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Shilpa Cacho
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This is the podcast for women who’ve built the career, the income, the independence but still want the husband, the babies, the partnership, and the emotional safety. Hosted by international love coach Shilpa Cacho, this show exposes the patterns, fears, and survival mechanisms that keep powerhouse women single, stuck, or dating emotionally unavailable men. You'll learn how to: • Shift from anxious or avoidant patterns into secure, grounded confidence • Become the woman that high-caliber masculine men commit to • Open your body, heart, and nervous system to real love • Date with clarity, emotional maturity, and self-trust • Attract your SoulHusband™ the man who leads, chooses, and cherishes you Expect real talk, science-backed frameworks, feminine embodiment, spiritual revelation, and the occasional “stop sabotaging your own love life” moment. This is where successful women finally stop intimidating men and start inspiring devotion. Connect with Shilpa:Instagram: @ShilpaCachoHello@shilpacacho.com

  1. 12/19/2025

    You do need a man

    “I don’t need a man, I just want one.”  It sounds empowering… but what if it’s actually another layer of protection? In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho unpacks the cultural mantra of not needing a man and shares why, as a healed, self-loving woman, it’s actually safe to say: “I do need a good man, not to complete me, but to expand me.” Through her own story of divorce, healing, and remarrying, plus honest reflections about her current marriage, Shilpa explores: The hidden fear and self-protection behind “I don’t need a man”The difference between needing a man from wounding and desperation vs needing a man from wholeness and desireHow a healthy, masculine partner deepens your softness, joy, safety, and freedomWhy feminine women feel different (and more themselves) when they’re with a truly protective, present manThe impact of provision, emotional leadership, and masculine protection on your nervous systemHow old stories from your past (and even your first marriage) can make nurturing, domestic roles feel like obligation instead of devotionReal-life examples, including Shilpa’s sister who married in her 40s and softened into a happier, more feminine version of herselfThis episode is a loving permission slip to admit you do want — and yes, in many ways need — a man who is your partner, protector, and soulmate… not because you’re incomplete, but because you were never meant to do life alone. If you’re ready to call in your own Soul Husband and learn how to soften without losing yourself, this conversation will challenge your beliefs, melt your defenses, and open your heart to a new way of seeing love. Not having luck on dating apps? Revamp your dating app profile and learn how to message men, with my course Spicy profile Makeover Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    14 min

  2. 12/12/2025

    Dating in Your 30s as a High-Achieving Woman

    Dating in your 30s as a high-achieving woman doesn’t have to be a cycle of bad first dates, ghosting, and “men are trash” group chats. In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down why dating apps aren’t the real problem, how achievement has conditioned you to treat dating like a performance review, and what actually shifts when you regulate your nervous system and step into your feminine energy. You’ll learn how to: Stop blaming dating apps and start owning your patterns in loveDate with intention in your 30s without slipping into control, overthinking, or pedestal-ing menAttract emotionally available, masculine men while staying powerful and softTell the difference between high standards and protection mechanismsDate multiple men, pace intimacy, and spot red/green flags with clarityHold space for a man’s emotions instead of shutting down or trying to fix himShilpa also shares her story of going from divorce to meeting and marrying her husband within 19 months, and how nervous system work, feminine communication, and identity upgrades helped her create a marriage that lasts. 💌 If you’re struggling specifically with dating apps, check out Spicy Profile Makeover to upgrade your profile, your energy, and attract commitment-ready men who are on your level. Ready to attract love & want support?: Book a call with me Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    42 min

  3. 12/05/2025

    Is it Love or Trauma Bonding?

    Love & Feminine Embodiment Mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern dating: “Do I actually know what love feels like… or have I only experienced trauma bonding?” Shilpa shares a raw, personal story about a past relationship she once labeled “soul-deep love”  and how she later realized it was pure trauma bonding fueled by chaos, shame, childhood wounds, and nervous system addiction. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: What trauma bonding actually is (beyond toxicity or dramatic fights)Why your body may confuse survival with connectionHow chaotic relationships activate your nervous system… and feel like chemistryWhy you crave inconsistent men who pull awayWhy “nice,” consistent men feel “boring” or “no spark”How trauma bonding shows up in high-achieving, emotionally intelligent womenThe subtle ways women manipulate, chase, or abandon themselves for loveWhat real, healthy love actually feels like in your bodyHow to know if your attraction is trauma or truthWhat healing looks like (nervous system regulation, self-worth, feminine communication)This episode is for you if: you’ve repeated painful patterns in datingyou’ve loved men who couldn’t choose youyou’re confused between chemistry and connectionyou’re healing after divorce or heartbreakyou want marriage, family, and real emotional safetyyou want to understand why you’re attracted to the wrong menIf you realized you've never truly experienced healthy love, it is NOT too late.  Your patterns can be healed.  Your nervous system can shift.  You can attract a man who loves you with devotion, consistency, and clarity. Work with Shilpa: ✨ Spicy Queen Academy — heal your heart, regulate your nervous system, rebuild self-worth, and end old patterns for good.  💍 Attract Your SoulHusband — for the woman ready for her forever love Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    26 min

