Disrupting Default

Hema Crockett and Michael Crockett
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Stop living life on someone else's settings.  We follow so many rules we never agreed to. Work 40 hours a week. Buy a house. Save for retirement the "right" way. But who decided these were the only options?  Disrupting Default is the podcast that challenges the assumptions everyone takes for granted. In quick 15-20 minute conversations, we pick apart one societal norm and explore what happens when you choose a different path entirely.  Why do we structure education the way we do? What if the traditional career ladder is actually a trap? How did we decide that being busy equals being important? Each episode unpacks the hidden logic behind our collective choices and reveals the alternatives hiding in plain sight.  This isn't about being contrarian for the sake of it. It's about recognizing that most of our "defaults" aren't natural laws – they're just habits we can change.  Think of it as a software update for your brain. We'll help you identify which defaults are worth keeping and which ones are ready for an upgrade.  Join us for honest conversations that might just change how you see everything. Because the most radical thing you can do is think for yourself.  Short episodes, big questions, real alternatives. 

Episodes

  1. The Homeownership Trap

    2D AGO

    The Homeownership Trap

    The Homeownership Trap (Why Buying a House Isn't the Dream We've Been Sold) Buying a house isn't a measure of success – it's a choice. And it's okay if it's not your choice. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how homeownership has become the ultimate adulting milestone that nobody questions. You're told renting is throwing money away, property ownership equals financial security, and you're not a real adult until you have a mortgage. If you haven't bought yet, you feel behind. But here's the truth: the homeownership narrative is a script we've been handed, and most of us never stop to ask if we even want it. In this episode, you'll discover: The homeownership gospel: how we've been sold the narrative that buying = success and renting = failure Who profits from your mortgage: banks (30 years of interest), real estate agents, home improvement industry, insurance companies, property tax collectors What they don't tell you: first 10-15 years is mostly interest, closing costs and maintenance don't build equity, houses lose value, you're tied to one location The reality of homeownership costs: when something breaks ($5K+), roofs ($15K), foundations, HVAC, appliances – inevitable expensive surprises How you've traded flexibility for "stability": can't easily move for jobs or family, locked in for years, that stability can feel like being stuck Why renting isn't "throwing money away": you're paying for flexibility, maintenance handled by others, freedom to not be tied down Redefining success: What if you value experiences over equity? What if financial freedom looks different? What if you'd rather invest in mobility? The real question: What kind of life do you actually want? Are you buying because you want to, or because you think you should? From the pressure to "settle down" to the shame of renting past a certain age, we break down why homeownership is treated as mandatory when it's actually optional, and why you're allowed to want a different kind of life. Ready to disrupt the homeownership default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone feeling behind because they don't own property, questioning whether buying is what they actually want, drowning in unexpected homeowner costs, valuing flexibility over permanence, or ready to stop proving their worth through property ownership.

  2. Constant Input, Zero Output

    JAN 21

    Constant Input, Zero Output

    Constant Input, Zero Output (Why We Can't Hear Ourselves Anymore) Silence isn't the problem – your fear of it is. We've built an entire infrastructure to ensure we never have to experience silence, because we're terrified of what we might hear. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how we've engineered silence out of existence. Podcasts while you work. Music while you cook. TV as background noise. Scrolling while you wait. AirPods the moment you step outside. White noise machines to sleep. Even your car talks to you now. There's always an input. We treat silence like dead air that needs to be filled, and the moment there's quiet, we reach for our phones. But here's the truth: constant input isn't productivity – it's avoidance. You're not optimizing your time, you're running from yourself. In this episode, you'll discover: What we're actually avoiding: our own thoughts, feelings, questions we've been pushing down, decisions we need to make, discomfort we've been outrunning Why we've mistaken noise for productivity (you're consuming someone else's thoughts instead of having your own) The real reason we avoid silence: it's uncomfortable – your brain starts processing what you've been pushing down The cost of constant input: you've lost access to your own mind, your brain never rests, you've outsourced your internal voice When do you actually think your own thoughts? (You can't – there's always someone else's voice in your head) How we've replaced self-reflection with content consumption Why silence isn't empty – it's where you actually are What the discomfort is trying to tell you (if silence feels unbearable, that's information) From filling every moment with noise to treating silence like something that needs to be fixed, we break down why you've lost the ability to sit with yourself, and why the noise isn't neutral – it's protection. And you can't hear yourself through the static. Ready to disrupt the noise default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone who can't sit in a waiting room without their phone, exercises with music every single time, dreads silence, fills every moment with input, or wonders when they last experienced complete quiet and what they're so afraid of hearing.

