Transforming Us Podcast

Jess Vangsnes
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Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory. Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support. "Transforming Us" delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.

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  1. Dismissive Avoidant: How to Embrace Vulnerability and Emotional Connection

    5 天前

    Dismissive Avoidant: How to Embrace Vulnerability and Emotional Connection

    Are you in a relationship with someone who seems distant or emotionally unavailable? Or do you recognize these patterns in yourself? In this insightful episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara do a deep dive into the dismissive avoidant attachment style. We're exploring the core reasons behind the desire for autonomy and the struggle with vulnerability that defines this relational pattern. In This Episode, We'll Explore: The Avoidant Map: Understand why individuals with this attachment style may feel committed at the beginning of relationships, only to become overwhelmed as emotional intimacy deepens. We'll uncover the link between trauma and the tendency to repress strong emotional responses like sadness and anger.Communication & Connection: Learn why communication is often a significant challenge for dismissive avoidants, leading to misunderstandings and feelings of inadequacy. We'll discuss how to navigate rigid boundaries and the fear of vulnerability that can push partners away, often through self-sabotage.The Path to Security: Discover how dismissive avoidants can work towards better emotional regulation and find a balance between independence and connection. Jess and Tamara provide valuable tips for personal growth and co-regulation, highlighting how self-awareness and supportive relationships can lead to greater attachment security. This episode is for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of dismissive avoidant patterns—whether in a partner or in themselves. Join us to learn how to transform emotional distance into a journey of healing and growth. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus (Disclaimer: This episode is for informational and educational purposes alone.  It is not a replacement for clinical help with your mental health or attachment traumas.)

    56 分鐘
  2. Anxious Preoccupied: How to Feel More Calm in Your Relationships

    10月1日

    Anxious Preoccupied: How to Feel More Calm in Your Relationships

    Are you tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with anxious preoccupied attachment? In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara get real about the anxious preoccupied attachment style. We're diving deep into the inner workings of this relational pattern, from its roots in childhood wounds to its impact on your relationship dynamics today. In This Episode, You'll Discover: The Anxious Preoccupied Map: Unpack the core characteristics of this attachment style, including the constant need for emotional connection and validation, the fear of abandonment, and the tendency to self-sabotage healthy relationships.Healing & Growth: We share authentic stories and practical insights on how to navigate the challenges of low self-esteem and difficulty setting boundaries. Learn how to break the cycle and start your journey of personal growth towards a more secure attachment.Real Talk on Relationships: Understand why you might overshare your feelings or feel anxious when disconnected from your partner. We'll show you how to build a sense of security from within and create balanced, mutually-supportive relationships. Whether you're looking to understand your own patterns or a partner's, this episode is a powerful guide to pinpointing the anxious map. Join us as we explore what it truly takes to transform an anxious attachment and build the healthy, stable relationships you deserve. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus (Disclaimer: This episode is for informational and educational purposes alone.  It is not a replacement for clinical help with your mental health or attachment traumas.)

    46 分鐘
  3. Decode Your Relationship Patterns: A Basic Guide to Attachment Theory

    9月24日

    Decode Your Relationship Patterns: A Basic Guide to Attachment Theory

    Hey friends, welcome back to Transforming Us Podcast. This week, we're finally getting into the world of relational attachment, and let's just say, it's getting a little personal. We are getting honest about our own journeys with different attachment styles. Are you ready to transform your relationships and break free from old, painful patterns? In this episode, we offer a basic overview and guide to the world of attachment theory with a focus on how your early experiences shape your adult relationships. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or on a journey of personal growth and becoming more relational, this episode is packed with foundational insights you won't want to miss. Key Topics Covered: Attachment Theory Explained: We'll break down the four main attachment styles: secure attachment, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. Learn how to identify your own style and understand the behaviors that come with it.Healing Insecure Attachments: Discover practical strategies for moving from an insecure to a more secure style. We discuss the importance of emotional regulation and self-soothing to manage anxiety and prevent trauma responses in relationships.Communication Skills for Deeper Connections: Learn how to improve your communication skills to foster vulnerability and create a safe space for true intimacy. We'll explore how fear of abandonment can drive anxious behaviors and how to navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy with a dismissive avoidant partner.The Path to Personal Growth: This episode is a guide to understanding yourself and your relational triggers. By decoding the attachment cycle, you can begin the journey of healing and growth, leading to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Don't let your past map dictate your future path. Tune in to learn how to break old relational patterns and build the loving, secure relationships you deserve. Once you know your patterns, join us for the next three episodes, where we will dive deeper into each of the insecure attachment styles: anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. So, grab your coffee, get comfy, or take a walk and let's explore how we can all move a little closer to secure attachment, one honest conversation at a time. Download our FREE Attachment Assessment and Guide now! Discover more about coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    1 小時 1 分鐘
  4. How to Begin Healing What’s Within: When You Are Wounded, Weary, and Wandering with Dr. Chuck DeGroat

