Stop Shrinking, Start Living with Christina Aaliyah

Christina Aaliyah
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  1. 4d ago

    It’s time to disappoint your parents

    🎟️ Become a LinkedIn Baddie (Join the waitlist) https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/linkedinwaitlist?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description If you’re constantly choosing between disappointing other people and disappointing yourself, honestly, this video is for you. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently because I’m 25, I’m planning to move to London, five hours away from my mum, and for probably the first time in my life, I’ve really felt that tug between what I want and what the people I love might prefer for me. And lowkey, I think learning how to disappoint people might be one of the most important parts of growing up. I’ve done it with my career too. I went to medical school because I wanted to. Then I eventually quit being a doctor, even though I knew my dad didn’t necessarily understand the decision. I spent so long weighing the pros and cons, and I genuinely reached the point where I knew my life would be worse if I stayed in medicine. That sounds dramatic, but it was true for me. This isn’t about becoming selfish or ignoring everyone’s advice. Real talk, sometimes your parents are right. Sometimes you genuinely do not know as much as you think you do. But there’s a difference between listening to people who love you and building your entire life around the fear of disappointing them. Especially if you’re trying to figure out how to stop people pleasing, how to set boundaries with family, how to stop caring what your parents think about your career, or how to choose yourself without feeling guilty. Working in healthcare also changed how I see all of this. Seeing young people suddenly become seriously unwell made me realise how unbelievably short and unpredictable life can be. It made me question why I was playing small just to keep everyone comfortable. Now I keep coming back to one question: Can I keep living like this? I asked it when I wanted to leave medicine. I’m asking it again while moving out of my small hometown and starting a new chapter. Honestly, every time I answer it truthfully, my life moves a little closer to something that actually feels like mine. So maybe the question isn’t, “Who will I disappoint if I choose myself?”Maybe it’s: How long are you willing to disappoint yourself instead? Cozy Meet Ups w/ our communityLondon → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meetManchester → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/manchester 🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter 💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com

  2. Sep 2

    Why Purpose Is So Hard For Gen Z

    🎟️ Become a LinkedIn Baddie (Join the waitlist) https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/linkedinwaitlist?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description i spent years chasing this concept called ikigai. that concept where the four circles that overlap - something that pays you - something you're good at - something the world needs - something you love. i was convinced that if i could just find where all four circles met, my life would be perfect. so naturally as a type A, overahieving girlie i became a doctor. i checked all the boxes. i had my ikigai. but i very quickly realised, this was NOT my life's purpose because finding your purpose doesn't actually fix everything like everyone says it does. just because you do what you love doesn't mean the rest of your life is going to be perfect. you can be good at your job, get paid well, help people who need you, and still hate it. because there's always going to be deadlines you don't like, colleagues that drain you, pressure that weighs you down, and sacrifice that costs more than you expected. this video is about how we're thinking about purpose completely wrong. we're told to find our ikigai and everything will fall into place. i think what we actually need is meaning. purpose is what so manny people chase but meaning is the small moments that give you a real sense of fulfillment. a conversation with someone that actually mattered. helping someone when they needed it. connecting with a friend. those tiny ingredients that make life feel worth living. that's what gave me the idea for The Kitchen Theory i didn't realize until i quit: life is always going to be stressful. there's always going to be something to worry about. you're always going to have ups and downs. so instead of waiting for the stress to end, instead of waiting for the perfect job to fix everything, maybe the answer is learning how to find joy in the midst of the chaos. i spent so many years counting down. counting down to sixth form, to university, to graduation, to becoming a doctor, to quitting my job. always waiting for the next thing to finally make me feel relieved. and it took me quitting to realize i was missing my actual life while i was waiting for it to start.but what do you think do you have a purpose?or are you just finding ways to make life feel more meaningful? 0:00 Intro 2:08 Your Job =/= Ikigai 7:22 The Kitchen Theory 11:07 My Purpose Cozy Meet Ups w/ our community London → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet Manchester → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/manchester 🌱 sign up to my newsletter https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter 💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com

  3. Aug 16

    I quit my job as a doctor 6 months ago (update)

    🎟️ Become a LinkedIn Baddie (Join the waitlist) https://presellstudio.short.gy/ytdescription ⭐️ Cozy Meet Ups w/ our community London → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet Manchester → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/manchester 🌱 sign up to my newsletter https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter 0:00 intro 3:14 work life balance 4:43 social life 8:24 earnings 13:12 purpose 21:20 what’s next 💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com

  4. Jul 29

    i'm done playing it safe in dating

    ⭐️FREE Quarter Life Clarity WorkbookGrab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/qlc🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christinaa-aaliyah.com

  5. Jun 15

    The Art of Wasting Money In Your 20s

    ⭐️FREE Money Print Workbook Grab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/moneyprint 0:00 intro 2:51 what is wasting money? 08:08 - What I'm planning to 'waste' money on 💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com

  6. May 27

    i’m retiring from dating

    Cozy Corner Events in London: https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet 0:00 intro 3:14- men are leftover 4:28 - soulmates 7:00 - the more you need a guy in your life the more you will end up settling 8:13 - changing for men 10:30 - taking a step back 12:07 - spent so much time inside 14:43 - no one is willing to settle 16:06 - improve your social life 💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com

  7. Apr 1

    Before You Quit Your Job, Watch This

    Should you quit your job? If you are wondering should I quit my job without a backup plan or feeling stuck in a job you hate, this video breaks down exactly what you need to consider before quitting your job. This is especially relevant if you are burnt out, unhappy at work, or going through a quarter-life crisis.In this video, I share the 6 most important things to consider before quitting your job, based on my experience leaving a stable career to build a life that actually aligns with my values. The truth is, just because you are unhappy at work does not always mean it is time to quit.We talk about career clarity, job dissatisfaction, burnout, and how to know if you are in the wrong job or just going through a difficult season. The goal is to help you make a decision you will not regret.If you have been searching for:how to know when to quit your jobshould I leave my job if I am unhappycareer change advice in your 20sthis video will give you clarity.👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com

  8. Mar 23

    Don't Waste Your 20s on a "Good Job"

    Cozy Corner Meet Ups London get early access here →https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/meet0:00- Intro1:55 - your job is a transaction, not a calling4:21 - your 20s are for gathering data8:08 - a good job is a hard job10:28 - the myth of meaningful work15:37 - bravest person wins not the most obedient16:01- the real pursuit in your twenties is opportunity20:07 - build your foundationso many of us were told the same story growing up. study hard, get the prestigious job, climb the ladder, and everything will work out. doctor, lawyer, investment banker. the jobs our parents brag about. the ones that look perfect on paper.but the reality is starting to crack.more and more people are realizing that a job is just a transaction. companies don’t really care if you’re burnt out, dealing with mental health, or sacrificing your entire twenties to stay afloat. meanwhile an entire generation is entering a job market that feels unstable, performative, and sometimes completely fake.in this video we talk about the uncomfortable truth about modern careers. why so many people in “successful” jobs are miserable, why climbing the ladder might not be the best use of your twenties, and why more people are starting to question the system they were told would make them happy.if you’ve ever felt like the corporate world is just one big role play, you’re not the only one. this conversation is for you.📕 Six Pillars of Self Esteem book grab it here → https://amzn.to/40OAJ0u📘 subscribe to my newsletter join here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: christinaa@makrwatch.com

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