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This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

Childless not by Choice Civilla M. Morgan

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This podcast is about the childless not by choice demographic on a global level. If like me, you are childless not by choice, this podcast, my platform, is a place for you to find community and understanding.

Childless not by choice women and men can many times be misunderstood or ignored by society, and I want to change that.
I invite everyone to listen and to realize we are not all living the same lives. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the fact that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace.

    Episode162-Why Won't They Listen?

    Episode162-Why Won't They Listen?

    Hello, and welcome to episode 162 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
    Why Won't They Listen?
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.



    Body of episode:
     
    HELLO EVERYONE WELCOME TO EPISODE 162! THIS IS A SPECIAL LIVE RECORDING AND I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU TO HEAR IT.  AS SOON AS I HEARD IT WAS HAPPENING I BECAME EXCITED BECAUSE THE ISSUES SURROUNDING HEALTHCARE AND PEOPLE OF COLOR IS SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN ON MY MIND FOR QUITE SOME TIME.
      
    I MEAN QUITE SOME TIME AS IN YEARS: SINCE MY HYSTERECTOMY. 
    I WILL BE TALKING MORE ABOUT MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCES NEXT EPISODE, AS WELL AS THINGS WE CAN DO, NO MATTER OUR RACE OR GENDER, TO GIVE US A BETTER CHANCE AT PROPER CARE WHEN INTERACTING WITH THE MEDICAL COMMUNITY.
     
    I WOULD LIKE TO THANK MRS. LASHONDA ROYAL, CHAPTER PRESIDENT, MS. ANNA DIEVEUIL-HORNBUCKLE, PUBLIC RELATIONS, AND ALL THE LADIES OF ZETA PHI BETA SORORITY, INC.,  FOR ALLOWING ME TO ATTEND  THIS MEETING. 
    BY THE WAY, IT WAS OPEN TO THE PUBLIC.
      
    PLEASE NOTE: SOME CONTENT IN THIS EPISODE IS GEARED TO WOMEN WHO HAVE CHILDREN. PLEASE ALSO NOTE THAT ANY AUDIENCE MEMBER NAMES MENTIONED HAVE BEEN REMOVED. THE NAMES OF THE PANEL MEMBERS HAVE NOT. 
    LASTLY, NAMES OF MEDICATIONS HAVE BEEN REMOVED FROM THE AUDIO AS WELL. THANKS AGAIN FOR TUNING IN.    
     





    Articles/links of interest:
    https://www.personneltoday.com/hr/childless-employee-edi-unseen-minority/





    Special thank you to:
     
    Mrs. Lashonda Royal, Chapter President, Zeta Phi Beta Sorority
    Ms. Anna Dieveuil-Hornbuckle, Public Relations
    Solid Rock Community Church




    My contact information:

    Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com
    Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan
    Twitter: @civilla1
    Instagram: @joyandrelevance
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    LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM


     

    • 1 hr 11 min
    Episode 161--IVF and The Alabama Ruling

    Episode 161--IVF and The Alabama Ruling

    Hello, and welcome to episode 161 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
     
    IVF and the Alabama Ruling 
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.





    Body of episode:
     
    On average, IVF has a success rate of 46.7% (depending on individual fertility conditions).--cryosinternational.com
    1 million: Number of babies born in the United States between 1987 and 2015 through the use of IVF or other assisted reproductive technologies, according to a report released in 2017 by the by the U.S. Society of Assisted Reproductive Technology (SART). Assisted reproductive technologies include IVF or the use of an egg donor, sperm donor or adopted embryo.
    Today, 40 years after its heavily criticized clinical introduction, IVF is available as a successful treatment for infertility almost all over the world. Over 8 million IVF children have been born, and over 2.5 million cycles are being performed every year, resulting in over 500,000 deliveries annually.--Google




    What is IVF?
    What is IVF and how is it done?
    During in vitro fertilization, mature eggs are collected from ovaries and fertilized by sperm in a lab. Then a procedure is done to place one or more of the fertilized eggs, called embryos, in a uterus, which is where babies develop. One full cycle of IVF takes about 2 to 3 weeks. Sep 1, 2023
     
    How much does it cost to have IVF?
    While the average base cost of a single IVF cycle falls between $14,000 and $20,000, this is merely an approximation. The actual expenses may differ. Moreover, additional costs including medications, genetic testing, cryopreservation, and storage fees must be taken into account.
     
    So just getting the pre-work done costs thousands, and the whole process is about timing. Timing. Ovulation, injections into the stomach at just the right time of the month.  All of the things that need to be done at just the right time, of the month. Oh, let’s not forget the should we call it, cultivation of the eggs. It’s a process. All of it.
     
    And this process is done by doctors. People who studied for a very long time so that they could assist their patients. Politicians and judges went to school to study politics and law. Nowhere do the two professions meet unless a person gets both degrees. 
     
