Connectedness

Fernanda Brasileiro
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Connectedness is a podcast about the magic and mess of being human together. Hosted by Fernanda, founder of Filled Cups, this show dives into the real, vulnerable, and often bumpy journey of building meaningful relationships - platonically, romantically, and with yourself. Expect thoughtful solo episodes, heart-opening stories from real people, and practical tools to help you show up fully in your relationships and build a fulfilling life.

  1. 12/24/2025

    Ep. 15 - Paving Your Own Path with Angela Scott

    Ever been so nervous in a meeting that you couldn't even remember your own name? That was Angela. She'd show up to status meetings, say "no updates," and pray no one would notice her. But here's what makes Angela's story so powerful: she didn't stay stuck there. In this episode, Angela takes us through her transformation—from the person who was too scared to ask questions in meetings, to someone who confidently walked away from corporate stability to build her own consulting business. And trust me, the journey wasn't pretty. She talks about wanting "the floor to swallow her whole" during her first Toastmasters sessions, and how it took four months before speaking up felt less threatening. What I love most about this conversation is how real Angela gets about the messy middle. She shares the exact moment a coworker gave her brutally honest feedback that changed everything. She talks about the director who noticed her transformation without her saying a word. And she opens up about why moving to the UK for love meant putting her entire career on the line—and how she became a remote work pioneer before it was even a thing. But this isn't just a feel-good story about following your dreams. Angela gets honest about what she struggled with when she went out on her own: networking felt unnatural, she spent too much time on accounting instead of hiring help, and she learned the hard way that there's a difference between your "zone of genius" and your "quicksand." The wisdom that hit me hardest? When Angela talks about getting feedback that she needed to "create her own opportunities" in corporate. At first, she raged against it. But then she realized: staying put and waiting for someone else to create experiences for her—that was the real risk. This episode is for you if: You've ever felt invisible or unheard at workYou're tired of waiting for permission to take the next stepYou're curious about Toastmasters but terrified to try itYou're thinking about leaving corporate but scared of the uncertaintyYou want to hear a real, unfiltered story about betting on yourselfWhat we talk about: How silence can actually create bigger problems than speaking upWhy Toastmasters changed everything (even though she almost quit)The surprising perks of being a remote work guinea pigWhat happens when you finally stop filtering everythingThe truth about starting a consulting business (spoiler: hire help sooner)Why "shoring up your weak spots" isn't always the answerHow volunteer leadership prepared her for paid leadershipThe moment she realized the risk was staying, not leavingKey takeaway: Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's something you build by showing up—especially when it feels uncomfortable. You don't have to transform overnight. You can take a break, come back, and eat the elephant one bite at a time. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs that nudge to bet on themselves. And as always, thank you for being here and choosing connection. Resources mentioned: Toastmasters InternationalJordan Harbinger's 6 Minute Networking"The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks (Zone of Genius concept)About Connectedness:This is the space where we explore what it means to grow, connect, trust ourselves, and show up authentically with each other. Hosted by Fernanda, founder of Filled Cups. New episodes weekly about dating, relationships, friendships, and personal growth. Filled Cups Website📸 Instagram: @filled.cups

    26 min

  2. 12/04/2025

    Ep 14: Rebuilding Confidence from the Inside Out with Lu Tandazo

    In this episode of the Connectedness Podcast, I sit down with life and success coach Lu Tandazo to talk about one of the most powerful inner shifts we can make: rebuilding confidence from the inside out.Lu opens up about leaving an abusive marriage, losing her sense of self, and slowly rebuilding her life through personal development, a surprising love for tennis, and a big career pivot from teaching into the corporate world. She also shares how getting “stuck” later in a successful HR career and facing a second marital crisis eventually led her to her true calling as a coach.We talk about:- Why job loss, divorce, or burnout can shake our identity and self-worth.- How to separate your worth from your job title, relationship status, or external validation.- Practical tools to rebuild confidence after life knocks you down.- The limiting beliefs we unintentionally pass on to our kids, including children with special needs.- What we can learn from the fearlessness and resilience of children.- How to interrupt negative self-talk and use affirmations in a way your body actually believes.If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m not good enough,” tied your worth to performance, or struggled with guilt over past mistakes, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.You can find out more about Lu on her website: https://www.dreamintosuccessnow.com/Thanks for watching! 🎙️ 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 episode, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭. 🎙️ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞! Website: https://www.filledcups.com/ To find out more about Lu check out: https://www.dreamintosuccessnow.com/

