Damned If You Do

Praise & Linda
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Welcome to the Damned If You Do podcast, where two cousins share our experiences growing up as children of immigrants and how we navigate the world today as teachers, mothers, and women of color who have something to say.

Episodes

  1. 01/19/2025

    The Hairy Butthole

    Linda and Praise start the year strong with a new episode! We attended a book-reading-slash-comedy show and left with very hairy buttholes. There's a Korean saying that goes, "If you laugh while you cry, hair will grow out of your butthole." Youngmi Mayer, a biracial Korean American comedian, whose memoir, I'm Laughing Because I'm Crying, conjectures that Koreans exist within this ambivalent state of emotions and it makes us who we are. We have a lot of thoughts about the show, including our response to a fascinating game she plays onstage with three white men.

    58 min

  2. 12/03/2024

    The Present | Part 1

    In keeping with the theme of gratitude around the holiday season, we invite you to exercise gratitude...for yourself! Join Linda and Praise as we talk about all the decision-making and "showing up" required in adult life. How do we stay present through all of it? In Part 1, we unpack what "being present" is not, and why we often live in the past and future but not the present. Part 2 covers what "being present" means and what that looks like for us. We talk about everything from spiraling down into shame or dissociating, to hoping, even when it hurts. C'mon and join us, it'll be fun!

    29 min

  3. 12/03/2024

    The Present | Part 2

    In keeping with the theme of gratitude around the holiday season, we invite you to exercise gratitude...for yourself! Join Linda and Praise as we talk about all the decision-making and "showing up" required in adult life. How do we stay present through all of it? In Part 1, we unpack what "being present" is not, and why we often live in the past and future but not the present. Part 2 covers what "being present" means and what that looks like for us. We talk about everything from spiraling down into shame or dissociating, to hoping, even when it hurts. C'mon and join us, it'll be fun!

    1 hr

  4. 04/30/2024

    The Spaces | Part 3

    The final part of The Spaces series explores what it looks like when we take up space - both in our real, everyday lives and conceptually in our heads. Join us in our villain era as we practice drawing clear boundaries!

    47 min

  5. 07/09/2023

    The Spaces | Part 2

    In Part 2, we tackle why we didn’t take up more space growing up. We unpack all things Korean-American, the patriarchy, transactional culture, and of course, our moms. Join us!

    26 min

  6. 05/23/2023

    The Spaces | Part 1

    Have you ever wondered what it means to "take up space?" We, Linda and Praise, have often heard that we have a big presence. Then why do we both feel like we take up so little space? Join us for Part 1 of 2 as we dive into this!

    25 min

  7. 11/28/2022

    The Emotions

    Our comeback episode is a banger! We discuss all things related to emotions. In the past, we used to say that we only feel two emotions: happiness and anger...that is, before we started a lot of therapy. We explore our big therapy breakthroughs that have fundamentally  changed us, unintentional repression, "Big G" or "little g" grief, and most importantly, how to live our best (mediocre) lives. And of course, we laugh through all of it!

    1h 9m

  8. 12/20/2021

    The Mediocre Life

    It's been a minute since our last episode - because we were busy living la vida mediocre! This week, we discuss the expectations put on us by our parents and by society, and the futility of running a rat race you can't ever win. We have both committed to mediocrity and invite you to do the same!

    1h 11m

  9. 10/14/2021

    The Non-Review

    We give our take on Shang-Chi, not as a review, but more as an experience of what came up for us while watching the film, especially as children of Asian immigrants. We talk about everything from patriarchy and double consciousness, to the lack of vulnerability shown by our parents. But damned if we didn’t have a great time!

    54 min

  10. 09/12/2021

    The Takedown

    Three years, two babies, and a pandemic has happened since we started teasing the idea of a podcast, but episode one is finally here! It just wasn't the episode we thought we'd start with. We planned our first to be typical of the rest: a Linda and Praise discussion that is honest, irreverent and filled with raucous laughter.  But damned if we didn't start with Covenant Fellowship Church a.k.a. CFC, which hits so close to home with the Korean-American community. With our first guest, the one and only Amos Lee, we explain what drew us in, what kept us there, and our recent role in the publicizing of recent events.

    51 min
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Welcome to the Damned If You Do podcast, where two cousins share our experiences growing up as children of immigrants and how we navigate the world today as teachers, mothers, and women of color who have something to say.

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  • Creator
    Praise & Linda
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    10
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Praise & Linda
  • Show Website
    Damned If You Do