Divorce Curious

Lisa Mitchell
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Divorce-Curious is where we say the quiet parts out loud as we get real about all the things that come with deciding if you should get a divorce.  Divorce-Curious conversations cover everything from the "how did I end up here?" confusion to the "I'm a married single parent" anger to the "we never have sex" frustration and all the financial, legal and logistical pieces that come with considering a divorce. So how do you decide the next best step for you? Listen and find out. 

  1. Navigating Heart Level Negotiations: Part 1 with Heather DeSiena

    6D AGO

    Navigating Heart Level Negotiations: Part 1 with Heather DeSiena

    What if the same skills that close a seven-figure deal could also save you from your next kitchen table meltdown? Spoiler: they absolutely can — and this week's guest is living proof. Lisa sits down with Heather DeSiena — former news anchor, corporate negotiator, keynote speaker, and (plot twist) seminary master's degree holder — to talk about what she calls heart-level negotiation. Turns out, whether you're closing a business deal or trying to have a hard conversation with your partner without it going completely sideways, you're working with the exact same stuff: people, emotions, and the desperate hope that someone in the room stays regulated. In this episode: Why "soft skills" is a terrible term — and why these are actually the most important skills you haveHow to enter a hard conversation with intention instead of just feelings and vibesWhat somatic awareness has to do with your next argument (your body knows before your brain does)The pattern interruption trick that can stop a scripted fight before it even startsWhy the more emotionally aware partner carries extra responsibility — unfair as that isHeather is one of those guests who makes you feel like you should be taking notes, and also like it's completely okay that you've been doing some of this wrong. We've all been doing some of this wrong. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series — and yes, it gets considerably more personal from here. If this episode has you doing a little reflecting on your own relationship, the Evaluate Your Relationship workbook is a great place to start. Grab it at lisamitchell.biz/podcast. Connect with Heather:  https://www.heatherdesiena.com https://www.instagram.com/heatherdesiena https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherdesiena TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    23 min
  2. Relationships, Repair & Nervous System SOS with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

    MAR 20

    Relationships, Repair & Nervous System SOS with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

    If you've ever thought "is this really as good as it gets?," this episode is your answer. Lisa sits down with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, whose no-judgment social media content has been stopping people mid-scroll and mid-spiral for years. Melissa brings the kind of real, digestible wisdom that makes you feel like she was literally sitting in your living room for your last argument. From the pursuer-withdrawer cycle to why healthy couples do fight, to what actually happens when you outgrow each other — this one hits. In This Episode You'll Hear: "Love isn't luck, it's a skill" — what that actually means and why the apps are working against usThe 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise — the simplest and most powerful filter for dating clarityThe pursuer-withdrawer cycle explained — why you always seem to marry your opposite and what to do about itYour nervous system is running your relationship — what attachment style has to do with how you fightWhy repair doesn't happen — and the exact reason couples wait too long to fix what's brokenThe slow emotional drift — why "nothing's really wrong" can still be a completely valid reason to be unhappyOutgrowing your partner — is it real, is it fair, and what do you actually do with it?Key Takeaways & Actionable Insights Get clear before you get out there. Before downloading the app or gussying up for the grocery store, ask yourself: what do I actually want? Try the 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise. Boil your relationship non-negotiables down to just six things. Know your conflict style. Are you the one who needs to talk about it right now (pursuer) or the one who needs to step away until things cool down (withdrawer)?Regulate before you communicate. When you feel the script starting, your body will tell you first — heart racing, voice rising, shoulders up around your ears. That's your cue. Repair is not optional. Sweeping it under the rug doesn't end the fight — it just adds it to the pile you'll trip over next time. Healthy couples argue and repair. Both parts matter.Wanting more is not selfish. Wanting to feel desired, connected, and seen in your relationship is not a character flaw. It's a human need. Stop apologizing for having it.Connect with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT 🌐 Practice: embracingjoy.com (NY, NJ & CT clients) 📚 Courses + Free Downloads: embracingjoyconsulting.com 📸 Instagram: @embracingjoypsychotherapy 🎵 TikTok: @embracingjoynyc ▶️ YouTube: Embracing Joy Connect with Lisa Mitchell 🌐 Website: lisamitchell.biz 📲 Everywhere: @divorcecurioushelp 💡 Download: Grab the Evaluate Your Marriage Workbook at lisamitchell.biz  Loved this episode? Leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review on Apple Podcasts — it helps more people find this community when they need it most. #DivorceСurious #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #NervousSystemRegulation #AttachmentStyles #PursuerWithdrawer #MarriageHelp #EmotionallyFocuse TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    56 min
  3. Living Your Truth: Polyamory, Perimenopause & the Permission to Start Over with Melissa McClure

    MAR 5

    Living Your Truth: Polyamory, Perimenopause & the Permission to Start Over with Melissa McClure

