Code Forty4

Amy Cortez
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Welcome to Code Forty4, a space created for the families behind the badge. If you’re the spouse or loved one of a law enforcement officer, you know the quiet moments that say everything — the distant stare, the exhaustion after a shift, the silence that feels heavier than words. Code Forty4 exists to help you recognize the early signs of mental and emotional strain, respond with understanding, and support your loved one before the line breaks. Through honest conversations, expert insights, and real stories from spouses and officers, we’re breaking the stigma surrounding mental health in law enforcement — one family at a time. Because 13% of law enforcement officers have reported thoughts of suicide — and that number represents real people and real pain. Together, we can change the story. Subscribe now to join the movement to recognize, respond, and support those who serve #CodeForty4 #LawEnforcementFamilies #FirstResponderSupport #MentalHealthAwareness #BeforeTheLineBreaks

Episodios

  1. EP.11 A Bridge Between Health and Home

    16 FEB

    EP.11 A Bridge Between Health and Home

    In this episode, Amy Cortez interviews Mick Yinger, a retired police officer and co-founder of First Responders Bridge, a nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting the mental health of first responders and their families. Mick shares his personal journey, the motivation behind starting the organization, and the structure of their retreats designed to provide a safe space for healing and connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community, the role of spouses, and the ongoing support available through the Healing Bridge program. Real stories of transformation highlight the impact of these initiatives, while addressing the stigma surrounding mental health in the first responder community. Takeaways The organization focuses on mental health support for first responders and their families.Spouses play a crucial role in the healing process of first responders.The retreats aim to create a safe and confidential environment for attendees.85% of first responders experience mental health issues, highlighting the need for support.The Healing Bridge program offers six free counseling sessions post-retreat.Community and connection are vital for healing in the first responder community.Stigma around mental health can prevent individuals from seeking help.Real stories of transformation demonstrate the effectiveness of the retreats.The organization is committed to providing resources without financial barriers. View Agenda and Register for First Responders Bridge: https://firstrespondersbridge.org/ Contact Mick: https://firstrespondersbridge.org/contact/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction to First Responders Bridge 04:38 Mick's Personal Journey and Motivation 06:50 Understanding Mental Health in First Responders 09:11 The Role of Spouses and Significant Others 11:38 Structure and Goals of the Retreats 14:06 The Environment and Experience at the Retreats 16:41 Addressing Stigma and Awareness 19:34 Cost and Accessibility of the Program 25:05 The Importance of Confidentiality in Support 28:36 Creating a Safe Space for First Responders 30:55 Introducing Healing Bridge: Ongoing Support 33:47 Real Stories of Transformation

    42 min
  2. EP.10 You’re Not Alone | A Closer look at PCIS

    2 FEB

    EP.10 You’re Not Alone | A Closer look at PCIS

    In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez sits down with Steve Click, a retired Ohio State Highway Patrol officer and a current leader in First Responder Mental Health and Wellness with the Ohio Department of Public Safety. Steve brings a rare perspective  blending decades of lived experience in uniform with his work supporting law enforcement officers, dispatchers, and their families across the country. A major focus of this conversation is Post-Critical Incident Seminars (PCIS) — a resource Steve has helped bring to officers and families across multiple states. PCIS is not just for officers who have experienced one major incident. These seminars are designed to help first responders and their support systems understand cumulative trauma — the “ducks” that pile up quietly over time. In this episode, Steve explains: Why PCIS is preventive, not just a last resortWhy spouses and family members are encouraged to attend alongside their officerHow sitting in a room with others who “get it” breaks isolation and stigmaWhy many families leave PCIS with language and understanding they never had beforeHow these seminars often become a turning point for marriages, families, and careersPCIS programs currently exist in multiple states, and many are offered at no cost to first responders and their families. Amy shares below the states and agencies with currently PCIS resources so listeners can explore what may be available in their area. Seeking out resources like PCIS is not a betrayal of your loved one — it’s an act of protection. PCIS Resources by State: Arkansas (ARLEAP)California (CALLEAP)Florida (FDLE)Georgia (OPSS)Kentucky (KYPCIS)Louisiana (LA-PCIS)Missouri (MSHP)New York (NYLEAP)North Carolina (NCLEAP)Ohio (Ohio Assist)Oklahoma (Warrior's Rest Foundation)South Carolina (SCLEAP)Texas (LEMIT)Virginia (VALEAP)Wyoming (WY HP)  Connect with Guest: Steve Click Email: stclick@dps.ohio.gov Web Site:  https://publicsafety.ohio.gov/what-we-do/our-programs/office-of-first-responder-wellness 00:00 Introduction to First Responder Mental Wellness 02:10 The Accumulation of Trauma in First Responders 04:40 Cultural Shifts in Mental Health Awareness 06:33 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 07:48 Normalizing Conversations About Mental Health 11:35 Training and Resources for Mental Health 13:29 Addressing Stigma in the First Responder Community 16:06 Breaking the Stigma of Mental Health 17:43 The Reluctance to Seek Help 20:19 Ohio Assist and Support Programs 25:54 The Importance of Shared Experiences 31:56 Building Understanding in Relationships 35:11 Support for All Stages of Life 36:20 Building a Foundation for Relationships 38:04 Identifying Bad Days vs. Accumulating Trauma 41:10 The Meaning Behind 'I'm Fine' 42:25 Understanding Each Other's Struggles 43:08 Finding Local Support Resources 44:08 Key Takeaways for Families and Spouses

