Connection Codes

Connection Codes
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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

  1. 1일 전

    Stop Making Marriage the Goal - (With Bridgett Blood)

    Bridgett Blood is back — a year older, a year braver, and now specializing in the work underneath the work. She's traded a leap-of-faith move to Nashville for certifications in story work, narrative-focused trauma therapy, and Christian sexual health, all aimed at singles, daters, and engaged couples. This episode isn't really dating advice. It's about the thing beneath every relationship you'll ever have: you can't show up authentically in romance while you're disconnected from yourself. Bridgett, Glenn, and Phyllis dismantle the myth of "compatibility," name why doing love in psycholation is so costly, and get unusually honest about Glenn and Phyllis's own early marriage — the quiet, the roles nobody chose out loud, and what might have been different if they'd learned themselves sooner. In this episode: Story work, and why what happened to you at six is still steering your cyclone at fortyWhy "stop making marriage the goal" is a healthier starting line than it soundsThe compatibility myth — why two matching pieces of paper can't survive WednesdayPsycholation: doing romance, marriage, or sex alone, and why it's a Connection Codes red flagSelf-contempt vs. self-hatred — and why the distinction changes everythingGlenn and Phyllis's story: quiet compliance, unclaimed identity, and a decision that changed their marriageA 25-second case study: Glenn asking a restaurant to turn the music downBridgett's issue-specific Core Emotion Wheel on her own story of harm and healingAbout Bridgett Blood: Bridgett is a certified Connection Codes coach based in Nashville, also certified in Christian sexual health and narrative-focused trauma therapy. She works with Christian singles, daters, and engaged couples to help them build an honest, embodied relationship with their own story, identity, and sexuality. Resources mentioned: The Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind a certified coach → connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuFoundations Masterclass → connectioncodes.co/foundationsMake Sense of Your Story by Adam YoungThe Deep Rooted Marriage by Dan Allender & Steve CallBridgett online → BridgettBlood.com | Instagram → @BridgettBlood

    49분

  2. 6월 30일

    Fear Isn't Trying to Kill You - (With Laurel Simpson)

    In April, Laurel Simpson's husband was rushed to the hospital — and for ten days she didn't know if he would live. In this tender, remarkable conversation, Laurel walks Glenn and Phyllis through what it actually looks like to process Fear in real time when it won't stop coming. Not the tidy version where you feel it once and it passes — the version where Fear arrives wave after wave after wave, and you have no choice but to sit with it. What she discovered in that hospital room will change how you think about the emotion you've been taught to fight your whole life. In this episode: Why Fear feels like it's "coming against you" — and what it's actually trying to doThe moment Fear "held hands with Anger" so Laurel could advocate for her husbandHow Lonely sat with her on the nights she was too exhausted to keep goingThe near–panic-attack morning Phyllis walked her through the Core Emotion Wheel, one emotion at a timeWhy "the more I resisted her, the louder she got"Co-regulation and why you were never meant to do hard things aloneWhat our kids actually need from us when we're afraidAbout Laurel Simpson: Laurel is a certified Connection Coach specializing in trauma and nervous-system work, and she's the warm voice behind the Connection Codes inbox — if you've ever emailed info@connectioncodes.co, Laurel is the one who saw it. She lives in Canada, and she shares this story from the other side of one of the hardest seasons of her life. Resources mentioned: The Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewConnect with a certified Connection Coach → connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuFoundations Masterclass → connectioncodes.co/foundationsWork with Laurel: Laurel offers coaching for individuals and couples. Book a session with her directly → calendly.com/laurelsimpson You can also reach her anytime through info@connectioncodes.co.

    46분

  3. 6월 23일

    The Language You've Been Missing — (with Greg & Missy)