  4. 11/24/2025

    Do powerful women Intimidate Men?

    This episode breaks down one of the most damaging myths high-achieving women believe about dating: “I intimidate men.” Relationship mentor and feminine embodiment coach Shilpa Cacho exposes why this belief keeps powerful, intelligent, successful women single and how it’s rooted not in truth, but in fear, protection, and nervous system programming. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why your success doesn’t actually intimidate healthy masculine menHow high-achieving women unknowingly lead with armor, not authenticityThe difference between embodied feminine power vs. achievement-based identityWhy you keep attracting insecure or emotionally unavailable menThe mind-body-nervous system patterns that block lasting loveHow to keep your power and open your heart without losing yourselfWhat healthy masculine men are truly drawn toWhy long-term mentorship is required to break lifelong dating patternsIf you’re a successful woman in your 30s or 40s who wants marriage, partnership, and family but you’re tired of dating on repeat, this episode will shift everything you thought you knew about love. Links: 🔥 Black Friday Offers (limited time) ✨ Spicy Queen Academy — for healing, confidence, and self-worth 💍 Attract Your SoulHusband — for high-achieving women ready for real love in 2026 📞 Book a consult call 📩 DM Shilpa on Instagram with questions Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    29 min

  5. 11/13/2025

    Stop Calling Men Emotionally Unavailable: The Real Reason He Won’t Open Up to You.

    In this episode, about attraction when you're in a relationship and how chemistry doesn't always mean he's the one for you.   Shilpa Cacho breaks down: Why feeling instant chemistry with someone  doesn’t mean he’s your soulmateHow attraction patterns are often rooted in shared wounds and old validation loops, not real compatibilityThe real reason so many women experience men as “emotionally unavailable”How your own discomfort with emotions can make you an unsafe place for a man to open his heartWhat it actually looks like to be a feminine leader of emotional depth in your relationshipHow Shilpa went from lying and cheating in her first marriage to practicing radical transparency with her now-husband, so much so that she tells him everything, including feeling attracted to another manIf you’ve ever: Been attracted to someone else while in a relationship and felt shame about itChased chemistry, only to end up in situationships, hot-and-cold dynamics, or men who won’t commitWanted an emotionally available man, but shut down, overreact, or mother him when he finally shows feelingsCraved a soul-deep, emotionally safe marriage where both of you can bring your full truth……this episode will help you see attraction, emotions, and emotional safety in a completely new way. Shilpa shows you how to: Get curious instead of spiraling when you feel a strong pull toward someoneIdentify when chemistry is really a trauma pattern trying to replay itselfBecome a woman who is emotionally available to herself first—so healthy, emotionally open men actually feel safe with youBuild (or rebuild) a relationship rooted in truth, transparency, and soul-level intimacy🔗 If you’re ready to stop repeating the same attraction patterns and start creating sacred, emotionally safe love that lasts, connect with Shilpa on Instagram and join her email list for upcoming opportunities to work with her. Ready to end situaitonships for good? Grab situationship detox https://www.shilpacacho.com/offers/Xx2o46mc/checkout Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    44 min

  6. 10/17/2025

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? How to Know When It’s Time to Leave or Heal Your Relationship

