7 episodes

"Gifted trauma" is the trauma that gifted (highly intelligent) people experience because of being ridiculed, ignored, rejected, misunderstood, out-of-place, left out or left behind, pressured, or excessively groomed as a result of their unusual minds. Gifted people's experiences of other non-gifted specific traumas are also unique, in the way they are experienced with extreme intensity.

InterGifted founder & director Jennifer Harvey Sallin and InterGifted coach Karin Eglinton explore all this - and the hope and healing that is part of the journey.

Conversations on Gifted Trauma InterGifted

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"Gifted trauma" is the trauma that gifted (highly intelligent) people experience because of being ridiculed, ignored, rejected, misunderstood, out-of-place, left out or left behind, pressured, or excessively groomed as a result of their unusual minds. Gifted people's experiences of other non-gifted specific traumas are also unique, in the way they are experienced with extreme intensity.

InterGifted founder & director Jennifer Harvey Sallin and InterGifted coach Karin Eglinton explore all this - and the hope and healing that is part of the journey.

    Conversation 7: Healthy Boundaries, Part 2 -- Cultivating Coherence

    Conversation 7: Healthy Boundaries, Part 2 -- Cultivating Coherence

    In this episode, we continue our exploration on cultivating healthy boundaries by looking deeply at individual, social and collective coherence and its role in helping us to be generative and boundaried adults. This is one of our longer episodes, and it reflects the importance of this topic in our world of quickly compiling and accelerating crises and conflicts. This is part 2 of 3 in our cultivating healthy boundaries episode series.

    You'll find links to resources mentioned in this episode at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma
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    For more information on gifted-specific coaching, therapy, assessments & community with us, visit our home page: www.intergifted.com.
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    We are no longer able to respond to all the emails we receive with listeners' feedback and questions, but if you write to us we may address your questions and reflections in a future episode. You are welcome to contact us at: connect@intergifted.com.

    • 1 hr 57 min
    Conversation 6: Healthy Boundaries, Part 1 -- Cultivating Aliveness

    Conversation 6: Healthy Boundaries, Part 1 -- Cultivating Aliveness

    In this episode, we explore an essential topic to gifted relating and gifted trauma: cultivating healthy boundaries.

    Specifically, we explore the roles of aliveness, coherence, and organization in helping us create sustainable relationships with our gifted and non-gifted peers. In this discussion, we especially focus on our quality of aliveness; what it means and how it can become distorted through trauma, as well as how to (re)learn to cherish and value our aliveness and use it actively as a solid foundation for cultivating healthy boundaries.

    You'll also get an update from us on what we've been working on since our last episode. Our work on climate response education and environmental regeneration and healing provide another important avenue to cultivate aliveness within ourselves in and in our connection to the world.

    We hope you enjoy this episode and stay tuned for our follow up conversations on the role of organization and coherence in cultivating healthy boundaries.
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    Links to resources mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma
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    For more information on our work, visit www.intergifted.com.
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    To send us feedback and requests regarding this podcast, or to inquire about gifted coaching & mentoring with us, email us at connect@intergifted.com.

    • 56 min
    Conversation 5: Gifted Trauma & the Climate Emergency

    Conversation 5: Gifted Trauma & the Climate Emergency

    In this episode, Karin and Jen venture into an exploration of how gifted trauma predisposes us to strong and painful - and sometimes debilitating - reactions to the climate emergency. Karin shares her personal story of how she was affected by this and worked through it, and we explore together what a gifted person can do now to heal from the inside as well as contribute to the healing of the planet. It is a raw and real, and honest and hopeful conversation. 

    Links and resources mentioned can be found at www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma

    Learn more about I Heart Earth and join us there at www.facebook.com/iheartearthmeditations

    For a gifted-specific or ecogrief-specific therapy search, reach out to us here: www.intergifted.com/gifted-therapy

    To share your story with us, email us at connect@intergifted.com.

    • 1 hr 24 min
    Conversation 4: Gifted Needs & Symbolism

    Conversation 4: Gifted Needs & Symbolism

    Episode 4 explores our knowledge (and lack thereof) of our gifted-specific needs. To do so, we explore how in response to gifted-specific trauma, we often use symbols to represent ourselves to ourselves, and thus we get distanced from a present-moment awareness of our gifted-specific needs. It's a negative feedback-loop, and here we explore how it happens, and how to exit the loop and become aware of and dynamically responsive to your own gifted needs.