    Greg and Missy didn't come to Connection Codes as experts — they came as a couple who almost didn't make it. Thirty years married, with a near-divorce and a two-year separation somewhere in the middle, they found the Core Emotion Wheel during the slow work of rebuilding. In this episode, Phyllis sits down with these longtime listeners (who emailed in after we invited friends onto the show) to talk about the quiet superpower underneath all of it: putting language to what you actually feel. They get into how the wheel gave their daughter, who has Down syndrome, words to be heard and seen; how they stopped fighting about things they secretly agreed on; how they're using the wheel situationally through a giant life transition; and how connection is what makes room for creativity in the first place — the idea behind Greg's brand-new book. Along the way, the conversation cracks open one of the most misunderstood emotions of all — Anger — and lands somewhere genuinely surprising. In this episode: Why "result words" like overwhelmed, anxious, and upset keep us stuck — and how the core emotions give every brain a common languageHow the wheel gave their daughter language to be heard, seen, and feltFighting about things you actually agree on — and the emotion hiding underneathUsing the wheel situationally through a major transition: a move, a business relocation, a house sale falling through, a son changing schoolsHolding Joy and grief at the same time — and not rushing a kid out of his SadWhy processing emotion is the opposite of wallowing in itHow conflict quietly steals creativity — and Greg's book, Created to CreateAnger as a protector and a driver, not violenceAbout Greg & Missy: Greg and Missy have been married 30 years and first found Connection Codes through the Foundations course in 2021. Both are creatives by trade — Greg is an architect, Missy is an interior designer — and they've used the Core Emotion Wheel as a daily and situational tool with each other and with their two kids. Greg recently released his first book, Created to Create. Resources mentioned: Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/cewFind a certified Connection Codes coach → connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuFoundations Masterclass → connectioncodes.co/foundationsCreated to Create: How to Partner with God and Uncover Your Creative Destiny by Greg — available on AmazonWant to be a guest on the podcast? Email us → info@connectioncodes.co

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  4. 6월 16일

    Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Forgets - (With John Kilmer)

    What if your body has been keeping a record your mind never agreed to? In this episode, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with John Kilmer — occupational therapist, life coach, and newly certified Connection Coder — for a conversation about how emotion lives in the body long after the moment has passed. John shares what it was like to grow up between countries, why a hospital stay at 18 months still shapes how he trusts, and how his five-year-old recently named his own fear and shame out loud instead of hiding it. Phyllis opens up about coming to the U.S. as a child who couldn't yet read or write English, and learning to disappear. Together they unpack somatic work, the nervous system, and why simply being present in our own bodies can feel terrifying — and freeing. In this episode: How a five-year-old used the Core Emotion Wheel to self-disclose instead of hideWhy "the issues are in the tissues" — and what somatic work actually meansThe 90-second life of an emotion, and what happens when we cut it shortGrowing up as a "third culture kid" and the quiet grief no one namedWhy looking into another person's eyes for four minutes changes us biochemicallyLoneliness, isolated mothers, and the tools we were never givenJohn walks the Core Emotion Wheel live to close the episodeAbout John Kilmer: John is an occupational therapist and life coach in rural Washington State, trained in somatic and polyvagal-informed approaches to trauma. A recent graduate of the School of Connection and a newly certified Connection Codes coach, he brings a deep love of embodiment work and a story shaped by years living in Lebanon and Kenya. Resources mentioned: The Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind a certified Connection Codes coach → connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuReach John directly → JohnKilmercoaching@gmail.comCheck out our new website → connectioncodes.co And be on the lookout — our new community is coming soon. You won't want to miss it.

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  5. 6월 9일

    Nobody Chooses Pain (With Dr Glenn & Phyllis)

    A trigger isn't an overreaction — it's stored pain asking to come out. From a rainforest compound in Costa Rica (howler monkeys included), Glenn and Phyllis unpack what's really happening when someone gets "triggered," why the brain can't tell the difference between a stubbed toe and an old wound, and why our instinct to calm people down is doing the opposite of helping. Phyllis shares the morning she walked away from a conversation feeling "off" — and turned back around. Glenn shares why he Oooed the stranger screaming at him through a car window. This is an honest, sometimes raw conversation about making space for pain instead of putting the lid back on the jar. In this episode: The working definition of trauma: a current emotional response based on a past eventWhy "just choose joy / stop choosing pain" is something we'd never say to a six-month-oldThe four Phrases — and when not to use the second oneWhy calming someone down tamps the emotion into the body instead of out of itThe jar metaphor: holding sacred space vs. snapping the lid back onPhyllis crying in front of a room of strangers in Switzerland — and why it connected themA live, issue-specific Core Emotion Wheel on one of their most intimate, tender topicsResources mentioned: Free Core Emotion Wheel → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewFind a certified coach (book a session) → connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menuSend us your questions for the show → info@connectioncodes.co

