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This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

Childless not by Choice Civilla M. Morgan

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This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

    Who Would Steal a Baby?

    Who Would Steal a Baby?

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 128 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life.  
    I also welcome you if you are not childless not by choice. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thank you for tuning in.  
     
    Correction:
    I would like to issue a correction: 
     
    In episode 125--Are We Being Good Ancestors, the January 2021 episode; I made the comment that ‘only in America’, in reference to Kamala Harris becoming the first woman in such a high leadership role. I should have specified that for the first time in American history, Kamala Harris is the first woman to reach that level of leadership, Vice President of The United States of America, as there are obviously quite a few women running countries all over the world. 
    A listener brought that to my attention and even sent me a really cool video highlighting these wonderful female world leaders. 
    My apologies for the misspeak, and be sure to check out the really cool video. I watched it twice! 
    I’ve also put a PEW Research article link here in the show notes, that discusses amongst other things, childless women, and women in leadership roles. It’s a great article.  

    Body of episode content:
    WARNING: This episode may cause all types of triggers. I mean just look at the title. So please listen in a safe place. 
    In fact, I will give you some time to hit the pause button or to get to a safe place, by telling you about my new habit. 
    So, I was Googling what we, the general human beings, celebrate in the month of April, and well, it’s a lot. Some things are like, really? Others are quite serious: 
    Here are some examples:
    Fresh Florida Tomato Month National Fresh Celery Month National Soft Pretzel Month National Straw Hat Month  Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Month National Autism Awareness Month Stress Awareness Month Black Women's History Month  Celebrate Diversity Month National Arab American Heritage Month Sexual Assault Awareness Month  Sexually Transmitted Infections Awareness Month There are tons more, but I wanted to give you a list from the mundane to the quite serious. What stood out for me though, was National Take a Chance Day. I want to ask you to take a chance. It’s April, the beginning of the second quarter of 2021. Things are still iffy with the pandemic, but our governments are trying. And remember, none of us have been down this road before. We are all trying to figure things out. But even so, I believe there is something you can take a chance on. Why not start that book, that newsletter, a new exercise regimen, a food you have never had before. Talking to that person you are crushing on, or even talking to someone, a co-worker, someone you attend religious services with, who does not share your skin color or race. 
    There are so many things we can take a chance on, that really do not include too much risk. What’s the worst that could happen? We may find that we don’t like that food we’ve always wanted to try, although it may have been the way it was prepared.
    We may find that the person we were crushing on felt the same about us, or that maybe they are not a good fit after talking to them.
    We may find that starting that book or newsletter was easier than we thought. Or that co-worker or fellow churchgoer is really nice, or maybe not. But how would we know if we don’t take a chance? So, National Take a Chance Day is April 23rd. And maybe you’re listening after the 23rd, but I say take that chance. If you decide to, let me know! Now, onto our story. 
    Remember, this may be a tough one.      
    You may ask, ‘why does she talk about mental health so much?’ But the

    • 32 min
    My Conversation with Mrs. Pennsylvania 2020, Mrs. Marilisa Beatty

    My Conversation with Mrs. Pennsylvania 2020, Mrs. Marilisa Beatty

    Hello, and welcome to episode 127 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life. 
    I also welcome you if you are not childless not by choice. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thank you for tuning in. 
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who send me money every month.  My Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron and would like to join in, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution for as little as $5.00 per month! No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you, so be sure to leave your address. It is secure on the Patreon platform.  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!


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    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
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    Guest Bio: 
    Marilisa Beatty is the current Mrs. Pennsylvania America 2020.  She was crowned in August of 2020 and will be competing for the title of Mrs. America.  Marilisa holds an M.A. in Strategic Communication from Villanova University. She is the CEO and Principal of Key Qualitative, Inc., and the Key Messages App - both businesses specializing in global, qualitative research.  
    Marilisa is highly active in her community and is an advocate for fellow infertile and childless women to share their many gifts with the world through community service.  
    As Mrs. Pennsylvania, Marilisa will dedicate the next year to continuing her service work, and promoting her platform: "Bigger than Infertility". In the coming months, she will be spearheading a nation-wide volunteer service hours drive within the childless and infertile community, to spread the message of living a life that is "Bigger than Infertility", while helping others in the world around us, and promoting the fact that WE ARE WORTHY!  
    For more information on Marilisa, her platform, or volunteer hours drive as that project develops, you can find her on Instagram @mrs.pennsylvaniaamerica_2020. 
    Welcome to the show Marilisa, it is so wonderful to introduce you to the childless not by choice community! 
     
    How did you get into the world of pageantry? Is that a word? Take us into that world a little.  Dumplin--NFLX  
    What are the similarities and differences between Miss and Mrs?
    Tell us about Key Qualitative Inc. and the Key Messages App, they both sound intriguing? Speaking of apps, tell us about that app you signed up for that time?
    So one day you and your husband moved from PA to CO site unseen? How did that come about? (Once they found out, she and her husband, that they could not have children, they had to reinvent themselves.)
    Tell us about your platform: Bigger than infertility?  
     
