Complex Kids, Simple Solutions

Michelle Choairy

Complex Kid, Simple Solutions is the go-to podcast for parents raising neurodivergent and medically complex kids. Hosted by Michelle Choairy, a seasoned advocate and mom of a complex child, this podcast delivers clear, actionable strategies to help you navigate the chaos with confidence. Each episode breaks down overwhelming challenges into simple, practical solutions—whether it’s advocating for your child, navigating the school system, or finding the right support team. You’ll hear expert insights, real-life stories, and empowering advice to help you become your child’s best advocate while keeping your own sanity intact. Because raising a complex kid is hard—but finding solutions doesn’t have to be. 🎧 Subscribe now and start turning challenges into victories!

  1. 4d ago

    Episode 57- Speech Therapy tips with Kira Howard

    Most parents of kids with speech delays feel overwhelmed and unsure where to turn—until now. Speech therapist Kira Howard shares her proven strategies for supporting children with apraxia and other Speech Disorders, revealing how her innovative techniques can accelerate progress—even when traditional therapy feels slow or frustrating. Imagine understanding exactly how to boost your child's speech at home, even if you're not a therapist. Kira's practical, fun methods—like movement-based prompts and play-inspired exercises—are designed to fit effortlessly into your busy life. You’ll discover her favorite hands-on cues for helping kids self-correct, how movement can unlock speech blocks, and why early intervention is shaping the future of children with complex communication needs. In this episode, we break down: The real reasons diagnosis takes so long, and what parents can do while waitingHow to identify early signs of apraxia in your young child and avoid costly delaysWhy some children thrive with less traditional approaches like movement and playThe crucial role of parent advocacy and asking the right questions in therapyWhy the best providers often don't take insurance—plus tips to find specialists you trustIf you're a parent navigating speech challenges, or a caregiver seeking fresh ideas, this episode is packed with actionable insights. Kira’s heartfelt stories and expert advice will empower you to become your child's strongest advocate—making therapy more effective and less stressful. Don't miss this chance to learn how movement, play, and persistence can truly transform your child's communication journey. Kira Howard is a licensed speech-language pathologist based in Utah, specializing in childhood apraxia and autism. Her passion is turning complex therapy techniques into simple, effective tools for parents and caregivers.Perfect for parents of young children, speech therapy students, and anyone eager to support speech growth in a fun, natural way. Tune in to hear why early, movement-based interventions could change everything—and how you can start today.

    29 min
  2. Jun 11

    Episode 55 Understanding EMDR with Jenny Hornby

    Adaptive Show Notes for "Understanding EMDR and Supporting Complex Kids" In this episode: Michelle welcomes Jenny Hornby, a counselor, children's book author, and EMDR-trained therapist, to explore innovative ways to help neurodivergent and complex kids process emotions and fears. Discover how trauma-informed tools like EMDR and engaging therapeutic stories can make a difference. Key Topics: What EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is and how it aids emotional regulation in kidsThe science behind bilateral movement and its role in de-escalating distressHow play therapy and creative activities support emotional processingPractical tips for implementing EMDR techniques with children, including play and art strategiesThe importance of connecting with children at their pace and using their languageThe impact of storybooks, like "Made for This," on helping kids face fears and understand body sensationsApproaches for supporting parents through their own trauma triggers and repair in relationshipsTechniques for managing rigid thoughts and encouraging asking for help (e.g., Nutella scenario)Upcoming projects including a book about anger management in children.Resources & Links: Francine Shapiro on EMDRAnna Gomez's Resources on Play Therapy & EMDRInside Out MovieMade for This Book on AmazonHow to Train Your Dragon Book Series Connect with Jenny Hornby: LinkedInWebsite Remember: No matter how overwhelming parenting a complex or neurodivergent child may feel, repairing relationships and building resilience is always possible. Stay connected, stay hopeful, and keep supporting your child's journey.

