Divorcing Strong

Becky Sampson
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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

  1. 10 giờ trước

    Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Co-Parenting Coach Maria Natapov on High Conflict Co-Parenting, Blended Family & Healing After Divorce

    They say the hardest part of divorce is the divorce. But what if the paperwork was the easy part? What if the conflict waiting for you on the other side — bedtimes, birthdays, and boundaries with a co-parent who refuses to cooperate — is the battle nobody prepared you for? And what if the way you have been fighting it is the very thing keeping your children caught in the middle? Becky Sampson sits down with Maria Natapov — BH2O certified co-parenting and stepparenting coach, founder of Synergetic Stepparenting, and vice chair of the Sparrow Collective — for one of the most emotionally honest and practically grounded conversations in the Divorcing Strong series about what happens to families when the papers are signed, and the real work begins. A trusted adviser to divorce professionals, financial advisers, and parenting coaches across the country, Maria has spent years developing the rapid resolution sessions and communication tools that help caregivers shift from emotional reactivity to grounded leadership — transforming high-conflict co-parenting situations into homes where children can finally breathe. But what makes Maria's perspective uniquely credible for this audience is not her certifications. It is the fact that every single layer of her methodology was forged in lived experience. She is a child of a contentious divorce. An immigrant from Moscow who grew up in a cultural framework where obedience — not autonomy — was the expectation for girls. A survivor of a 16-year emotionally and physically abusive marriage who didn't have the language to describe what she had lived through until years after she left. A stepparent who actively tried to dissuade her now-husband from pursuing her — convinced she didn't have what it took — and who then spent five years fighting to protect the stepdaughter she came to love from abuse and neglect in her biological home. Everything Maria teaches, she has lived first. If you are exhausted by the conflict, overwhelmed by the blended family tension, and searching for a way to lead your family through this without losing yourself — this conversation is specifically for you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Becky opens with a heavy heart — a call from a woman in tears, voice trembling, in the absolute thick of a divorce she can barely hold; Becky's message to her — and to every listener who has felt that specific, isolating overwhelm — that you are not alone, that connecting the dots takes time, that feeling confused or ashamed of not seeing it sooner is not stupidity but the signature of a relationship designed to keep you from seeing clearly Maria's story — from Moscow to a 16-year abusive marriage — how growing up in a culturally rigid framework that prioritized obedience over autonomy set Maria up for a first relationship that began when she was a young teenager and became emotionally and physically abusive over 16 years; the gradual erosion of boundaries she never saw coming, the web of control and gaslighting that made the situation invisible from the inside, and the counselor who assigned her homework — "look for signs of this and report back next week" — before Maria could even recognize what she was living in "I said it was mutual" — the most raw disclosure in the episode: when Maria finally left, she didn't have the language to explain why, and felt such profound shame and self-blame that when anyone asked, she said only "it was mutual" — the years it took, including finding another survivor who gave her the vocabulary for what she had lived, before she could name it for herself; and the message she sends to anyone who is still waiting for that language: trust the instinct, it is your wisdom, not your weakness Becoming a stepparent against her own advice — how Maria actively tried to dissuade her now-husband from dating her, making a very strong case that she was not "mom material" and that his daughter deserved someone better; how his response — that the very things Maria identified as her deficits were precisely the empathy and attentiveness the role required — unlocked something in her healing; and the make-or-break first meeting with his daughter that changed the entire direction of her life The stepdaughter revelation — the episode's most emotionally searing moment: eighteen months of sensing something deeply wrong in the academic realm, theories Maria ran through obsessively while "driving her husband absolutely crazy" — and then the worst nightmare and the biggest relief arriving simultaneously when her then-stepdaughter revealed she had been physically abused, emotionally abused, and sexually groomed in her biological home; how having answers finally meant knowing what kind of help to get, and why awareness is always the first step Gaps in the legal system when children are at risk — what Maria hears constantly from the attorneys she advises: it is always about what you can prove, judges are working with severe limitations in time and information, and even strong evidence does not guarantee the outcome families need; why settling out of court — starting with mediation wherever possible — gives families both a voice and a chance to build the agreement they will actually live with rather than one imposed by a third party who doesn't know them The children-first de-escalation strategy — Maria's most practical tool for breaking the temperature in even the most volatile co-parenting conversations: beginning with what the children need — not the money, not the assets, not the blame — because even the most combative co-parents can find common ground around their children's wellbeing, and those early agreements create the psychological momentum that makes the harder conversations possible From emotional reactivity to grounded leadership — the central promise of the BH2O methodology: teaching caregivers to recognize the moments when they are reacting from a place of threat, fear, or exhaustion — and to choose, instead, a grounded leadership posture that models stability for their children even when stability is the last thing they feel inside; why this shift is not about suppressing emotion but about refusing to let the high-conflict co-parent dictate the emotional temperature of your home Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting — and when to choose which — Maria's honest, experience-backed guidance on when traditional co-parenting (collaborative, communicative, flexible) is simply not viable with a high-conflict or narcissistic ex — and when parallel parenting (structured, low-contact, business-like) is not a failure but a protection: for you, and most importantly, for your children who need at least one stable, predictable home base What parental alienation actually looks like — the specific behavioral patterns that distinguish a high-conflict personality from deliberate, systematic alienation; how to recognize when your co-parent is actively or passively working to damage your child's relationship with you; and why responding from a place of grounded leadership — rather than reactive counter-attack — is both your most effective legal posture and your most powerful parenting move The "I hear it all the time from attorneys" reality check — the candid consensus Maria has collected from the legal professionals she advises: if you can avoid the courtroom, you must; if you can start with mediation, you should; and if you do end up having to escalate, every agreement you reached in mediation first is time, energy, and money the court process does not have to spend — you arrive with a head start The empathy qualification — the reframe that defines Maria's entire practice: the trauma she tried to disqualify herself with — the abusive marriage, the immigrant isolation, the years of not having language — was not a liability for the stepparent role she tried to avoid. It was the training. And it is the same reframe she brings to every caregiver who comes to her convinced that what they have survived has made them less equipped to lead their family forward — when in fact, it has made them more 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Maria Natapov: Maria Natapov is a BH2O certified co-parenting and stepparenting coach, founder of Synergetic Stepparenting, and vice chair of the Sparrow Collective. A trusted adviser to divorce professionals, financial advisers, and parenting coaches, Maria works with caregivers navigating high-conflict co-parenting, blended family dynamics, parental alienation, and the long aftermath of narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships. Her approach — built on rapid resolution sessions, proprietary communication tools, and the BH2O methodology — helps caregivers shift from emotional reactivity to grounded leadership so their homes become places of safety for their children. Maria's credentials are matched only by the depth of her personal experience: a child of a contentious divorce, an immigrant from Moscow raised in a framework that had no name for what she would later survive, a 16-year survivor of emotional and physical abuse who spent years without the language to describe it, and a stepparent who tried to talk herself out of the role she turned out to be uniquely qualified for. Everything she teaches, she has lived — and that is why the caregivers and professionals who find her keep coming back. 🔗 Connect with MARIA NATAPOV Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maria.natapov/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/synergisticstepparenting/ Website: https://synergisticstepparenting.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys,

