Catholic Mom Calm

Sterling Jaquith
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Calling all Catholic moms! Did you know it's possible to do this Catholic motherhood thing without losing your mind? Parenting these days is so hard because most of us are doing it without the tools we need. I'm Sterling Jaquith, a homeschool mom to six young kids, a business owner and I teach busy Catholic moms how to have more peace in their lives and homes. Each week on the Catholic Calm Mom podcast, I'll give you practical tools for calming yourself down, discerning what God wants you to do, and making rock-solid plans so life doesn't feel so overwhelming. If you're a Catholic mom, you're in the right place. Life is about to get so much better! And if you love the content of this podcast, check out all tools we offer at www.catholicmomcalm.com.

  1. 1d ago

    How to Reach For Peace Faster

    Anxiety never comes from the Lord. So the second I feel that tightness show up in my chest, I already know something true about myself. I am thinking about my life in a way that God does not want me to think about it. Period. Because if I were thinking about it the way He wants me to, I would be at peace. This episode is one question I want you to start asking faster than you are asking it right now. Not "Lord, take this away," but "Lord, what do you want me to know about this?" About this toddler. About my husband. About my body. About this house. I asked Him something this morning and He said, "You already know. You just doubt what I have already told you." Ooh, burn, Lord. We talk about why we are not reaching for Him sooner (we do not actually believe we could be at peace all the time), the grace you have to ask for before He hands it to you, what Fulton Sheen was doing in basically every talk he ever gave, and why Daniel in the lions' den and Mary at the foot of the cross were both at peace. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: The micro moment prayer: the second you notice tightness, throw your hands up and say "Lord, I invite you into this. Come be with me right now." Why anxiety is information and not a verdict. It tells you your thinking is off, not that your life is off The real reason we do not run to Him faster: we have never met a person who is at peace all the time, so we quietly decided it is not available to us Eight out of ten minutes. You will lose it. The win is how fast you come back Feeling powerless is the worst feeling there is, and being able to stay calm in any situation is one of the most powerful You are not done when you hear the sentence. Your job is to practice it, or your brain will spiral right back in two hours The gifts of the Holy Spirit were designed to be asked for. Wisdom, counsel, knowledge, understanding, fortitude, fear of the Lord. Ask Being at peace does not mean being peaceful. It means receiving. It means "this is okay right now and I can handle it" The surprise pregnancy test, the teenager going through it, the adult child who left the Church. You can be at peace today, in that EPISODE TIMELINE: (estimated at 5-minute marks, no timestamps in the transcript, confirm against audio) [00:00] – Hope when you feel anxious, trapped, stuck or frozen, and inviting the Lord into the micro moment [05:00] – "Lord, what do you want me to know about this?" Why anxiety never comes from Him, and what Mary has to do with our unbelief [10:00] – Eight out of ten minutes, and why staying calm is the most powerful you will ever feel [15:00] – Cheeky Jesus, the sentences He actually gives me, and writing them down so I can practice them [20:00] – My real morning (I do not pray first thing), redirecting my brain, and asking for grace and the gifts of the Holy Spirit [25:00] – Fulton Sheen, the beatification, and why all his talks end the same way. At peace is not peaceful. Daniel, Mary, Joseph and the donkey [30:00] – Who I belong to, true freedom, and an invitation to the Catholic Mom Reset LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: Join the Catholic Mom Reset: www.catholicmomcalm.com/reset Fulton Sheen beatification, plus the conference with Arthur Brooks the day before (Sterling will have a table, come say hi): www.fultonsheenconference.com/ CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  2. 4d ago

