Combative Calm

Sarai Speer
  • 4.9 (79)
  • MENTAL HEALTH
  • COMPLETE

This isn’t your sugary, sweet, diabetes-inducing healing podcast. This is Combative Calm—where nervous system regulation meets rage rituals, somatic releases, and spicy affirmations laced with f-bombs to unfck your trauma responses. Hosted by Sarai Speer—a trauma-informed yoga + meditation teacher, somatic healer, and high-energy bitch who tells it like it is—this show delivers real tools, not toxic positivity. It’s trauma-informed, nervous system-rooted healing for the emotionally constipated, burnout-curious, high-functioning humans who are done pretending they’re fine. It’s time to regulate your shit.

  1. 2H AGO

    Nobody Tells You Perimenopause Can Make You Want to Drive Off a Bridge

    This is the most vulnerable episode Sarai has ever recorded. And she almost did not hit record. In this episode, she gets completely honest about what perimenopause did to her mental health before she even knew what was happening. The intrusive thoughts that showed up quietly and stayed for six months. The trip to Barcelona, where she finally screamed her truth in a hotel room and got shut down for it. The panic attacks she had this week, not a year ago, this week, as a nervous system coach who teaches this stuff for a living. She also gets into the science. What actually happens to estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and your GABA system during perimenopause, why almost a third of women develop panic attacks they have never had before, why women are two to five times more likely to develop a mood disorder during this transition, and why most of them are being handed antidepressants without anyone checking their hormones first. This episode is for the woman who thinks she is losing her mind. The one who cannot explain what is happening in her body. The one who has been suffering quietly because she does not have the language for it yet. Here it is. If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please call or text 988. If you're ready to do the work with a community of women & a blueprint to get you the f**k out of dysregulation, check out Capacity Club https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    23 min

  2. APR 6

    Two Seconds Before You Say Yes Is Where Your Whole Life Changes

    You have been abandoning yourself in two-second increments your whole life, and this episode is where that stops. The tools, the body check, the energetic tab audit, the weird somatic resets you can do in a bathroom stall before a hard conversation, and the actual words to use when you are right at your capacity line and your brain goes completely blank. We also talk about what it actually feels like the first few times you hold your line with someone who is used to you crossing it. Because nobody warns you about that part, and it catches everyone off guard. This is where the work gets real. Capacity Club doors close April 15th. First live call April 15th. https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    16 min

  3. APR 6

    Why Bitch Is the Word They Use to Keep You in Line

    Why Bitch Is the Word They Use to Keep You in Line The word bitch gets thrown around the second a woman stands her f*****g ground. And that is not an accident. This episode is about why that word has so much power over so many of us, where it actually came from, and how it has been quietly running your decisions, your relationships, and your capacity line for most of your life without you even clocking it. We get into the fawn response, the good girl programming that got handed to you before you were old enough to question it, and why that guilty shaky feeling you get when you try to hold your line is straight up conditioning that got baked in before you had any say in the matter. We also talk about the invisible load. The energetic tabs your nervous system is carrying that have nothing to do with your calendar and everything to do with why rest does not restore you and why you can be sitting in a quiet house doing absolutely nothing and still feel like you are one thing away from completely losing it. By the end of this one, you are going to understand exactly why holding your capacity line has felt so impossible. And you are going to stop blaming yourself for it. Capacity Club doors close April 15th. First live call April 15th. https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    14 min

  4. APR 6

    Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them

    Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them The word boundaries is so loaded that just hearing it makes most women either shut down or feel guilty before they have even done anything. So Sarai threw it out and replaced it with something that actually makes sense in your body. This episode is about your capacity line. What it is, where it lives, why it is nothing like the cold rigid wall you picture when someone tells you to set a boundary, and why the reframe changes everything about how you actually hold one. Sarai also gets personal about her own version of this. The forty-foot razor wire tower kept everyone out and left her completely alone, and she was actually searching for what she was actually searching for underneath all of it. You will walk away with a completely different relationship to this whole concept, and one thing you can start doing today, even if you are nowhere near ready for the hard conversations yet. Capacity Club doors close April 15th. First live call April 15th. https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    12 min

