Connecting Beyond Apps & AI

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Connecting beyond apps & AI is about finding love, making friends, and thriving in our age of digital communication. On each episode we dive into an aspect of modern connection with experts, after sharing some foundational research about the subject first. This is an optimistic and upbeat podcast. We help everyday people understand how technology impacts how they connect, and how to find real connection. We also help designers and entrepreneurs understand how to build more impactful systems to support meaningful connection.

Episodes

  1. 16H AGO

    Community, empathy, & AI relationships, w/ Janelle Peifer, associate professor of Psychology, U of Richmond

    In this episode, we explore the relationship between empathy, community, and mental health vis a vis social media and AI. How can social media lead people to hyper-focus on themselves, and what's the cost of that self-focus?How can AI create filter bubbles that isolate people from community?How does community and belonging counter some of the more dangerous risks posed by social media and AI?What can everyday people do to bolster their social wellness? About Janelle: Janelle S. Peifer, PhD, LCP, is an associate professor of psychology at the University of Richmond. She leads Peifer Psychology (peiferpsychology.com) as a speaker and consultant for higher education institutions and organizations committed to fostering environments where all individuals can thrive and reach their full potential. In addition, as a licensed clinical psychologist, she founded The Center for Inclusive Therapy + Wellness (inclusivetherapywellness.com) and leads Fleurish Psychotherapy (www.fleurishpsychotherapy.com). Dr. Peifer earned her PhD in Clinical and School Psychology at the University of Virginia Curry School of Education and is an alumna of Wake Forest University. Her research examines college student development centering on questions of identity/culture, and mental health, with a focus on complex trauma. She has contributed to over 50 public scholarship and media engagements in venues such as HBO, The Boston Globe, SELF, The New York Times, The Guardian, and Science. 00:00 Intro & research 02:53 The connection b/w empathy & happiness 06:10 The cost of hyperindividualism 08:08 How social media leads to self-focus 13:20 How we're driven by pain & pleasure 15:25 How empathy can be misdirected 21:04 Community costs commitment 24:40 Idealized self-view in social media 28:59 How to become less individualistic 31:10 Using AI as a stepping stone

    34 min

  2. OCT 2

    The Dad Question & a Tinder love story w/ Andrew Noakes

    What resources are available to help men decide if they want to become a father? Also, Andrew shares his fascinating intercontinental Tinder love story. How can men (or anyone) decide if being a parent is right for them?What are some useful frameworks to help people decide if they want to become a parent?How can you navigate perfectionism in dating apps?How cultivating ego prevents connection Episode links: The Dad Question https://www.thedadquestion.com/ Connecting Beyond Apps & AI: ⁠⁠https://www.connectingbeyondpodcast.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/connecting.beyond.podcast/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://interfaceofus.substack.com/⁠⁠ 00:00 Introduction 01:04 Basic research on birthrate decline 02:32 Andrew's love story & journey to fatherhood 19:32 The Dad Question 25:56 Setting goals & defining legacy 27:38 When to answer the dad question 31:59 The Dad Question's resources 37:40 Tackling loneliness in fatherhood 41:45 Projecting a positive future 44:24 One step to take today: be tactical about reflecting on goals ⁠

    51 min

  3. OCT 2

    Gender polarity in dating w/ Maya Diamond, MA

    In a more egalitarian world, what does gender polarity look like? How can you invite polarity into your life (if you want to), and how does polarity play out in app interactions? How you can identify your relationship to polarityHow to play with polarityHow to communicate as you want in online interactionsThe role of AI in self-development Episode links: Maya Diamond: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mayadiamond.empowerlove/⁠ empowerlove.us/apply https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rewire-your-attachment-style-with-maya-diamond/id1499735786 Connecting Beyond Apps & AI: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectingbeyondpodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/connecting.beyond.podcast/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://interfaceofus.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠ 00:00 Introduction ⁠⁠⁠01:34 Research on polarity in dating 02:52 Maya's journey to being a coach 05:16 Describing/defining polarity 06:48 Polarity in a world redefining identity 16:00 How tech has impacted polarity 18:51 Importance of play in polarity 24:04 Social media & risk tolerance 26:52 AI & Dating 33:28 Emotions in polarity 38:32 One step to take today