    Planning From Woundedness

    I am team planning. I am team house systems. We teach it in the membership and it is the very first thing we tackle in the Catholic Mom Reset, because looking at your next 90 days and making a plan is genuinely a gift to your future self. But if you took all of it away tomorrow, dropped me in a different house in a different town with no idea what the next 90 days held, I would be okay. I could walk around and have peace. That is the part I want for you. A lot of women tell me they are type A planners. There is a healthy version of that. There is also a version that gets built in a childhood full of chaos you could not control, or in a home where performing well was how you got love and attention. Both of those grow up into a woman who plans beautifully, and one of them is holding on with an iron grip. This episode is how to tell which one you are running on, the five minute healing work that sets the grip down, and the sentence I said to a mom on a coaching call that changed her whole face.   WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Why the plan is not what makes you feel calm (you make a plan, then you think "I have a plan," and the thought is what creates safety in your body) The two childhoods that produce a hyper-planner: chaos you had no control over, and love you had to earn by performing The difference between planning that feels light and playful and planning you believe you cannot survive without Abraham walking up the mountain and the Israelites who never got the itinerary, and what peace looked like for both Tolerating uncertainty is a capacity you can grow, the same way a kid grows from 37 seconds to a minute and a half underwater The five minute memory work I use, sitting in the theater with the Lord while He tells you the truth about what really happened What I told the mom who was afraid that moving every two years would rob her kids of roots and stability EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – Why I wanted to do this episode, and why I am solidly team planning and team systems [05:00] – All brains hate uncertainty, the AI conversation nobody can predict, and the skill we can actually grow [10:00] – Your body feels your thinking, not your plan. The Israelites, and Abraham on the mountain [15:00] – The car breaks down. The husband's job might move you. How to answer your own brain [20:00] – Chaos versus performance, the grounded healthy version of you, and asking the Lord what we are doing today [25:00] – Bob Schuchts, inner child work, and revisiting a memory with Jesus in five minutes [30:00] – "You are their mom. You bring roots and stability everywhere you go." Protocols, and week one of the Reset LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Catholic Mom Reset (starts Sunday, September 6th, first live call Thursday, September 10th) Bob Schuchts books Brya Hannan book on inner child healing (do one chapter a month, it is deep work) Restore the Glory podcast with Bob Schuchts and Jake Khym Calm Catholic Kids: https://calmcatholickids.com CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  3. Aug 19

    Transitioning from Summer to Fall

    "People love change. They just hate transition." I heard Matthew Kelly teach that years ago and I think about it every single August. Because right now I'm getting a hundred emails from the school, two of my boys walked out today in socks with giant holes in the heels, and there's a lunchbox in this house that will not zip. If your body is fritzing out over start dates and supply lists and shoe sizes, nothing has gone wrong. You're not in the change yet. You're in the transition, and I want to give you the exact words to say to your own brain while you're standing in the middle of it. Plus a summer update: our little red golden retriever, the sickness that took my husband down, walking in 87 degrees on purpose, 200 Fulton Sheen rosaries, and the press-on nails I just ordered off an internet ad. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Why change and transition are two different things, and why the yucky feeling belongs to the transition and not to your decision What to tell your brain when it starts second-guessing (the feeling is bad, so the choice must be wrong) and why that's backwards Who you are in a transition is not who you're going to be, whether that's back-to-school or pregnancy or a move you didn't choose The two weeks plus two weeks rhythm I use: get ready, live it, evaluate at the end of the day, tweak, then settle into the change Giving equal air time, because your brain will spend all day on what could go wrong and about nine seconds on what you're excited about The folder-and-calendar hack that keeps the school email avalanche from hanging over you every hour of the day Looking for what was good in a hard season, even when the good thing is just the timing of it EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – Mid-August, the nesting itch, and going from wild open summer to ordered fall [05:00] – Annie Avonlea, a sickness that hit everyone one at a time, and what was actually good about it [10:00] – Walking in the heat on purpose, France prep, and giving equal air time to the excitement [15:00] – Making Fulton Sheen rosaries, why moms need work that gets finished, and yes, the press-on nails [20:00] – "People love change. They just hate transition." The emails, the socks, the lunchbox that won't zip [25:00] – Talking to your brain in the transition, and the four weeks it actually takes to settle [30:00] – The email folder hack, and having peace today in the middle of all of it LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: Join the Catholic Mom Reset: www.catholicmomcalm.com/reset Calm Catholic Kids: https://calmcatholickids.com Fulton Sheen beatification conference: https://fultonsheenconference.com/ CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  4. Aug 6

