Divorced but not dead, yet.

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Divorced but not dead, yet.

Welcome to the Divorced But Not Dead Yet Podcast. This is not a how to podcast, it’s a going through. Join me on my journey to and through divorce. Together we will laugh, cry and not just survive, but learn to thrive post divorce.

  1. OCT 30

    Primary Coparent Fatigue

    In this week's episode I share my journey of coparenting. For some reason, I thought that divorce and coparenting meant complete shared responsibility. I soon realized that although I was now divorced, my role as 'Primary Parent' still remained. All the decision-making and managing our child’s life still falls on me. I quickly became resentful. Even though my responsibilities haven’t changed, our relationship has. I could not expect a show of appreciation or a thank-you. I learned not to expect acknowledgment of all the physical and mental work I put in to make our new dynamic work. Having expectations leads to disappointment. I’ve learned to do what I need to do for our child. If a thank you comes, that’s great. If it doesn’t, it’s not going to stop me from being the best mom I can be. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet/profilecard/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    24 min

  2. OCT 16

    I Can Date You Or Your Dad!

    In this week’s episode I share one of the possibilities of dating as a woman of a certain age. I’ve realized that, as a woman in her forties, I can date a man in his late twenties to whatever age I want. That means I could have the option of dating a man or his dad and both ages could work for me. It comes down to if you want to be considered a cougar, wanting a sugar daddy, or somewhere in between. Who would have thought, after all those fears, that no one would want me or that I’d ever find someone again, that I would one day realize I had a plethora of options. Dating after divorce is scary, but it’s also a lot of fun. So, whether you decide to wear your cougar crown with pride, be a trophy to your sugar daddy or just try to find a man your age, know that there are plenty of fish in the sea and get out there and start fishing. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet/profilecard/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    23 min

  3. OCT 9

    A Good Man Or A Man With A Good Check

    In this week’s episode I share my journey to deciding what’s most important to me in my next partner. The fact that he’s a good man or that he can provide for me financially. Of course, in a fairytale you wouldn’t have to choose, but this is real life. If you are a successful woman, the number of men that are at your level financially is lower. We’ve been conditioned to think the most important role a man plays, in a relationship, is provider and that he has to provide more, or he is less then. During my dating process, I realized that good on paper doesn’t mean good for you. At the end of the day, finding someone who is loving, honest, kind, patient, considerate, etc. is more important and valuable than a man who can buy you expensive things. Although I would love both, a man that is good for my heart is more valuable than a man that’s good for my bank account. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorvednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet/profilecard/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== As mentioned in the episode https://www.instagram.com/radiantsolbotanicals/profilecard/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    24 min

  4. OCT 2

    Say It Loud - I’m Divorced And I’m Proud!

    On this week’s episode I share my journey in letting go of the “shame” that we carry during the divorce process. What I’ve learned is a lot of the opinions we think people are going to have about us are our projected inner thoughts. I’m a failure, no one will want me, I’m going to negatively impact my kids. Let go of the BS! Making the decision to leave an unhealthy marriage took courage. You will soon realize that leaving your comfort zone was needed in order for you to grow into the amazing woman you are becoming. Even though divorce is tough and heartbreaking, there is a blessing in it. You become a better version of yourself through healing and growth. So say it loud, “I’m divorced, and I’m proud!” Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    18 min

  5. SEP 25

    Coparenting With The Person You’re Healing From

    In this week's episode I discuss the steps I took to co-parent with my ex while also healing from the pain of the divorce. I realized that emotionally disconnecting, establishing boundaries, effectively communicating, expressing my feelings in healthy ways and separating who he was as my spouse from who he was as a parent helped us have a respectful and productive co-parenting relationship. It took time and a lot of blow ups to get to where I am now, but by implementing those steps and giving myself grace, I’ve finally achieved a peaceful co-parenting relationship. While going through all the trials a divorce brings, remember it’s not about your ex, it’s about what’s best for your children. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    36 min

  6. SEP 18

    Post Divorce Glowup

    In this week’s episode we discuss the need to not only evolve and grow mentally and emotionally, but physically as well. During the divorce process we spend a lot of time on our mental and emotional health. Once you’ve gone through your internal revolution, it’s time for your external renaissance ! Let’s start exercising, update our wardrobe and hair, and don’t forget to take care of those lady parts too lol. It’s time that externally you reflect the new amazing woman you’ve become internally. Let’s get to work and get to our Glow Up! Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    24 min

  7. SEP 11

    Adapting to Sharing Custody

    In this week’s episode I share my experience of coping with the fact that I would have to share custody of my child once I filed for divorce. As a working mom, I worried about the moments I would miss with my child once I went back to work. I never thought about missing moments because I would get divorced and have to share custody. The thought of missing even more time with my child left me full of sadness, anger and anxiety. In the beginning, I spent most of my time away from my son depressed, spending a lot of time in his room and going through pictures of him. After a while, I realized not only is this not healthy, but it’s a missed opportunity! I started to use my time away from my son to spend time getting to know myself. I began to embark on new hobbies and experience all the things I wanted to do before, but never had the free time. What started off feeling like a punishment turned into a blessing. I discovered having that time away to reenergize and rediscover myself allowed me to have a more balanced life. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet

    27 min

  8. SEP 4

    Fear of Failure and Rejection After Divorce

    In this weeks episode I share how facing my fears of failure and rejection, by taking chances, allowed me to accomplish things I never thought I could. During my divorce I struggled most with feeling rejected and like a failure. The person I loved no longer wanted me and I couldn’t keep my family together. Through therapy and self reflection I finally understood that it’s not one persons responsibility to keep a marriage together and just because someone doesn’t see your value, doesn’t mean you’re not valuable! Those fears not only kept me in an unhealthy marriage, they kept me from trying new things and chasing my dreams. Once I made the toughest and scariest decision to file for divorce, I became a lot less fearful. I was able to launch this podcast, date for the first time as an adult, create a business , and create the life I deserve. Connect with me @divorcednotdeadyet on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pharmchica?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr https://www.instagram.com/radiantsolbotanicals?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr As mentioned in this episode: “Worthy” by Jamie Kern Lima

    24 min
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Welcome to the Divorced But Not Dead Yet Podcast. This is not a how to podcast, it’s a going through. Join me on my journey to and through divorce. Together we will laugh, cry and not just survive, but learn to thrive post divorce.

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