    43 min

  4. OCT 2

    Impact of tech on attachment styles, with Reema Rana

    How the technology we consume and tools we use impact our attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure), and how to cultivate better attachment styles. How tech developers' insecure attachment styles are built into their platformsHow to cultivate secure attachment with our technologyHow to use AI to improve your attachment style without becoming emotionally reliant upon it Episode links: Reema Rana: https://www.instagram.com/reemaranaheals/ Connecting Beyond Apps & AI: ⁠https://www.connectingbeyondpodcast.com/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/connecting.beyond.podcast/⁠ ⁠https://interfaceofus.substack.com/⁠ 00:00 Introduction 01:01 Research on attachment styles 03:18 How tech impacts attachment 07:01 AI relationships: too safe? 11:48 Habit forming tech & attachment 13:44 Building resilience 18:09 Individualism & attachment 26:49 Secure attachment at scale 32:03 Takeaways & one step to take today

    36 min

  5. OCT 2

    AI relationships & childhood development w/ Leanna Spagnola, LMFT

    Why AI relationships represent a major temptation, why to resist it, and how to set strong boundaries. Including: The impact of AI relationships on childhood developmentWhy AI relationships are like breathing through a strawWhy emotional numbing via smartphone use leads to skills atrophyEnvisioning a positive future where connecting in real life is the cool thing to do Episode links: Leanne | Mindful Tech https://www.youtube.com/@RebootingConnection Connecting Beyond Apps & AI: ⁠https://www.connectingbeyondpodcast.com/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/connecting.beyond.podcast/⁠ ⁠https://interfaceofus.substack.com/⁠ 00:00 Introduction 02:08 Research on AI relationships 03:55 How Leanne got into AI 06:37 Building resilience against AI dependency 14:48 The risk of AI on childhood 17:51 The power of oxytocin 18:40 Choosing AI or reality 23:01 How AI impacts self-image 27:01 Nobody should own reality 33:59 The role of community 36:49 Social norms & media addiction 40:29 Media as diet 42:26 A positive future 44:57 One thing you can do today

    48 min

  6. OCT 2

    In-person dating communities, w/ Jennifer Mann

    Exploring the return of structured in-person dating communities with Jennifer Mann, CEO and founder of Meet at the Mirror, an Austin-based intentional dating community. How in-person dating communities are a remedy to dating app fatigue and design problemsWhy investing in community is worth it compared to the 'instant results' promise of dating appsParadox of choice & the shopping mindset in apps vs. real-life connectionThe value of community beyond just finding your significant otherHow to find the right communities for you Episode links: Meet at the Mirror: https://www.meetatthemirror.com/ https://www.instagram.com/meet.at.the.mirror/ Connecting Beyond Apps & AI: https://www.connectingbeyondpodcast.com/ https://www.instagram.com/connecting.beyond.podcast/ https://interfaceofus.substack.com/ 00:00 Intro 01:01 Research on dating apps 02:31 What is Meet at the Mirror? 04:22 Investing in community 09:38 Marketing a non-dopamine based dating solution 12:44 Balancing play & learning 19:31 Growth vs. Accepting yourself 24:33 Scaling in-person dating 32:41 How to find community 35:21 How to take risks

    40 min
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Connecting beyond apps & AI is about finding love, making friends, and thriving in our age of digital communication. On each episode we dive into an aspect of modern connection with experts, after sharing some foundational research about the subject first. This is an optimistic and upbeat podcast. We help everyday people understand how technology impacts how they connect, and how to find real connection. We also help designers and entrepreneurs understand how to build more impactful systems to support meaningful connection.

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