    48 min
  3. EP.9 EMDR | How the Brain Finally Processes Trauma

    22 ENE

    EP.9 EMDR | How the Brain Finally Processes Trauma

    What if the reason trauma doesn’t “fade with time” is because it was never fully processed in the first place? In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy is joined by Alana Trevino, a licensed independent social worker, EMDR-certified clinician, and the wife of a former law enforcement officer. Together, they break down what EMDR really is — and why it has been so effective for first responders and their families. Traumatic experiences don’t simply disappear. They can become “stuck” in the brain, keeping the nervous system locked in survival mode and showing up later as triggers, emotional reactions, sleep disruption, withdrawal, or guilt. EMDR is a therapy designed to help the brain reprocess those memories so they can finally move out of survival mode and into long-term memory without having to relive every detail. In this conversation, Alana explains: What EMDR is and how it works (in both clinical and easy-to-understand terms)Why first responders often “play well” instead of acknowledging they’re hurtingWhy trauma shows up at home long after the shift endsWhether EMDR is right for everyone and what to look for in a qualified providerHow spouses can support their LEO without pushing or forcing helpThis episode is especially for spouses and family members who see the changes and want to learn options of the next step to healing. Because healing doesn’t start with silence.It starts when trauma is finally allowed to be processed. Recognize. Respond. Support. This is Code Forty4 RESOURCES:  Contact Alana Trevino:  https://www.frontlinewellnessllc.com/contact Frontline Wellness: https://www.frontlinewellnessllc.com/ Find a EMDR specialist in your state:  https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ Key Takeaways EMDR can significantly change the narrative for first responders.First responders often downplay their symptoms, leading to untreated trauma.Anger is often a cover for deeper anxiety in first responders.EMDR is an efficient and effective short-term treatment.The brain has a natural desire to heal from trauma.Community support is crucial for first responders and their families.Spouses should also seek therapy to process their experiences.Recognizing signs of struggle is essential for intervention.Encouragement and support can lead to healing and openness.Normalizing mental health discussions can help reduce stigma. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to EMDR and Its Impact 02:34 Alana's Personal Journey with Frontline Wellness 04:51 Recognizing Signs of Distress in First Responders 07:23 The Role of EMDR in Healing Trauma 10:15 Understanding EMDR: The Science Behind It 12:40 Explaining EMDR to Non-Professionals 15:20 Addressing Skepticism Around EMDR 17:44 The Importance of Culturally Competent Care 22:52 Understanding Trauma and EMDR Therapy 27:42 The Importance of Preventive Mental Health Care 28:49 Recognizing Signs of Struggle in First Responders 34:03 Encouraging Loved Ones to Seek Help 40:40 Finding Hope and Support in Difficult Times