    Community Service hours drive created out of her Bigger than Infertility platform.   
    So, any community service counts listeners!  Marilisa works a lot with homeless people, homeless women, in particular, re-introducing back into home life.  What is your passion, listener?   
    Links to check out:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bjhy2a-jhOY
    Volunteermatch.com
    Google volunteer op

    • 38 min
    Episode 126--She I dare not Name, A Spinster’s Meditation on Life, My Conversation with Author Donna Ward

    Episode 126--She I dare not Name, A Spinster’s Meditation on Life, My Conversation with Author Donna Ward

    Hello, and welcome to episode 126 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life. I also welcome you if you are not childless not by choice. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thank you for tuning in.
    What is today’s show about?
    Well, today we have a guest! I am so excited! But before I introduce her to you, I want to say a big thank you to my patrons!
    Patreon Contributors: Thank you for your monthly financial contributions to the platform. If you are not yet a patron, join the Patreon family of monthly contributors, by visiting patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice, and set up your monthly contribution for as little as $5.00 per month! No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    And if you prefer to give a one-time gift via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. Either way, your contributions go toward the monthly maintenance fees of this podcast. Thank you!


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    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
    So, our guest!
    Intro:
    Donna Ward is a writer, editor, and publisher with qualifications in Classics, Economics, and Social Work. She worked in policy development, welfare management, and community development before establishing her private practice which offered individual and group psychotherapy, and an organizational consultancy offering, strategic planning, conflict resolution, research, and report writing. In her retirement, she established the literary journal, indigo, and the micro-press Inkerman & Blunt. Her prose has appeared nationally and internationally including in the Griffith Review, Huffington Post, and The Big Issue. Her memoir, She I Dare Not Name: A Spinster’s Meditations on Life is available now. 
    And that is what we are going to discuss today, She I Dare Not Name, A Spinster’s Meditations on Life’
    Body of episode content:
    Welcome, Donna Ward! Thank you for joining us!
    I kept running your title through my mind, why ‘she I dare not name’? Who is she?
     
    I thought about the organization Aging Without Children, are you familiar with them? I’ve put a link in the show notes. 
    So, spinster...what feedback if any, did you get on the use of that word? Is it almost like a curse word?
     
    ‘I write to shatter the stereotype that shadows me in a singular narrative, a narrative that writes me out of my own society.’ Whoa! That was deep! I guess that is pretty much like the rude commentary and questions we get from friends, family, and strangers alike right?
     
    I read a review by Shelley  McInnis. Have you read it? I put a link in the show notes. 
     
    Could you read us a portion of an essay?
     
    What can the woman, or the man, who is enduring a particular type of loneliness, deep loneliness that only someone who never married or had children would understand, do to deal with it when they see it coming?
     
    Where can we find your book and what is your contact information? 
       
    Links of note:
    https://www.awwoc.org/
    https://newtownreviewofbooks.com.au/donna-ward-she-i-dare-not-name-a-spinsters-meditations-on-life-reviewed-by-shelley-mcinnis/
    https://www.thecut.com/2016/09/25-famous-women-on-being-alone.html
    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/03/30/7-women-who-

    • 48 min
    Are We Being Good Ancestors?

    Are We Being Good Ancestors?

    Hello, and welcome to episode 125  of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you that you can live a joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, life. 
    I also welcome you if you are not childless not by choice. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thank you for tuning in.  
    Well, it’s still January as of this recording, so Happy New Year! Happy 2021! If you’re here in The US, let’s just say we’ve already gotten off to a pretty rocky start, but it has also been a quite historic start as well. 
    It would be disingenuous at episode 125, to pretend we have not had some sort of relationship the past five years. 
    You have listened to me through the loss of my first podcast producer. It was a shocker as it came without warning. I had to ask a mutual friend, believe it or not, to edit the episode that was due. At that time I had no clue how to edit an episode. Now I have much more insight and knowledge on how to edit but I would still rather pay someone else to do it.
    You have listened as I talked about the loss of my mom and how during the time of her illness I went from two episodes per month to one, which is where we are now.  And where I believe we will be for the foreseeable future as I continue to care for my dad and maintain all of the other things I have on my plate. You listened to me talk about how much I miss her and how I felt some in the healthcare community failed her. Thanks for listening.  
    So, that rocky start I was talking about: I cannot begin to tell you how utterly angry, dismayed, shocked, and scared I was. All of those emotions wrapped up into one. I could not believe what I was seeing when Americans stormed their own country’s capital building chanting death to certain leaders. I posted on my Facebook page that day: 
    ‘Too often we don’t know what we have until it’s gone, taken away, given away.’  
    I watched the insurrectionists try to give away the last 240 years and it broke my heart.  My deepest condolences to the family of the police officer that was murdered. My deepest thanks are added to the millions who watched that handful of police officers try to protect the country’s seat of power.  
    And the historic start: The first woman, a woman of color became a national leader in America. Her father is Jamaican, and her mother was Indian--both immigrants. Only in America folks! I pray for the safety of our new president and new vice president daily. 
    I pray that even though there are some that want to see them fail on an epic level, there are more of us that are for them than there are against them. 
    I have to tell you though, that I also prayed for our previous president. He needed prayer. This may not be a popular stance with many, but as a Believer, it is mandated that I do so. See the link in the show notes for proof.
    That is all I will say about all of the above. But you know what? It ties in well with today’s subject matter. 
    Before we move into today’s subject matter, two things: the first episode of 2021 was supposed to be my interview with Mrs. Pennsylvania 2020, except I um, messed up on the recording and did not know until my podcast producer went to record it. Totally my fault. So that interview has been rescheduled and will be airing hopefully in March. Thank you for your patience! 
     
