Choose Better Thoughts

Amanda Doyle
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Join Amanda Doyle, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, as she helps high-achieving moms break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism so they can finally experience more confidence, ease, and control at work, at home, and with themselves. Each episode blends brain science, real-life coaching, and practical mindset shifts to help you feel more in control of your time, be more present in your relationships, experience more peace in your mind. Because when you change the way you think, everything else follows. Hit “Follow” or “Subscribe” so you never miss an episode!

  1. How to Create Results with Zero Pressure

    11/28/2025

    How to Create Results with Zero Pressure

    Busy weeks can make it hard to create what you actually want—or you create it by muscling through with guilt and pressure and everything feels heavy. Skill #6: Live as Your Future Self is the light way through. We’ll use a small future-you scene, pair it with a believable belief, borrow the feeling for a minute, and let one tiny action flow naturally. Think: watching the game and not thinking about work, a scrappy podcast slice that helps one person, a calmer 4 p.m. dinner you’re growing into, or a playful Halloween hair moment—because connection beats perfection. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: Future Self, Simply: a near-term scene you can revisit (tonight → a few months) that helps you choose nowBelief → Feeling → Action: pick a believable thought, borrow its steady feeling, take one tiny visible stepBridge Beliefs: “for the next ten minutes, I’m a woman who…” small, true thoughts that make action easyReal Combos: soccer presence, six-months-in podcast rhythm, not-yet sheet-pan dinner, playful Halloween hair Why It Works: episodic future thinking + future-self continuity + broaden-and-build + progress principle = lighter momentum Want help with your real life?Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    14 min
  2. How to Stop Feeling Flat

    11/14/2025

    How to Stop Feeling Flat

    Today we’re practicing the skill of unleashing desire and creativity, the antidote to feeling flat in a life that looks fine on paper. If you’ve wanted to leave a job but know you won’t, or you want to launch something real but can’t find ‘enough’ confidence, this one’s for you. We’re going to notice a quiet yes, give it air, and turn it into one small, useful thing at the scale you’re at. No five-year plan, no permission slip, just a room with the light on. YOU’LL LEARN: How to spot a nudge even if you’re not a “body sensations” person (body, pattern, and relational lanes—with quick tells for each). Why capability can be a detour and how guilt and fear sound reasonable while they shrink your want (two sentences to recognize them fast). How to move without “being ready” by creating a simple home for the idea (titled document + small calendar block). Where creativity lives in non-art jobs (spreadsheets, agendas, hiring loops, demo flows, family routines) and how to count those wins. A one-week practice to trade a little consumption for a little creation, give ideas air on purpose, and measure aliveness instead of only output. Want help with your real life?Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    21 min
  3. The Second Sentence Is the Suffering

    10/31/2025

    The Second Sentence Is the Suffering

    Pain is part of life; extra suffering is often a story we add. The first sentence is the fact—boring, security-camera neutral. The second sentence is our swift conclusion: “This means I’m behind…they don’t respect me…I always mess this up.” That add-on thought spikes emotion and narrows options. In this episode, you’ll learn to separate fact from story in the moment, try on gentler alternatives, and choose actions that create relief instead of residue. Five minutes of “second-sentence” awareness can return hours of energy to your day. You’ll Learn: Why the “letdown effect” happens (and how to stop making it mean you’re failing)A two-minute body check-in that reduces spirals without fixing or numbingA 3-step “Name → Normalize → Nurture” script for fast, kind self-regulationHow to design micro-rest that actually restores (presence over productivity)One practical swap this week to land softer after your next push Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    21 min
  4. When Your Body Says “No More Bulldozing”

    10/24/2025

    When Your Body Says “No More Bulldozing”

    You push through the launch, the big meeting, the recital—and then comes the strange, heavy quiet. Instead of relief, your body serves up flatness, irritability, or a fog you can’t shake. Nothing’s wrong with you; that’s your nervous system landing. This episode names the “post-push crash,” explains why stillness can feel unsafe after a sprint, and gives you short, compassionate practices to help your system downshift without turning recovery into another performance metric. You’ll leave with a 3-minute re-entry plan you can use after any big effort. You’ll Learn: Why the “letdown effect” happens (and how to stop making it mean you’re failing) A two-minute body check-in that reduces spirals without fixing or numbing A 3-step “Name → Normalize → Nurture” script for fast, kind self-regulation How to design micro-rest that actually restores (presence over productivity) One practical swap this week to land softer after your next push Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    16 min
  5. Releasing Control Without Becoming a Doormat