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  2. 5 ngày trước

    Co-Parenting & Divorce Process: Family Law Attorney David Fein on Peaceful Divorce, Divorce Tips & Healing After Divorce

    What if the courtroom isn't protecting your family — it's punishing it? What if the most powerful thing you can do for your children in a divorce isn't fighting harder, but choosing a process that lets both of you actually hear each other? And what if the mediator sitting across from you has personally survived the exact same fog you're in right now? Becky Sampson sits down with David Fein — attorney, mediator, and founder of David Fein Legal Solutions — for a deeply practical conversation on why mediation is not just a cheaper alternative to litigation, but a fundamentally different philosophy of what divorce can be. Based in Highland Park, Illinois, and trained in divorce mediation at Northwestern University, David brings more than three decades of high-stakes legal advocacy to a practice now built entirely around helping families move through divorce with their dignity, cooperation, and co-parenting relationship intact. But what makes David's perspective uniquely credible for this audience is not his training — it's the fact that he is a lawyer who went through his own divorce, sat in the mediation room as a participant, felt the fog and the anxiety and the relief of being guided through it, and walked out believing so deeply in what he had experienced that he observed a live mediation on a Saturday and reported for duty on Monday morning. In three years, he has participated in nearly 200 mediations — and never once had to walk into a courtroom to get there. If you're wondering whether there is a version of this divorce that doesn't cost your family everything — this is the episode that shows you what that actually looks like. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The Saturday observation, Monday start story — how David watched his first live mediation session as a guest observer on a Saturday, recognized immediately that this was work he could do and that the world needed more of, and started as a practitioner the following Monday — one of the most decisive pivot moments in this entire podcast series Why "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but changes everything — the gap between what the internet tells divorcing couples to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works; and why the peace-first path is both less expensive and more sustainable than the courtroom alternative The children-first framework — David's signature technique for bringing temperature down in even the most volatile mediations: starting with the children's issues before money, assets, or property — because even the most combative spouses can find common ground when the conversation is about what their children need, and those early agreements create the psychological momentum that carries the rest of the mediation "Family 1.0 to Family 2.0" — David's framework for what mediation actually produces: not a legal outcome, but a functional co-parenting architecture that allows the family to reorganize rather than collapse — the same journey Becky calls "YOU 2.0," applied to the family as a whole unit Can you mediate with a difficult personality? — David's honest and experience-backed answer: yes, it's possible — and the specific tools a skilled mediator uses to keep a high-conflict session productive, including reminding both parties that they control the outcome, no judge can order them, and the only authority in the room is the agreement they choose to reach together The "limited scope attorney" concept most divorce lawyers won't tell you about — why you don't have to choose between "full representation" and "no attorney at all"; how to hire a lawyer as a consultant to review your mediation agreement rather than as your advocate, and why this option saves thousands of dollars without leaving you legally unprotected The "first call" problem in divorce — why the first call a divorcing person makes is almost always the call that decides their entire process; why a full-time litigating attorney will rarely, if ever, lead with mediation as their first recommendation; and what David believes needs to change in how the public is educated about their options before they pick up the phone Why the fog of divorce hits lawyers too — David's candid admission that even with three-plus decades of legal experience, going through his own divorce felt like a fog — and why helping clients recognize that the confusion they feel is normal, not a weakness, is one of the most important things a mediator can do before the first session even begins In-person vs. online mediation — and why it matters — David's preference for in-person sessions for the first meeting whenever possible; the dynamics that shift when all parties are physically in the same room versus squares on a screen; and the practical reality of a world where geography, schedules, and convenience mean remote mediation is often the right call anyway Active listening as a legal superpower — what David witnessed in his very first observed mediation session that convinced him: a skilled mediator's most powerful tool is not legal knowledge or authority — it is the ability to listen deeply enough to hear what each party actually needs underneath what they're saying, and use that to lower the temperature before anyone even knows it's happening Mediation beyond divorce — the surprising moment in this conversation where Becky and David discuss whether mediation can save marriages before they end — and David's answer: the same tools that resolve divorce conflict can address family estrangement, communication breakdown, and the kind of disputes that, if left unresolved, eventually force the harder conversation The empowerment principle — why giving both parties explicit ownership of the outcome ("I cannot order you to do anything — only you two can decide this") is not just a procedural disclosure, but the single most healing reframe in the entire mediation process: the moment a divorcing person realizes they are not at the mercy of a system, but in charge of writing the agreement they will actually live with 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About David Fein: David Fein is an attorney, mediator, and founder of David Fein Legal Solutions, based in Highland Park, Illinois. After more than three decades of high-stakes legal advocacy across legal, logistical, and regulatory arenas, David made a deliberate and permanent pivot — choosing to focus entirely on divorce and family law mediation after experiencing mediation firsthand during his own divorce and recognizing its transformative power. Trained in divorce mediation at Northwestern University, David observed his first live mediation session as a guest on a Saturday, started as a practitioner on Monday, and has not looked back since. In approximately three years, he has participated in nearly 200 mediations — on his own and with co-mediators — bringing to each session a rare combination of legal depth, personal experience as a mediation participant, and an active-listening philosophy rooted in the belief that divorce does not have to define a family's future. His co-parenting-first approach and his commitment to helping couples move from Family 1.0 to Family 2.0 distinguish his practice from conventional family law in both method and outcome. 🔗 Connect with DAVID FEIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feindavid312/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585389850358 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-fein/ Website: https://www.feinlegalsolutions.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice co-parenting, co parenting after divorce, co-parenting tips, divorce process, family law attorney, peaceful divorce, divorce tips, healing after divorce, divorce mediation, divorce mediator, collaborative divorce, divorce advice, high conflict divorce, divorce settlement, how to divorce, cost of divorce, divorce and children, divorce tips for women, how to save money in divorce, divorce without lawyer, limited scope attorney, divorce support for women, divorce over 40, midlife reinvention, narcissistic abuse recovery, family mediation, divorce attorney, co-parenting after high conflict divorce, David Fein, David Fein Legal Solutions, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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  3. 26 thg 5

    Dating After Divorce: Dating Coach Kimmy Selzer on How to Flirt, Confidence After Divorce & Healing After Divorce

