Chat & Bother

Eva Wilson

Ready to start all the best conversations? Start right here with us on Chat & Bother. Are you tired of no one responding to your Tweets, Facebook posts, WhatsApp, or group chat messages? Do you start your day by chatting with friends on social media or checking the group chat for a great discussion? Eva does. Every morning she wakes up her husband Don (much too early for his liking) with pop culture, internet drama, nostalgia, and what's new, next, and "nah." Each week on Chat & Bother, Black, Gen X husband and wife conversation starters, Don and Eva discuss a question or topic that people are asking each other online. It could be something that you and your friends are already talking about, or it could be something that you should be talking about. chatandbother.substack.com

  1. Bites, the Bible, and a little Blue Magic?

    6D AGO

    Bites, the Bible, and a little Blue Magic?

    We told you we would talk about church one day! This chat with best-selling and award-winning author L. Michelle Smith did not disappoint. In this episode, we talked with L. Michelle Smith about our experiences with the Black Church, how it has influenced us personally and professionally, and how her new book, Call and Response: 10 Leadership Lessons from the Black Church, has helped leaders and aspiring leaders advance their professional goals. The book is available from all major outlets, including Amazon. 00:00 Sneak peek at the episode 00:44 Introduction 01:09 Guest Introduction: L. Michelle Smith 01:28 L. Michelle Smith's Book 02:18 L. Michelle Smith's Experience as an Executive and Personal Coach 03:33 L. Michelle Smith's Experience Speaking on Stage 04:09 Speaking Style and the Church 05:08 Acquiring Editor's Reaction to the Book Title 05:55 The Church Experience: Good and Bad 07:49 The Bus Story 09:06 Racism on the Corporate Ladder 10:01 Dealing with a Troublesome Colleague 12:46 Leadership Lessons: Perseverance and Accountability 13:20 HBCUs and Howard Law's Gospel Choir 14:23 Black Litigators and the Black Church 15:19 Call-and-Response in the Black Church 16:44 Conflict in the Church (Fighting Over Mama) 18:50 Exclusive Church Stories 23:56 Closing and Final Thoughts on the Book Thank you to the ‪DC Public Library for the space and equipment to record this podcast. About L. Michelle Smith: L. Michelle Smith is a bestselling, award-winning author, Fortune 100 C-Suite advisor, certified global executive and personal coach credentialed by the International Coaching Federation, and CEO/founder of No Silos Communications LLC, a media and consulting company that develops high-performing executive leaders. With more than 25 years as an elite strategic communicator at global agencies and at AT&T, she was named VP before 30, SVP before 40, and led her own agency as Chief Executive for nearly a decade. Through a positive psychology and neuroscience-informed approach, she transforms executives and organizations by fusing culture and applied sciences in leadership development. She is the author of No Thanks: 7 Ways to Say I’ll Just Include Myself (2nd edition), which received the Outstanding Book Award (2021) from the National Association of Black Journalists; Yes Please! 7 Ways to Say I’m Entitled to the C-Suite, listed by BLAVITY as one of “15 books by a Black woman that you should not miss”; and her forthcoming fourth book, Call & Response: 10 Leadership Lessons from the Black Church (Amistad/HarperCollins/JVL Media), set for release in winter 2026. She is also the creator, executive producer, and host of The Culture Soup Podcast®, heard in 70+ countries with 350+ episodes. A highly sought-after speaker featured in local, national, and international media, she serves on global arts and academic boards, including at Texas Christian University Bob Schieffer College of Communication. About Call and Response: In collaboration with JVL Media -- A captivating exploration of why many high-performing Black business leaders attribute their transformational leadership qualities to their experiences growing up in the Black Church and how we can foster these skills in younger generations despite waning church attendance.The Black church in the U.S. has long been a “one-stop shop” for developing Black leaders, teaching them many of the qualities required to lead effectively in today’s ultra-competitive, digital, and swiftly transforming corporate world. Many high-performing Black leaders benefited from their experiences growing up in this cultural institution steeped in rich history. Merging cultural study with applied neuroscience and tenets of positive psychology, L. Michelle Smith dissect how these qualities are demonstrated by leaders across industries, from resiliency to their sense of undeniable purpose, their ability to build community and collaborative environments, the delivery and language of their speaking style to their unique leadership flair. She reveals how this historic institution has served as a timeless wellspring of leadership development, empowerment, and cultural preservation and ultimately, is Black leaders’ “secret sauce.”Call & Response also explores whether the Black Church will be able to continue to ingrain these skills in future generations. Smith examines how cultural shifts have resulted in a decline in church attendance, how online attendance has risen since the Covid pandemic, and finally, how Black leaders may—or may not—be passing these traditions down to their children. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    26 min
  2. What Were the Most Important Lessons You Learned from 80s TV?