  3. New Year, Same You

    JAN 7

    New Year, Same You

    New Year, Same You (Why Resolutions Are a Scam) New Year's resolutions aren't about transformation – they're a manufactured ritual designed to make you feel insufficient while profiting from your predictable failure. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how we've turned January 1st into a collective delusion where millions of people believe the calendar flipping gives them magical powers to change. You make your list, declare "new year, new me," commit to the gym and the journal and the habit – and by February, you're right back where you started. But here's the truth: nothing changes between December 31st at 11:59pm and January 1st at 12:01am except our perception. Yet we treat crossing into a new year like it's a factory reset button. In this episode, you'll discover: Who actually profits from your resolutions (gyms, diet industry, and businesses that need you to fail) Why resolutions fail: based on willpower (finite), focused on outcomes not systems, rooted in "should" not "want," attacking symptoms not root causes The missing "why": are you changing for you, or for the idea of who you think you should be? Why you're trying to change behavior without changing belief (if you believe you're lazy, no gym resolution will stick) Why we're always waiting for January 1st instead of starting October 17th or next Tuesday What actually creates sustainable change: internal motivation, small incremental shifts, self-compassion not self-criticism The alternative to resolutions: one meaningful thing, built as a system not a goal, made ridiculously easy to start From "new year, new you" marketing to the fantasy that you can become someone new just because the calendar changed, we break down why resolutions are rooted in self-rejection instead of self-acceptance, and why real transformation doesn't wait for the calendar to give you permission. Ready to disrupt the resolution default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone who's already abandoned their 2026 resolutions, making the same goals they made last year, waiting for the "right time" to change, performing self-improvement without addressing what's underneath, or ready to stop treating themselves like a project that needs fixing every January.

  4. What are we even Measuring?

    12/22/2025

    What are we even Measuring?

    What Are We Even Measuring? (Why Productivity Isn't Progress) Year-end reflection isn't self-awareness – it's auditing your life like a business quarter, reducing an entire year of living to a productivity report where success equals completed items and failure equals unfinished projects. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how we've turned the end of the year into a reckoning where you measure your worth by what you can count. You're taking mental inventory, comparing yourself to where you thought you'd be, making lists of everything you did and didn't do, then judging yourself based on output. But here's the truth: you're measuring the wrong things entirely. You're confusing productivity with progress, and it's making you miss what actually matters. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why productivity measures activity (output, efficiency, volume) while progress is about internal transformation • The real metrics of growth that can't be quantified: becoming a better listener, learning to rest without guilt, stopping self-abandonment • Why "I didn't accomplish enough" is a signal to ask: enough for whom? By what standard? • How the gap between where you thought you'd be and where you are isn't failure – it's misalignment • Why you set goals based on what you thought you should want, not what actually matters to you • The timeline illusion: why progress isn't linear and doesn't fit into a year-end review • What it looks like to measure your life by meaning instead of output From treating yourself like a business that needs to show growth to entering January with another resolution list, we break down why the metrics you're using to judge your year are fundamentally flawed, and why your life is too important to be reduced to a spreadsheet. Ready to disrupt the measurement default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone entering 2026 with another set of goals designed to prove you're enough, beating themselves up about unmet expectations, stuck in the grief of where they thought they'd be, or ready to define progress in a way that honors the messy, non-linear, unmeasurable reality of being human.

  5. The Productivity Paradox

    12/10/2025

    The Productivity Paradox

    The Productivity Paradox (And Why Doing More Gets You Nowhere) Productivity culture isn't just making you busy – it's fundamentally broken, convincing you that your worth equals your output while destroying your ability to do anything meaningful. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how we've turned productivity into a cult where being busy is a moral virtue and rest is something you have to earn. You've been optimizing your morning routine, following productivity hacks, hustling through endless to-do lists, and glorifying exhaustion as a badge of honor. But here's the truth: the more you do, the less you actually accomplish. You're confusing motion with progress, and it's getting you nowhere. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why completing more tasks actually leads to less meaningful work • How "always on" culture destroys deep focus (it takes 23 minutes to refocus after each interruption) • The science behind why your brain can't handle 8+ hours of focused work • Why the greatest ideas come from doing nothing – showers, walks, boredom • How hustle culture benefits employers and capitalism, not you • The difference between being busy and being effective • Why the most productive people actually work fewer hours, not more From checking emails 50 times a day to treating rest as a reward you haven't earned yet, we break down why productivity culture is a trap that measures activity instead of achievement, and why you'll never reach the bottom of your to-do list unless you stop adding to it. Ready to disrupt the productivity default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone drowning in their to-do list, feeling guilty about rest, glorifying exhaustion, reaching for their phone 96 times a day, or wondering why endless busyness never feels like actual progress.