    Managing Your Thoughts About School So You Don't Lose Your Mind

    Almost everything you believe about your kids' schooling is an opinion, not a fact — and most of those opinions are quietly manufacturing stress in your body. In this episode, I walk you through why your feelings about school come from your thinking, how I choose school for my six kids with detachment (we're doing three different things this year), and the one trick I use to stop emotionally processing problems that haven't happened yet. Whether you've got toddlers, a struggling nine-year-old, or a high schooler who bit off more than she can chew, I want you to notice how you're showing up — because the more stressed you are about their education, the worse you show up for them. I'll show you how to trade the tightness for problem-solving energy, hope, and peace. Sterling Jaquith. WHAT'S COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: Why "well-educated" is impossible to define — and how AI is about to make general knowledge plus the ability to ask good questions matter more than the drills we stress over The difference between thoughts that just feel good ("my kid speaks Spanish!") and thoughts that are actually true How to sit in the discomfort of watching your child struggle without deciding something has gone wrong My favorite trick: refusing to emotionally process a made-up future problem (yes, even the diocese one) How to tell yourself the best possible story about whatever schooling you've chosen — including reframing public school as mission territory EPISODE TIMELINE: (estimated — confirm against audio) [00:00] – Why I finally made an episode about school, and the guilt episode I'll link for homeschoolers [06:00] – Your feelings about school come from your thinking, and "well-educated" can't be defined [13:00] – How AI changes education, the Roman Empire example, and feel-good thoughts vs. true ones [20:00] – Choosing school with detachment: my six kids, three different approaches this year [27:00] – The struggling-in-math example, and coaching a mom worried her high achiever over-committed [34:00] – "I'll process it if it happens," modeling peace, and reframing public school as mission territory LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED:   The May episode on homeschool "how far did we get" guilt: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/schooling-guilt-and-stress/id1542253372?i=1000656369341 CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  5. Jul 15

    How I Use AI (And How My Company Does)

    The internet is very loud about AI right now, so I want to tell you exactly where I stand in July of 2026, both personally and as a company, so you can start forming your own opinion. For the most part I'm team AI. I also think it's going to create some genuinely scary things in our society, the same way the internet and smartphones did. Both can be true. My favorite thing about it? It cuts through the noise. Instead of clicking through twenty websites full of pop-ups and people trying to sell me something, I can ask a question and get a clear answer, then ask for the counterarguments too. In this episode I walk through how I use it in real life (skincare, salad dressings, puppy training, fact-checking those sensational ads), the private questions you'd never Google, and exactly where I draw my hard lines. I also pull back the curtain on how Catholic Mom Calm uses AI and where we absolutely don't, so you know what's touched by it and what isn't. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Where I land on AI in July 2026: mostly team AI, and clear-eyed about the harm too My favorite thing about it, cutting through the internet's noise (Google's AI Mode, and always asking "what's the counterargument, and who's making it?") The intimacy-call tip: asking private questions you'd never Google, telling it you're Catholic first, and deleting the thread How I use it at home: skincare picks, homemade salad dressing, a week-by-week puppy plan, and fact-checking those sensational ads Where I draw hard lines: not for prayer, not for religious art, and why real artists and musicians still make our work How Catholic Mom Calm actually uses it (story research, email arcs, financials, coding the app) and where we still won't (design) The Calm Catholic Kids app is out, why I made it "the most boring app ever," and a word on kids, AI, and Pope Leo's letter EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – Where I stand on AI in July 2026 [05:00] – Cutting through the noise: Google's AI Mode and asking for both sides [10:00] – The intimacy-call tip, and telling it you're Catholic [15:00] – Skincare, salad dressings, puppy plans, and fact-checking sensational ads [20:00] – Where I draw the line: prayer, religious art, and real artists [25:00] – How Catholic Mom Calm uses AI (and how it doesn't) [30:00] – The app is out, kids and AI, and Pope Leo's letter LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Calm Catholic Kids app https://apps.apple.com/us/app/calm-catholic-kids/id6768798893 Calm Catholic Kids (buy the collections here, not through the app, so you skip Apple's 30%): https://calmcatholickids.com Xavier Co-op (my new two-and-a-half-day hybrid school launching this fall): https://xaviercoop.com Come to France with me this fall: https://catholicmomcalm.com/france/ My skincare routine:  Cetaphil cream (I get this at costco) Blue Lizard sunscreen TruSkin Face Serum Pope Leo's letter on AI: https://www.vatican.va/content/leo-xiv/en/encyclicals/documents/20260515-magnifica-humanitas.html The AI tools I mentioned: ChatGPT, Claude, Google's Gemini (AI Mode), and Grok CHECK OUT MY WORK: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm Mary's Heart, Martha's Order Planner: https://catholicmomcalm.com/planner