    45 min
  4. EP. 8: His Darkest Moment

    15 ENE

    EP. 8: His Darkest Moment

    In this powerful conversation, Amy Cortez shares the harrowing story of her husband, Mike, a law enforcement officer who faced a critical moment of despair. Through their journey, they highlight the unseen struggles that many officers endure, the stigma surrounding mental health, and the importance of breaking the silence. Amy emphasizes the need for families to recognize subtle signs of distress and to support their loved ones before it's too late. The episode serves as a call to action for awareness, understanding, and proactive support for those in law enforcement. Takeaways No one is exempt from the mental toll of law enforcement.Families need to understand the weight law enforcement officers carry.Trauma can build silently and unexpectedly explode.The stigma surrounding mental health can prevent officers from seeking help.Subtle signs of distress may be overlooked by families.Getting help from a counselor can save lives.It's crucial to break the silence around mental health issues.Law enforcement officers can mask their struggles very well.Awareness and understanding can lead to early intervention.Support from family is vital in preventing crises. Chapters 00:00 Facing the Unimaginable: A Law Enforcement Family's Struggle 04:27 The Weight of Trauma: Mike's Story 08:06 Breaking the Silence: The Stigma of Mental Health 11128 Recognizing the Signs: Subtle Indicators of Struggle 13:34 A Call to Action: Supporting Our Officers 14:43 Tools for Healing: Navigating the Journey Together LInk to Sheriff Cortez podcast Truly Mental on Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4lBrw8X6ffQbxi1xqcoTMv?si=LKyOiFIfQCCrQZno2FkfHw #codeforty4podcast #breakthestigma #mentalhealthmatters #lawenforcementfamilies #breakthesilence

    16 min
  5. EP.7 The Guilt They Carry | The Weight Behind the Badge

    8 ENE

    EP.7 The Guilt They Carry | The Weight Behind the Badge

    Law enforcement officers don’t just carry trauma , they carry guilt. In Episode 7 of the Code Forty4 Podcast, host Amy Cortez shares a powerful story from a post-critical incident seminar that forever changed how she understands the emotional weight officers and dispatchers bring home. This episode explores how guilt forms in moments where outcomes couldn’t be controlled and how that guilt often shows up as silence, withdrawal, emotional numbness, or overworking at home. Designed for law enforcement spouses and families, this conversation helps listeners recognize the signs of guilt, understand why their loved one may struggle to talk about it, and learn how connection .. not fixing , is the first step toward healing. Because silence doesn’t mean they’re okay and they don’t have to carry this alone. Guilt in law enforcement often comes from situations that couldn’t be controlled — not wrongdoingTrauma isn’t limited to shootings or major incidentsGuilt frequently shows up as silence, withdrawal, or emotional numbnessLoved ones may carry guilt they can’t articulateMoral injury can develop when guilt goes unprocessedIsolation makes guilt more dangerousSpouses don’t need to fix their loved one , presence matters moreHealing begins with safe connection, not pressureChapters 00:00 Understanding the Weight of Guilt in Law Enforcement 08:39 The Emotional Toll of Law Enforcement on Families 14:53 Navigating Guilt and Silence in Relationships #LawEnforcementMentalHealth #LawEnforcementSpouses #BehindTheBadge #FirstResponderFamilies #PoliceMentalHealth #MoralInjury #OfficerWellness #FirstResponderSupport #CodeForty4

    15 min
  6. EP.6 Undeniable Struggle: Clues I Didn’t Understand in my L.E.O. Spouse

    08/12/2025

    EP.6 Undeniable Struggle: Clues I Didn’t Understand in my L.E.O. Spouse

    In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez shares her personal journey as a spouse of a law enforcement officer, highlighting the subtle signs of struggle that often go unnoticed. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs and understanding the mental health challenges faced by law enforcement officers. Through her experiences, she discusses the impact of trauma on relationships and the necessity of supporting loved ones in their struggles. The episode also introduces EMDR as a potential healing process for those affected by trauma, encouraging listeners to be proactive in recognizing and addressing mental health issues within their families. Takeaways The subtle clues we miss with our law enforcement officers.Spouses often see the signs of struggle first.Understanding the mental toll of law enforcement is crucial.Coping mechanisms can manifest in unexpected ways.Trauma follows law enforcement officers into their personal lives.It's important to acknowledge mental health struggles.EMDR can be a transformative healing process.Recognizing small shifts can prevent larger issues.Support from family is vital for mental health.Don't let loved ones fight their battles alone. Chapters 00:00 Recognizing the Subtle Signs of Struggle 01:58 The Journey of Understanding Law Enforcement's Mental Health 03:40 The Impact of Trauma on Relationships 05:10 Coping Mechanisms and Their Consequences 06:23 The Importance of Acknowledging Mental Health 08:58 The Role of Family in Supporting Law Enforcement 10:43 Finding Solutions: EMDR and Healing 12:39 Supporting Loved Ones Through Their Struggles