    FEB 9

    What Were the Most Important Lessons You Learned from 80s TV?

    Do you remember when everything from sitcoms to commercials to Saturday morning cartoons had some sort of lesson buried in it? We do! In this episode we talk about some of the fictional role models like Bill sitting on Capitol Hill and Smokey the bear, as well as several of our favorite sitcoms that were full of lessons. 00:00 Previously on Chat and Father 00:52 Welcome to Chat and Bother 01:20 Lessons from 80s TV for Gen X - Big Fun with the Wretched 02:01 ABC After School Specials 02:41 Smokey the Bear 02:58 McGruff the Crime Dog 03:19 The Indian with the Single Tear Commercial 03:57 "It's 10:00. Do you know where your kids are?" Commercials 04:26 Anti-Drug Commercials, referencing "This is your brain on drugs" 05:01 Starving Children in Africa Commercials and Child Sponsorship06:44 "Hankering for a Hunk of Cheese" 07:11 The Balanced Breakfast 08:18 Unbalanced Breakfasts on 80s/90s TV09:03 Schoolhouse Rock: "I'm Just a Bill" and "Conjunction Junction" 10:04 Public Service Announcements and the Ad Council 10:30 Sitcoms with Lessons - The Facts of Life 11:04 Shows with "Misbehaving" or "Mouthy" Children - Facts of Life, Different Strokes, Webster, Punky Brewster 12:52 The Gooch - Different Strokes 13:14 Eddie Murphy 14:10 Red Foxx and Whoopi Goldberg 14:49 The Lesson from Whoopi Goldberg's Special 16:07 Lessons from MacGyver 16:56 Gen X - The Perfect Generation? 17:02 G.I. Joe and Captain Planet1 7:30 He-Man and Cringer 19:47 Next Time on Chat and Bother Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    21 min
  3. Do only Black people do these things?

    FEB 2

    Do only Black people do these things?

    In this episode, we ask the question, "Black, white, everybody, or just me?" As we navigate these stressful times of political drama, division, and well - blatant racism - we thought we would see what little things we might have in common. You know, a starting place for us to have a laugh over the things that make us more the same than different. 00:00 Previously on Chat and Bother 01:12 Is it a Black thing, a white thing, an everybody thing, or just me? 01:50 Adding water to the dish soap 03:27 Using dish soap in the bathroom soap dispenser 04:26 Adding bleach to various things for various reasons 06:07 Keeping plastic bags, gift bags, basically all bags 08:29 The different sizes of towels 10:01 The idea that white people don't use washcloths 13:05 Having multiple things in the sink to wash dishes 16:01 Killing bugs with cleaning products 17:14 The special occasion items that go in a curio cabinet 19:20 Different types of clothes that you wear at home 24:38 Next time on Chat and Bother Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    26 min
  4. Legends, Lyrics & Lunchmeat of the 80s and 90s

