Grounded Wildness Heather Whelpley

What do you do when fear, worry, and discomfort get in the way of you doing the thing you really want to do? That could be something big, like a career change, or something little, like going to an event where you don't know anyone. How do you take action even when fear is there?
It's not about getting rid of the fear. It's also not about trying to force yourself to be 100% confident. Instead, there is a question to ask that will give you an answer that's unique to you and your specific situation. I've used this key for MANY years and it always gives me the motivation I need to move forward even when it's scary. 

In the episode, you'll get this key and how to apply it to different situations in your life, like:
Setting boundaries and saying no (which can be so uncomfortable!)Imposter syndrome and questioning if you really know enough and have enough experienceProjects, decisions, and career choices that people may not get - or may actively upset themLinks:
Learn more about hiring Heather as a speaker and her sessions on imposter syndrome, discovering your authentic voice, and setting boundaries: https://www.heatherwhelpley.com/speakingGet signed, hardcover copies of Heather's books on her website and the audiobook, ebook, and hardcover of Grounded Wildness on AmazonJoin Heather's email list and also get The Ultimate Guide To Saying No and Setting Boundaries At Work!

We're diving into two topics on the podcast today: How to stop apologizing when you have nothing to apologize for AND getting unstuck in your work and life. Shira Miller is an expert on both! She's also a TedX speaker, certified coach, author and the Chief Communications Officer at National DCP. Let's be clear - there are reasons you apologize ALL THE TIME. And there are also consequences - on your career, how you're heard, and how you feel on the inside (it's not good for your soul to constantly apologize for yourself!).

We dive into:
Recognizing your own "apology speak" - it goes way beyond just "sorry" (I learned a few new things with this one!)How to increase your confidence so you can share your ideas without apologizing for themStrategies to decrease chronic apologizingShira's definition of "stuck" - and how it can help you get UNstuckHow forgiveness plays a role in getting unstuck - both forgiving others AND forgiving yourselfLinks:
Get Shira's book Free and Clear: Get Unstuck and Live the Life Your WantShira's website: https://shiramiller.com/Connect with Shira on LinkedInLearn more about hiring Heather as a speakerGet signed, hardcover copies of Heather's books on her website (and links to get them on Amazon, too!)

Today's episode is an inspirational lesson in how to be a positive force for change in your workplace – and in our world as a whole. Carliss Miller, our guest today, is an organizational transformation architect, changemaker, and dedicated Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) leader on a mission to drive positive change in organizations powered by employee engagement. She wants to bring people along with a shared vision of hope. This work is not without its challenges, though! In our conversation, Carliss shares the barriers and doubt she's experienced – and how she has found continued motivation and courage to advocate for change.
We also dive into:
What to do when you doubt yourself or your voiceHow to take care of yourself when things are hardLeading change when things are complex and nuancedWhat's challenging in DEI right now and what's giving Carliss hopeGiving yourself permission to reschedule important conversations when you know you don't have the energy needed for themLinks:
Connect with Carliss on LinkedInConnect with Heather on LinkedIn and join the conversation about this episode!Learn more about Heather's keynote on Discovering Your Authentic Voice - And How To Use It To Lead Change (and her other speaking topics, too!)Get signed, hardcover copies of Heather's books on her website and the audiobook, ebook, and hardcover of Grounded Wildness on AmazonJoin Heather's email list and also get The Ultimate Guide To Saying No and Setting Boundaries At Work!

Big emotions. We all have them. Sometimes they're hard, sometimes joyful, sometimes just plain overwhelming. So what can you do with them?

In today's episode we dive into just that, including:
The rules and feedback that can get in the way of feeling and showing our emotions, like being told you're too emotional or that you need to be polite and not show angerHow to create space for your emotions and welcome them in, even when it's uncomfortablePractices to move with your feelings and release themHow to use your emotions as information about what's important to you, what needs to change, etc.Links:
Learn more about Heather's keynote on Surviving To Thriving - A New Way To Manage Burnout (and her other speaking topics, too!)Get signed, hardcover copies of Grounded Wildness on Heather's website and the audiobook, ebook, and hardcover on AmazonJoin Heather's email list and also get The Ultimate Guide To Saying No and Setting Boundaries At Work!

How do you get heard in meetings? And how do you do that in a way that is both authentic AND effective? Because, let's be honest, a lot of advice given to women about how to get heard is based in bias and discrimination. It emphasizes all the ways you are "supposed to" show up vs. what is authentic to you.

The same holds true for meetings and I know you are most likely in A LOT of meetings. They are a place to be heard and a place where it's easy to be overlooked, interrupted, and generally NOT heard.

In the podcast, we'll cover four super practical tips that you can apply in your upcoming meeting to ensure your voice is heard:
Taking up space and how to do that in virtual, hybrid, and in-person meetingsReclaiming an interruption and steering the conversation back in your directionSetting team norms that minimize interruptions and maximize people getting heardGetting an ally to support you in getting heard (and how you can support them, too!)Links:
Learn more about Heather's keynote on Discover Your Authentic Voice - And How To Use It To Lead Change (and her other speaking topics, too!)Email Heather directly about speaking or with feedback on this episode: heather@whelpleyconsulting.comGet signed, hardcover copies of Grounded Wildness on Heather's website and the audiobook, ebook, and hardcover on AmazonJoin Heather's email list and also get The Ultimate Guide To Saying No and Setting Boundaries At Work!

Today we're diving into how to design your life with certified Design Your Life coach, Katie Selby! This is a great episode if you're considering a big change in your career or life -- or if you simply want to evolve in small ways. Katie will show you how to design a life aligned to your values, energy, and what works for you at this particular point in your life.

We discuss:
What does it mean to design your life and what are the specific steps you can take to start designing YOUR life?A powerful exercise you can do today to start envisioning a different future for yourself, even if you feel stuck (Katie and I have both gotten a ton out of doing this!)Feeling like you're not allowed to make a change and how to break that ruleGiving yourself permission to take "electives" as an adultThe moment that touched me deeply and brought immediate tears to my eyes - and I think it will hit you right in the heart as wellConnect with Katie:
Katie's website for coaching, speaking, and retreat info: https://www.quarterlife.coach/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katieselby/Additional links:
Learn more about hiring Heather as a speakerGet Grounded Wildness on Amazon and Heather's websiteJoin Heather's email list and also get The Ultimate Guide To Saying No and Setting Boundaries At Work!