    Here's a part of our episode that summarizes our exploration quite well:

    "The main symbol that comes to my mind when I think about gifted trauma is the word 'alien'. 'I feel like an alien' is the most common gifted thing that I hear in terms of unmet needs. Symbolism can often be very comforting for us because it allows us to put a name to the pain and any of us who have practiced mindfulness know it's hard to sit with pain, especially when you have no idea how you're going to solve it. When you're not able to be aware of your gifted-specific needs, you don't know how to solve them. Getting your needs met requires that you be able to be aware of them first, and then you're able to take steps, you're able to identify resources, you're able to have courage to reach out, there's room for experimentation and failure. It's a long process, so if you can't even be aware of them to begin with, then there's no hope for getting them met. And that's where you start to see this hopelessness, or whatever immediate feeling, that gets into this habit of using symbols to explain the situation, like 'I'm an alien'. And it's a very accurate symbol, because how am I supposed to know what my needs are if I'm an alien? You can see how you enter into this symbolic representation of your own existence, of your own self, and it becomes this loop in your head: 'what does an alien need? I don't know'. So you go back to that hopelessness, but instead of having to feel it in your body consciously, you can just mentalize it into this image. And it's this weird mix of comforting and terribly tragic.

    This is something organizationally that I've been really committed to in my personal work and theoretical work on giftedness, and in creating and cultivating the culture of InterGifted: because of my own journey, it's been really important to have a strong philosophical stance that it's not cool to stay in the 'we're aliens' mentality because it's very dehumanizing. It can be an adaptive coping strategy during a time when you don't have resources to come back into your humanity and figure it out in a comfortable and safe way. But one of the issues in the rhetoric and dialog around giftedness is that there's been to some degree a cultivation of this idea that 'we're aliens', and I think that's a harmful stance to take because of the dehumanizing aspect.

    A lot of the work in coaching is about getting out of the symbolism of 'alien' and saying, 'yeah, I know that's how you've represented yourself because that's been to some degree comforting, but the reality is: you're human and you have human needs - you just have this extra other thing that is not commonly defined in regular human experience, and that's the gifted set of needs'".

    And then of course in the the episode, we go about exploring how you can discover what that gifted set of needs is and how you can be aware of them and meet them.


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    You can find links to the resources mentioned in our episode via: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma

    Learn more about coaching, mentoring, therapy and our workshops and courses at: wwwintergifted.com

    To send us feedback, email us at connect@intergifted.com 

    • 1 hr 27 min
    Conversation 3: Gifted Trauma & The Body

    Conversation 3: Gifted Trauma & The Body

    In this episode, Jen and Karin explore the effects of gifted trauma on the body - shock to the brain, muscular and neuronal holding patterns and physical blocks, illnesses, disability and other longer-term bodily effects.  All of these, in turn, affect our ability to self-care, to be healthy, to be fully present in our relationships, to be in touch with our intuition and to feel hope and a sense of clear purpose in life. They also affect the way we feel able or not able to access and enjoy our gifted mind. Thanks to an increasing scientific understanding of somatic modes of healing, we can nowadays include these comprehensive tools and frameworks into our gifted self-care toolkits, in order to heal, embrace and celebrate not just our gifted minds, but also our gifted bodies

    Resources and Links mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma

    To contact us for gifted coaching or mentoring, or questions or feedback, email connect@intergifted.com 

    • 1 hr 12 min
    Conversation 2: Healing Through (Gifted) Connection

    Conversation 2: Healing Through (Gifted) Connection

    Gifted trauma is often about disconnection from the world, due to feeling socially out of place, misunderstood, unappreciated or exploited. Thus, healing often requires forming nourishing and healing connections with others (especially others who are gifted and share similar minds, needs and experiences). But that is of course the paradox - how to find nourishing and healing connections with others in a world where you haven't been able to find them? We explore how you can know who to connect with, how to find them, how to connect with them meaningfully, and how to create a network of generative connections now and in the future for your healing and thriving.

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    Links to resources mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma
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    For more information on our work, visit www.intergifted.com.
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    To send us feedback and requests regarding this podcast, or to inquire about gifted coaching & mentoring with us, email us at connect@intergifted.com.  

    • 1 hr 46 min

Customer Reviews

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12 Ratings

auroraremember ,

Great show on an important topic!

There are way too few podcasts out there on giftedness especially as it applies to adults! This show dives deep into supporting adults with unmet gifted needs throughout the lifespan.

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