Connecting Couples

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With The Real Imhoffs

  1. 08/09/2023

    Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 5- Returning Home

    The vacation is over and now you are headed home. By plane, train or automobile, your body and your relationship are both preparing for impact. The car pulls into the driveway and what happens first? Is there a plan? How long does is take to unload and reset to start back into the routines of regular life. In this final episode of their vacation series, Chad and Angela discuss the things that can go wrong on the return. Chad is ok with going right back to work the next day- the work helps him reset. Angela needs a day to recover and reset so that the house and the family can get back on schedule. From laundry to schedules to grocery shopping to fill back up an empty fridge, listen as the Real Imhoffs talk about real returns from their travels and then have the Connect Point Conversation with your partner so that you can stay connected on your vacations from start to finish. For more information about Chad and Angela, check out their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  2. 08/02/2023

    Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 4- The Unexpected

    We all hope that once we get to our destination that everything will go smoothly, but inevitably, something will happen that we didn't expect or plan. In this episode Chad and Angela discuss several content issues that can often be places where the unexpected happens. How much to spend, what to eat, making time for physical connection and even worst case scenario events are all possible areas where are best made plans can turn into conflict and disappointment. Just like when cycles show up in distress and hijack the couple, the unexpected things hijack both individuals in the couple. Learning how to align and strategize together will help couples stay connected and flexible and give them the ability to recovery quickly from things that aren't going according to plan. Listen as The Real Imhoffs share real situations and content from their own vacations and then have a conversation with your partner that discusses how to stay aligned and in tune with each other even when everything else feels out of alignment. For more information about Chad and Angela, check out their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  3. 07/26/2023

    Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 3- The Destination

    It would be great if once we got to our destination everything went smoothly and as planned. It just doesn't. Inevitably, something will go wrong and when things do, it can be difficult for couples to repair quickly and get back to enjoyment.  In this episode, The Real Imhoffs talk about the real repairs that we have to do when there is a disconnection on our vacation. If we can't repair, then it takes away from the enjoyable experience we spend so much time planning. Being flexible. Assuming positive intent. Remembering that you are on the same team. These are just a few of the things that you'll need to consider to stay connected on your holiday! Listen as Chad and Angela give you examples from their own vacations and then consider having the conversation they cue up that is designed to help you recover quickly when things sideways at your destination.  For more information or to contact Chad and Angela, visit their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  4. 07/19/2023

    Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 2- The Departure

    Couples make plans to go on vacation for the adventure, the relaxation, the experiences, but often, the departure is riddled with stress and conflict. In this episode, Chad and Angela discuss what leaving for vacation looks like.  Who determines the deadline? What do both individuals have to get done in order for to get on the road on time? There are lots of things that have to align for this to go smoothing, leaving plenty of opportunity for misunderstanding and inaccurate assumptions. Join The Real Imhoffs have they discuss real things that happen when a family tries to depart for vacation, then have a conversation with your partner about how you can make your departure go more smoothly.  For more information about Chad and Angela, check out their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  5. 07/12/2023

    Connecting Couples On Vacation: Episode 1- Where and When?

    There are a lot of little decisions that go into taking a family vacation. Starting with the planning stage of deciding where and when, to agreeing on how much to spend, how much leisure versus adventure, how long to stay and what the return home looks like. In this new series, Chad and Angela encourage conversations that help you stay aligned in this process. Pursuers who like to plan can be perceived as controlling. Withdrawers who like to research and know before they make decisions can be perceived as slowing down the process and not having the same goals. Cycles and disconnections can happen quickly around an event that is designed for enjoyment and togetherness. Join The Real Imhoffs as they talk about the different stages of vacationing, from planning to departing to enjoying the time away to packing all up and heading home. Then have a conversation with your partner about what you might want to include on your next vacation. For more information about Chad and Angela, check out their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  6. 06/07/2023

    Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 9- What Growth Looks Like

    In this final episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad and Angela share what you can expect growth to look like in areas you’ve been able to talk about. You can’t remove all the trigger in the world and you also can’t expect perfection, but you can start to shift the interactions you have with your partner in areas where you’ve been able to find acceptance around negative meaning from your past. Listen as The Real Imhoffs show you how they’ve seen growth in their own ’raw spots’ and then have a conversation with your partner about how this might look in your own relationship.