    What if everything you thought a relationship was supposed to look like was just... a story someone else wrote for you? Lisa sits down with the refreshingly honest Melissa McClure — twice-divorced, bisexual, polyamorous, burlesque performer, serial entrepreneur, and San Diego-based truth-teller — for a conversation that will challenge everything you assumed about love, loyalty, jealousy, and how "family" can look different than you might be used to.  Whether you're divorce-curious, newly single, or just quietly wondering if there's more out there for you — this one's for you. In This Episode You'll Hear: The "light bulb moment" that changed everything — how Melissa found her truth and what she did nextA glossary you didn't know you needed — ENM, polyamory vs. open relationships, kitchen table polyamory, parallel polyamory, metas, and moreThe #1 red flag on dating apps that tells you someone is just cheating (hint: three words)Why polyamory doesn't break marriages — it just reveals the cracks that were already thereWhy intentional "relationship check-ins" might be the most underrated tool in any relationship, monogamous or notLeveling up in midlife — why women in perimenopause are outgrowing their marriages, and what to do with thatKey Takeaways & Actionable Insights Know your terms before you act. If you're considering opening your relationship, do the research first. Melissa recommends books and podcasts specifically on ethical non-monogamy — going in without education is how you end up with five partners and a struggling business.Jealousy is data, not a verdict. Instead of weaponizing jealousy, try using it as a mirror. Ask yourself: what need is going unmet right now? Then use your words.Run from "don't ask, don't tell." If someone on a dating app claims to be in an open relationship but uses this phrase — that's not ethical non-monogamy. That's cheating with extra steps.Set the rules of engagement — then revisit them. Every relationship, no matter the structure, benefits from intentional check-ins. When did you last ask your partner (or yourself): is this still working?Opening a struggling marriage won't save it. A Hail Mary pass into polyamory typically accelerates the breakdown, not the healing. The relationship foundation has to be solid first.Connect with Melissa McClure Instagram: @melissamcclure.co 🎵 TikTok: @meldell Melissa shares openly about perimenopause, divorce, polyamory, and life design Connect with Lisa Mitchell Website: lisamitchell.biz 📲 Everywhere: @divorcecurioushelp 💡 Download The "Evaluate Your Marriage" Workbook: Lisa's self-paced relationship evaluation guide is now live on her website — a great starting point if today's episode gave you things to think about. Loved this episode? Leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review on Apple Podcasts — it helps more divorce-curious people find this community. #DivorceСurious #Polyamory #EthicalNonMonogamy #Perimenopause #Divorce #MidlifeWomen #OpenRelationship #SoloLiving #RelationshipAdvice #LivingYourTruth TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    45 min
  4. Overcoming the Communication Lie That Is Keeping You Stuck: Part 2 with Rachel Randolph

    FEB 19

    Overcoming the Communication Lie That Is Keeping You Stuck: Part 2 with Rachel Randolph

    In Part 2 of Lisa’s conversation with communication strategist Rachel Randolph, the focus shifts from theory to application. This episode is all about reclaiming your voice — especially when you feel stuck waiting for someone else to change, apologize, or participate. Rachel breaks down a powerful mindset shift: Moving from “I can’t because…”To “In order to…, I will…”The conversation explores: How to stop outsourcing your peace to someone else’s behaviorWhy self-compassion is the first step in real changeHow small, everyday moments reveal your deeper communication patternsThe hidden cost of self-abandonment in relationshipsWhy owning your voice doesn’t make you “difficult” — it makes you self-ledThey also discuss the deeper impact of healing foundational relationship wounds and how that work transforms friendships, romantic relationships, and even professional dynamics. If you’ve been feeling stuck, silenced, or hesitant to speak up — especially in the context of marriage or relationship decisions — this episode offers a grounded, practical framework to help you take your next right step. TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    47 min
  5. Triggered? Take Control Of Your Internal Dialogue with Rachel Randolph - Part 1

    FEB 6

    Triggered? Take Control Of Your Internal Dialogue with Rachel Randolph - Part 1

    There's no lack of triggering topics and conversations happening all around you everyday. And while you can't always control what's coming at you, you can have more control over how you respond to those triggers and how you communicate during those situations.  In part 1 of this conversations of the Divorce Curious Podcast, Lisa talks with communications expert Rachel Randolph, founder of the SPEC method, about how our internal experience impacts the way we communicate.  Rachel shares how her family dynamics during her childhood left an imprint on how she views communications, how she's approached managing through the difficult conversations with family members, and how that has led her to develop an effective framework that she now shares with others to empower them to have more control over their inner dialogue and their external communication.   TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    40 min
  6. Exploring Alternatives: From functional medicine to non-traditional living situations

    JAN 23

    Exploring Alternatives: From functional medicine to non-traditional living situations