    I checked to see if this judge in Alabama has an MD-JD, in other words, a medical and law degree. I did not find anything in my research that says he does. 
    So what’s the back story anyway? 
    Well, apparently a patient went wandering around an IVF clinic and somehow got back to where the embryos were kept in a cryogenic state, and dropped a few of them, d

    • 19 min
    Episode 160--Praying Through Infertility, my conversation with Sheridan Voysey

    Episode 160--Praying Through Infertility, my conversation with Sheridan Voysey

    Hello, and welcome to episode 160 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
     
    A Conversation with Sheridan Voysey
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.





    Intro:
    Sheridan Voysey is an author, speaker and broadcaster with a keen interest on makes life deeply worthwhile. Sheridan is a presenter of Pause for Thought on BBC Radio 2’s Zoe Ball Breakfast Show (heard by 9 million people daily) and has conducted over 2000 radio interviews in his 25-year broadcast career. He has been featured on BBC Breakfast, BBC News, Day of Discovery, 100 Huntley Street, BBC Radio 4, BBC Radio 5 Live, the ABC, CBC’s Tapestry, and in publications like The Times, The Sunday Telegraph, and Christianity Today. He speaks at conferences and events around the world.
     
    Mr. Sheridan Voysey, welcome to the show!


    Body of episode:
     
    Our daily bread–That is where I first heard your voice. Can you tell them thank you! I’ve been reading and now listening to ODB since my early teens. I’m sure they hear that a lot. 
     
     Infertility journey– Can you tell us a little about you and your wife’s infertility journey, whatever you are comfortable with telling us? 
     
    Praying Through Infertility–that’s how we met. How did you gather everyone, how did you choose? Was it 37 contributors total? Do you feel that your previous books led to Praying Through Infertility? At least most of the books? I say most because Open House is about writing if I’m correct? 
     
    The author of eight books, including Reflect with Sheridan, The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned, Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams into New Beginnings, and the award-winning Unseen Footprints. His writing has been featured in various publications…
     
    Can you speak to childless not by choice men for just a moment on how to best deal with or manage the pain women may not be able to understand? 
     
    As we close out, can you give us, the childless not by choice community,  a word of encouragement? And can you tell us your contact information?





    Articles/links of interest:
     
    https://punchng.com/a-thought-for-the-childless-woman-on-iwd-2024/
     
    https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-143-the-things-men-talk-about-my-conversation-with-dr-robin-hadley/
     
    https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-130-about-fathers-day-and-childlessness/
     
    https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-141-downriver-nomad-my-conversation-with-rob-hutchings/







    Special thank you to:
    Mr. Sheridan Voysey





    Sheridan Voysey’s Contact information:
    https://sherid

    • 48 min
    EPISODE 159--HEADLINES

    EPISODE 159--HEADLINES

    Hello, and welcome to episode 159 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
    Headlines
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.




    Body of episode:
    So, it looks like, we meaning childless not by choice and child free people, are in the news again! It seems like we are always in the headlines, doesn’t it? And not usually for anything positive. There is always commentary, and suggestions, all un-asked for.  
    Well, in the recent headlines, the word deplorable was used, and the term commercial contract...in the context of those who choose surrogacy to have the gift of a child. I always believed surrogacy to be a gift. Yes, the woman carrying the baby typically gets paid, but why shouldn’t she? And yes, many countries have rules and laws surrounding these agreements. It’s not typically an act or process that is done willy-nilly. Of course like anything else, there are people who opt for the wrong or illegal way of doing things, so why would surrogacy be any different? Well, because a human being is involved. I get it, but calling the act deplorable? That’s kinda intense.   
    DEPLORABLE
    COMMERCIAL CONTRACT
    CHILDLESS ELDERLY
    RETIREMENT 
     I get that there are people who like to cut corners and do things for the wrong reasons, but ‘commercial contract’ sounds so, well, non-human.  
    And I really believe the word deplorable needs to be retired–or just used as little as possible. It is such a harsh word and I don’t think we realize that.
     I know we all make mistakes, misuse words and verbiage; we all mess up. But I think the bigger issue becomes when we do not realize how we are affecting people by our words. Our opinions, our words affect people. The term ‘words matter’ has been thrown around a bit in the last few years, to no avail. Some people just do not understand how their words do matter, or how their platform fits into the scheme of the world. 
    I don’t believe most people mean to be mean. Some people on the other hand, I don’t believe they care how their words affect the listener or the reader, or the ones directly affected by their words. In other words, People may not realize what their words are doing, they have probably not done any research. 
    Research such as, why do women use surrogates? Why are people childless? Could it be some of them just could not have kids? Before making comments about how the childless fit into the world. What contributions do we make? 
    You know my story. I wanted children so badly I would have done just about anything to have one. But I also believe that people who did not want kids shouldn’t have to have them. I mean

    • 31 min
    Episode 158--How Old Is Too Old To Have A Baby

    Episode 158--How Old Is Too Old To Have A Baby

    Hello, and welcome to episode 158 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about? 
     How Old Is Too Old To Have A Baby?
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.





