Create The Best Me

Carmen Hecox
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We're an age-positive podcast that celebrates the richness of midlife and beyond. Hosted by Carmen Hecox, a seasoned transformational coach, our platform provides an empowering outlook on these transformative years. With a keen focus on perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause, Carmen brings together thought leaders, authors, artists, and entrepreneurs for candid conversations that inspire and motivate.   Each episode is packed with expert insights and practical advice to help you navigate life's challenges and seize opportunities for growth, wellness, and fulfillment. From career transitions and personal development to health, beauty, and relationships, "Create The Best Me" is your guide to thriving in midlife. Tune in and transform your journey into your most exhilarating adventure yet.

  1. 1D AGO

    Your 3 PM Slump Has Nothing to Do with Age

    Ever wonder why you always seem to crash at 3 PM, eyelids heavy, brain fog taking over, and the only solution your body screams for is sugar or caffeine? You’ve probably been told it’s just getting older or a willpower issue, but that’s not the real story. In this episode, I break down the real science behind the 3 PM energy crash, especially for women over 50. We’ll talk about how hormone changes, stress, and hidden “energy vampires” drain your tank before lunch and, most importantly, what you can do to fix it. Spoiler: It doesn’t involve another cup of coffee. If you’re ready to say goodbye to that relentless afternoon slump, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help you keep your energy high and your boundaries firm so you can create the best you, every single day. What You'll Learn: Why your 3 PM crash isn’t about being lazy or getting older (really!)The surprising role your cortisol rhythm and estrogen drop play in energy lossThe 3 “energy vampires” that are draining your tank before noon: over-functioning, anticipatory anxiety, and the “false yes.”My 3-step protocol: simple, real-world fixes that actually work (including the protein anchor and 20-minute nothing break)How setting boundaries can be the single most powerful energy boost of midlifeDon’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this with a friend who’s always tired by 3 PM and drop a “NO MORE LEAKS” in the comments if you’re ready to reclaim your energy!  ✨ Next week: Another amazing episode created just for you, don’t miss it!  📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep159 https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18510213  Related episodes: 🎧 Listen to these episodes next:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18550342 https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/17441076   #MenopauseExhaustion #ChronicFatigue #WomenOver50 #EnergyLeaks #CreateTheBestMe #CortisolControl 📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    9 min

  2. MAR 5

    High-Functioning Anxiety: Why Being the "Strong One" is Exhausting

    Are you applauded for having it all together, but deep down you feel like you’re running on empty? In this episode, I'm joined by award-winning psychotherapist and self-esteem expert Lisa Skeffington to finally put words to the hidden struggle so many ambitious women face: high-functioning anxiety. We unpack why being the "strong one" isn’t always a compliment – it’s often a heavy, lonely role that leaves you unable to “wobble,” even when you desperately need support. Lisa Skeffington explains how high-functioning anxiety can look like success on the outside but quietly drains you, why midlife cracks the mask of competence, and how small boundaries and moments of honesty can help you come back to yourself. Plus, Lisa Skeffington shares the three questions that will instantly reveal where you’re over-functioning and what it takes to step into authentic, empowered change. If you feel exhausted from holding everything (and everyone) together, tune in and let’s gently retire the mask – together.  What You’ll Learn: How high-functioning anxiety differs from traditional anxiety and burnoutWhy midlife isn’t the problem – it’s the truth teller that reveals what’s really going onThe menopause myth: why hormonal changes often unmask (not create) anxietyThe emotional and physical cost of always being “the strong one”Practical boundary-setting strategies to gently reconnect with your real needs Music:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic  Call to Action: 💬 Like, subscribe, and share with a friend who’s been “fine” for too long, and let me know in the comments: What’s one thing you’ll pause before committing to this week? Ready to stop over-functioning and reclaim your confidence?  Learn more and take Lisa Skeffington’s free Self-Esteem Reality Check Quiz. Click the link in resources.   📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep158  Take the Free Self-Esteem Reality Check Quiz: https://welcome.empoweredmomentum.com/   Related Episodes: 🎧 Listen to these next: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18550342 https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/17668267 https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/17441076   ✏️ Disclaimer: This episode's information is for educational purposes only and not medical advice. Please see a licensed healthcare provider for personal guidance. Guest views are their own.  #HighFunctioningAnxiety #MidlifeWomen #BurnoutRecovery #CreateTheBestMe #WomensMentalHealth #ImposterSyndrome #MenopauseSupport #SelfCareForWomen 📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    47 min

