Date, Affirm, The Real

Marcus Goodwin & Keya McClain
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Date, Affirm, The Real (DAR) is a group created to discuss healthy relationship with self, in dating relationship and marriage. The group focuses heavily on black healthy relationships. Our focus is on healthy, healing, positive and affirming love. The discussions range from topics related to all things self-love and healthy relationships.

  1. 10/18/2025

    Unlearning Survival Mode in Relationships

    In this episode, Keya McClain the Poet and Shimeka the DAR Therapist unpack what it really means to unlearn survival mode in love. So many of us learned to protect, perform, or please as a way to stay safe - not realizing those same habits can sabotage intimacy, trust, and peace. Together, they explore how trauma responses show up as control, hyper-independence, or emotional distance, and how healing requires learning to receive love instead of sight for it. This conversation is about learning to rest in relationships, not just survive them - and how true connection starts when safety becomes internal, not conditional. It’s time to stop surviving love and start experiencing it

    1h 7m

  2. 10/08/2025

    Dating and a Financial Deficit: When the Heart’s Ready but the Wallet Ain’t

    Love sounds good until real life hits the budget. 💔💸In this episode of Date, Affirm, the Real, Marcus and Don ask the questions most people avoid — should you even be dating if your finances aren’t where you want them to be?Is being honest about money early a sign of maturity or a relationship red flag? And can love still grow when your bank account’s catching up to your heart?Join the conversation as we unpack financial vulnerability, pride, timing, and truth in today’s dating world. Because sometimes, being “ready for love” means more than just emotional connection — it’s about alignment, transparency, and real priorities.

    52 min

  3. 10/06/2025

    Men vs. Women? Or Us vs. the Problem?

    Are men and women really the problem—or are we just fighting the wrong fight?In this episode of Date, Affirm, The Real, hosts Marcus Goodwin and Don (Jr. Lily) sit down to unpack the tension between men and women in today’s dating and relationship culture. We share our real thoughts and experiences on how negative views fuel division, and what it takes to shift the focus toward understanding, respect, and true connection.

    1h 6m

  4. 10/06/2025

    We Just Can’t Recover

    We Can’t Just Recover | Date, Affirm, The Real PodcastAfter the end of a true love, “recovery” isn’t always possible — the loss stays with you. In this episode, hosts Keya and Shimeka break down the difference between trying to recover and choosing to move forward. They explore the pain of heartbreak, the lessons it leaves behind, and how love can be rediscovered in new ways, even when the old wounds never fully fade.

    1h 2m

  5. 10/06/2025

    Less Between the Sheets: Is Having Less Sex Hurting Us—or Helping Us?

    Are we in a “sex recession”? 📉 According to new research, Americans are having less sex now than in the 90s—with young adults leading the trend. But is that really a bad thing? On this episode of Date, Affirm, The Real, we break down the article’s findings, why people are prioritizing sex less, and whether intimacy should remain at the center of relationships—or if love, purpose, and partnership matter more.

    1h 14m

  6. 10/05/2025

    When a Woman Has Lust for You

    What happens when lust enters the picture? In this episode of Date, Affirm the Real, we dive into the difference between love and lust, what it feels like when a woman has lust for you, and how it impacts dating, marriage, and respect in relationships. From boundaries to energy exchange, we unpack the lessons and leave you with reflections on building connections rooted in truth, not just desire.

    1h 2m

  7. 08/27/2025

    Black men and Vulnerability: Can we be soft in Love?

    Hosts Marcus Goodwin and Don (Jr. Lily) get real about ego, upbringing, and the struggle to show love without fear. Is vulnerability strength—or weakness—for Black men?

    1h 4m

  8. 08/27/2025

    Why the 80/20 Rule Could Be Holding You Back

    We’ve all heard the 80/20 rule — focus on the 20% that gives 80% of the results. But what if that “rule” is actually holding you back? ⚖️In this episode, hosts Keya McClain the Poet and Shimeka the DAR Therapist break down why the 80/20 mindset may be keeping you from real balance, deeper love, and lasting success.

    1h 7m
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Date, Affirm, The Real (DAR) is a group created to discuss healthy relationship with self, in dating relationship and marriage. The group focuses heavily on black healthy relationships. Our focus is on healthy, healing, positive and affirming love. The discussions range from topics related to all things self-love and healthy relationships.

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  • Creator
    Marcus Goodwin & Keya McClain
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    122
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Marcus Goodwin & Keya McClain
  • Show Website
    Date, Affirm, The Real