    Body of episode:
    How old is too old to have a baby? Apparently it’s not age 70, because it just happened. A woman in Uganda has had not one, but two children. She just had twins! 
    Now, I’m not one to judge especially when people are dealing with a situation that onlookers may not have all of the insight and details. 
    I mean she lives in a part of the world where she was probably mistreated, shunned, talked about behind her back, for being childless. I mean check out this quote from the People article, link in the show notes:
    ‘The twins, who will go by Babiyre and Kato, have given Namukwaya and her husband a new status in their rural village. The mom will be known as Nalongo. which means mother of twins, while husband Walusimbi Badru will be known as Salongo, or father of twins.’   
    She also said ‘ "There was a time I felt very sick because of the pregnancy. I spent nearly all my savings.’
     Those last six words: ‘I spent nearly all my savings’. How many times in our community, have we heard a childless not by choice woman say those words? 
    As I read this story I was torn between to thoughts, two opinions. I wondered if I did enough to have a child on my own before my time ran out. It’s easy to look back and second guess, but it’s a different story when you are living the moment, so I’m not going to beat myself up.
     On the other hand, I wondered if she and her husband consider the childrens’ future? Does she have a care plan in place for them once she and her husband have passed? Does she have help with two newborns? Does she have help with them when they are two or three years old and getting into everything? How old will she be when they turn 18?  88, She will be 88!      
     How old is too old? 
     And if we ask how old is too old to have a child? How old is too old to adopt? Although at least here in the US, there are laws in place to make sure someone wanting to adopt has to have age correlation to the child’s. In other words, an adopter cannot be more than 20 years older than the child they want to adopt. According to research, that is more geared toward the adoption of an older child.
    How old is too old to foster care a child? Have you ever considered fostering a child? If so, I would like to hear your experiences. Let me know! And actually, any thoughts you have on this episode content I would really love to hear. Especially on the main topic of this episode. How old is too old to h

    • 17 min
    Episode 157--Our December, Christmas 2023

    Episode 157--Our December, Christmas 2023

    Hello, and welcome to episode 157 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  
    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!  
     
    What is today’s show about?
    December 2023
     
    Thank you Patreon contributors:
    I would like to take a moment to thank the people who make a financial contribution to the platform on a monthly basis, my Patreon Contributors. 
     
    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, my podcast host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, etc. So thank you very much!     
     
    If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!  
    If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at booksbycivillamorgan@gmail.com. 
    Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
     
    https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice
     
    Questions or comments? Contact me at:
     
    Email: Info@civillamorgan.com
     
                                                   Or
     
    Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.





    Body of episode:
     
    What has happened the last few months
    Plans for next year–i have a few people i would like to interview next year. I just need to make it a little further through my grief journey. My brain is mush right now.  
    As cnbc women, depending on where we are in our journey, let’s pray for the children around the world. Especially those who have no one to pray for them, and those in war torn and conflict areas. 
    Humans first: I think about the bandwagon quite a bit as i watch what is happening in and to our world, perpetrated by human beings. The things we do to each other is just unbelievable.  But it is the taking sides when the correct side is the human side, that gets me.  Two things can be true. That is nothing new. Two actions, two behaviors, two responses can be wrong or  right. Let’s bring positive thoughts and behaviors to our world. 
    Next, i had the honor of being asked to be a contributor to renowned author Sheridan Voysey’s latest book, ‘Praying through Infertility’. How cool was that? The book will be available January 30th.  I will put a link to more information in the show notes. Please check out the book, and share with everyone you know, childless or not.
     
    Hi everyone. I have some news.
    May I introduce you to Praying Through Infertility, due for release in January. I believe it may be a first book of its kind!
    A HIDDEN MALADY
    Right now there is someone in your office, church, neighbourhood, maybe even your family or among your friends who is battling infertility. They’re feeling isolated, their marriage may be under strain, and their faith may be fraying at the edges because of it. Praying Through Infertility is a 90 day devotional written for them.
    Or maybe even you.
    There aren’t many resources for Christian couples facing infertility, and many of those available focus on the female experience. In Praying Through Infertility I believe we’ve achieved a first:
    ️ 37 contributors from 9 countries sharing vulnerably
    Both female and male writers (*rare* for this topic)
    A variety of outcomes explored: pregnancy, adoption, staying childless
    If you're facing infertility, this is the book you've been longing for. If you know someone who is, it's the book to give when you don't know what to say.
    THE BACKSTORY
    When my publisher approached me about writing this book, I wasn't sure it was mine to do. My hands were full with other projects and I wondered if I'd said all I neede

    • 29 min

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