    And 
     
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who send me money every month.  My Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron and would like to join in, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution for as little as $5.00 per

    • 24 min
    Imposter Syndrome and Mental Health

    Imposter Syndrome and Mental Health

    Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Childless not by Choice Podcast, where my mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world. Civilla Morgan here. I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we did not have the children we so wanted. I also welcome you even if you do not fit the demographic. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thanks for tuning in.  Welcome to episode 124! Imposter Syndrome! 
    Before we get into the episode...
    Patreon Contributors: I would like to thank my patrons for their monthly financial contributions to the platform. To join the Patreon family of monthly contributors, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice, and set up your monthly contribution for as little as $5.00 per month! No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. Either way, your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Your financial gifts go toward paying my podcast producer, paying my podcast hosting fees, buying ads on social media, and all things podcast-related.  Every dollar helps. If this podcast has helped you, help me help someone else which is what happens when someone sees an ad or hears an episode.    


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    Questions or comments? Contact me at:  
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.
     
    Body of episode content:
     
    Feeling like an imposter when we do life as CNBC women: I got this list from zencare.co Extreme lack of self-confidence. Feelings of inadequacy. Constant comparison to other people. Anxiety. Self-doubt. Distrust in one's own intuition and capabilities. Negative self-talk. Dwelling on the past.  
    So...
    When do you most feel like an imposter:
    When attending an event and immediately feeling like an imposter when all of the women start talking about their kids.
    At work when a co-worker visits the office with her newborn. You wish you had a way of slipping out without being noticed, just like an imposter would do.   
    When you are the CEO of a company or the Prime Minister of a country, and another woman says you cannot lead because you have no real investment in the future of the company/country.  
    When your siblings show up with their kids and well…
    When people assume you have children and they make commentary such as ‘you wouldn’t want that to happen to your kids would you?’  
     
    When someone says ‘you don’t have kids so you won’t understand’.
     
     
    Where do you belong as a CNBC woman?
    Anyplace you want to be. Anyplace you worked hard to be. At any table, you feel you belong.   
     
    How we should deal with imposter syndrome and gain the confidence we deserve:  
    Gain confidence by joining a group, a community, of people who are in your same boat. Stop comparing your life to other’s lives.  Everyone is on their own journey.  Depending on where you are in your childless not by choice journey, you can feel anxious and doubtful about where your journey leads. I won’t lie to you, it can seem scary. No one knows what the future holds, and a future without children may seem scary and lonely…but remember, your future is what you make it. We’ve talked about this before, remember, there is no guarantee that if you had had children that you would have someone to check in on you, to care for you. It would have been a 50/50

    • 35 min
    I'm going on hiatus, stop by for details!

    I'm going on hiatus, stop by for details!

    Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Childless not by Choice Podcast, where my mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world. Civilla Morgan here. I am spreading the great news that we can live a joyful, relevant, and fulfilled life, although we did not have the children we so wanted. I also welcome you even if you do not fit the demographic. Maybe you did not want children, maybe you have children. Thanks for tuning in.  Welcome to episode 123.
     Patreon Contributors: I would also like to thank my patrons for their monthly financial contributions to the platform. If you would like to join the Patreon family of monthly contributors, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice, and set up your monthly contribution for as little as $5.00 per month! No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    And if you prefer to give a one time gift via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. Either way, your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!


     
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    Today's Show: 
    Well, let’s talk about a few things, get caught up, and all that good stuff, and be sure to listen to some words of encouragement I want you to hold onto.  And then I’ll see you in December! 
    Reminder, I am on hiatus October and November. No new episodes. But there are 123 episodes including this one, in the library. Go to the website, www.childlessnotbychoice.net, or your favorite podcast player app. You know the drill! 
    And, remember the August newsletter is out. Be sure to check it out. Going forward, there will be a newsletter every quarter starting in January.  
    Another way to stay in touch is through the Facebook group, and through the Community group on the website. I will be in both groups from time to time throughout my hiatus.  Come on in and join us for conversation. 
    By the way, I will be having a Zoom call in September. The link will be posted in the Facebook group. 
    Other places you can find me include Twitter, @civilla1, LinkedIn, and Pinterest. I love Pinterest you all.  It’s one of my favorite places to be.  
    Speaking of the Facebook group, the Childless not by Choice with Civilla Morgan Facebook group, I took a number of episodes from the podcast library and segmented them by subject matter.  Maybe there is a subject matter you want to know more about? Check out the units!
    So there you are. I won’t completely dis

    • 33 min

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