    They say you have to be perfectly healed before you can start dating again. What if that's wrong? What if waiting until you feel ready is actually the fear talking — and what if one small, outside-in action could unlock more confidence than years of therapy ever did? Becky Sampson sits down with Kimmy Selzer — confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist, image expert, and creator of the Charisma Quotient — for one of the most practical and emotionally honest conversations about re-entering the dating world after divorce you will ever hear. A licensed therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, Kimmy has spent 15+ years helping women and men rebuild attraction, connection, and self-trust from the outside in. She's a TEDx speaker, host of the Charisma Quotient Podcast, and a nationally recognized media expert seen on Tamron Hall, ABC News, NBC News, and Inside Edition. But what makes Kimmy's work uniquely credible for this audience is not her credentials — it's her story. She's a woman who packed up her Chicago life, moved to Los Angeles, watched her marriage end, and found herself alone in a new city with two young children, a therapist's training she couldn't use on herself, and a closet full of black clothes she was hiding inside. What brought her back wasn't another year of inner work — it was a red dress. If you're telling yourself you're not ready to date again, this conversation is specifically for you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why "I'm not ready" is almost always fear — not truth — Kimmy's honest account of spending years in analysis paralysis disguised as "doing the work": going to therapy, listening to podcasts, processing endlessly, but never actually taking a single step toward dating again — and the moment she realized the readiness she was waiting for was never going to come from the inside alone The red dress moment — the story that launched Kimmy's entire methodology: a department store guardian angel, a bright red dress that looked three sizes too small, a Cinderella twirl in a fitting room, and the first time in years Kimmy looked in the mirror and saw herself — and what happened when she wore it everywhere and men started noticing again Why your black wardrobe might be a fear cloak — the specific way post-divorce women make themselves physically invisible: oversized clothes, muted colors, no makeup, no effort — not because they don't care, but because being seen feels terrifying when your identity has just been dismantled The outside-in approach that flips everything — why Kimmy abandoned the conventional "heal on the inside first, then present yourself to the world" model, what her TEDx talk revealed about the direct link between how you present yourself and how confident you feel inside, and why this reframe is the single most practical gift you can give yourself right now The Charisma Quotient — Kimmy's signature framework for rebuilding magnetic confidence through the symbiotic relationship between outer presentation, body language, energy, and inner self-trust — and why "marketing yourself" is not superficial, it's the fastest path back to feeling like yourself again How to flirt again after divorce — practical, specific, non-cringe guidance on re-learning the art of flirting as a woman over 40 who hasn't dated since college sorority parties, and why the pressure to "just get back out there" from well-meaning friends is one of the most counterproductive forces in your recovery Masculine vs. feminine energy in attraction — what these energies actually mean in practice, which dynamic creates the attraction most women want, how high-conflict divorce rewires women into a masculine energy default (hypervigilance, control, self-protection), and how to consciously shift back into feminine receptivity without feeling fake or vulnerable The "divorce diet" and body image after divorce — the physical symptoms nobody warns you about: weight loss from stress, dissociation from your own body, not recognizing yourself in the mirror — and how Kimmy's outside-in approach addresses the body as part of the confidence rebuild, not separately from it Dating as a later dater — what's genuinely different about re-entering the dating world in your 40s and 50s vs. your 20s, why the old rules of dating (find your next life partner as fast as possible) actively harm women who are still figuring out who they are now, and what a healthier, curiosity-first approach actually looks like How to avoid attracting the same unhealthy dynamic again — the specific internal shifts and external awareness tools Kimmy teaches to help women recognize old patterns before they repeat them, and how confidence — not caution — is actually your best protection against choosing wrong again Becky's own "red dress moment" — losing 130 lbs after her first marriage, the identical experience of suddenly not knowing how to receive attention, and why both women agree that the moment you stop hiding is the moment everything changes 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Kimmy Selzer: Kimmy Selzer is a confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist, image expert, and the creator of the Charisma Quotient — a methodology that helps women and men rebuild confidence, attraction, and self-trust from the outside in after life-changing transitions like divorce. A licensed therapist with additional certifications as a style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, Kimmy developed her outside-in approach after her own divorce left her alone in Los Angeles with two young children, a therapist's training she couldn't use on herself, and years of "I'm doing the work" that turned out to be fear in disguise. One department store fitting room and one red dress later, she built a practice and a philosophy around the idea that how you present yourself to the world is not superficial — it is the fastest, most direct gateway to inner confidence. Kimmy is a TEDx speaker, host of the Charisma Quotient Podcast, and a nationally recognized media expert who has appeared on Tamron Hall, ABC News, NBC News, Inside Edition, and more. She has been coaching women through dating after divorce for over 15 years and brings both the clinical framework and the lived experience to every conversation. 🔗 Connect with KIMMY SELTZER Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimmyseltzer YouTube: https://youtube.com/KimmySeltzer LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimmyseltzer/ Website: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #DivorceAdvice #DatingAfterDivorce dating after divorce, dating after 40, dating coach, how to flirt, confidence after divorce, healing after divorce, dating advice for women, dating tips for women, dating tips, midlife dating, self confidence, feminine energy dating, masculine feminine energy, how to attract men, rebuilding confidence, dating later in life, divorce advice, divorce tips for women, dating over 40, love after divorce, charisma, charisma quotient, confidence makeover, dating advice after divorce, how to date after divorce, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Kimmy Selzer, Charisma Quotient Podcast, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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    Cost of Divorce: Family Law Attorney Scott Levin on Peaceful Divorce, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce

    What if fighting harder in your divorce isn't protecting you — it's bankrupting you? What if the legal system designed to resolve your conflict is actually engineered to escalate it? And what if choosing peace isn't weakness — it's the most powerful financial move you can make? Becky Sampson sits down with Scott Levin, widely known as the Chief Peacekeeper — a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has spent 16 years watching couples hand over six figures to a court system that gives them outcomes their families can barely survive. In 2013, after one final case that broke what was left of his belief in litigation, Scott switched overnight — walking away from a full litigation practice to commit entirely to mediation. He hasn't been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His wife joined the practice as a certified co-parenting specialist and co-mediator, making theirs one of the few husband-and-wife teams in family law that brings both the numbers and the heart to every session. Today, Scott's practice is built on a single conviction: divorce is fundamentally a math problem — assets, debts, division — and it's not nearly as complicated as the court system needs you to believe it is. If you're staring at a legal bill and wondering whether there's another way — this is the episode that changes how you see every decision ahead of you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The $100K mistake most divorcing couples make — why choosing the courtroom over the conference room is the most expensive financial decision of your entire divorce, and the specific cost dynamics that Scott walks every new client through before they hire anyone Why "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but costs you everything — the gap between what the internet tells you to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works, and why the peaceful path is both cheaper and more sustainable The litigator-who-mediates trap — why hiring a family law attorney who litigates cases AND mediates on the side is one of the most common and expensive mistakes divorcing couples make; what happens to your 2 pm mediation appointment when opposing counsel files an emergency hearing How divorce is really just a math problem — Scott's finance-first approach to asset division: cataloging the full pie, assigning values, identifying hidden transfers, and finding the five to seven creative ways to divide everything — without unnecessary taxes, penalties, or fees Creative solutions the court system will never offer you — the settlement Scott achieves almost every week that makes his litigating colleagues say "that's insane" — and why 16 years of zero disasters says they're wrong Can you mediate with a narcissist? — Scott's direct answer, why it's not the automatic "no" most people expect, and the critical distinction between a narcissist who wants the case resolved and one who doesn't — and how your strategy changes completely depending on which one you're dealing with Why antagonizing a narcissist in court is the single worst move you can make — what Scott has watched happen case after case when attorneys take an adversarial posture with a high-conflict spouse, and why the narcissist will "fight to the death" the moment they feel cornered The "problem perpetuator" attorney — Scott's honest taxonomy of family law attorneys: those who are genuinely passionate, those who have no other options, and those who have zero intention of resolving anything — and the red flags that tell you which one you're sitting across from in the consultation Don't marry the first divorce attorney you meet — why Becky's signature phrase and Scott's 16 years of watching families get derailed by the wrong advisor are two sides of the same warning, and the specific questions to ask before you sign anything Why 90% of Scott's mediations have no attorneys in the room — and what that says about how much you can actually accomplish when two adults and two skilled mediators are working toward the same goal without outside counsel taking all the oxygen His wife as co-mediator and certified co-parenting specialist — how the husband-and-wife dynamic in Scott's practice covers both the financial architecture of the divorce AND the emotional scaffolding of what comes after, particularly for families with children Scott's personal story — a child of a bitter court fight who went into family law as his therapy, and the one final case that convinced him, overnight, that litigation was never the answer he thought it was 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Scott Levin: Scott Levin is a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) known professionally as the Chief Peacekeeper. After spending years in family law litigation and watching families pay exorbitant legal fees for outcomes they could barely live with, Scott made a deliberate and permanent pivot — switching entirely to mediation in 2013 after one case he could not shake. He has not been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His practice operates on a foundational belief: divorce is a solvable math problem, and the adversarial court system is not only unnecessary for most families — it actively makes the math worse. Scott's wife co-mediates alongside him as a certified co-parenting specialist, giving their practice a rare dual capability: the financial architecture of the settlement and the emotional intelligence of the co-parenting relationship are handled together, in the same room, by the same team. Scott works with divorcing couples across the country — including high-conflict cases and situations involving narcissistic spouses — helping them find the creative, durable outcomes that courtrooms almost never deliver. 🔗Connect with SCOTT LEVIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandiegodivorcemediation Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChiefPeaceKeeper LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/levinscott/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sandiegodivorcemediation Website: https://sandiegofamilylawyer.net/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice cost of divorce, family law attorney, divorce mediation, divorce mediator, peaceful divorce, divorcing a narcissist, high conflict divorce, divorce financial planning, divorce settlement, divorce advice, healing after divorce, divorce tips for women, how to get divorced, divorce lawyer vs mediator, mediation vs litigation, how to save money in divorce, co parenting, co-parenting after divorce, property division divorce, divorce attorney fees, hidden assets in divorce, asset division in divorce, CDFA, certified divorce financial analyst, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Scott Levin, Chief Peacekeeper, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    47 phút