  6. The Gratitude Industrial Complex

    11/25/2025

    The Gratitude Industrial Complex

    The Gratitude Industrial Complex (And Why It's Making You Less Grateful) Forced thankfulness isn't just performative – it's fundamentally missing the point of what gratitude actually is, and turning authentic appreciation into another productivity metric you're failing at. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how we've turned gratitude into instant content, corporate training exercises, and 90-second journal prompts that promise to optimize your life. You've been posting #blessed on Instagram, speed-running through your gratitude app notifications, and treating thankfulness like a checkbox on your self-improvement to-do list. But here's the truth: you can't rush into genuine appreciation. Real gratitude requires slowing down, and we've done the exact opposite. In this episode, you'll discover: • How gratitude became a billion-dollar industry selling your feelings back to you • Why performative thankfulness creates pressure instead of connection • The difference between listing what you're grateful for and actually feeling grateful • How "gratitude as productivity hack" strips away authentic emotion • Why curating your thankfulness for an audience misses the entire point • The anxiety of the "Gratitude Olympics" – whose life is more blessed? From corporate gratitude training to Thanksgiving table performances where you prove you're thankful enough, we break down why treating gratitude like instant gratification destroys the very thing that makes it meaningful. Ready to disrupt the forced thankfulness default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone who feels guilty for not being grateful enough, treats their gratitude journal like a chore, performs thankfulness for social media, or wonders why listing their blessings doesn't actually make them feel more appreciative.

  7. I Want it Now!

    11/12/2025

    I Want it Now!

    I Want it Now! (And That's Ruining Everything) Instant gratification isn't just making you impatient – it's fundamentally rewiring your brain and destroying your ability to experience real satisfaction. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how our addiction to speed has turned waiting into a design flaw that needs to be optimized away. You've been checking your package tracking obsessively, scrolling for dopamine hits at 2 AM, and treating two-day shipping like it's a personal attack on your existence. But here's the truth: getting everything faster hasn't made you happier. The moment you get what you want, the dopamine hit vanishes, and you're already chasing the next thing. In this episode, you'll discover: How our attention span crashed from 12 seconds to 8 seconds in just one generation The 4-second buffer between impulse and action that we've completely lost Why faster delivery and instant access have made us more dissatisfied than ever The real cost of optimizing away patience and slower experiences How we're training our brains to operate in bursts instead of depth From obsessive package tracking to the inability to sit in a waiting room without your phone, we break down why this isn't progress – it's a pathological relationship with speed that's making everything worse. Ready to disrupt the instant gratification default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone guilty of checking shipping updates multiple times a day, doom-scrolling for dopamine, feeling impatient with everything, or wondering why nothing feels as satisfying as it used to.

  8. Life Isn't Linear

    10/29/2025

    Life Isn't Linear

    Life Isn't Linear: Rewriting Your Order of Operations Life's order of operations isn't a natural law – it's an outdated formula that's been masquerading as success since the post-World War II era. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how society simultaneously enforces a rigid life script while creating unprecedented levels of stress, comparison spirals, and the constant feeling of being "behind schedule." You've been told there's a proper timeline for marriage, homeownership, and kids while silently drowning in the pressure to check boxes that may not even be yours. But here's the truth: these milestones aren't about fulfillment. They're about control, conformity, and keeping you stuck on someone else's path. In this episode, you'll discover: • Where life's order of operations really came from (hint: economic efficiency, not happiness) • The invisible timer creating arbitrary deadlines in your life • Why following this script is actually killing your joy and authenticity • The critical difference between societal expectations and genuine desires • How to start writing an equation for your life that looks nothing like anyone else's From childhood conditioning to cultural assumptions that reward conformity, we break down why living on your own terms isn't rebellion – it's actually how you find real joy. Ready to disrupt the life script default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone feeling behind schedule, pressured by family expectations, stuck in comparison mode, or exhausted from living someone else's definition of success.

