Dad Tired Jerrad Lopes

In this conversation, Jerrad and Steele Billings discuss the concept of artificial intelligence (AI) and its different eras. They explore the current state of AI, from narrow AI to general AI and the potential future of super artificial intelligence. They also touch on the concerns and debates surrounding AI, including the role of governance and the potential for AI to surpass human capabilities. Steele emphasizes the importance of responsible and ethical AI development and the need for democratization to prevent concentration of power. They also discuss the potential impact of AI on human emotions and relationships. The conversation explores the potential of AI to be used for God's glory and human flourishing. It emphasizes the importance of understanding AI and seeking God's will in its use. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the future impact of AI and the importance of equipping children to navigate it.



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Jerrad Lopes interviews Stephen McWhirter, a worship leader and songwriter, about his journey of faith and fatherhood. Stephen shares his testimony of growing up with a father who was a traveling evangelist but also physically abused his mother. This traumatic experience led Stephen to reject Christianity and engage in a life of addiction and crime. However, through a supernatural encounter with God while reading a book, Stephen found redemption and forgiveness. He shares the importance of repentance and the power of God's grace in transforming lives. Stephen also discusses the challenges and joys of being a father and the importance of authenticity in parenting. In this conversation, Jerrad Lopes and Stephen McWhirter discuss the challenges of church leadership and the importance of humility. They also explore the concept of longing for Jesus' return and how it can impact our lives and relationships. They touch on the theological question of whether we choose God or God chooses us, and the role of free will in our faith. They also discuss the dangers of pornography and the importance of open communication with our children. Stephen shares his journey from addiction to faith and the impact of his song 'Come Jesus Come' on people's lives.

Dr. Julie Slattery, a clinical psychologist and founder of Authentic Intimacy, discusses the topic of sex and intimacy from a biblical perspective. She explains that healthy sexuality within a marriage is built on four pillars: faithfulness, intimate knowing, sacrificial giving, and passionate celebration. Dr. Slattery emphasizes the importance of understanding the neurochemical differences between men and women and the need for vulnerability and open communication in a marriage. She also addresses the issue of pornography and the importance of seeking help and accountability. Overall, Dr. Slattery encourages couples to embrace God's design for sex and intimacy in order to experience deep connection and fulfillment in their relationships. In this conversation, Juli Slattery and Jerrad Lopes discuss the importance of addressing sexual intimacy in marriage. They cover topics such as the impact of pornography on relationships, the need for vulnerability and support from other men, the importance of sacrificial giving, and the misconception of sex as a need. They also provide practical advice for couples to improve their sexual relationship and emphasize the importance of communication and understanding each other's needs.

In this conversation, Jerrad Lopes and Shane Winnings discuss their experiences with Promise Keepers and their journeys to becoming dads. They also talk about Shane's unexpected transition from law enforcement to becoming the CEO of Promise Keepers. They share their passion for evangelism and the power of the Holy Spirit in their lives. Shane shares stories of praying for people and witnessing miraculous healings. They encourage listeners to be open to God's leading and to step out in faith to share His love with others. The conversation explores the importance of obedience and discipline in the Christian life. The speakers discuss the biblical principle of being faithful in the little things and how it leads to being entrusted with greater responsibilities. They emphasize the need to obey God even when it's uncomfortable or goes against our fleshly desires. They also highlight the balance between being strong and bold, yet tender and compassionate. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the role of discipline in shaping behavior and the importance of training ourselves to do things we don't want to do.

Jeremy Pryor discusses the cultural shift in defining fatherhood and motherhood, and the impact it has on families. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the roles of fathers and mothers and the unique contributions they bring to the family. Pryor also explores the idea of ideals and how they provide something to aim for in family life. He addresses the challenges of individual freedom and the need to balance it with the responsibilities of parenthood. The conversation touches on the pain and trauma that can arise from past experiences and the importance of healing and redefining these roles in a healthy way. The conversation explores the topics of gender roles, fatherhood, and the importance of honoring parents. Jerrad Lopes and Jeremy Pryor discuss their experiences and perspectives on these subjects, highlighting the need for a biblical understanding of fatherhood and the impact of erasing traditional gender roles. They emphasize the importance of fathers in the lives of children and the significance of honoring and caring for parents. The conversation also touches on the challenges of navigating relationships with parents and in-laws in today's culture. The conversation explores the importance of honoring and caring for aging parents and the need to redefine family beyond the nuclear unit. It emphasizes the value of intergenerational relationships and the privilege of creating a culture that includes and honors parents and in-laws. The discussion also addresses the challenges of setting boundaries and dealing with toxic family dynamics. Practical suggestions are given, such as creating regular family meals and inviting parents into the rhythms of the household. The conversation encourages grace, discernment, and intentional efforts to build healthy relationships with parents and in-laws.

In this conversation, Jerrad Lopes and Sam Jolman discuss various topics related to men's emotions, anger, and the use of pornography as a coping mechanism. They explore the importance of self-awareness, curiosity, and finding healthy outlets for stress and emotions. They also highlight the need for men to give themselves space to reflect on their behavior and seek healing with the help of others. Shame registers as trauma and can feel like a threat to the body, leading to fight or flight responses. Men often cope with shame by shutting down, disconnecting, and hiding. Overcoming shame requires vulnerability and community support. In Christian culture, there is often a subtle message that sex is bad before marriage and then becomes awesome but not talked about after marriage. Healthy sexuality as a disciple of Jesus involves appreciating beauty, experiencing awe, and worshiping God. Practical steps for shaping the story of young boys include guarding devices and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships. Therapy should lead to repentance and a deeper reliance on Jesus as the healer, rather than becoming self-focused and narcissistic.



Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:21 The Challenges of Raising Boys

06:48 The Role of Pornography as a Coping Mechanism

13:34 Exploring Deeper Pain Points and Acceptance

27:48 The Power of Confession and Seeking Support

28:30 Understanding the Impact of Shame and Coping Mechanisms

34:56 Navigating Christian Culture's Messages About Sexuality

37:01 Appreciating Beauty, Experiencing Awe, and Worshiping God

44:26 Practical Steps for Shaping a Healthy View of Sexuality in Young Boys

50:06 The Role of Therapy in Repentance and Reliance on Jesus

Key Takeaways:


Boys and girls have different ways of expressing and dealing with emotions, and it's important for parents to understand and guide them accordingly.


Many men struggle with anger, especially after getting married and having children. It's important to find healthy outlets for anger and not just bury or suppress it.


Alcohol and pornography are often used as coping mechanisms to de-stress, but they can have harmful side effects and should not be relied upon for emotional regulation.


Understanding the deeper reasons behind certain behaviors, such as pornography use, can help in finding lasting healing and freedom.


Self-awareness and curiosity are key in exploring one's own story and addressing underlying pain or trauma.


Finding a trusted community or accountability partner can greatly aid in the journey towards healing and overcoming addictive behaviors. Shame can feel like a threat to the body and lead to fight or flight responses.


Men often cope with shame by shutting down, disconnecting, and hiding.


Overcoming shame requires vulnerability and community support.


Healthy sexuality as a disciple of Jesus involves appreciating beauty, experiencing awe, and worshiping God.


Practical steps for shaping the story of young boys include guarding devices and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships.


Therapy should lead to repentance and a deeper reliance on Jesus as the healer, rather than becoming self-focused and narcissistic.