    9月17日

    How to Begin Healing What’s Within: When You Are Wounded, Weary, and Wandering with Dr. Chuck DeGroat

    Join us for a profound conversation with author, therapist, and professor Dr. Chuck DeGroat on a very special episode of the Transforming Us podcast. Dr. DeGroat's new book, Healing What's Within, dives deep into how our unhealed pain can impact our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. We explore the powerful idea that what isn't transformed is transmitted and discuss how we can break free from cycles of hurt. Discover how to use tools like the Enneagram wisely for deep self-understanding, why paying attention to your body and nervous system is crucial for true healing, and the transformative power of "communities of redemptive remembering." Dr. DeGroat shares practical wisdom on navigating developmental trauma, moving toward "realized security," and how three powerful questions from Genesis can guide us toward wholeness. This episode is for anyone seeking to heal what’s within and find hope in their journey toward a more secure and connected life. Learn More & Connect with Dr. Chuck DeGroat: Website: https://www.chuckdegroat.netBooks: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/booksSocial Platforms: @chuckdegroat (Instagram, X, Facebook, Substack) Key TakeawaysHealing Our Wounds: Unhealed pain is transmitted to others unconsciously. This episode helps us stop the cycle and find wholeness.The Divided Self: We explore how trauma can create a "divided self" and impact our relationships.Beyond Personality: The Enneagram is more than a personality test; it's a tool for deep self-understanding and healing a darker side of our patterns.The Body Holds the Story: Real healing requires listening to our body and nervous system, not just our intellect.Find Secure Connection: You can build "realized security," even with a shaky past when you begin to get curious about your desires, needs and beliefs.Three Guiding Questions: Learn how three questions from Genesis can help you understand what's happening within.Create Safe Spaces: We discuss what it means to build "communities of redemptive remembering" where people feel truly seen. Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Lots of FREE guides and assessments for your journey. Do you need help understanding your patterns? Book your FREE 30 min discovery call today! Click here to Connect. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    51 分鐘
  5. 7 Essential Skills to Shift: Holistic Practices Designed for Wholeness

    9月10日

    7 Essential Skills to Shift: Holistic Practices Designed for Wholeness

    In this practical episode of The Transforming Us Podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara share seven essential skills to help you build healthier relationships and improve your overall well-being. Using a holistic approach, they connect key concepts from trauma, attachment theory, and the Enneagram to give you a clear roadmap for personal growth. You'll get actionable tools and techniques for: Learning to be aware of subconscious patterns is crucial for personal growth.Mindfulness & Overthinking: Learn to identify and shift negative thought patterns to manage anxiety and overthinking.Emotional Regulation: Discover the power of emotional and somatic awareness to release stored stress and trauma from the body.Communication Skills: Improve your communication by expanding your emotional vocabulary and learning effective verbal processing.Self-Compassion: Practice soft resilience to be kinder to yourself and reframe negative self-talk. Becoming more flexible.By the end of this episode, you’ll have a guide to building healthier daily practices that can transform your relationships and help you feel more balanced. download the Heart chart HERE Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Lots of FREE guides and assessments for your journey. Do you need help understanding your patterns? Book your FREE 30 min discovery call today! Go to Connect. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    44 分鐘
  6. Your Connection Tapestry: Pulling Threads of Attachment Security

    9月3日

    Your Connection Tapestry: Pulling Threads of Attachment Security

    Hey there Beautiful souls! In this powerful episode of Transforming Us, we're diving into one of the most fundamental human needs: connection. Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns? Or why some bonds feel so strong and others are fragile? The answer often lies in your attachment story. Jessie and Tamara break down the science of relational attachment, exploring how our earliest experiences with parents, caregivers, and even adoption, create a blueprint for our adult relationships. We’ll talk about what "good enough" parenting really means and how attunement and deep emotional bonds are the building blocks for secure attachment and long-term resilience. This episode is a journey of self-discovery. We’ll guide you through understanding your own attachment style and how tools like the Enneagram can illuminate ingrained patterns you might not even be aware of. We’ll also be honest about the tough stuff—like navigating the cognitive dissonance that comes with personal growth and the challenge of shedding old, protective parts of yourself to make room for healing. Takeaways: Relational attachment starts from infancy and shapes our adult relationships.Secure attachment is not about perfection but about being attuned to a child's needs and repairing when necessary.Emotional bonds are crucial for resilience and strength in relationships.Healing unhealthy patterns requires self-awareness and effort.The Enneagram can provide insights into attachment styles and relationship dynamics.Transforming protective parts of ourselves is essential for growth.Understanding oneself is intertwined with knowing God.Loneliness can have severe chronic health implications.Repairing within intimate relationships is a normal part of the process. Ultimately, this is about more than just your relationships with others. It's about a deeper understanding of yourself, which in turn leads to a more profound connection with God. Join us as we explore how healing our attachment wounds can disrupt old patterns and pave the way for a life of healthier, more secure connections. Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    49 分鐘
  7. Compassionate Self-Care: Building Soft Resilience With Inner Kindness