    10/14/2025

    Releasing Control Without Becoming a Doormat

    If you’ve ever caught yourself silently grading a partner, colleague, or co-parent on how well they follow your unwritten rules, you’re not alone. We call it “the manual”—that invisible rulebook that promises safety but delivers resentment and exhaustion. In this episode, we unpack why high-achievers default to managing other people’s behavior, how that erodes trust (and your energy), and what it looks like to lead with clean boundaries instead. You’ll practice shifting from policing to self-ownership, so you can say less, do less, and mean more—without abandoning your standards or your self-respect. You’ll learn: How to spot your hidden “manual” and the telltale signs it’s running the show A simple boundary formula that centers your behavior, not their compliance The difference between care, control, and coercion—and why it matters for intimacy and leadershipA quick self-coaching loop to interrupt people-pleasing and over-explaining in real time One tiny experiment to trade perfection for consistency this week Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    17 min
  6. Bounce House Balls & Better Thoughts

    09/30/2025

    Bounce House Balls & Better Thoughts

    In this episode, Amanda turns a big idea into an easy mental game: your thought creates your result. We walk through three everyday moments, hosting with bounce‑house balls and mysterious house piles, over‑prepping for a client, and late‑night wheat thins, and practice flipping the default story to its literal opposite (with three pieces of evidence for your brain) for a quick 10% shift in mindset and results that add up over time You’ll learn: How to separate facts from your brain’s story in under 10 seconds Why your brain thinks the fact causes your feelings (threat scan, gold stars, identity) The powerful self-coaching model in real life—no jargon The literal‑opposite trick (not affirmations) + how to gather three pieces of evidence to rewire your brain An easy action step so you that you can use it this week and make your life feel easier Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram Follow me on: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you! You've got this!

    21 min

  7. 08/26/2025

    Too Fast, Too Slow: Making Peace with Time

    Today’s episode is about that strange paradox we all feel at some point: wanting time to slow down and speed up all at once. This morning, as I dropped off my youngest for her very first day of kindergarten, I felt both: the grief of how quickly she’s growing and the longing for six months from now when life in California feels more settled. If you’ve ever wanted to savor the moment and rush to the next chapter at the same time, this episode is for you. What You Will Learn Why it makes perfect sense to want time to both slow down and speed up. How grief and impatience are signals, not problems, and what they’re really telling you. What neuroscience and cognitive dissonance reveal about our relationship with time. How to shift from arguing with time to partnering with it, using small, believable mindset shifts. Two practical ways to honor what matters: by savoring what’s here and taking one step toward what’s next. Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset? Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download the Study Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check My Coach Coaching Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Me On: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! You've got this!

    16 min
  8. Leadership Without Urgency and Grace Without Guilt

    08/19/2025

    Leadership Without Urgency and Grace Without Guilt

    Most women are trying to move through their mornings and evenings with the same expectations, the same mindset, and the same energy, and it’s exhausting. Your body, brain, and emotional capacity are different at the start and end of the day. And you already know how to respond to that difference—for your kids. In this episode, we look at how your natural parenting instincts, structure and focus in the morning, softness and presence at night, can become a mirror for how to care for yourself. You’ll learn why your nervous system shifts the way it does, how your thoughts follow the same pattern each day, and what it might mean to bring yourself into rhythm with your real life. Not the perfect routine. The one you’re already living. What You Will Learn Why your brain and body shift so dramatically from morning to night What cortisol, decision fatigue, and emotional processing have to do with it How your parenting instincts can mirror what you need for yourself Why your morning thoughts feel urgent and your evening thoughts feel heavy A few simple practices to match the rhythm you’re already living Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset? Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠⁠ Download the Study Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check My Coach Coaching Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Me On: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! You've got this!

    16 min
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Join Amanda Doyle, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, as she helps high-achieving moms break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism so they can finally experience more confidence, ease, and control at work, at home, and with themselves. Each episode blends brain science, real-life coaching, and practical mindset shifts to help you feel more in control of your time, be more present in your relationships, experience more peace in your mind. Because when you change the way you think, everything else follows. Hit “Follow” or “Subscribe” so you never miss an episode!

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