isn’t the Whole Story: Compassion, Boundaries & Recovery

    Infidelity Isn’t the Whole Story: Compassion, Boundaries & Recovery In this episode, I’m joined by Erin Schaden (divorce attorney + writer behind “Naked Random Thoughts”) for a deep, honest conversation about cheating, shame, and what healing actually requires. We unpack why public shaming spreads so fast, how people get turned into “villains” online, and what “doing the work” in recovery looks like in real life—inventory, humility, accountability, and rebuilding trust. Important: portions of this discussion reference a public story and include commentary—details may be incomplete. The point isn’t the drama; it’s the bigger lesson: how modern relationships break, how boundaries get ignored, and what it takes to recover with integrity. What we cover: - Why infidelity isn’t the whole story (and what usually sits underneath it) - Compassion vs. judgment (and why nuance matters) - Consent, power dynamics, and workplace boundaries - Emotional maturity and not outsourcing your self-worth - Recovery tools: inventory, humility, accountability, and guardrails If this helped you, please like, subscribe, and share — it supports the show more than you think. Connect with Sober Cappy: My Community, register now: https://ilept.mn.co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobercappy/ Guest: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nakedrandomthoughts/ Blog: https://www.nakedrandomthoughts.com/

    1h 16m
  8. You Can’t Out-Will Addiction: The Lie That Keeps People Stuck

    JAN 22

    You Can’t Out-Will Addiction: The Lie That Keeps People Stuck

    You can’t “out-will” addiction — and believing you can is one of the biggest lies that keeps people stuck. In this episode, I sit down with Jenny to break down why willpower alone isn’t a recovery plan. We talk about the difference between a habit you can “just stop” and an addiction disorder that hijacks your brain — and why the real “willpower move” is committing to the work (community, tools, structure, and daily practices) that actually changes outcomes. Jenny shares what it felt like to lose the starring role in her own life — becoming a “supporting character” with a script she didn’t choose — and how recovery helped her take that power back. We also get into how cravings can feel like an out-of-body experience, why shame fuels the cycle, and how consistent recovery work strengthens the part of the brain responsible for judgment, impulse control, and long-term decision-making. In this conversation, we cover: - Why “just try harder” doesn’t work with addiction - Willpower vs. a repeatable recovery system - The lies alcohol/addiction tells (and how to spot them) - Community + support (AA, TLC-style groups, and more) - Identity, self-trust, and rebuilding a life you actually want If you’ve been stuck in the loop of “I’ll quit tomorrow” — this is the episode to hear. Subscribe for more real conversations on sobriety and recovery. Connect with Sober Cappy: My Community, register now: https://ilept.mn.co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobercappy/ Guest: https://www.instagram.com/jennifer.bridgman.writer/

    1h 14m
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I'm Brian “Cappy” Cappello — 50% Italian, 99% Irish (I should probably go by Sully). Designed to be fun! And to be THE go-to recoverycast for learning & laughing while killing time. We'll talk sobriety, plus life's 98 other problems: ADHD, people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-love, trauma, connection, regrets, forgiveness, authenticity, inviting discomfort & embracing the cringe. Short on backstories, long on witty, educated banter. Whether needing saving and/or braving, this is your pod. I once quit for 3.5 years and am right back there w/21+ months of sobriety, going on infinity. Rebirth: 3/18/24

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  • Creator
    Sober Cappy
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    22
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 Cappy Hour
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