  6. Jul 11

    '90s Seattle, Grunge, and the New Elle Woods Show

    It's Friday night, I'm home alone, and I'm recording a completely ridiculous episode. No coaching, no reframe, just me wanting to talk to someone about episode one of the new Elle Woods show on Amazon Prime. My husband took the kids to the beach, I opened Prime, and this little show whisked me right back to being a '90s Seattle grunge girl. Fair warning: this one is pure nostalgia. If you grew up in the '90s, went to concerts, lived anywhere near the Pacific Northwest, or ever dyed a strip in your hair and thought it was the coolest thing ever (it was not, but it was to me), come sit with me for a few minutes. And if that's not you, skip this one. I promise next week's episode gets deep and coachy again. WHAT I COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Why the show is a love letter to 40-year-old women who grew up on Legally Blonde (and why they nailed it) The soundtrack, the plaid, the hoodies, the one girl with an umbrella, and how perfectly they captured '90s Seattle grunge My own Seattle years, from Capitol Hill to Green Lake, walking my puppies and running my dog-training business The clique-and-judge culture of '90s high school, and my honest confession about who I would have been to a new girl like Elle Why I love that the show's characters are positive and kind, and what that stirred up in me as a parent now A little window into the me you might not know: concerts, green Doc Martens, and starting a web design company at 17 LINKS AND RESOURCES: Come to France with me https://catholicmomcalm.com/france/ Calm Catholic Kids (Summer of Kindness stories free now, Collections 4 and 5 coming soon): https://calmcatholickids.com CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  7. Jul 9

    Enjoying Your Daily Life (No Matter What Season You're In)

    I just got back from driving six kids and two dogs (including an eight-week-old puppy) from northern Idaho to northern Wisconsin, and the trip left me with a takeaway I didn't expect. I am so in love with my ordinary, day-to-day life. Watching cousins become friends and swimming and puppy chaos was wonderful, and it made me more grateful than ever for the life I've built at home. So in this episode I'm going to make the case, hard, that you can enjoy your day-to-day life too. I take on the obvious objection head-on ("sure, Sterling, but you're in an easier phase now") and explain why it isn't the property or the ages or the lack of babies making me happy. It's the tools. I walk through calming your body first, opening the messy closet of your thinking, putting what you actually want in the result line, and building rest into your rhythms so you stop living for the next escape. It comes down to rebuilding trust with yourself, and it's available in any season. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Why a big, un-relaxing family trip left me more in love with my everyday life than ever The objection I take head-on ("it's easy for you now") and why circumstances aren't what make me happy Calming your body first: the anger thermometer, breathing, and being Dominic the dragon "cooling his fire" so your kids can see it Opening the messy closet of your thinking, popping the comparison bubbles, and redirecting on purpose Putting what you actually want in the result line (like "enjoy the kids in the afternoon"), solved both practically and mentally Building rest into daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly rhythms so you don't feel desperate to escape your life Rebuilding self-trust, why peace and acceptance come before problem-solving, and the great household yo-yo drama EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – Home from Idaho to Wisconsin, and falling more in love with daily life [05:00] – "It's easy for you now": the phase objection, and why it's not the circumstances [10:00] – Calming your body first (the thermometer and Dominic the dragon) [14:00] – The messy closet of your thoughts, and popping the comparison bubbles [18:00] – Putting what you want in the result line, and rest built into your rhythms [23:00] – Rebuilding self-trust, peace before problem-solving, and the yo-yo saga [27:00] – Six spots left for France LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: Come to France with me this fall (six spots left!: https://catholicmomcalm.com/france/ Catholic Mom Calm membership: https://catholicmomcalm.com/ Calm Catholic Kids (Summer of Kindness stories free until September): https://catholicmomcalm.com/calm-catholic-kids-collection-3-kindness/ CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