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    Sell Your Home in Divorce: Amy Slate "The Breakup Broker" on Marital Home Mistakes, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    The house isn't just brick and mortar. It's 20 years of Christmases, your kids' height marks on the door frame, and the biggest financial asset you own. And in a divorce, it's also the decision that can quietly define the next two decades of your financial life — if you let fear, urgency, or the wrong realtor rush you into the wrong choice. Becky Sampson sits down with Amy Slate, realtor and creator of The Breakup Broker, to deliver the divorce real estate playbook every woman needs before she touches anything. A former educator with nearly two decades in the classroom who pivoted to a thriving nine-year real estate career — and then navigated her own divorce involving multiple properties across the country and internationally — Amy brings something no ordinary realtor can: she has lived the confusion, the pressure, and the emotional weight of this exact decision from the inside. Her specialty is helping women slow down when everything around them is screaming "decide now," and walk away from the process feeling informed, empowered, and in control of one of the biggest turning points of their lives. If you're staring at your house wondering whether to keep it, sell it, or fight for it — this is the conversation to have before you decide anything. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The 3-bucket framework that changes everything — Amy's signature approach to every divorce real estate conversation: Logistics (is this house near your kids' school, your work, your support system?), Finances (do the numbers actually work?), and Emotions (do you even want to stay here?) — and why skipping even one bucket leads women into decisions they regret Why "I know I have to sell" is almost never true — the most common assumption Amy hears from women who've been stay-at-home moms, and the conversation that changes their minds before they give up something they could have kept The emotional home trap — the difference between a woman who says "we've had every Christmas here for 20 years, I can't imagine leaving" and the woman who says "I want to burn it to the ground" — and why both deserve the same careful, numbers-first conversation before they commit The ambulance-chasing realtor problem — why "oh, you're getting divorced? Someone must need to sell a house" is not a divorce real estate strategy, and the very specific questions to ask any realtor before you trust them with this transaction What happens when your spouse refuses to cooperate on the sale — how court orders, motions, and judicial timelines can force an uncooperative spouse into the transaction, and why most women don't know this tool exists until it's too late The cookie-cutting approach to agent selection — why Amy always insists both spouses pick the realtor together (I'll cut it in half — but you pick which half), and how this single step removes one of the biggest sources of conflict in the entire sale process Whose name is on the deed — and why it matters more than you think — Amy's direct advice to every woman who is contributing to a home but hasn't secured her name on the legal paperwork Moving out of the marital home — does it cost you your share? — what the deed actually says versus what fear tells most women, and Amy's practical answer to one of the most anxiety-producing questions in divorce International and multi-property divorce — the added layer of complexity when the marital estate includes rental properties, investment properties, or real estate held across state lines or internationally, and how Amy navigated this in her own case Panic selling vs. strategic timing — why the impulse to "just get it done" during the emotional chaos of divorce is one of the most expensive instincts a woman can follow, and how Amy helps clients find the window between rushing and waiting too long The shoulder-drop moment — what Amy says happens on almost every consultation call when a woman who has been drowning in lingo, numbers, and pressure finally gets someone to calmly walk her through it — and why that exhale is the beginning of every good decision 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amy Slate: Amy Slate is a realtor and the creator of The Breakup Broker, a platform and practice dedicated to helping women navigate buying or selling a home during or after divorce — when emotions are high, the stakes are deeply personal, and the decisions being made will echo for decades. A former educator with nearly 20 years in the classroom and at the university level, Amy brought her core belief in education and empowerment into a nine-year real estate career built on listening first and selling second. When her own unexpected divorce forced her to navigate multiple properties across the country and internationally while simultaneously helping her clients through the same process, she recognized the gap: women going through divorce desperately needed a neutral, knowledgeable resource who could walk them through the real estate piece without rushing them toward a transaction. The Breakup Broker was built to be that resource. Amy is also pursuing a real estate mediation designation to deepen her ability to serve as a neutral communicator between divorcing spouses — because the house doesn't just need to be sold; both parties need to feel heard in the process. 