  7. 05/31/2023

    Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 8- Counting The Cost

    Episode 8: Show Notes   First 5 minutes: Intro- Chad and Angela are breaking down content so you can get into the process and ask yourself what is going on? In this episode Chad breaks down some of his “Raw Spots” around money. He explains that growing up his family was poor and therefore he thinks about spending. He feels the need to be fragile with the money he has. Angela explains that they have been trying to get you to recognize patterns in your interactions so you can start to ask, what is at play and is ‘this’ a raw spot or is this something else?   The key is to note where the tension is and have a conversation about it. Where have you felt this tension before in your relationship and possibly even where have you felt this before- before your relationship. Early in their relationship, Angela explains that she noticed Chad was in a process that didn’t look familiar to her. So she began to ask Chad about what was going on.   Minutes 5-10: Chad admits that there is tangible energy in the process that he is in around spending. Chad and Angela discuss the cycle they got in around him spending, specifically what Chad needs from Angela as a response when he brings it up. To help you understand how to break down the content, Chad and Angela talk you through their discussion around purchasing.   Chad starts off by mentioning that it’s not only around big purchases, but that he is also in a process around smaller purchases. For clarity, Angela explains that while she can see or sometimes feel the tension around the big purchases, she was unaware that he was also struggling to make smaller purchases. Chad explains that big or small, he feels strongly that how he spends money matters.   When these ‘raw spots’ come up, it is likely that your partner won’t know how you feel because their experience is different than yours. Angela shares that she does not have a problem buying items, so it was hard for her to understand what was happening for him.   Minutes 10-15: To break down the differences for you, Angela explains that in the 11 years they have been together, she has had the same vehicle, but Chad has had 7 different vehicles and in every case there was a challenging conversation around the purchase. They share a story about buying a car for one dollar that he could fix and sell, and even making a dollar purchase took a lot of time and energy and effort trying to make sure it was the right choice.   The trap that can happen in a relationship is that it is difficult for the partner to bring up the process they see in the other partner without it landing like criticism. They explain that if the partner can approach with curiosity and an accepting tone, there is a better chance that you can get into the process that is at play. Angela says to Chad with curiosity- “Hey, something is happening for you, and I don’t understand it. Can you help me understand?”   Angela brings up 2 specific content topics that explains times when she misunderstood what he needed from her. One was about getting a third bike and the other was about upgrading watches.   Minutes 15-20: It is helpful in this process if both partners can be clear about what they are presenting or what they need. Their cycle happens when Chad present a topic of purchase and Angela isn’t sure what he needs from her? Chad starts to ask questions about why it is a difficult process for him to make a purchase. Angela mentions why there has been tension added to this process because she was critical and even accused him of buying being an idol or over-spending.   He realized that he doesn’t feel that he can ever get the purchase right. As soon as he purchases any item, it is outdated. Chad says, making a purchase, even a needed one, never provides relief, it only provides stress. Chad starts to explain what he needs which includes assurance and verbalizing that Angela believes in his ability to make a good purchase.   Minutes 20-23: It turns out that it really isn’t’ about the content. It is always about the process. You have to go through the content to get to the process, but eventually you have to sink below the content and figure out what else is at play. You have to be in tune with yourself so you can understand what is causing the internal tension.   Connect Point: We want you to take time and consider if there are themes or patterns of interaction that cause tension in your relationship. Places where you spend a lot of time and energy overthinking or over analyzing. Can you identify places where you are stuck and share them with your partner? See if your partner can help you process what is going on.   For more information about Chad and Angela Imhoff, visit their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com

  8. 05/24/2023

    Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 7- Can You Notice A Pattern?

    In this episode of their series on Healing From Past Wounds, Chad and Angela bring up another example of how you discuss an interaction that has tension to determine if it is a ”Raw Spot” or has a past wound influencing it. They share a pattern they recognized in their relationship, set up the scenario, and then walk you through how they break it down. In the Connect Point, they encourage you to try and recognize patterns in your own relationship and then try to have a conversation with your partner about changing how you interact.

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  • Creator
    therealimhoffs
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2023
  • Episodes
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