Transformational change starts with intimacy with God rather than with a longer to-do list. Alex Tarasiuk and Steve Smith unpack the first of the “done disciplines,” showing how rest, appropriation, and later meditating on God’s love flow from what God has already finished in Christ.The discussion matters because it reframes spiritual growth from effort and self-improvement to receiving, trusting, and living from what has already been given. Steve also grounds the discussion in Ephesians, Romans, Matthew, and examples from everyday family life. Key topics Steve Smith explains that “done disciplines” are practices rooted in what God has already accomplished through Christ, not things believers perform to earn transformation.The first discipline, rest, is defined as being with God without an agenda, not as emptying the mind but as turning attention toward God in trust.Alex and Steve contrast reformational thinking, which emphasizes doing more spiritual tasks, with transformational thinking, which emphasizes relationship, trust, and receiving God’s work.Steve explains appropriation as taking hold of what God has already given, rather than asking God to give again what is already available in Christ.Ephesians 1:18 to 19 is central to the discussion: hope, riches, and power are presented as realities believers already possess and must learn to receive.Steve uses the refrigerator illustration to show appropriation: if something is already in the fridge, you do not need to beg for it, you simply take it and use it.The conversation stresses that spiritual change is not self-generated. God’s power, not human grit, is what changes habits, responses, and character.Steve shares a personal testimony about God ending his pattern of criticizing his wife, showing that transformation can become visible in ordinary marriage and family life.Alex and Steve discuss how spiritual warfare, despair, and self-condemnation intensify when believers forget what they already have in Christ.The conversation closes by distinguishing done disciplines from do disciplines, and by linking all of it back to the finished work of Jesus on the cross. Timestamps 00:00 - Introducing intimacy with God and the discipline of appropriation02:34 - Why believers ask God for what He has already given04:29 - The refrigerator illustration and what appropriation means07:14 - Hope as surety, not wishful thinking08:12 - Romans 5 and hope in the glory of God10:19 - Watchman Nee, Ephesians, and the pattern of sit, walk, stand12:07 - Christ as everything we need, not just one resource among many14:16 - Paul and Silas as an example of hope under pressure16:19 - “In Christ” as the key to riches and inheritance17:19 - Power, spiritual change, and the story of stopping criticism21:16 - God’s answer to “I can’t” and the beginning of real change23:29 - Why trying harder without power always fails25:52 - Hope, riches, and power as answers to fear, confusion, and weakness27:41 - What appropriation looks like in a hectic family morning30:03 - Why the disciplines are not silos31:33 - Wrestling with God until He shows what is driving our reactions32:04 - The ice water spill and the contrast between old and transformed responses33:47 - Why forgiveness alone does not equal change35:48 - How appropriation changes the inner life, not just the moment38:51 - Hope, inheritance, and seeing life in a larger context41:25 - Spiritual warfare, brokenness, and the armor of God43:24 - Why the home is the real proving ground of transformation46:09 - Living from what has already been given in Christ47:38 - Allowing Christ’s forgiveness and power to work through us48:25 - The practical summary of hope, riches, and power49:26 - Previewing meditating on God’s love52:12 - “It is finished” and why done means done53:34 - Coming to God with confidence and lightness