🔗Connect with AMY SLATE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamyslate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theamyslate LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyslate/ Website: https://thebreakupbroker.com/ 🎧 About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice sell your home, selling a house, selling your home, marital home divorce, divorce real estate, divorce financial planning, keeping house in divorce, sell house in divorce, home equity divorce, property division divorce, home selling tips, divorce advice, healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, divorce tips, first time home buyer, first time home buyer after divorce, real estate tips, divorce settlement, financial planning for women, divorce support for women, divorce over 50, midlife reinvention, divorcing a narcissist, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce attorney, family law, Amy Slate, The Breakup Broker, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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    Family Court Is Broken: Former Divorce Lawyer Amanda Mason on Attorney Red Flags, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    What if the system designed to resolve your divorce is actually the thing making it worse? And what if your own attorney — no matter how good they are — is hardwired by that system to turn your family into a battlefield? Becky Sampson sits down with Amanda Mason, former family court litigator and co-founder of Solagree, to deliver one of the most honest conversations about the divorce legal system you will ever hear from someone who spent years thriving inside it. Amanda graduated from the University of Arizona College of Law in 2003, built a career as a divorce litigator fighting hard and winning cases — and then watched, case after case, as her clients walked out of court victorious and completely destroyed. Six years ago, she did something almost unheard of in her profession: she stopped. She stepped back, studied every alternative to the adversarial model, and built something entirely new. Solagree is a nationwide non-adversarial divorce model — a three-phase process designed to resolve even the most complex family conflicts with integrity, clarity, and dramatically less collateral damage. Amanda still practices traditional litigation. She knows both worlds. And what she has to say about the one most women are currently in will change how you look at every decision in your divorce process. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why winning in family court doesn't mean winning — the case Amanda couldn't shake, where her client walked out victorious and still lost everything that mattered, and the moment she realized the adversarial system is structurally incapable of protecting families How the family court system is broken by design — not because judges and attorneys are bad people, but because an overworked government bureaucracy processing people on their absolute worst day produces predictable, devastating results The litigator brain problem — why even the most compassionate divorce attorney is hardwired by litigation training to get into "somebody versus somebody, I have to win" mode, and what that does to your family's chances of a reasonable outcome How your attorney can make your divorce more expensive without meaning to — the dynamic where opposing counsel fight each other more than they fight for you, and Amanda's account of couples who walked away after a high-conflict court battle saying "that was completely unnecessary" The two biggest threats in any divorce negotiation — and why as long as either party can blow up the process and run to court, everyone stays in fight-or-flight mode and rational decisions become almost impossible What Solagree does differently — a three-phase non-adversarial process that removes the courtroom threat, brings in a neutral guide, and gives attorneys a way to practice family law that is better for their clients, better for their mental health, and better for the profession Why Amanda created Solagree as a gift to other attorneys — the mental health strain, the substance abuse, the burnout, and even the suicides that have plagued family law litigators — and why giving good people a better process was as important to her as helping the families The obstructionist attorney problem — when opposing counsel adopts their client's emotional position instead of giving objective legal advice, and how to spot the difference between an attorney fighting FOR you versus an attorney fighting because of you Amanda's personal divorce experience — a practicing attorney who went through her own 21-hearing, three-and-a-half-year court battle, representing herself for most of it, and what she learned about the difference between advocating and fighting Becky's own family court journey — a rare personal disclosure about her own 21 hearings, and why both women agree that the adversarial system is the last place families should be resolving conflict How to choose your divorce path wisely — what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for in a prospective attorney, and when the non-adversarial model is the right choice — even in high-conflict situations 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amanda Mason: Amanda Mason is a co-founder and CEO of Solagree, a nationwide non-adversarial divorce resolution model that gives families a way to resolve conflict with integrity, clarity, and far less collateral damage than the traditional court system. A graduate of the University of Arizona College of Law (2003), Amanda spent years as a highly effective family court litigator — winning cases and watching families lose anyway. That contradiction drove her to study every alternative dispute resolution method available, identify what was working, identify the gaps, and design something new from the ground up. Solagree is that design — a three-phase process that removes the courtroom threat, reduces fight-or-flight dynamics, and allows both attorneys and clients to bring their best selves to one of the hardest moments of their lives. Amanda also remains a partner at Mason, Mason & Smith, giving her a rare and credible dual perspective: she knows exactly what the old system costs families, and she knows exactly what's possible beyond it. 🔗Connect with AMANDA MASON Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61569505738659 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-mason-0333746/ Website: https://www.solagree.com/ Website: https://www.masonmasonlaw.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice family court, family court system, divorce lawyer, divorce attorney, divorce advice, divorce process, healing after divorce, how to get a divorce, divorce tips, child custody, alimony, high conflict divorce, divorce settlement, family law attorney, getting divorced, divorce mediation, collaborative divorce, adversarial divorce, non adversarial divorce, divorce reform, divorce attorney red flags, obstructionist attorney, divorcing a narcissist, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Solagree, Amanda Mason, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    37 phút