    30 min
  3. Holly Britton — When Handwriting Struggles Are About More Than Just “Messy Writing”

    May 30

    Holly Britton — When Handwriting Struggles Are About More Than Just “Messy Writing”

    You know that feeling when your child has been practicing handwriting for years… and somehow, it still feels painfully hard? The tracing. The worksheets. The repetition. The tears. The frustration. And yet, nobody seems to stop and ask the real question: What if the problem is not effort… but the way handwriting is being taught? This week on the Complex Kids, Simple Solutions podcast, I sat down with handwriting specialist Holly Britton from Squiggle Squad, and this conversation honestly opened my eyes in a completely different way. Because handwriting is not just about “pretty writing.” It is about: Motor planningBrain-to-hand connectionLearning pathwaysProcessing languageBuilding thought organizationCoordination and sensory integration And for many neurodivergent kids — especially kids with dyspraxia, apraxia, autism, ADHD, Down syndrome, or learning disabilities — handwriting struggles are often much deeper than schools realize. One thing Holly said really stuck with me: “If something is not improving, stop beating the dead horse.” That hit hard. Handwriting is not just a communication tool. It is a brain development tool. Writing by hand helps children: process information differentlystrengthen memoryorganize thoughtsimprove language learningdeepen understanding And if your child is struggling, that does not automatically mean they are lazy or incapable. It may simply mean they need a different approach. Holly also shared practical things parents can watch for: anxiety around writing taskshand fatiguedifficulty planning movementsslow writing speedinability to improve over timefrustration during handwriting assignmentsbetter performance with larger tools like markers or stylusesstruggling more when copying from a distance If your child has been stuck in the same handwriting cycle for years, this episode is one you absolutely do not want to miss. 🎧 Listen to the full episode here: https://www.squigglesquad.com You can also connect with Holly here: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hollyhandwriting/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squigglesquadhandwriting/Substack: https://substack.com/@hollyonhandwriting And as always, if you are feeling overwhelmed trying to figure out whether your child’s IEP, supports, therapies, or interventions are truly helping… You do not have to figure it out alone. Book your free 30-minute Match Call here: https://specialeducationconcierge.com/contact-us

    47 min
  4. May 23

    Tam Taouss — Why Parents of Complex Kids Need to Heal Too

    In this deeply calming and emotional conversation, Michelle sits down with meditation and breathwork teacher Tam Taouss to talk about something so many parents of complex kids desperately need… nervous system regulation. Tam shares her personal journey parenting her autistic daughter through intense daily meltdowns, anxiety, exhaustion, and survival mode—and how meditation and breathwork completely changed the way she showed up as a mother. Tam shares: • What it feels like to live in constant fight-or-flight as a parent • How chronic stress impacts both parents and children • Why regulated parents help create regulated kids • The difference between meditation and simply “trying to relax” • How breathwork can calm your nervous system in the middle of a meltdown • Why many parents struggle with meditation—and why it’s not their fault • The powerful concept behind Vedic meditation and mantras • How even 20 minutes of meditation can create deep restorative rest • Why healing yourself is part of helping your child heal One of the most powerful moments in the episode: “I realized that in order to help my child, I needed to heal myself.” If you are exhausted, overwhelmed, burned out, anxious, or constantly operating in survival mode while raising a complex child… this conversation will make you feel seen. 👤 About Tam Taouss Tam is a Vedic meditation teacher and breathwork facilitator based in Australia who helps parents and individuals regulate their nervous systems, reduce stress, and reconnect to calm through meditation and breathwork practices. 🔗 Connect with Tam Website: https://www.tamtaouss.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tam-taouss-711a4110b/ #ComplexKidsSimpleSolutions #NeurodivergentParenting #AutismParenting #SpecialNeedsParenting #MeditationForMoms #Breathwork #ParentBurnout #NervousSystemHealing #ComplexKids