  5. MAR 30

    The Daily Weird Shit That Actually Builds Capacity

    This is the one you have been waiting for. The actual tools. The specific daily practices that rebuilt Sarai's nervous system after burnout and that she uses every single day to keep her capacity high enough to hold the life she is building. No overhaul, or perfect morning routine. No equipment. Just small regulation tools stacked onto things you are already doing every single day, before your feet hit the floor, while your coffee brews, in the shower, in the car, and before bed. We also get into the phone conversation nobody wants to have, why chronic connectivity is draining your capacity faster than almost anything else, and what six weeks without a phone in treatment taught Sarai about what her nervous system actually needs to recover. You will walk away with a full habit stacked daily regulation practice, the questions that catch capacity depletion before it becomes a breakdown, and a completely different relationship with your ordinary Tuesday. This is how capacity gets built. Not in the crisis. In the calm. Capacity Club opens April 6th. First live call April 15th.

    16 min

  6. MAR 30

    Stop Waiting Until You're Losing Your Shit to Work on Your Nervous System

    Your nervous system is either building capacity right now or destroying it. There is no neutral. And if you have been waiting until you hit the wall to start paying attention to it, this episode is going to change how you think about regulation forever. We get into vagal tone, what it is, why it is the single biggest factor in how much capacity you actually have, and why you can only build it when things are calm. Meet Vega, your vagus nerve, the hoodie-wearing CEO of your entire nervous system, and finally understand what she needs from you on a regular Tuesday when nothing is on fire. You will walk away understanding why your window of tolerance widens or shrinks based on what you do daily, why reactive regulation never builds real capacity, and what consistent, small inputs actually do to your nervous system over time. This is the episode that makes everything else make sense. Capacity Club opens April 6th. First live call April 15th. https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    14 min

  7. MAR 30

    What the F**k Is Capacity and Why Don't I Have Any

    3 mental breakdowns in 5 years. 2 years of chronic burnout so deep that exhaustion became my baseline. Sixty to eighty hour work weeks, saying yes to everything, running a community of a thousand people, traveling the world, and slowly running completely empty. In this episode, Sarai gets brutally honest about what no capacity actually looks like from the inside, what it took to finally stop, and what she discovered when she ran away to a cabin in Montana and went completely radio silent. You will walk away understanding what capacity actually is, why yours might be depleted, and what your window of tolerance has to do with why the small shit keeps feeling so impossibly big. This is not a pep talk. This is the real story and the science behind it. Capacity Club opens April 6th. First live call April 15th. saraispeer.com/capacity-club

    13 min

  8. MAR 23

    Let That Shit Go: A Guided Meditation for the Complaint Loop

    You've named the loop. You've moved it out of your body. Now we settle. This episode is a fully guided meditation for the complaint you've been carrying. Not the story around it. The actual sensation of it. Where it lives in your body, what it looks like, what it feels like, and what happens when you finally stop narrating long enough to just feel it. We start with a full body check-in, breathwork to get you out of your head and into your system, and then we go in. You'll find where the complaint is living, give it a color, a texture, a shape, and breathe into it until something shifts. Because underneath every complaint is a need that hasn't been met. This meditation helps you get to that without having to figure anything out or fix anything right now. You will walk away with more room than you walked in with. That is the whole point. Butt cheeks and all.

    15 min
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About

This isn’t your sugary, sweet, diabetes-inducing healing podcast. This is Combative Calm—where nervous system regulation meets rage rituals, somatic releases, and spicy affirmations laced with f-bombs to unfck your trauma responses. Hosted by Sarai Speer—a trauma-informed yoga + meditation teacher, somatic healer, and high-energy bitch who tells it like it is—this show delivers real tools, not toxic positivity. It’s trauma-informed, nervous system-rooted healing for the emotionally constipated, burnout-curious, high-functioning humans who are done pretending they’re fine. It’s time to regulate your shit.

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  • Creator
    Sarai Speer
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    64
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025
  • Show Website
    Combative Calm

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