    8月27日

    Compassionate Self-Care: Building Soft Resilience With Inner Kindness

    In Episode 3 of Transforming Us, Jessie and Tamara delve into the essential practices of self-compassion and self-care, illuminating their profound impact on personal growth and emotional well-being. Join them as they explore how cultivating kindness towards yourself can transform your approach to relationship challenges. This episode unpacks the vital role of emotional safety in building strong, healthy relationships, and how your faith can enhance your capacity for self-compassion. Discover how having grace for yourself fosters humility and authenticity, and how integrating difficult experiences builds true resilience. Jessie and Tamara discuss the transformative power of self-care but also the necessary path to self-awareness. The episode highlights how understanding your emotional triggers and needs is crucial for personal development. They explore practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and improving communication, connecting how growth often stems from facing hard truths. Learn how a growth mindset can help you embrace vulnerability and create new softer responses. Takeaways: Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.Emotional safety is crucial in relationships.Resilience is built through self-compassion.Transformation often feels worse before it gets better.Curiosity about oneself leads to deeper understanding.Effective communication fosters understanding and support.Setting boundaries is vital for healthy relationships.Humility allows for authentic breakthroughs.Nurturing oneself is a key aspect of self-care.Recognizing one's inherent value is foundational for growth. Practical Self Compassion: 3Ns Notice - become aware of thoughts, feelings, body sensations. Name - begin to name thoughts, emotions, and physical needs. Nurture - be cared for by yourself or another person, let yourself have needs and emotions. This conversation emphasizes that transformation in relationships is a continuous journey, requiring patience, practice, and a deep commitment to your own needs. Listen in as Jess and Tamara share personal anecdotes and insights, offering practical tools to cultivate a more compassionate and become more whole. They’ll provide you with the support you need to improve your soft resilience skills and your relationships through compassionate self-care. Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Youtube: @transformingus Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    44 分鐘
  8. Understanding Your Maps: Attachment, Enneagram, and Beyond

    8月20日

    Understanding Your Maps: Attachment, Enneagram, and Beyond

    In this episode 2, hosts Jessie and Tamara dive deep into the core of relationship patterns, exploring how our past experiences shape our present connections. Through vulnerable personal stories, they illuminate the power of self-reflection and healing, emphasizing that understanding your attachment style and Enneagram patterns is crucial for relational growth. Join Jessie and Tamara as they discuss the profound impact of family dynamics and how early experiences can influence our adult relationships. They share insights on navigating conflicts, the importance of communication, and the role of faith in fostering transformation. Discover how recognizing that "hurt people hurt people" can cultivate compassion and pave the way for deeper connections. This episode isn't just about theory; it's about practical tools and real-life examples. Learn how coaching can guide you on your journey, how celebrating small moments can strengthen your family, and how reconnecting with old friends can reveal shared paths of personal growth. They emphasize that true change comes from doing the inner work, and that self-education is a vital component of transformation. Whether you're struggling with recurring relationship patterns or simply seeking to deepen your understanding of yourself and others, this episode of Transforming Us offers valuable insights and encouragement. Tune in to discover how you can unlock your relationship blueprint and embark on a journey of lasting transformation. This podcast is here to help you understand your patterns and find a path to a better understanding your relationships and make necessary changes. Discover more about their coaching and resources at their website transformingus.org. Youtube: Transforming Us Community Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    48 分鐘

  9. 6月22日

    A Relationship Blueprint to Discover Your Patterns

    Feeling disconnected and overwhelmed in your relationships? You're not alone. In this teaser for "Transforming Us," hosts Jess and Tamara, trauma-informed relationship coaches, dive into the focus of painful relationship patterns and the mental health crises they can trigger. Get ready to explore how cultivating curiosity and compassion can be your first steps towards healing. This podcast is a journey of transformation, emphasizing the power of self-reflection and personal growth as the path to security. Discover how trauma-informed approaches can help you redeem old patterns and build healthier connections. Join them as they share new ideas and practices, and the overall vision for the Transforming Us Project. This is more than just relationship coaching tips; it's a conversation about psycho education, becoming whole, and starting with yourself to create lasting change in your relationships. Grab your coffee and join them as they embark on a journey of understanding “us.” Listen to the trailer now, and get ready for their first full episode coming in mid to late August! Discover more about their coaching and resources at their website transformingus.org. Youtube: Transforming Us Community Instagram: @transformingus Facebook: @transformingus

    6 分鐘
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Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory. Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support. "Transforming Us" delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.

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  • 創作者
    Jess Vangsnes
  • 活躍年代
    2025年
  • 集數
    9
  • 年齡分級
    兒少適宜
  • 版權
    © Copyright 2025 Jess Vangsnes
  • 節目網站
    Transforming Us Podcast

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