  8. Jul 1

    Why Your Window of Tolerance Shrinks in Summer

    It usually hits right about now. You started summer with high hopes, pushed through the chaotic first couple of weeks, and now you're yelling more, feeling stressed, and wondering what happened to the magical season you pictured. Sterling Jaquith says it's not because you lack a plan. It's your window of tolerance, and summer quietly shrinks it. Drawing on a concept from her book Catholic Mom Calm, Sterling breaks down the two kinds of tolerance: your capacity for one specific stressor (hello, putting sunscreen on unwilling children), and your overall capacity for everything stacked on your plate at once. When you add camps, vacations, sibling fights, heat, and snacks without taking anything off, your ability to cope drops. This episode is the permission slip and the toolkit: expand your tolerance, drop the "shoulds" that are really just social norms, and stop beating yourself up. Because your anger is a stress response, and that is completely changeable. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: The two windows of tolerance: your capacity for one specific stressor, and your overall capacity for everything at once How to expand your tolerance for a single stressor, with breathing and coaching yourself (the sunscreen battle as exhibit A) Why summer shrinks your overall window: you added all the stressors but never took anything off the plate The only real "shoulds" (the catechism and the law), and why most summer obligations are just social norms you're free to decline A gentler, more honest take on screen time, and why slower old shows actually help Instituting a quiet time, feeding and sleeping yourself, and why your anger is a stress response you can change EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – The intolerance of summer, and the window of tolerance from her book [03:00] – Expanding your tolerance for one stressor (the sunscreen battle) [07:00] – Your overall window, and how summer piles on without taking anything off [11:00] – Real shoulds versus social norms (you don't have to bake the birthday cake) [14:00] – A gentler take on screen time and slower shows [16:00] – Quiet time, self-care, and why anger is a changeable stress response LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: Catholic Mom Calm (Sterling's book, with the full "window of tolerance" section): https://amzn.to/4oKZRjU Calm Catholic Kids: https://calmcatholickids.com CONNECT WITH STERLING JAQUITH: Website: https://catholicmomcalm.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicmomcalm

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Calling all Catholic moms! Did you know it's possible to do this Catholic motherhood thing without losing your mind? Parenting these days is so hard because most of us are doing it without the tools we need. I'm Sterling Jaquith, a homeschool mom to six young kids, a business owner and I teach busy Catholic moms how to have more peace in their lives and homes. Each week on the Catholic Calm Mom podcast, I'll give you practical tools for calming yourself down, discerning what God wants you to do, and making rock-solid plans so life doesn't feel so overwhelming. If you're a Catholic mom, you're in the right place. Life is about to get so much better! And if you love the content of this podcast, check out all tools we offer at www.catholicmomcalm.com.

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  • Creator
    Sterling Jaquith
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    322
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    © Copyright 2023 Made For Greatness, LLC
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