Screaming and yelling, fighting and arguing, tantrums and hissy fits. Anger finds its way into every home, classroom, and workplace, and we're ready to talk about it. This limited-run podcast, for humans of all ages, is not about getting rid of anger, but about changing our relationship with it. We share research based solutions for changing the way kids, and parents, respond to powerful, challenging emotions, and we hope you laugh with us along the way. Join hosts Ed Crasnick, a comedian and Emmy Award winning writer, and Renee Jain, positive psychology guru and the founder of GoZen!
Compassion In The Face of Anger
In this, the final episode of Dear Anger limited series, Ed and Renee talk about self compassion, and compassion for others, and its role in our relationship with anger. Our pain points, our triggers, the things that really get us worked up, are often related to the things that we're hardest on ourselves about. To complicate the issue, when we shame ourselves for feeling triggered and angry over those pain points, it makes us feel even worse. Join your favorite emotional experts one last time as they guide you through the practice of self compassion, and de-shaming the experience of anger.
Limiting Screen Time Without Scream Time
Ed and Renee are here with a solution for limiting screen time and making kids love it. Ha! Just kidding! Parents get angry when kids spend too much time on electronic devices. Kids get angry when they're told to turn them off. The battle over time spent on video games and phones is common in every home, and it’s not going away. While there is no fix-all tool, we do have plenty of strategies and advice for helping parents maintain boundaries without losing their temper.
Name That Tone
It's not always what we say, but how we say it. Sometimes, when frustration mounts, our anger comes out in body language and tone of voice. Our words can take on totally different meanings when we say them in different ways and at different volumes. Often we don't even realize it! Ed and Renee get to the bottom of the language of delivering language, and how we can practice saying things exactly as we intend to.
Behaviors Kids Can't Stop
Please stop. Stop it! STOP IT NOW!
Sometimes it feels like kids just don't listen. Certain behaviors, for whatever reason, are so alluring, they can't seem to STOP! "Stop jumping on the couch!" "Stop using that language!" "Stop playing with your food!" Why do they insist on doing the opposite of what we say? It has to do with inner voice, and personal choice. Today, Ed and Renee take a deep dive into behaviors kids can't seem to stop, and how we can control more by allowing more.
Mess! Mess everywhere! Show me a neat and tidy child, and I'll show you a myth. Yet, our expectations as parents are often much different. We think they "should" be able to clean up. They "should" think to make their bed every morning. They "should" offer to help with chores. When expectations are not reality, we get triggered, and the battles begin. Listen in as Ed and Renee examine the science of organization, brain development, and the anger that surrounds it all.
Keeping Cool Around "Ingratitude"
So much anger comes from unmet expectations, or feeling like things should be different than they are. Our kids “should” be happy with what they have. Our kids “should” show more gratitude for everything we do for them. But maybe our feelings are more closely connected to theirs than we think. Maybe it’s not a lack of gratitude our kids feel, but something else all together. In this episode, Ed and Renee discuss ways we can connect with and understand “ungrateful” kids, and transform the anger we feel over the “shoulds.”
I have been listening to the Dahlia Lama who encouraged us to, if we get angry, frustrated, etc. really work to understand emotions by doing research to embrace them. So I’ve gone about truly understanding anger and feel so fortunate to have found you guys. Tonight I have listened to almost all of your episodes! I have a daughter and a puppy and can feel the healthy range of anger and tonight you spoke so positively both about the anger and in a couple of episodes really understanding what is happening with our strong willed child, what they’re experiencing, and also how to react to it with breaths and good humor. I can’t wait for you to come out with more episodes!
This is really helpful!!!
As much as it makes sense it’s so challenging not to get angry and I love all the tips and reminders!!! I hope you will have an episode on sibling rivalry and how not to get angry during those times! Thank you for such incredible content and wisdom!
This is gold!
Thanks so much for putting this together. I’m loving it and can’t wait to get more episodes. Just what I need.