    JAN 29 · BONUS

    Legends, Lyrics & Lunchmeat of the 80s and 90s

    If you ever look back at your childhood and think, “Wait… that was normal?” — this episode is for you. In this super-sized Chat and Bother episode, Eva and Don bundle four of your favorite conversations into one hilarious, nostalgic, and slightly unhinged trip down memory lane. From growing up without today’s essentials, to questionable song lyrics, to food that should’ve come with warning labels — this is a full-on Gen X reality check. Because let’s be honest… how did we survive? 0:00 Welcome to the Chat and Bother Podcast 1:52 Carob: The "Fake Chocolate" 3:27 Licorice 4:33 Whoppers and Malted Milk Balls 5:08 Steak-umm: A Controversial Snack 7:02 Health Lies in the 80s: Sizzlean 8:08 Pepperidge Farm Broccoli and Cheese Pastries 11:00 SlimFast Shakes 13:10 Jell-O Pudding Pops 17:43 Stalking in Music1 9:43 Underage Dating in Music 20:18 Destroying Possessions in Music 21:59 Cheating in Music 26:37 Rick James and Inappropriate Themes 32:16 Pressure to Follow Parents' Careers 34:04 Eva Works for Her Mom 37:41 Don Works for His Dad 40:55 The Career of Composer John Williams 42:20 Joseph Williams, Son of John Williams 44:11 Gummy Bears Theme Song 45:25 Nepotism in Hollywood 49:37 Things We Didn't Have Growing Up 51:17 The Rise of Personal Water Bottles 52:40 Hand Sanitizer and Clorox Wipes 54:21 Foaming Soap Theory 55:26 Band-Aids That Match Brown Skin Tones 56:52 Neck Pillows for Travel 57:48 TV After Midnight Episode 8 - We Grew Up Without These Things and Honestly… How Did We Survive? - https://youtu.be/W9VhTxexFXw No Google. No Uber. No water bottles with emotional support handles. We break down the modern “must-haves” we lived without — and how we somehow made it. Episode 7 - What Happens When the People Who Raised You Are Legends? - https://youtu.be/VnMbcEtGjLw The pressure of living up to iconic parents, family expectations, and the weight of being “so-and-so’s kid.” Eva and Don unpack what it’s like when your parents’ reputations walk into the room before you do. Episode 6 - “Backstage, Underage…” Why Didn’t We Question These Lyrics? - https://youtu.be/GDuOQJzuQZI We revisit the songs we screamed at the top of our lungs… and realize how wild, creepy, and problematic some of them really were. Stalking, underage references, and red flags we all ignored. Episode 5 - Sizzlean, Steak-umms, SlimFast & More Fabulous Foods from the 80s - https://youtu.be/GH3ExJO3LWI The microwave meals, diet culture, and mystery meat that raised us. If it came in a box, pouch, or can — we probably ate it. No questions asked. This super episode is funny, nostalgic, honest, and just messy enough to feel like a group chat with your favorite people. It’s the perfect reminder that we didn’t just grow up — we survived. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram – @chatandbother Facebook Page – @chatandbother YouTube – @chatandbother Twitter – @chatandbother TikTok – @chatandbother Threads – @chatandbother Email List – http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    1h 8m
  5. We Grew Up Without These Things and Honestly… How Did We Survive?

    JAN 26

    We Grew Up Without These Things and Honestly… How Did We Survive?

    In this episode of Chat and Bother, Eva and Don compare the world they grew up in to the one we can’t imagine living without today. From walking around without water bottles to surviving long road trips and flights with no neck pillows, they break down just how much daily life has changed, and how quickly we got spoiled by convenience. 0:00 Previously on Chat and Bother 0:37 Welcome to Chat and Bother 0:59 Things We Didn't Have Growing Up 1:19 Water and Water Bottles 3:59 Hand Sanitizer and Wipes 5:38 Foaming Soap 6:45 Band-Aids that Match Skin Tones 8:12 Neck Pillows 9:05 TV after Midnight 9:54 Taxis and Uber 10:42 Google and Encyclopedias 13:19 Cable and Bootlegging Videos 15:00 The Evolution of TV and Streaming 17:49 Next Time on Chat and Bother The conversation jumps from simple upgrades to full-on lifestyle shifts. They talk about how Google replaced encyclopedias, how Uber made getting around effortless, and how things like reusable water bottles went from nonexistent to absolutely essential. Along the way, they reflect on what it meant to be bored, lost, thirsty, or uncomfortable, and how those experiences shaped a generation that had to “figure it out.” As always, the heart of the show is the question: Did these changes make life better, or did they just make us less patient? Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    19 min
  6. What happens when the people who raised you are legends?

    JAN 19

    What happens when the people who raised you are legends?