    In this episode of the Divorce Curious Podcast, host Lisa Mitchell and functional medicine expert Sarah Scott-Weaver MSN, FNP-C, IFMPC, HN-BC dive into some seriously life-changing topics for anyone who is going through changes in their health and relationships. They're chatting about how functional medicine and living in a supportive community can totally transform your health journey, especially if you're dealing with stress and big life changes. Trust me, you don't want to miss this! Takeaways Functional medicine is like a holistic health makeover.Stress hormones can mess with your mojo, but there's hope!Find a hormone-savvy healthcare provider who gets to the root of things.Living intentionally in a community can be your emotional safety net.Women are rethinking life choices during health transitions.Your social life is just as important as your physical health.Community living can be more romantic and supportive than you think.Women are craving spaces that feel safe and share the load, and many are finding that through platonic shared living arrangements About Sarah Scott-Weaver: Sarah Scott-Weaver is a functional medicine nurse practitioner who understands firsthand how deeply life transitions—like divorce—can impact a woman’s body, mind, and sense of self. She works with women in midlife who are ready to stop surviving and start caring for themselves more deeply. Through a holistic, compassionate approach, Sarah helps women support their hormones, thyroid, gut, and mental health while embracing root-cause self-care and building a life that truly feels aligned.   You can connect with Sarah and explore her work through her Linktree at https://linktr.ee/entouragefunctionalmedicine. Inside her free Holistic Health Hub, she shares guides, videos, and educational resources on gut health, thyroid health, hormones, and mental well-being. You’ll also find links to her social media and the option to book a complimentary one-on-one call to discuss your health goals and what working together could look like.   TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    45 min
  7. Hate Your Husband Suddenly? It Might Be Perimenopause ft. Alyx Coble-Frakes

    JAN 8

    Hate Your Husband Suddenly? It Might Be Perimenopause ft. Alyx Coble-Frakes

    Perimenopause & Divorce: why everyone should care about this.  It can seem like most of our lives as women, we are being controlled by a mysterious power behind the scenes: our periods!  And we're really not wrong for feeling that way. On this episode of the Divorce Curious podcast, I'm joined by the founder of The Agenda Period, Alyx Coble-Frakes, and she is dropping some seriously fascinating knowledge on us about how our cycles impact every part of our lives, including and especially our relationships.  Did you know that 70% of all divorces are filed by women who are in perimenopause? That's just one of the suprising pieces of data that Alyx shares in this episode as we discuss the impact of perimenopause on relationships and so much more!  Give it a listen, leave me a comment, and share this episode with the women and men in your life.  Connect with Alyx Coble-Frakes  www.theagendaperiod.com  Waitlist: https://the-agenda-period-2023.myflodesk.com/bavawaitlist Bio:    Alyx Coble-Frakes is a femtech founder, speaker, and creator of The Agenda., the cycle-based planning platform helping women reclaim their health, energy, and productivity. She is a regular media guest across local and national television and podcasts, known for making the menstrual cycle relatable, actionable, and empowering — especially during the often-ignored perimenopause transition.   TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    54 min

  8. 12/20/2025

    The Empty Stocking Problem: How To Communicate Your Way Out of Disappointment

    Unmet needs in a relationship create resentment.  Few times make that as apparent as the holidays as social media illustrates with tens of thousands of women sharing their stories of how they are so often forgotten at Christmas and find themselves met with an empty stocking on Christmas morning.  This, after having poured their heart, soul, money and sometimes sanity, into making the holidays magical for their partner and families.  The empty stocking has come to symbolize a deeper issue that many women are having, the struggle between feeling like they shouldn't have to remind their partners or families to think of them versus the hurt and anger that comes from being continually disappointed.  It doesn't have to be this way. There's another option: communicating your needs and expectations clearly and giving your partner the opportunity to succeed.  In this episode, Lisa shares a framework to help get more of the thoughtfulness and outcomes that you want, and less of the hurt and frustration that you don't want.   TEXT ME! Let me know what you think of this episode or what topics you would like to see covered next! Want more Divorce Curious goodness? Sign up for my newsletter https://lisamitchell.biz/divorce-curious Have a comment for me or a topic you want to see covered on the podcast? Email me at lisa@lisamitchell.biz Connect with me on Instagram at @divorcecurioushelp

    29 min
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Divorce-Curious is where we say the quiet parts out loud as we get real about all the things that come with deciding if you should get a divorce.  Divorce-Curious conversations cover everything from the "how did I end up here?" confusion to the "I'm a married single parent" anger to the "we never have sex" frustration and all the financial, legal and logistical pieces that come with considering a divorce. So how do you decide the next best step for you? Listen and find out. 

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  • Creator
    Lisa Mitchell
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    26
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Divorce Curious
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    Divorce Curious

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