  3. FEB 26

    The Best Skincare Routine for Tweens & Teens Dermatologist-Approved

    How do you help your tween or teen build confidence with skin care that’s actually made for them, not influencers or adults? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Angela Casey, double board-certified dermatologist, Mohs surgeon, and a mom of three teens and tweens, to unravel the best approach to skincare for younger generations. We dive into what makes tween and teen skin unique, why adult products aren’t the right fit, and the overwhelming impact of social media “skincare trends.” Dr. Casey breaks down the must-have ingredients for healthy, glowing skin, explains the power of prevention, and shares her journey in creating Bright Girl Skincare’s real, clean, and pH-balanced solutions for our youth. Plus, you’ll hear a candid review from my own 13-year-old daughter, Jasmine, on what it’s like to try a skincare brand designed just for teens. What You’ll Learn: Why Tween & Teen Skin Needs Different Care Adult skincare isn’t designed for younger, developing skin. Learn how hormones, skin barrier development, and the microbiome make a big difference.How to Empower Young People With Healthy Habits Setting up simple, positive routines early on builds confidence, helps prevent skin issues, and leads to lifelong skin health.The Real Dangers of Skincare Misinformation Social media trends and influencer products can be risky. Get the facts on what actually works (and what to avoid) for tweens and teens.Ingredients That Matter (and Ingredients to Skip) Dr. Casey outlines the ideal ingredients for gentle cleansing, hydration, and sun protection, and explains why mineral sunscreen is a must.The Importance of Parental Modeling and Involvement The best way to motivate your tween or teen to care for their skin? Model the habits yourself, make great products accessible, and involve them in decision-making.Music:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic Call to Action:  Ready to empower our teens and tweens with healthy, glowing skin? Watch now, leave your biggest skincare question in the comments! And don’t miss next week when we share another amazing episode created just for you. Don’t forget to LIKE, SHARE, and COMMENT with your biggest teen skincare struggle, and SUBSCRIBE for more expert advice and real-life stories. #TeenSkincare #TweenSkincare #DermatologistRecommended #BrightGirlBeauty #DrAngelaCasey #CreateTheBestMe #MidlifeMoms #SkincareRoutine #ParentingTeens 📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep157 https://brightgirl.com  Related Episode: 🎧 Listen to this episode:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18709719  📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    27 min

  4. FEB 19

    The ONLY 3 Skincare Steps You Need Over 50 (Derm Approved)

    Is a 7-step skincare routine doing more harm than good for your midlife skin? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Angela Casey, a double board-certified dermatologist and skin cancer surgeon, to strip back the noise and bring you the science-backed truth about caring for your skin during perimenopause, menopause, and beyond. We dive deep into what actually changes at the cellular level (yes, those hormonal shifts are real!), why your “holy grail” products suddenly start to betray you, and what a truly simple, effective routine looks like for radiant, resilient skin. From viral trends like salmon sperm and red light masks, to why your dermatologist should be your new BFF before booking lasers, nothing is off the table. What You’ll Learn 1. The Real Reason Your Skin Changes in Midlife How hormonal shifts, including declining estrogen and progesterone, make your skin more sensitive, reactive, and prone to irritation. 2. The 3 Non-Negotiable Steps for Healthier Skin Over 50 Why mineral-based sunscreen (with zinc or titanium dioxide), a retinoid or retinol, and an antioxidant serum (like vitamin C) are all you truly need. 3. Why Less Is More (And When Skincare Trends Backfire) The science behind keeping your regimen simple, and how piling on products can break down your skin barrier and fuel inflammation. 4. Navigating Cosmetic Procedures Safely The most important step before booking lasers, peels, or injectables and why starting with a dermatologist can save your skin and your health. 5. What’s Hype, What’s Helpful? Dr. Casey Breaks Down the Trends Her honest take on viral ingredients like salmon sperm (PDRN), snail mucin, red light masks, and whether facial yoga actually helps or harms aging skin.  Music:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic  Call to Action: Want to learn more about why Bright Girl Skincare is the perfect gift for the tween or teen in your life?  Come back next week and find out!  Don't forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this video with a friend who needs to hear this empowering message! Come back next week for another episode designed to help you create the best version of yourself.  📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep156 https://brightgirl.com  Related Episodes: 🎧 Listen to this next:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/14732753  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/15987105   #MenopauseSkincare #Dermatologist #Tretinoin #AntiAging #SkincareRoutine #WomenOver50 #HealthySkin #CreateTheBestMe #DrAngelaCasey #BrightGirlSkincare  📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    51 min