    37 min

  3. 11/21/2025

    Ep 13: The Power of Community with Geraldine

    In today’s podcast episode I’m talking about the power of community, chosen family, and what it really takes to feel like you belong. I sit down with my friend Geraldine, a Kenyan-born social worker and natural community builder, to explore how small, intentional moments can turn strangers into friends—and friends into family. Geraldine shares stories from growing up in Kenya in a home that was always full of guests, refugees, artists, and extended relatives. Community wasn’t a project, it was simply a way of life. Now that she lives abroad, she brings that same energy into her friendships, our salsa community, and the beautiful sisterhood she’s created around her. We talk about how she hosts gatherings without over-curating, how she trusts her intuition with new people, and how she uses play, dancing, and vulnerability to help others feel safe, seen, and included.If you’ve ever craved deeper friendships, a stronger sense of belonging, or your own version of “chosen family,” this conversation is for you. Geraldine offers gentle, practical ideas you can start using today—like asking more meaningful questions, reaching out with intention, and taking small, courageous steps toward real connection, even if you feel shy or nervous.If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, send a message to someone you’ve been thinking about, or borrow one of Geraldine’s questions to spark a deeper conversation. That’s where true connection begins.Thanks for watching! 🎙️ 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 episode, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭. 🎙️ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 Website: https://www.filledcups.com/

    35 min

  4. 11/13/2025

    Ep 12: Who Deserves Your Love by KC Davis

    Relationships aren’t black and white—and neither is love. In this episode, I explore key insights from KC Davis’s Who Deserves Your Love, a book that redefines what healthy connection looks like. We’ll talk about how to set boundaries without guilt, why “love can be unconditional but relationships shouldn’t be,” and how to heal through connection instead of isolation. Link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Who-Deserves-Your-Love-Relationship/dp/1668056488 link to her video explaining different types of hurtful behavior: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters/video/7504330342736727327

    17 min

  5. 10/24/2025

    Ep 11: Modern Dating After Divorce: A Candid Conversation with Chris

    In today’s episode of the Connectedness Podcast, I’m having a real, honest conversation about dating after divorce in today’s online world. I sit down with my friend Chris, who shares what it’s actually like to re-enter the dating scene after 26 years of marriage and a divorce. We talk about dating apps, emotional healing, attachment styles, and some of the ways men and women often misunderstand each other.Chris opens up about navigating rejection, why no one is ever “fully healed” before dating again, and what it really means to “do the work” on yourself. He talks about his own journey with therapy, energy work, and a men’s group (F3), and how those tools helped him become more secure, emotionally aware, and intentional in relationships. Together, we explore what it looks like to date with more self-respect, clearer boundaries, and softer hearts—without slipping into victimhood or blaming all men or all women.If you’re divorced, newly single, or even just thinking about dating again, this conversation offers grounded, practical insight from both a woman’s and a man’s perspective. This isn’t about playing games or following rules. It’s about becoming the kind of person who can build a healthy, loving, long-term relationship.Thanks for listening!🎙️ 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 episode, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭.🎙️ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 Website: https://www.filledcups.com/

    52 min

  6. 10/19/2025

    Ep 10: Lisa Chadderdon Life Coach on Trusting Ourselves and Checking The Beliefs That Don't Serve Us