    43분

  6. 6월 2일

    What Happens When You Don't Cry? (With Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill)

    Glenn and Phyllis at the mic. They open with a goodbye on a train platform in Switzerland — and the tears Phyllis chose not to swallow — then go straight into what crying actually does inside your body, and what it quietly costs you when you don't. Glenn unpacks the science (your tears are carrying stress chemistry out of you, and blocking them keeps it in), and Phyllis shares the grief that went underground the year her mom died, when she told herself she "didn't have time to be sad." This is an episode about permission — to feel it, to let it flow, and to be the kind of person who can sit with someone else's tears without trying to fix them. In this episode: Why "boys don't cry" may be one of the most damaging things our culture teaches — and why Glenn says it's like telling someone not to exhaleWhat's actually inside an emotional tear, and why blocking it leaves stress trapped in your bodyPhyllis's story of not crying when her mom died — and the grief that went underground for yearsThe power of the Ooh: what to do instead of reaching for the tissue boxWhy offering a Kleenex can quietly tell someone their tears are a problemA live Core Emotion Wheel on tears — Glenn and Phyllis each model it in real time"If you love deeply, you hurt deeply. And if you don't, it's much, much worse."Resources mentioned: The free Core Emotion Wheel → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewThe blog this episode is built on, "The Cost of Not Crying" → blog.connectioncodes.co/posts/the-cost-of-not-cryingThe tears carousel → on Instagram @connectioncodesThe Connection Codes Community launches September 2026 — grab the Wheel to be first in line → connectioncodes.co/get-the-cew

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  7. 5월 26일

    Goodbye, Tera - A New Season Begins

    After four years, hundreds of episodes, and countless wheels, Tera Wages is stepping down from her role as host of the Connection Codes podcast. In this special two-part episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis open with a heartfelt tribute from Costa Rica, and then Tera takes the mic solo from Spain — where she's hiking the Camino de Santiago for her 40th birthday — to share what the Connection Codes has given her, the three things she's carrying forward for the rest of her life, and one final Core Emotion Wheel with the community she's loved. In this episode: Dr. Glenn and Phyllis honor Tera and Wes's four years of partnership in building Connection CodesThe story of the front porch swing — and the moment Wes put two unplugged mics in front of Glenn and Phyllis that launched the podcastWhy Tera knew it was time, and what's next for the podcast under Glenn and PhyllisThree things the Connection Codes has built into Tera that she'll carry forever: the power of the Wheel, the necessity of community, and the refusal to stay stuckA wheel on the phone with Wes, mid-Camino — and the door it openedPilgrims, phones, and the loneliness epidemicTera's final on-mic Core Emotion Wheel: sad, guilt, shame, lonely, hurt, anger, joyResources mentioned: Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/wheelFoundations Masterclass → connectioncodes.co/foundations

    47분

  8. 5월 19일

    Why More Emotion Words Make It Worse (with Michelle & Kurt)

    Michelle and Kurt have been married since 1999 — and they're the first to tell you that "together a long time" isn't the same as "doing well." In this conversation, they share the moment Connection Codes stopped being a book on their shelf and started reorganizing their marriage. Michelle, a relationship coach herself, names something most of us have felt but never said out loud: that all the colorful language and long paragraphs were just a means to one simple end — to matter. This is a real-time look at what happens when a long-married couple stops trying to be understood and starts letting themselves be regarded. In this episode: Why "more emotion words" can actually make you more dysregulated (and what to do instead)The "two junkyard dogs" season — and how Connection Codes opened a door out of itWhy repeating back what your partner said keeps missing the pointThe dam break: why things often feel worse before they get betterTrauma isn't the event — it's that no one regarded you afterwardBefriending shame and guilt as "text messages from God"Michelle's metaphor: emotion as a corked bottle of rubbing alcoholAbout Michelle & Kurt: Michelle and kurt live in Seattle and have been married since July 1999. Michelle is a relationship coach who now integrates the Connection Codes framework into her work with clients. They found Connection Codes through Zach Watson and went on to complete the coaching cohort. Resources mentioned: The Core Emotion Wheel (free download) → connectioncodes.co/wheelFoundations Masterclass → connectioncodes.co/foundationsCertified Coaches Directory → connectioncodes.co/coaches

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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

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    Connection Codes
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    2022년 - 2026년
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