    29 min
  5. May 15

    Kamy Moussavi — The Hidden Link Between ADHD, Dopamine, and Food

    Kamy Moussavi — The Hidden Link Between ADHD, Dopamine, and Food In this fascinating and eye-opening conversation, Michelle sits down with Kamy Moussavi, founder of Step Together, to explore a topic that affects millions of families but is rarely discussed: the powerful connection between ADHD, dopamine, food cravings, and childhood weight gain. Kamy shares his own journey as a child with undiagnosed ADHD and explains why excess weight is often not the real problem—but a symptom of something much deeper. Kamy shares: Why children with ADHD are significantly more likely to struggle with weight. ADHD creates a dopamine deficit, and for many kids, food becomes the easiest and fastest way to fill that gap. Why your child may not actually be hungry. Sometimes the brain is searching for stimulation, comfort, or emotional relief—not nutrition. The surprising truth about “healthy” snacks. Even protein bars, cereals, and natural sweeteners can trigger the same dopamine response that drives overeating. What happens when kids use food as emotional regulation. Food can become a coping mechanism for boredom, anxiety, loneliness, trauma, and stress. Why changing the child alone rarely works. The most lasting transformation happens when the entire family environment shifts. How parents unintentionally model addictive behaviors. Whether it is food, screens, shopping, work, or alcohol, children learn how to cope by watching us. The connection between food addiction and screen addiction. Both activate the brain’s reward system, and both can mask deeper emotional needs. Why removing everything too quickly can backfire. Sudden changes can trigger intense withdrawal behaviors, making gradual and supported transitions essential. How Step Together works. Rather than focusing primarily on the child, Kamy and his team coach parents over four months to transform nutrition, sleep, technology use, movement, and emotional regulation. The most important question to ask. Instead of asking, “How do I get my child to lose weight?” ask, “What deeper need is this behavior trying to meet?” “Excess weight is often the symptom. The real work is understanding what’s underneath.” If your child struggles with ADHD, intense food cravings, emotional eating, or weight challenges, this episode offers a compassionate and practical new way to understand what may really be going on. 👤 About Kamy Moussavi Kamy Moussavi is the founder of Step Together, a family-centered program that helps children overcome weight challenges by addressing root causes such as ADHD, emotional regulation, sleep, technology use, and family dynamics. 🔗 Connect with Kamy Website: Step Together LinkedIn: Kamy Moussavi

    32 min
  6. May 6

    Tiara Brumberg — Why “Clean Your Room” Doesn’t Work (And What Executive Functioning Really Means)

    In this honest, practical, and deeply relatable conversation, Michelle sits down with occupational therapy assistant and ADHD coach Tiara Brumberg to unpack what’s really going on behind behaviors parents see every day… and why so many of our kids aren’t actually being difficult—they’re overwhelmed. This episode hits home in a real way—because it’s not theory. It’s the daily reality of parenting complex, neurodivergent, and special needs kids. Tiara shares: Why “simple” instructions aren’t actually simple. “Clean your room” isn’t one task—it’s 20. And for kids with executive functioning challenges, not knowing where to start can lead to shutting down completely. What executive functioning really means (in real life). From time blindness to task initiation, organization, and emotional regulation—these are the invisible skills our kids are struggling with every single day. The connection between ADHD, learning challenges, and behavior. That overlap between dyslexia, attention, and processing? It’s real—and often misunderstood in both homes and schools. Why your child can focus on video games—but not homework. It’s not defiance. It’s how their brain processes interest, time, and effort. The power of breaking things down step-by-step. “Pick up your shoes” works. “Clean your room” doesn’t. Specificity changes everything. Motivation matters more than we think. If there’s no meaningful reason to do the hard thing, kids will avoid it. And honestly? That makes sense. Why vague IEP goals fail our kids. If a goal isn’t measurable, specific, and clearly defined—it’s not helping your child. It’s just checking a box. How kids ‘work the system’ (and why it’s actually a strength). These kids aren’t being manipulative—they’re smart. And with the right guidance, that skill becomes a lifelong advantage. The parenting shift that changes everything: curiosity over control. Instead of asking “Why won’t they just do it?” start asking “What’s getting in the way?” Regulation starts with us. Your child will match your energy. Calm creates calm. Escalation creates… more escalation. Quote to sit with: “They wake up every day wanting to be your favorite. When they can’t meet expectations, something is getting in the way—not a lack of effort.” Whether you’re navigating ADHD, executive functioning struggles, or just feeling stuck in the daily battles—this episode will help you see your child differently… and respond differently. 👤 About Tiara Brumberg Tiara is an occupational therapy assistant turned ADHD coach who specializes in helping families understand and navigate executive functioning challenges. With a background in working with children with dyslexia, ADHD, and learning differences, she now supports parents directly through coaching—bridging the gap between therapy and real-life parenting. 🔗 Connect with Tiara Website: https://www.themiddlecoaching.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573709050059

    37 min
5
out of 5
33 Ratings

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Complex Kid, Simple Solutions is the go-to podcast for parents raising neurodivergent and medically complex kids. Hosted by Michelle Choairy, a seasoned advocate and mom of a complex child, this podcast delivers clear, actionable strategies to help you navigate the chaos with confidence. Each episode breaks down overwhelming challenges into simple, practical solutions—whether it’s advocating for your child, navigating the school system, or finding the right support team. You’ll hear expert insights, real-life stories, and empowering advice to help you become your child’s best advocate while keeping your own sanity intact. Because raising a complex kid is hard—but finding solutions doesn’t have to be. 🎧 Subscribe now and start turning challenges into victories!