    In this episode of the Connectedness Podcast, I sit down with my dear friend and life coach Lisa Chadderdon to talk about something so many of us struggle with: trusting ourselves and gently questioning the beliefs that no longer serve us. Lisa shares her powerful story of pivoting from a long legal career into life coaching, walking through divorce, and rebuilding her life with more purpose, clarity, and self-trust.We get honest about the difference between therapy and coaching, why mindset and nervous system regulation both matter, and how our inner narratives shape the way we show up in the world. We talk about impostor syndrome, people pleasing, fear of change, feeling stuck even when you’ve “checked all the boxes,” and how coaching can help you see your own patterns with more compassion instead of judgment.You’ll also hear a very real, live coaching moment where I open up about my own emotional eating and body image journey. Lisa helps me reframe the idea of acceptance—not as “giving up,” but as a way to stop beating myself up so I can actually make intentional, loving choices. If you’re navigating a big life change—like divorce, a career shift, or simply realizing the life you built doesn’t quite feel like you anymore—I think this conversation will feel like a soft place to land and a gentle nudge forward. And if you know someone who’s going through a transition and doubting themselves, please share this episode with them.You can find Lisa's information here: https://www.ljclifecoach.com/Thanks for watching!🎙️ 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 episode, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭.🎙️ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞!Website: https://www.filledcups.com/ You can find Lisa's information here: https://www.ljclifecoach.com/

    57 min

  7. 10/10/2025

    Ep 9: Danielle Frouws on Friendship, intentionality, and putting yourself out there

    In today’s episode of the Connectedness podcast, I’m sitting down with my dear friend and therapist Danielle Frouws to talk about friendship, intentionality, and putting yourself out there—especially when you’ve moved to a new city or feel like you’re starting over. We share the story of how we met at salsa and a Spanish meetup, how one brave ask (“I’m new here and I’m trying to make local girlfriends”) turned into a real friendship, and why vulnerability is a non-negotiable if you want deeper connections.Danielle and I get honest about what it actually looks like to make adult friendships: using tools like Meetup, seeing loneliness as a signal (not a flaw), and showing up consistently even when it feels awkward. We talk about the difference between group events and one-on-one time, why so many people feel stuck in surface-level interactions, and how to move from “we met once” to “you’re part of my chosen family.” We also talk about maintaining long-distance friendships through intentional “friend dates,” and why friendships deserve as much priority as work, romance, and family.If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only one struggling to make friends, this conversation is for you. I hope it encourages you to send that text, say “hey, want to grab coffee?” and keep showing up for the people who feel like home.You can connect with Danielle at https://daniellefrouws.com/ Thanks for watching!🎙️ 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 episode, 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭.🎙️ 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛e!Website: https://www.filledcups.com/ Danielle's website: https://daniellefrouws.com/

    25 min

  8. 10/04/2025

    Ep 8: Communication Strategies to deal with Relationship issues

    In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most underrated relationship skills out there: communication. Whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or someone you’re just getting to know, the way we talk — and how we talk — can make the difference between connection and confusion.I’m not showing up as an expert today. I’m showing up as someone who is actively trying to improve in this area, who has made mistakes, learned from them, and is still learning.This episode is about slowing down, tuning in, and understanding the human being in front of you… beyond the words they say.We’ll explore why communication breaks down, how unspoken boundaries turn into resentment, and how reading intentions instead of reacting only to words can shift an entire conversation. I share examples of common relationship conflicts — everything from “you never help around the house” to “you keep cancelling plans” — and what might really be happening underneath the surface.We’ll also talk about:✨ Why tone matters more than we realize✨ Why naming your needs isn’t selfish — it’s responsible✨ Simple phrases that make hard conversations easier✨ How to express boundaries without guilt✨ How to stay curious instead of defensive✨ What research from places like The Gottman Institute can teach us about conflictIf you’ve ever struggled to speak up, avoided conflict to “keep the peace,” or felt misunderstood even when you said all the right words, this episode will give you something to reflect on — and hopefully something to try.If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone you care about. Sometimes one honest conversation can change the direction of a relationship.Thanks for watching!🎙️ If you like this episode, please like it and share it.🎙️ Don’t forget to subscribe!Website: https://www.filledcups.com/

    23 min
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Connectedness is a podcast about the magic and mess of being human together. Hosted by Fernanda, founder of Filled Cups, this show dives into the real, vulnerable, and often bumpy journey of building meaningful relationships - platonically, romantically, and with yourself. Expect thoughtful solo episodes, heart-opening stories from real people, and practical tools to help you show up fully in your relationships and build a fulfilling life.

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  • Creator
    Fernanda Brasileiro
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  • Episodes
    15
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    © Fernanda Brasileiro
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