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    First Time Home Buyer After Divorce: Chris Henwood on Divorce Financial Planning, Mortgage Mistakes & Healing After Divorce

    Divorce isn't just an emotional crisis. It's one of the most dangerous financial moments of your life — and the mortgage decisions you make during it can follow you for the next 10 years. Becky Sampson sits down with Chris Henwood, Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and mortgage banker at North Point Bank, to deliver the home and mortgage playbook every woman needs before she signs anything. With a career that spans 22 years as an energy futures trader on Wall Street, on-air financial expert at Reuters, practicing attorney in both securities and real estate law, and now a licensed mortgage banker in all 50 states and Washington DC — Chris brings a depth of financial and legal insight that no ordinary lender can match. His specialty: helping women in divorce slow down, ask better questions, and avoid the housing mistakes that quietly derail a fresh start before it even begins. If you're wondering whether to keep the house, sell it, refinance it, or start over — this episode is the conversation you need to have before you make that call. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The mortgage decisions that follow you for 10 years — why housing choices made during the emotional chaos of divorce create decade-long financial consequences, and how to stop the clock before you sign anything Keeping the house vs. selling it — the financial calculus Chris uses to help clients make clear-headed decisions when they are standing on what he calls "emotional quicksand," and why "I'm not leaving my house" can become the most expensive sentence you ever say Qualifying on paper vs. being comfortable with the payment — why your lender saying "you can afford it" is not the same as "you should keep it," and the conversation Chris has with every client before they commit Becky's own foreclosure story — how stubbornness about the marital home almost cost her everything, and what she wishes she had known about slowing down before digging in Buying out your spouse: when it works and when it doesn't — the numbers-first framework Chris walks every client through, and when the honest answer is "sell and start fresh" Why Chris regularly talks himself out of business — and why that's the single clearest sign that the professional advising you actually has your best interests at heart The emotional home trap — why the house you're fighting to keep in court can quietly become the financial anchor that drags your fresh start underwater What a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) does that a regular mortgage banker can't — and why Chris argues every divorce team needs one, alongside your attorney, financial planner, and coach First time home buyer after divorce — what women who've never handled the mortgage, the finances, or the purchase process solo need to know before they sign a single document One step at a time — Chris's philosophy for navigating the biggest financial decision of your life during the most emotionally charged moment of your life, and why this approach is the difference between surviving divorce and rebuilding strong 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Chris Henwood: Chris Henwood is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and mortgage banker at North Point Bank, licensed in all 50 states and Washington DC. His career spans 22 years as an energy futures trader on Wall Street, a tenure as on-air financial expert at Reuters News Service, and a law degree earned at night while trading by day — leading him to practice securities and real estate law before making a deliberate pivot into mortgage banking. Chris works specifically with people navigating divorce who are being asked to make the biggest financial decisions of their lives during one of the most emotionally destabilizing seasons imaginable. His philosophy — listen first, explain clearly, never assume one-size-fits-all — has made him a trusted partner for family law attorneys, financial planners, and divorce coaches across the country who know their clients need a steady, honest voice in all the noise. Connect with CHRIS HENWOOD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_henwood_edge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CJHenwoodMLO X: https://x.com/HenwoodEDGE YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HenwoodEDGE Website: https://www.northpointe.com/chris-henwood About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceFinance first time home buyer, first time home buyer after divorce, divorce financial planning, mortgage mistakes in divorce, healing after divorce, divorce advice, home buying after divorce, buying a house after divorce, keeping house in divorce, selling house in divorce, refinancing after divorce, foreclosure divorce, certified divorce lending professional, CDLP, divorce mortgage, divorce settlement, property division, financial planning for women, divorce over 50, women and money, high conflict divorce, divorcing a narcissist, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Chris Henwood, North Point Bank, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    41 phút