    In this episode of Chat and Bother, Eva and Don discuss the pressure of growing up in the shadow of your parents’ success — whether that success comes from family reputation, career expectations, or worldwide fame. 00:00 Previously on Chat and Bother 00:40 Welcome to Chat and Bother 01:13 Living up to Your Parents’ Legend 02:18 Not Following in Parents’ Footsteps 03:59 Gender Expectations 04:31 Growing up as a Doctor’s Child 07:27 Growing up as a Plumber’s Child 09:31 Pressure on Celebrity Kids 10:07 Will Smith’s Kids 10:52 John Williams’ Resume 12:38 Joseph Williams’ Career (John Williams’ Son) 13:58 Nepotism 14:32 The Gummy Bears Theme Song 18:03 LeBron James’ Son 18:48 Magic Johnson and Steve Harvey’s Kids 19:45 Next Time on Chat and Bother They talk about how early we’re labeled, how often we’re pushed toward paths we didn’t choose, and how hard it can be to figure out who you really are when everyone already has a version of you in their head. From everyday families to celebrity dynasties, the conversation explores: - The weight of inherited expectations - Why some kids feel trapped by their parents’ success - How fame multiplies pressure - The difference between honoring a legacy and losing yourself to it - Why carving your own identity is harder than it looks Eva and Don compare their own upbringings with the public scrutiny faced by the children of famous icons, and unpack what it means to grow up with a name that comes with built-in assumptions. As always, Chat and Bother isn’t here to give you all the answers — it’s here to start the conversation. Were you expected to become someone specific? Did your family’s history shape your future? Did you break away and build your own path? Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram – @chatandbother Facebook Page – @chatandbother YouTube – @chatandbother Twitter – @chatandbother TikTok – @chatandbother Threads – @chatandbother Email List – http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Official Website - ChatandBother.com Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    21 min
  7. "Backstage, underage..." Why didn't we question these lyrics?

    JAN 12

    "Backstage, underage..." Why didn't we question these lyrics?

    In this episode of Chat and Bother, Don and Eva talk about the realization that a lot of the music they grew up loving does not age well when you actually listen to the lyrics as an adult. It is mind-blowing how popular music from the ’80s, ’90s, and early 2000s often normalized behavior that now feels creepy. How did themes like objectification, stalking, cheating, property destruction, and blurred lines around age and consent get treated as catchy, humorous, or romantic? 🎵 Songs and Artists Discussed “You Remind Me of Something” – R. Kelly “Private Eyes” – Daryl Hall & John Oates “Do Me!” – Bell Biv DeVoe “Bust Your Windows” – Jazmine Sullivan “O.P.P.” – Naughty by Nature “It Wasn’t Me” – Shaggy Confessions – Usher “Super Freak” - Rick James Don and Eva also reflect on how parenthood, particularly having a daughter, has reshaped how they hear the music of their youth. They discuss West Coast rap from artists like Too Short, Eazy-E, and The Dogg Pound, noting how difficult it is to find songs from that era that feel appropriate for children today. 00:00 Intro 01:55 Thong Song – Sisquo 02:55 You Remind Me of Something – R. Kelly 03:49 Somebody’s Watching Me – Rockwell (feat. Michael Jackson) 04:02 Private Eyes – Daryl Hall & John Oates 04:15 Love You I Do / And I Am Telling You I’m Not Going – Dreamgirls Original Broadway Cast (Jennifer Holliday) 05:18 Do Me – Bell Biv DeVoe 05:58 Bust Your Windows – Jazmine Sullivan 07:34 O.P.P. – Naughty by Nature 08:15 It Wasn’t Me – Shaggy (feat. RikRok) 08:26 Confessions Part II – Usher 08:52 It Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None) – Snoop Dogg (feat. Nate Dogg, Warren G & Kurupt) 09:34 The Humpty Dance – Digital Underground 09:42 Do What You Like – Digital Underground 10:02 Dear Mama – 2Pac 10:03 Brenda’s Got a Baby – 2Pac 10:16 Hail Mary – 2Pac 10:49 Jackin’ for Beats – Ice Cube 12:19 Give It to Me Baby – Rick James 12:32 Mary Jane – Rick James 13:33 Super Freak – Rick James 14:52 White Horse - Laid Back Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Website - ChatandBother.com Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit chatandbother.substack.com

    17 min
5
out of 5
15 Ratings

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Ready to start all the best conversations? Start right here with us on Chat & Bother. Are you tired of no one responding to your Tweets, Facebook posts, WhatsApp, or group chat messages? Do you start your day by chatting with friends on social media or checking the group chat for a great discussion? Eva does. Every morning she wakes up her husband Don (much too early for his liking) with pop culture, internet drama, nostalgia, and what's new, next, and "nah." Each week on Chat & Bother, Black, Gen X husband and wife conversation starters, Don and Eva discuss a question or topic that people are asking each other online. It could be something that you and your friends are already talking about, or it could be something that you should be talking about. chatandbother.substack.com