Dr. Chad Imhoff, Marriage and Family Therapist, and his wife Angela, Certified Life Coach and Speaker, have created this Therapy companion for couples. Designed for those in EFT Therapy or who have participated in a Hold Me Tight or Created for Connection Workshop, this podcast briefly describes a concept from EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and then encourages the listener to have a conversation with their partner about the topic. Join The Real Imhoffs as they create conversations for Connection Couples.
The Same Language: Episode 2- Practical Tools
Have you ever tried to explain something to your partner, but they just don't understand? What if you could both speak the same language? In this episode, Chad and Angela give you practical tools around how to articulate your experience to your partner in a way that will be understood. First, Chad breaks down his acrostic PERMS about how you are feeling- Physically, Emotionally, Relationally, Mentally and Spiritually, then Angela discusses how to rate your emotion or feeling on a scale of 0-10 so that your partner will understand precisely the level of urgency needed in the response. Possibly one of their most practical podcast episodes... you won't want to miss it.
For more information about Chad and Angela, check out: www.therealimhoffs.com
The Same Laguage: Episode 1- Finding Clarity
Have you ever felt that you were clearly communicating yet your partner just wasn't understanding? It happens in all relationships. No matter how clear you try to articulate, sometimes the words just don't mean the same thing. In this new mini-series, Chad and Angela normalize the very common practice of misunderstanding. They not only give you examples to relate to, but they also set up the conversation for you and your partner to have about finding more clarity in the areas where you've misunderstood. Check it out.
For more information about the Imhoffs, go to: www.therealimhoffs.com
Marriage Maintenance: Episode 6- A Secure Foundation
There are clearly things that can be done to schedule, planning holidays, vacations, having budget talks, keeping a family night, going on dates... but underneath all of the events that are calendar worthy, there needs to be a secure foundation. In this final episode of their Marriage Maintenance series, Chad and Angela discuss the importance of having an understanding about some of the fundamental things. The values and principles that make the two of you who you are as a couple and as a family. They'll share practical ideas to safeguard the relationship that means the most to you. Check it out.
To contact them or read more about Chad and Angela, go to: www.therealimhoffs.com
Marriage Maintenance: Episode 5- On The Daily
Its the small things we do on a daily basis that can really have an impact on how our connection feels. In this episode of their maintenance series, Chad and Angela discuss things you can do each and every day that will help you stay more in tune and in touch with your partner. From being intentional about exits and entries, to including rituals like praying or calling when you are on the way home, listen as Chad and Angela give some of the most practical and tangible ideas around making daily investments to your connection.
Daily Bread Prayers Both Partners develop a short but crucial habit of praying 3 things every day
Step 1 is OUT LOUD- Each spouse takes a turn. 1. Together- pray protection for each other and the marriage. Every day. • This can be a serious time with intentional focus, or it can be short and mechanical (check the box for the day). • In most marriages there should be some of both. The marriage itself is something that should be prayed for by both parties every day ‘God protect my (husband/wife’s) heart and mind, and protect our marriage…’ AMEN
Step 2 and 3 are alone and don’t have to be out loud- On your own time. 2. Forgiveness- In the form of a prayer, speak forgiveness over your spouse. Every day. • This should be done during times of struggle and times of success. • If applicable, speak details of a specific offense, if not it serves as a daily re-commitment to maintaining a posture of grace toward your spouse. “I choose to forgive _____ today for letting me down, disrespecting me, etc… 3. Blessings- Pray blessings for each other about specific spiritual things. Every day. • This intercession – by its truest definition is to stand in the gap for your spouse. • Praying over their weaknesses/insecurities and struggles. • This also emphasizes the importance of each spouse letting the other party know about their current spiritual condition so it can be prayed for (text, phone calls, emails…)
(Ryan Rana, Ph.D, LPC, Marriage and Family Therapist)
Marriage Maintenance: Episode 4- Weekly Maintenance
Monday hits and it's already Friday. The weeks come quick and are filled with lots of opportunities to connect that we often miss. In this episode of their Marriage Maintenance series, Chad and Angela discuss the intentional ways we can connect in the midst of the business. From weekly rituals like a special night out to eat to the anticipation of connecting physically throughout the week, join them as they give cue up a conversation you and your partner can have about making your weekly run more efficiently.
For more about Chad and Angela, check out www.therealimhoffs.com
Marriage Maintenance: Episode 3- Quarterly and Monthly Events
In this episode of the Marriage Maintenance Series, Chad and Angela share the practical and necessary conversations to connect with your partner on a regular basis. Maybe its a monthly date night or sitting down with the calendar to see what this quarter holds. Either way, without these conversations events can sneak up on a couple and get them into a negative cycle. The Real Imhoffs cue up the conversation for you and your partner to have that will help these events go more smoothly.
For more information about Chad and Angela, visit their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com
Accessible and relevant
Good conversations start with shared language. This podcast has given us a common language to use when we discuss our marriage - both the simple topics and the more difficult. Couples at any stage in their relationship will benefit from listening together.
A must for any married couple
I love this podcast and it has been so helpful for my wife and I. Can’t wait to keep pressing in with this content! Thank you!
Insightful and honest
Chad and Angela are two people who know how to get into the real stuff, and they never shy away from their own stories. This podcast is so fun! They help put the puzzle pieces together on the crazy of being in a relationship. Love this podcast so much!