  9. The Perfectionism Scam

    10/15/2025

    The Perfectionism Scam

    The Perfectionism Scam: Stop Chasing a Standard That Doesn't Exist Perfectionism isn't a badge of honor – it's a scam that's been masquerading as a virtue since childhood. In this episode, Hema and Mike expose how society simultaneously celebrates perfectionism while suffering from unprecedented levels of anxiety, procrastination, and burnout. You've been praised for your "perfectionist work ethic" while silently drowning in analysis paralysis. But here's the truth: perfectionism isn't about having high standards. It's about fear, shame, and staying stuck. In this episode, you'll discover: Where perfectionism really comes from (hint: it started in childhood) The neuroscience behind why your brain gets stuck in error detection mode Why perfectionism is actually killing your productivity and creativity The critical difference between high standards and perfectionism How to rewire your brain to break free from the perfectionism trap From childhood conditioning to workplace culture that rewards performative overachievement, we break down why "good enough" isn't settling – it's actually how great work gets done. Ready to disrupt the perfectionism default? Tune in now. Perfect for: Anyone struggling with procrastination, burnout, fear of failure, or the exhausting pursuit of flawless.

  10. I'm So Busy

    10/01/2025

    I'm So Busy

    In this inaugural episode of Disrupting Default, we tackle the three words that have become modern life's unofficial motto: "I'm so busy." You're tired of conversations that never go deeper than calendar updates. You've noticed how "busy" has become everything from a polite deflection tool to a bizarre status symbol. This episode is for anyone ready to break free from default responses and start having real conversations again. We explore why people respond to "How are you?" with their schedule instead of their feelings, and when being overwhelmed became an achievement worth bragging about. You'll discover the radical alternative to saying "busy" – actually answering how you feel. Because "I'm grateful" or "I'm anxious" creates infinitely more meaningful conversations than "Busy, you know how it is." Spoiler alert: most people actually don't know how it is, and that's exactly the problem. "Busy" isn't an emotion – it's just a schedule update disguised as human connection. Disrupting Default challenges the automatic responses that keep us stuck, exploring how to replace default thinking with intentional living. New episodes release biweekly.

  11. Introducing Disrupting Default

    09/12/2025

    Introducing Disrupting Default

    What if 90% of your "personal" choices aren't actually yours? What if you're sleepwalking through a life designed by committee? Welcome to Disrupting Default - the podcast that exposes the invisible rulebook controlling your decisions and shows you how to throw it out the window. In this trailer, we reveal why you're living someone else's script and introduce you to the rebels who've already escaped it. From the 40-hour work week myth to how entire industries profit from keeping you on their hamster wheel - we're pulling back the curtain on the massive lies we've all been sold. This isn't about feel-good platitudes or academic theory. It's raw truth about how social conditioning hijacked your brain, plus real stories of people making real money and finding real happiness by ignoring what everyone else calls "normal." Fair warning: This will mess with your head. You'll start questioning everything from your mortgage to your morning coffee. But if you're tired of running someone else's race, that's exactly what you need. Ready to reclaim your life? Your wake-up call starts now. Follow Disrupting Default for weekly episodes that challenge everything you thought you knew about success, happiness, and living on your own terms.

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Stop living life on someone else's settings.  We follow so many rules we never agreed to. Work 40 hours a week. Buy a house. Save for retirement the "right" way. But who decided these were the only options?  Disrupting Default is the podcast that challenges the assumptions everyone takes for granted. In quick 15-20 minute conversations, we pick apart one societal norm and explore what happens when you choose a different path entirely.  Why do we structure education the way we do? What if the traditional career ladder is actually a trap? How did we decide that being busy equals being important? Each episode unpacks the hidden logic behind our collective choices and reveals the alternatives hiding in plain sight.  This isn't about being contrarian for the sake of it. It's about recognizing that most of our "defaults" aren't natural laws – they're just habits we can change.  Think of it as a software update for your brain. We'll help you identify which defaults are worth keeping and which ones are ready for an upgrade.  Join us for honest conversations that might just change how you see everything. Because the most radical thing you can do is think for yourself.  Short episodes, big questions, real alternatives. 

Information

  • Creator
    Hema Crockett and Michael Crockett
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Disrupting Default