    19 min
  7. EP.5 Who Has Their 12? Building Your L.E.O Support Village Before Crisis Hits

    01/12/2025

    EP.5 Who Has Their 12? Building Your L.E.O Support Village Before Crisis Hits

    In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez discusses the importance of mental health support for law enforcement families. She emphasizes the need for a supportive 'village' to help navigate the emotional challenges faced by officers and their families. The conversation covers the stigma surrounding mental health, the importance of establishing trust, and identifying key support members, including friends, mentors, and counselors. Amy shares personal stories to illustrate the real-life application of these concepts and encourages listeners to proactively build their support systems before crises arise. Takeaways Mental health support is crucial for law enforcement families.Establishing a support village can prevent isolation.Stigma around mental health can hinder open communication.Trust and confidentiality are essential in support systems.Identify key individuals who can provide support during tough times.Counselors play a vital role in the healing process.Encouraging participation in support groups is important.Pre-planning support can ease crisis situations.Spouses also need their own support systems.Real-life examples illustrate the effectiveness of a support village. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Mental Health in Law Enforcement Families 02:11 Building a Support Village 05:10 Establishing Trust and Communication 07:44 Identifying Key Support Members 10:38 The Role of Counselors and Support Groups 13:05 Real-Life Application of the Support System 15:32 Rules for Engaging the Support Village 17:51 The Importance of Self-Care for Spouses 20:35 A Personal Story of Support 22:57 Conclusion and Call to Action #breakthestigma #lawenforcementfamily #mentalhealthawareness

    22 min
  8. EP. 4 The Code Word for Law Enforcement Families: Opening the Door Before Crisis Hits

    24/11/2025

    EP. 4 The Code Word for Law Enforcement Families: Opening the Door Before Crisis Hits

    “You know that moment when your spouse walks in, drops their gear, and says, ‘I’m fine’… but you know they’re not? That moment right there — that’s what where we are going in this episode" In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez discusses the importance of communication in families of law enforcement officers. She introduces the concept of a 'code word' to facilitate open dialogue about mental health and trauma, emphasizing the need for connection and understanding. The episode explores the unique challenges faced by law enforcement families, including the impact of trauma and behavioral shifts, and offers practical strategies for fostering communication and support. Takeaways This podcast is designed to help spouses and families recognize the signs before the line.Silence is actually isolation, not strength.We want connection again; we want our spouse back.The job asks officers to stay strong, even when faced with trauma.The code word allows for communication without pressure.Spouses should respond with awareness and presence, not pressure.Behavioral shifts can indicate a need for support.Creating safe ways to talk opens the door to communication. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Code Forty4 04:15 Understanding Law Enforcement Trauma 08:21 Implementing the Code Word 12:24 Recognizing Behavioral Shifts 18:57 Building a Support Network

    21 min
  9. EP3 The ‘Duck Bite’ Trauma No One Warns You About: What Every Law Enforcement Family Needs to Know

    17/11/2025

    EP3 The ‘Duck Bite’ Trauma No One Warns You About: What Every Law Enforcement Family Needs to Know

    In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez discusses the inevitability of critical incidents faced by law enforcement officers and their families. She shares her personal experiences and insights from a life-changing seminar that highlighted the importance of recognizing both major incidents (bears) and the cumulative effects of smaller, everyday traumas (ducks). The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding the signs of trauma, and the necessity of talk therapy to support mental health. Amy encourages families to be proactive in recognizing and responding to the mental health challenges faced by their loved ones in law enforcement. Takeaways The question isn't if a critical incident will happen, it's when. We can help fight the mental effects of the job. Ducks can be potentially more deadly than bears. The stigma of suck it up is real and we have to stop it. Talk therapy is absolutely necessary and should be required. We need to understand that they both bring an impact. The incidents of the job are causing trauma. We have to make sure that we're building a plan before it happens. Help us to open the lines of communication. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Critical Incidents 01:08 The Life-Changing Seminar Experience 01:52 Understanding the Analogy of Ducks and Bears 07:29 The Impact of Everyday Incidents 10:08 Recognizing Signs of Trauma 16:02 The Importance of Talk Therapy 21:57 Recap and Closing Thoughts