    Are you stuck in the painful in-between wondering if you should stay in your relationship or finally walk away? In this episode, Love Coach Shilpa Cacho sits down with Valerie, an anxious-attachment and somatic healing expert, to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: “Am I giving up too soon or abandoning myself by staying?” Together, they explore:  💔 The difference between fear-based staying vs. love-based choosing 💫 How to tell if your relationship is toxic, trauma-bonded, or simply unhealed 🧠 Why your nervous system and attachment style keep you stuck in confusion 🌿 The role of somatic work and nervous system regulation in making clear decisions 🔥 How to rebuild self-trust, safety, and intuition after years of self-abandonment 💡 Questions to ask before leaving and what emotional healing really looks like on the other side If you’ve ever replayed the good times while ignoring red flags, stayed hoping they’ll change, or feared starting over, this conversation will help you reconnect to your truth and make the decision from grounded self-trust, not survival. Connect with Val, anxious attachment expert: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Keywords: should I stay or go, leaving a relationship, anxious attachment, toxic relationship, somatic healing, trauma bond, self-trust, nervous system regulation, emotional healing, Shilpa Cacho podcast, relationship advice, marriage clarity Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    43 min

  7. 10/03/2025

    From Divorce Papers to Dream Man in 19 Months

    Divorced, heartbroken, and convinced marriage might not be for her, Shilpa moved across the country—and 19 months after her divorce papers were signed, she married her Soulhusband™: a man 8 years younger, from a different culture, after 10 months of long-distance. In this intimate origin story, Shilpa shares the pivotal moments that changed everything: the airport-offer first date, the screenshot-oops text, the family “intervention,” the elopement, and the phone call where she led with truth instead of fear. You’ll hear how nervous system regulation, feminine leadership, and identity-level belief work transformed conflict from a breakup trigger into a doorway to deeper intimacy. If you’re a divorced or high-achieving woman who wonders whether real, emotionally available love is possible for you, this episode gives you the roadmap. Work with Shilpa: DM “Soulhusband” on IG for Attract Your Soulhusband or click here for details: https://www.shilpacacho.com/attractyoursoulhusband Try Femme Magnetism ($33) for immediate energetic shifts & Become Magnetic to masculine attention: https://shilpacacho.mykajabi.com/offers/KNaU7D2h/checkout Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    46 min

  8. 09/26/2025

    Why People Judge You (and What It Teaches About Love & Self-Worth)

    In this powerful episode, Shilpa Cacho unpacks one of the deepest fears that keeps women small: the fear of being judged, misunderstood, or even hated when you allow yourself to be truly seen. She shares her personal story of being shunned after divorce, investing in a mentor who was out of alignment, and what studying public figures taught her about projection, opinions, and perception. Through these lessons, Shilpa reveals how our own wounds and biases shape how we see others and how this same dynamic plays out in dating, love, and relationships. Inside you’ll discover: Why people project their wounds onto you (and why it’s never about you). How fear of being disliked holds women back from love and leadership. The survival-based lens vs. conscious awareness in relationships. Why showing up with curiosity instead of judgment is the key to intimacy. How hiding parts of yourself blocks deep, soul-level love. Whether you’re navigating online dating, stepping into feminine magnetism, or rising as a leader, this episode will help you heal your relationship with judgment, reclaim your self-worth, and embody the woman who is safe to be fully seen and deeply loved. ✨ Plus, Shilpa shares details of her Femme Magnetism Training ($33), a 3-step audio reset designed to help women instantly shift how men treat them, embody feminine softness without losing power, and attract Queen treatment from men. Grab it Here: https://www.shilpacacho.com/offers/KNaU7D2h/checkout Follow me on IG: @Shilpacacho https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/ Ready for love? Book a Call: https://calendly.com/shilpacacho/30-min-welcome-call?month=2025-12

    26 min
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This is the podcast for women who’ve built the career, the income, the independence but still want the husband, the babies, the partnership, and the emotional safety. Hosted by international love coach Shilpa Cacho, this show exposes the patterns, fears, and survival mechanisms that keep powerhouse women single, stuck, or dating emotionally unavailable men. You'll learn how to: • Shift from anxious or avoidant patterns into secure, grounded confidence • Become the woman that high-caliber masculine men commit to • Open your body, heart, and nervous system to real love • Date with clarity, emotional maturity, and self-trust • Attract your SoulHusband™ the man who leads, chooses, and cherishes you Expect real talk, science-backed frameworks, feminine embodiment, spiritual revelation, and the occasional “stop sabotaging your own love life” moment. This is where successful women finally stop intimidating men and start inspiring devotion. Connect with Shilpa:Instagram: @ShilpaCachoHello@shilpacacho.com

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  • Creator
    Shilpa Cacho
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    66
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Duh, Bitch! You're Powerful
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