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    Coercive Control & Emotional Abuse Recovery: Erin Snow on High-Conflict Divorce, Being Heard & Healing After Divorce

    If you keep leaving conversations with your spouse feeling spun, blamed, and breathless — like you've said everything and been heard by no one — this episode is going to change something inside you. Becky Sampson sits down with Erin Snow, Transformative Listening Strategist, legal advocate, and founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge, to reveal the one thing most high-conflict divorce survivors are missing: not better arguments, not smarter legal strategy — but the experience of being truly heard. With 16+ years as a frontline legal advocate for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking — and as the first paralegal in New Hampshire to represent her own clients directly in family court — Erin has built her life's work around a radical idea: being heard isn't a luxury. It's a turning point. If emotional abuse, coercive control, or a high-conflict marriage has left you guarded, raw, or shut down — this episode is a deep exhale. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why you feel unheard even when you're talking — the difference between someone listening at you versus listening for you, and what that gap costs you in high-conflict divorce The "how do you want me to listen?" question — Erin's signature approach that immediately shifts the power dynamic in any professional relationship, and the red flag to watch for when the professional doesn't ask it What coercive control does to your voice — how years of emotional abuse and gaslighting train you to stop telling the full truth because it feels like no one can hold it The physical experience of being heard — what changes in your body, your decisions, and your relationships when you finally feel safe enough to say everything out loud without performing strength Sea Coast Listening Lounge — Erin's confidential, non-clinical sanctuary where women in divorce can let it out, sort it out, and reclaim their narrative without judgment, without fixing, and without being told what to do Erin's personal story — a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who resisted letting her trauma become her calling, and the moment she realized her wound was actually her superpower The "buffet" approach to legal support — why the best attorneys, mediators, and advocates show you all the options and trust you to choose, not dictate your path — and why "my way or the highway" is a red flag worth walking away from How the justice system fails domestic violence survivors — case reviews that happen too late, listeners who weren't listening, and the systemic communication breakdown Erin has spent 16 years trying to fix How to interview a professional and know it's a right fit — the one conversation that reveals whether your attorney, coach, or mediator will fight with you or just fight for their own agenda Why "be patient, it's a process" is not dismissal — it's permission — Becky's reminder that grieving divorce takes longer than the world around you will give you credit for, and why that's okay 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Erin Snow: Erin Snow is a Transformative Listening Strategist and the founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge — a safe, confidential, non-clinical space where women navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and life transitions can be truly heard without judgment, without being fixed, and without performing strength. A survivor herself, Erin spent 16+ years on the frontlines of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking advocacy in New Hampshire — working her way from paralegal to Director of the Domestic Violence Project at a legal aid organization, and ultimately becoming the first paralegal in the state of New Hampshire authorized to represent her own clients directly in family court. Her lived experience and legal expertise converge in a singular mission: to ensure that no woman going through one of the hardest moments of her life has to face it feeling unheard. Connect with ERIN SNOW Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seacoastlisteninglounge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seacoastlisteninglounge YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@seacoastlisteninglounge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-snow-237998334/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #EmotionalAbuse coercive control, emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, emotional abuse in marriage, divorce support for women, being heard in divorce, listening boundaries, domestic violence advocacy, legal advocate, divorce communication, setting boundaries in divorce, trauma recovery, coercive control divorce, gaslighting in divorce, divorce coach, family law, child custody, abuse survivor, divorcing a narcissist, safe space for survivors, divorce podcast, midlife reinvention, Erin Snow, Sea Coast Listening Lounge Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    45 phút
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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

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