    18 min
  10. EP. 2 The STIGMA We Face as Law Enforcement Families

    17/11/2025

    EP. 2 The STIGMA We Face as Law Enforcement Families

    In this episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez addresses the stigma surrounding mental health in law enforcement families. She shares personal experiences and statistics, emphasizing the importance of breaking down barriers and promoting open discussions. Amy highlights the need for regular mental health checkups, similar to dental appointments, to prevent severe consequences. She encourages spouses and families to support each other and discusses efforts to reduce stigma, including wellness programs and peer support. The episode concludes with a call to action for open conversations and reflection on daily maintenance expectations. TakeawaysLaw enforcement officers face a 54% higher risk of suicide.Stigma prevents officers from seeking mental health help.Regular mental health checkups should be normalized.Spouses play a crucial role in supporting officers.Open discussions can help reduce stigma.Wellness programs and peer support are essential.Mental health care should be as routine as dental care.Fear of professional consequences hinders seeking help.Family support is vital for officers' well-being.Breaking stigma requires collective effort.Chapters00:00 Understanding the Stigma in Law Enforcement02:55 The Impact of Stigma on Mental Health04:35 Breaking Down Barriers: The Oxygen Mask Analogy07:02 Fear of Consequences: Seeking Help in Law Enforcement09:05 Normalizing Mental Health Checkups11:21 Creating Support Systems for Officers12:59 The Importance of Open Conversations15:15 Finding Purpose in Law Enforcement17:37 Taking Action: Breaking the Stigma Together

    19 min
  11. EP. 1 Breaking the Silence

    11/11/2025

    EP. 1 Breaking the Silence

    In the premiere episode of Code Forty4, Amy Cortez sheds light on the often-overlooked emotional challenges faced by law enforcement officers and their families. Through personal stories and compelling statistics, she aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health in the law enforcement community and encourages open, supportive conversations. Join us as we explore the unseen battles and the vital role of family support in fostering resilience and understanding. Takeaways Law enforcement officers often experience emotional exhaustion after shifts. There is a significant stigma around discussing mental health in law enforcement. 13% of officers report having suicidal thoughts, highlighting a mental health crisis. Spouses often notice subtle signs of distress in their partners. Open conversations about mental health can help break the stigma. Personal stories can illustrate the impact of traumatic experiences on officers. Support networks for spouses are crucial for emotional well-being. The podcast aims to provide resources and support for law enforcement families. Understanding the statistics can help raise awareness about the issue. Creating a safe space for discussion is essential for healing.  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Challenges of Law Enforcement Families 04:55 Understanding the Mental Health Crisis in Law Enforcement 09:19 The Impact of Trauma on Law Enforcement Officers 12:23 The Hidden Struggles of Law Enforcement Spouses 17:04 Breaking the Silence on Mental Health 19:17 The Journey Ahead: Stigma and Support

    20 min
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Welcome to Code Forty4, a space created for the families behind the badge. If you’re the spouse or loved one of a law enforcement officer, you know the quiet moments that say everything — the distant stare, the exhaustion after a shift, the silence that feels heavier than words. Code Forty4 exists to help you recognize the early signs of mental and emotional strain, respond with understanding, and support your loved one before the line breaks. Through honest conversations, expert insights, and real stories from spouses and officers, we’re breaking the stigma surrounding mental health in law enforcement — one family at a time. Because 13% of law enforcement officers have reported thoughts of suicide — and that number represents real people and real pain. Together, we can change the story. Subscribe now to join the movement to recognize, respond, and support those who serve #CodeForty4 #LawEnforcementFamilies #FirstResponderSupport #MentalHealthAwareness #BeforeTheLineBreaks

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  • Creador
    Amy Cortez
  • Años de actividad
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodios
    11
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    © 2025 Amy Cortez
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