  5. FEB 12

    Breaking The Invisibility Cycle After 50: Be Seen. Be Heard

    Are you over 50 and starting to feel invisible in your own life or out in the world? This episode is dedicated to breaking that silence and reclaiming your spotlight. I tackle the reality of gendered ageism and why women over 50 often feel overlooked, not just in public but even in their own families and workplaces. If you’ve ever stood at a counter and watched the world pass you by, you’re not imagining this. Today, I share practical ways to rip off the invisibility cloak and step back into your power with my 3-step toolkit. I’ll show you how to take up space, stop apologizing for existing, and create conversation starters to make sure you’re seen, heard, and respected. You’ll also leave with a new perspective: invisibility isn’t just a curse; it can be a superpower that puts you in control of your own story. What You'll Learn: Why “gendered ageism” is real, and how culture creates blind spots for older womenThe invisible habits that keep you in the shadows and how to break themMy 3-step Invisibility Toolkit for instant confidence and connectionHow changing your body language can signal your presence (even if it feels awkward at first)Easy ways to create conversation starters that remove barriers and invite connectionWhy claiming space after 50 is not vanity, but about relevance, respect, and authenticity Music:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic  Call to Action:  If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share with a friend who deserves to be seen. Join the conversation in the comments and let me know how it felt to take up space this week!   📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep155   Related Episodes: 🎧 Listen to these next:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18438445  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/15777078    #InvisibleOver50 #MidlifeConfidence #WomenOver50 #ReinventingYourself #CreateTheBestMe #BreakTheInvisibilityCycle #VisibilityAfter50  📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    11 min

  6. FEB 5

    Menopause & Attachment Styles: Why Old Childhood Wounds Flare Up in Midlife

    Ever wondered why your emotions suddenly feel louder, your patience thinner, and old childhood wounds are resurfacing as you move through midlife? In this episode, I sit down with attachment and menopause specialist Bev Mitelman to connect the dots between hormonal shifts, stress tolerance, and the emotional legacies we carry. We break down why perimenopause and menopause can hit like a freight train, not just physically, but emotionally. Most of all, we unpack how your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful) influences how you respond to relationships, stress, and change at this stage of life. If you’re feeling burned out, less like yourself, or find yourself blurting things you regret or feeling unexplained relationship tensions, this episode shines a compassionate light on what’s really going on and what you can do about it.  5 Key Lessons: Attachment styles aren’t your identity; they’re learned patterns, and you can unlearn and rewire them, even in midlife.Menopause isn’t just hot flashes; it’s a complex, decade-long process with over 30 real symptoms, many emotional and often dismissed.Sleep disturbances, anxiety, burnout, and irritability can be hormonally-driven, not just “life stress,” and you deserve real support.Emotional regulation is possible: pausing for 90 seconds, moving, or stating “I need a moment” can radically improve your relationships.This season of life is a chance for rebirth, an opportunity to tackle old wounds, rediscover what you want, and create the best version of yourself. Music:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic  Call to Action:  Want to dive deeper into emotional regulation, attachment styles, and real support for menopause? Like, share, and comment, and don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes designed to help you thrive. Find helpful resources by clicking the links below!  📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep154 Take the Attachment Quiz: https://mailchi.mp/securelyloved/quiz Connect with Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com  Related Episode: 🎧 Listen to this episode next:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18550342    #MenopauseSupport #GrayDivorce #AttachmentStyles #MidlifeMarriage #Perimenopause #CreateTheBestMe #RelationshipAdvice #WomensWellness #SecurelyLoved #NervousSystemRegulation 📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    1h 9m

