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Have you ever wondered what real people really talk about when the gloves are off? Do you think you are the only one who thinks like you do about the world today? Are you ready to hear adult conversations? In today’s world, the ignorant and biased people are loud. They don’t represent the “silent” majority’s views or how we really feel. On After Dark, I have conversations with friends of the show about life, love and more. Sometimes, we agree and are on the same page. Other times we disagree, but either way everyone’s opinion is respected and represented here.

Valencia is an author, speaker, and a business owner. Most of all, she is a wife, mother and a black woman maneuvering everything from foster parenting to dealing with racism to questioning systematic programming by the media. "Have conversations that mean something!”

Join the conversation every Wednesday at 9pm cst for new episodes (unless we are on a mental health break) and start a conversation with your friends, family, and foes.

Define U Radio Valencia Griffin-Wallace

    • Society & Culture
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Have you ever wondered what real people really talk about when the gloves are off? Do you think you are the only one who thinks like you do about the world today? Are you ready to hear adult conversations? In today’s world, the ignorant and biased people are loud. They don’t represent the “silent” majority’s views or how we really feel. On After Dark, I have conversations with friends of the show about life, love and more. Sometimes, we agree and are on the same page. Other times we disagree, but either way everyone’s opinion is respected and represented here.

Valencia is an author, speaker, and a business owner. Most of all, she is a wife, mother and a black woman maneuvering everything from foster parenting to dealing with racism to questioning systematic programming by the media. "Have conversations that mean something!”

Join the conversation every Wednesday at 9pm cst for new episodes (unless we are on a mental health break) and start a conversation with your friends, family, and foes.

    After Dark 21: Building A Sisterhood-Part 2

    After Dark 21: Building A Sisterhood-Part 2

    Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start?
    The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward.
    Sisterhoods aren't made overnight. Finding those that understand you, support you and lovingly guide you the right way is what we all need. As we look back on who we were and how we came together, most will find inspiration that a true sisterhood can be built. We also discuss why it is very important for others to build friendships.
    Join the conversation if you want to understand how real sisterhoods are built to last.
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media)
    https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media)
    http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com)
    Connect with the show:
    Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U )
    Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U )
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio
    Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.
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    • 39 min
    After Dark 20: Building A Sisterhood (The reintroduction)-Part 1

    After Dark 20: Building A Sisterhood (The reintroduction)-Part 1

    Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start?
    The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward.
    We share the parts of our story people most forget...the pain. The show takes an interesting turn as we ask each other questions and realize how years later, we are more connected than ever before.
    There is a part 2, so make sure you stay tuned to hear the conclusion and some tips for building a sisterhood.
    Join the conversation if you want to understand how real sisterhoods are built to last.
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media)
    https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media)
    http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com)
    Connect with the show:
    Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U )
    Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U )
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio
    Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.
    https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

    • 40 min
    After Dark 19: Rebound and Relationship Do Over or Neither

    After Dark 19: Rebound and Relationship Do Over or Neither

    Are you using your current relationship to get over your last? Are you considering giving someone another chance?
    Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about getting hurt rebounding and giving a past relationship a do over.
    Have you been a rebound and did it go to something bigger?
    Join the conversation to hear things to consider before you go or stay
    Key Topics and Things Mentioned:
    What exactly is a rebound relationship
    How much disclosure is necessary
    What to consider before giving someone a second chance
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media)
    https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com)
    Connect with the show:
    https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB)
    https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG)
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.
    Sidenote:
    The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.
    https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

    • 30 min
    After Dark 18: Should You Resuscitate or Exit A Relationship with Donna Barnes

    After Dark 18: Should You Resuscitate or Exit A Relationship with Donna Barnes

    How do you know when a relationship is over? Do you make a speedy exit or try to work it out because of responsibilities?
    Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about relationships and love. We also discuss cheating and who we think cheats more. If you have ever wondered should you leave or stay, this is the show for you.
    Women often try to make it work especially if children are involved. Or is that a stereotype?
    Join the conversation to hear things to consider before you go or stay
    Key Topics and Things Mentioned:
    How do you know when a relationship is over
    Is it worth salvaging when you have been hurt
    The point of no return in most relationships and more!!!
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media)
    https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com)
    Connect with the show:
    https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB)
    https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG)
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.
    Sidenote:
    The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.
    https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

    • 43 min
    After Dark 17: Loving, Uplifting, and Supporting Black Women

    After Dark 17: Loving, Uplifting, and Supporting Black Women

    Are you letting the opinions and pressures from the outside change who you are on the inside?
    This special Valentines episode is all about loving, uplifting and supporting black women in their greatness. Message clips from special peoples in the host, co hosts and others who have something to say.
    This is the episode that will make you love yourself more even when you are struggling with media messages, personal low self esteem or just need a pick me up.
    Tips are given that you can practice in your own life to build your self confidence and self love.
    Loving yourself as a black woman doesn't mean you don't love others, it just means you love yourself more.
    If you want to join a conversation around black women love, uplifting and supporting each other, Join the conversation
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media)
    https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media)
    http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com)
    Connect with the show:
    https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB)
    https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG)
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google
    Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the
    conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and
    #AfterDarkConversations.
    Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in
    any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or
    beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.


    https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

    • 16 min
    After Dark 16: Accepting, Changing and Compromising In Relationships

    After Dark 16: Accepting, Changing and Compromising In Relationships

    In getting the love you want; how much are you willing to compromise?
    In this episode, the queens discuss everything from salacious women to relationships that change over time. Relationships right now are different. Between pandemic babies and you are not the one during this pandemic, relationships are changing some for better and others for worse.
    Can men and women be friends if they are in relationships with others?
    The queens discuss their feeling on males and females being friends. Shannon is open to her significant other having female friends. Lyvonne is okay if she likes the woman and Valencia is hands down no indeed. What are your thoughts?
    How would you handle your child’s relationship if something was going on you didn’t like? Yeah, we go there too!
    If you want to join a conversation around friends, boundaries and more in love, this is your show! Join the conversation
    Key Topics and Things Mentioned:
    Controlling or Crazy In Love
    Being Involved in Your Child's Relationships
    Should You Compromise or Change
    Pandemic Relationship Transitions and More!
    Show Links
    https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media)
    https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media)
    https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com)
    https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media)
    http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com)
    Connect with the show:
    https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB)
    https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG)
    Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google
    Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the
    conversation, go on a listening binge here.
    Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and
    #AfterDarkConversations.
    Sidenote:


    The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in
    any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or
    beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.


    https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

    • 44 min

Customer Reviews

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RukshanaTriem ,

Journey to Success

I love listening to Valencia share her journey. I know our story does not define us but it’s an honor to witness her success and seeing her continue growing. Thanks for bringing us many more vulnerable stories of women who are rising and being unapologetically walking in their power. Looking forward to hear more interviews in 2018.

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