  7. JAN 29

    Brain Fog vs. Dementia: What's Actually Happening

    Ever had a moment where you’re in mid-sentence and the right word just… disappears? If you’re in your 40s, 50s, or 60s and are wondering whether those lapses are just menopause brain fog or something more serious, this episode is for you. In today’s episode, I open up about the real reasons behind midlife memory glitches and explain why what you’re experiencing is almost always part of a normal biological transition (not early dementia).  We dig into what’s really going on in your brain during menopause, how to spot the difference between typical brain fog and true dementia red flags, and my three key strategies for getting your memory and self-assurance back on track. If the fear of memory loss has been weighing on your mind, I want you to know you are not alone. Most importantly: you are not losing your mind! 5 Key Lessons: Estrogen and Your Brain: Learn how dropping estrogen levels dim the “lights” in your brain and why this leads to tip-of-the-tongue moments but not lost memories.Cortisol’s Double-Whammy: See how stress hormones can create a memory-blocking feedback loop in moments of forgetfulness, making brain fog feel worse.Red Flags vs. Normal Moments: Get clear, actionable checkpoints to distinguish between menopause brain fog and early signs of dementia.Three-Part Brain Reset Routine: Discover my menu for feeding your brain, offloading to-do lists, and stopping the panic spiral when you forget a word in public.Self-Compassion in Midlife: Why your worth isn’t measured by your recall speed, and why awareness itself is a reassuring sign.Call to Action: Ready to transform your day-to-day energy, regain mental clarity, and finally understand what your brain needs? Hit like, share with a friend who needs this.   📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep153 https://createthebestme.com/podcast/menopause-belly-fat/ https://createthebestme.com/podcast/3-am-racing-heart-in-midlife-causes/  Related Episodes: 🎧 Listen to these episodes:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18510213 https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18438445   Disclaimer: This episode is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical advice. Consult a healthcare provider for health concerns. #MenopauseBrainFog #MemoryLoss #PerimenopauseSymptoms #WomensHealthOver50 #BrainHealth #CreateTheBestMe  📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    12 min

  8. JAN 22

    Why Saying Yes When Your Body Says No Is Destroying You

    Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” when every fiber of your body is begging you to say “no”? In this episode, I sit down with Margarita Kogan, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Honor and Heal, to unpack the true cost of self-abandonment and how midlife isn’t about “reinventing” yourself, but about rediscovering who you really are. We dive deep into the ways we lose ourselves under the weight of expectations, people-pleasing, and burnout. Margarita shares how to listen to your body’s wisdom, regulate your nervous system, and find your most authentic self not with a drastic life change, but with gentle honesty and supportive community. If you’ve been feeling emotionally exhausted, short-tempered, or just disconnected from your own life, this conversation will help you recognize the warning signs plus give you powerful, practical tools you can start today. Here’s what you’ll learn: How to spot early warning signs of emotional exhaustion and self-abandonmentWhy your nervous system holds the key to healing, and how to start tuning inThree essential questions to reconnect with your authentic selfThe role of community and why sharing your truth with the right people accelerates true healingWhy midlife is the perfect moment to stop abandoning yourself and start taking up spaceMusic:   Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic   Call to Action:  Is there a place in your life where you are saying “Yes” but your body is saying “No”? Let me know in the comments whether you feel it in your shoulders, jaw, or stomach.  Ready to transform your life by setting boundaries and embracing self-care? Like, share, comment, and subscribe  📕 Resources:  https://createthebestme.com/ep152 Get Margarita Kogan’s Free Boundary Script:  https://boundaries.backtoselfhealing.com/landing-page-bts-page Learn more about the Honor and Heal Program:  https://www.margaritakogan.com/    Related Episode: 🎧 Listen to this episode:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/17441076    #MargaritaKogan #BackToSelfHealing #PeoplePleasing #SomaticHealing #Boundaries #NervousSystemRegulation #SelfAbandonment #MidlifeWomen #CreateTheBestMe #MentalHealth 📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

    39 min
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We're an age-positive podcast that celebrates the richness of midlife and beyond. Hosted by Carmen Hecox, a seasoned transformational coach, our platform provides an empowering outlook on these transformative years. With a keen focus on perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause, Carmen brings together thought leaders, authors, artists, and entrepreneurs for candid conversations that inspire and motivate.   Each episode is packed with expert insights and practical advice to help you navigate life's challenges and seize opportunities for growth, wellness, and fulfillment. From career transitions and personal development to health, beauty, and relationships, "Create The Best Me" is your guide to thriving in midlife. Tune in and transform your journey into your most exhilarating adventure yet.

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  • Creator
    Carmen Hecox
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    157
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Create The Best Me
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